Discovering Mr. Right; A Brief Analysis on Idealistic Male Traits

Ladies, Mr. Right does not have a fixed image, but he certainly does have idealistic male traits that will help filter through all the Mr. Wrong’s that throw corny one-liners. Do you think Mr. Right is Prince Charming? Possibly, your knight in shining armor is the same guy too?  Chivalry does not necessarily need a horse. If the man of your dreams lost his horse, maybe he will offer a piggyback ride instead?

How do we address the idealistic characteristics of men portrayed in Disney movies or romantic comedies? Are they all physical attributes, or do they have some key factors for emotional strengths? You might consider yourself far from being shallow, but physically appealing genetics are always a plus.

Let’s discuss the idealistic characteristics that we commonly hear when we mention Mr. Right or Prince Charming. We can check which ones are idealistic and emphasize on the ones that have more potential with realistic reasoning.

Wealth and Power 

Did you see his Porsche? Wait, he has a Lamborghini too? Ladies, you know Richie Rich when you see him! Do you really want a man to put a price tag on your love? Do you really want him to pay his way into your pants? That’s not a lover, that’s a business man with a politician’s mind. You want someone who is financially stable, not financially capable. Does he live to work or work to live? Hopefully, you can find someone who does both. You want someone who sets life ambitions with a head over his shoulders while being a hard-working partner gradually moving closer to accomplishing those goals. Is it really necessary to find someone who makes more money than he can even handle? Money will pay off the bills, but happiness is not guaranteed.

Intelligence

Instantly, you imagine yourself being with McLovin. Does that satisfy your desire for knowledge? Intelligence has a vast array of definitions for many cultures and regions of the world. The definition may have a consensus that intelligence is the general mental ability to learn and apply information. How do we decide if Mr. Right has the idealistic measure of intelligence? The main focus is not necessarily his background in education, but how he presents himself to you effectively. Yes, he may carry himself as an effective conversationalist and public speaker without a four-year degree. However, it solely depends on your personal preference.

Generally, you want a social butterfly that can express himself effectively, present himself respectably, especially around your parents, and someone who can understand you entirely. No, that does not necessarily mean he should know that you burp five times a day, but he should understand how to offer the emotional and physical connection that you desire to have with him. Does it tickle your insides when he throws big words out there? Unless you’re part of The Big Bang Theory’s cast, I highly doubt you will come close to feeling the same intellectual connection as Sheldon’s girlfriend, Dr. Amy Farrah Fowler.

Guys, be yourself when you deal with intelligence. Impress her with how that information has changed you, not how much you actually learned.

If you want an example, I have studied five languages in a classroom, including English. Do I brag about the awards I received? I will briefly mention them in my About Me, but I would rather emphasize on the UCAELI conversation partner volunteer experience I had with foreign exchange students. Pick your spotlight moments and reflect on them. Unless you have more time to converse with each other, keep it brief.

Emotionally Sensitive

You have seen these men before, but watch out for best friend potential! These are the ones to friend zone! Shopping? Totally. Romantic comedies? Fabulous. No, really, you want that guy who can put the ‘man’ in ‘mannequin’. Let him shop with you, hold your purchases and wait for you outside the fitting room. Ladies, yeah I am talking to the exhibitionist out there, we can save the fitting room invitation talk later. I will admit that I like your style – thinking outside the bedroom.

However, there might be some trust issues involved, and you might not want someone waiting outside the fitting room checking out everyone in line. Yeah, that is definitely a trust buster. How do you know if he is patiently waiting for you? Well, regardless, you want a man who can voice his opinions about how you look in your latest shopping frenzy but you avoid the ones who know more designers than you ever wore in your lifetime. If the dress makes him upset or brutally honest that he throws a fit, you might not want the dress or him anymore.

Romantic comedies really are great. Guys, if you cried to A Walk to Remember and you took down a lot of mental notes from The Notebook – you are already showing your idealistic qualities! Women want men who can balance sensitivity where they can distinctly categorize you between her best friend and her boyfriend. It is completely natural to have feelings for romantic comedies, and it can enhance your relationship when you follow the notes you wrote down from other movies. She does not want another sister, but a lover. Express yourself, but try to limit on how much you express with the most effective delivery. Write the articles for Cosmopolitan, while you leave your mother or sister’s copy alone!

The Family Guy

Yes, the man who does not run away from minor conflicts or the one who rarely has an issue with establishing and maintaining commitment. He does not make you or his family an option, but a priority.   Ladies, when someone asks you, “How many children do you have?” I hope you have two children, and only say two children. If you are in the same boat as my mother mentioning that she has “three.” That’s a problem! Guys, women want men who can understand that family is invaluable. You can always pick your friends, but you can never pick your family. If you are hesitant about children, that is completely fine. As long as you are close to your family, treating them with the utmost respect, even if some bang heads, you will be ideal. It shows more than family value, but strength in building and maintaining relationships.

Former Boy Scout of America?

Remember the Boy Scout Law is a compiled list of other qualities that require more emphasis with your girlfriend too. These are as follows:

What qualities suit your Mr. Right?

If you could change or improve one thing about your man now, what would it be? Why? Feel free to comment below and express how you feel! Thanks!

Discovering Mr. Right; A Brief Analysis on Idealistic Male Traits

34 thoughts on “Discovering Mr. Right; A Brief Analysis on Idealistic Male Traits

  1. I genuinely do NOT care about wealth, if I want to be rich, I can make my own money, I don’t think it’s more attractive when a guy has money, I literally couldn’t care less. And for me you missed the most crucial thing SENSE OF HUMOUR! Gotta be funny, gotta get me.🙂

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    1. Yes! I didn’t want to state the obvious, but you are absolutely right. If you find someone dull, you might as well adopt an animal from a shelter! They will make up for all the times when you need a good smile. Thanks for your feedback. Greatly appreciated. I hope my followers can help you out with that! Take care, dear.😀

      1. No probs. But I think YOU should help me out with that… calling urself PRINZE CHARMING without helping out a damsel in distress?? tut tut.

  2. Actually, for one of the few times in my life I am no longer looking for Mr Right. After the breakdown of my last relationship a week ago, I am walking away from it, and concentrating on myself for a change. On building my own self esteem, self worth, and self confidence. So I am no longer a doormat (magnet) for all the Mr Wrongs out there.

    1. Congratulations! That is so amazing to hear! Finally, you push this aside, and now you are going to do YOU. This is not about WHO ELSE can help you, it’s about who CAN and who WILL help you move forward. I can feel the strength and courage already. I am pleased to hear this. I’ve been single for almost 6 years. If Ms. Right comes along, fine. If not, I am going to do what I enjoy the most. Living life to the fullest one heart beat at a time.❤

      1. Oh I totally agree with you on this! I’m not going to look for happiness externally anymore – or base it on someone else. I’m going to find it in myself, and build a steady foundation. And if someone else can build on that – fantastic! But I’m not going to put up with second best anymore🙂.

      2. You know exactly what you deserve! If you’re not going to settle for less, why the hell should you settle at all? Go get yourself a pet! They’re more affectionate and stress free.😀 But yes, that is precisely how I fought through depression of 9 years. I had to fight it from within. I had to become stronger to fight off everything around me. I’m proud of you. That is great news!

  3. My grandmother used to say that a man must not be more beautiful than the woman and not younger than the woman. The reasons are easy to understand. As far as money, one cannot live on bread and love only, money is needed just like bread. Sure, money don’t buy happiness, but make life and love much easier. Thank you for visiting my blog.

    1. Very wise grandmother. Those are some very good points. You are absolutely right. If only smiles could pay off the bills, especially my student loans! I appreciate your visit as well. Take, care.

  4. This was a really cute article. My friends and I have lamented the preponderance of “emotionally-unavailable” men at one time or another. I think it’s very difficult for a guy to know what truly makes him a “man” in society now. I know from experience that it sure as heck isn’t age. Hopefully this will help me avoid other Mr. Wrongs. Thanks so much for writing this!

    1. Thanks for checking it out! I was inspired to write a short article by midnight, and I managed to do it by working around my day that was filled with family drama and a fourteen year old sister. You are absolutely right about that. Whether we are talking about young men or older men, chaotic and distressing mixed emotions generally come out after these debates. We have many labels and attributes to choose from in the dictionary.

      What constitutes for being right, not enough, or way too much? You want someone who doesn’t always look around at other women passing by while you hold hands, but you also want that guy to reassure you the reasons why he would never consider them. “Honey, don’t even question it. Did you notice something missing? Yeah, your dimples and your playfully seductive bottom lip that I love every night before we go to bed.” However, you also want that guy who can trust you. Men, if you control who comes into your girlfriend’s life while living a carefree world by inviting everyone into yours – you’re shit canned.

      It was a pleasure to discuss more on this issue. Thanks! Take care.

  5. Hey PC,

    I like that you’re giving some of your male perspective and opinions. Good for you. My perspective is that we have to be the right woman to attract the right man, as well. But one trait that I would add to your list is that my man be Godly – he is! – because that means that he has the benefit of an owners manual! LOL!

    Thanks for liking my post at Upgradual.wordpress.com.🙂

    1. Hey, it’s a pleasure to have you stop by as well. Yes, that is a great point! It is not a one way market about one person having idealistic traits, but how they both represent themselves in the market for love. You might have the best catch of the sea, but that does not necessarily mean you were the most deserving fisherman! Lastly, that is a great suggestion. Yeah, love never came with a manual but parenthood never did either! You realize that you have to discover these instructions and then experience them to have your own manual written out for yourself. Take care, dear.

  6. rebeccabartley says:

    This is an interesting read and I quite enjoyed it (the reason why I follow your blog now haha ;P). I’m happy to say I have an amazing man in my life, who while not being perfect, still is the best man I’ve ever been with. He is caring, loving, brave and I know would do ultimately anything to make me feel happy and loved. To me, that is the perfect man and the man I want to spend the rest of my life with🙂 Again, great post and I love your blog!🙂

    Hey everyone, make sure to check out my blog as well as I post fun advice articles, random things going on in my life and current popular news reports. I appreciate all views, follows, likes and comments! Thanks!🙂

    1. Thank you for your feedback and stopping by to say hello! That’s an amazing thing to hear. I’m glad you found yourself a keeper.😉 I wish the best of luck for both of you in the future. You both deserve to be happy! I hope my other amazing followers can appreciate your words of wisdom and advice as well. Take care!🙂

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