The Impact of Disney’s Love Stories on Modern Dating

The structure of a childhood in the 90’s was greatly influenced by Walt Disney’s animated movie series playing on repeat. This indulgence of entertainment is very similar to the new generation exposed to SpongeBob SquarePants and Dora the Explorer. Mr. Walt Disney experienced a rough childhood growing up on his family farm, but his passion for commercial art lead him into the right direction for Hollywood fame. In 1937, Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs was an inspirational turning point in his entire life. Disney’s animated debut of his touching love story was a life changing moment for any hopeless romantic looking for true love.

Social, familial, religious and media influences continuously refine the new era of relationships and romance to guide the future of young hopeless romantics. The impact of Disney’s classics on older generations is greatly hindered by the new social influences. The important step forward is to read an article that focuses on rekindling inspirational messages from our adolescence. We must focus on reality while applying some important ideas from fantasy and fairy tale. A greater emphasis on how to achieve these messages is vital information for the health of any relationship. Although Disney stirred up some controversial sexual appetite within subliminal messaging, I will focus on the simplistic messages that everyone must take into their own relationships for 2013. This article will primarily focus on some of the Disney princesses and princes, as well the men who are not necessarily receiving that royal entitlement. The important message behind every love story is discussed, as well as some advice on effectively applying these messages into the modern style of dating.

Snow White ~ A Christms Fantasy Parade

Snow White and the Prince

Guten morgen, Schneewittchen! In the early 1890’s, Mrs. Klara Hitler Pölzl must have read baby Adolf the German version of Snow White throughout his adolescence.  Although Hitler’s love story after exchanging vows with Eva Braun lasted for only 40 hours, Snow White and Prince Ferdinand has a legacy of true love since their first embrace. I may emphasize on vanity for a moral lesson in this fairy tale, but materialistic measures might be too obvious. Although stating the obvious is not as effective as anticipated, feelings and emotions are always misunderstood or not acknowledged.

The Brothers Grimm, producers of the original German version of Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs, left the dwarfs unidentified.  Disney created names for the seven dwarfs to symbolize seven feelings that may or may not contribute to the seven deadly sins.  Regardless of their intentions, these feelings cannot be ignored in any relationship. I advocate for effective communication, but body language is an important part of that understanding. Actions do speak louder than words, but some actions are often pushed aside. While you communicate with your partner, make sure to notice their body movement and presentation. If you are single, learn how to analyze your date when they are representing the seven feelings portrayed in Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs. By the end of the month, you are able to differentiate between being happy and bored, as well as agitated and depressed. Although Doc does not represent a feeling or emotion, he does represent intelligence. In that perspective, understand the difference between your partner’s sarcasm and their brutally honest opinions. In a literal sense, find out how they are being smart with you.  Lastly, give each other compliments every other day. Although terms of endearment are healthy for any relationship, try not to overwhelm their self-esteem into an issue of vanity. If you notice your partner is talking to a mirror, question them about it. Reassure them that the mirror is dirty, and you see everything clear in your own eyes.

Cinderella and Prince Charming

Cinderella & Prince Charming

Bonjour, ma chérie Cendrillion! In 1697, Charles Perrault produced Cendrillon, the original French version of Cinderella, before Disney made it into an animated feature-length film in 1950. The moral of this love story is simple – work your ass off under guardian authority until your fortune comes knocking at your door with your glass slipper.  In reality, only those who work hard will achieve fortunate success in the future. A person’s emotional strength is more important with this lesson than to think about financial or economic conditions. If someone can hold off commitment for true love, let it happen naturally throughout their daily lifestyle. Regardless if there is no set of directions or manual to live life, challenging social and familial barriers will hold someone back from achieving their life ambitions. If you have a dysfunctional family, join the club. You might feel unimportant, worthless, and stuck in the middle of a lot of bullshit. Seriously, talk to me about it. Cinderella’s support was very limited, but she was fortunate enough that her Fairy Godmother was not listed in Craigslist.

I want you to find a comfort zone with a supportive network of people willing to help you realize that you are an important person in society. If you are in an abusive relationship, whether the situation is with family or a partner, never carry out that negative energy to the people around you. Regardless if Cinderella had family treating her like shit, she was always an amazing woman outside her home. Guys, everyone has baggage. If your Cinderella is experiencing overwhelming circumstances, take Prince Charming’s determination to move forward. Mr. Charming did not judge her in any shape or form, but he felt an instant connection with Cinderella at the ball.  Regardless if a woman leaves you after an amazing night, follow your heart to fill the vacant space between your fingers and arms. Seriously, this is a love story where two people meet for the first time, and experience love at first dance. Find some way to connect with your partner emotionally by being there for them when they need it the most.

Aurora and Prince Phillip

A Christmas Fantasy: Princess Aurora, Prince P...

On January 29th, 1959, Sleeping Beauty released a few months before the birth of my two lovely parents.  Mr. Perrault produced another romantic masterpiece, La Belle au bois dormant, that inspired Disney to pursue another animated sensation. Congratulations if you were never cursed at birth with an evil bitch fairy similar to Maleficent. Princess Aurora was very fortunate to have good fairies to bestow gifts upon her that would change her life forever. Maleficient cast a curse upon Princess Aurora shortly before Merryweather bestowed her gift to the newborn princess.  Merryweather decided to amend the original curse cast upon the baby with something less extreme than the death from a spindle on a spinning wheel during her sixteenth birthday.

Although a deep ageless slumber for 100 years sounds reassuring, a true love’s first kiss does not necessarily happen overnight for a sixteen year old.  This love story has an arranged marriage behind it, but there is so much more to learn from this fairy tale. The greatest advice someone can take from this story into their own love life is to drink responsibly for Thirsty Thursday when they hang out with their girlfriends. No, seriously, a random prince is not going to kiss you shortly after your hangover in the morning to wake you up. In all seriousness, 100 years is an extensively long time to wait for true love.

Young adolescent infatuations motivate two innocent individuals to move forward towards maturity and responsibility. A misunderstanding of love and infatuated feelings can break many young hearts before they realize the structure of a stable relationship. If someone loves another person, they can wait for another year after they both exchange conversations and develop understanding for each other. If Prince Phillip can wait 100 years to find true love, anyone can wait for another year before making anything official. Patience is primarily the easiest thing to have for any relationship, but love is worth the wait. If you are planning a future ahead together, just stop unless you are both engaged. Live each day to the fullest one heart beat at a time taking things slow and steady for as long as you can handle. If two people can handle being in an unofficial relationship with each other for a while, you can both understand the true value of true love.

Ariel and Prince Eric 

Ariel and Prince Eric

Although the year 1959 started off great, Princess Aurora was the last princess under Walt Disney’s management. On December 15, 1966, Mr. Disney was 65 years old when he passed in St. Joseph’s Hospital at 9:35 A.M. with an acute circulatory collapse from lung cancer.  In 1837, Hans Christian Andersen produced Disney’s little Danish seawoman in Den lille havfrue who later became Ariel in The Little Mermaid released in 1989. Although I was born on September 3rd, 1989, I was too young to understand the reasoning behind a young woman in search for love outside her own sea kingdom. Ariel’s love story is very similar to the young Amish community willing to step outside their norm to check out the city. Ursula’s human package deal in exchange for Ariel’s voice might be too much for love, but in three days a true love’s first kiss might be the most rewarding challenge any young teenager would face. Although Ursula used Vanessa against Ariel’s attempt with Eric, Ursula played very dirty to hinder a young couple from discovering true love.

The best advice for anyone, especially sixteen years old, taken from this Disney production is to realize how American culture is changing because of something very similar to this love story. Whether there is an interest in watching 16 and Pregnant or understanding that life is not easy by growing up too fast, no young woman should leave their family and friends behind for a chance at love.  However, one important message from Ursula is to use body language. Yes, body language is very effective for anyone without a voice in the relationship – literally. I cannot emphasize this enough – just learn about each other without speaking. For the scene where this happens, watch the following clip:

Belle and Prince Adam

Beauty and the Beast

In 1756, Jeanne-Marie Leprince de Beaumont, author of La Belle et la Bête, never imagined to inspire Disney to recapture Beauty and the Beast in 1991 as an animated love story. Whether you agree or disagree, this was one of the most dramatic and powerful love stories throughout Disney’s history. An enchantress disguised as an old woman panhandling and looking for shelter during Christmas night changes a young prince’s life forever. She offers the selfish young prince a rose in exchange for warmth and shelter.  The prince had a cold heart in a luxurious warm place to stay, but felt disgusted from the beggar’s appearance outside his door. The prince was instantly transformed into a hideous monster with beastly features. The Beast’s servants are all transformed into furniture and other household items that later encourage him to break the spell with the rose that has his life on hold. The Beast must find love, but not unrequited love, until his 21st birthday. If all the rose petals have fallen off, he will remain a hideous beast for his entire life.

The main message is not only that looks are deceiving, or the agreeable statement that inner beauty will only be more attractive when someone ignores their egotistical nature. The main message is to marry someone for love, and nothing but love. In addition, another main message here is to treat others the way you would like to be treated. If you are with someone for physical attraction, leave them. If you know someone is with you solely for your appearance, leave them. If you feel lust instead of love, change something about your current situation. Unfortunately, we will all age into old, wrinkly beasts. All that will be left is our inner beauty, and hopefully the person you marry is someone who can respect that permanent overall appearance from you.

Jasmine and Aladdin

Aladdin and Jasmine

你好吗?Disney’s Middle Eastern folk tale Aladdin in 1992 was originally set in China, making Aladdin explicitly Chinese.  The Book of One Thousand and One Nights was never popular in American culture, but Alladin was one of the few stories from the book which played a significant role in understanding Middle Eastern culture.

Jasmine, the Sultan’s daughter, experiences the same feeling as Ariel, but Jasmine wants to escape her duties of being a princess and step away from her luxurious lifestyle of royalty in the palace.  Jasmine meets Aladdin, a street rat, in an Arabian marketplace ran by peasants trying to make ends-meat. Jasmine wants to marry someone for true love, but her father insists that the law requires a royal marriage by the following year. Aladdin uses his Genie to grant wishes, but the Genie denies from granting any wish that involves true love. Aladdin’s social status in Agrabah is nothing to brag about to the Sultan, and Jasmine is strictly ordered to marry a prince. The important lesson in this love story is to be yourself, and always be honest. Regardless how your partner’s parents or friends feel about you, impress them with honesty.  Jasmine knew Aladdin was lying, but she only forgave him because he wanted to win her heart. Obviously, Jafar was no match made in heaven, but Aladdin had much more potential because his love for Jasmine was greater than Jafar’s love for superiority and power.

In honor of the ones I missed:

  • Pocahontas and Captain John Smith
  • Fa Mulan and Captain Li Shang
  • Tiana and Prince Naveen
  • Rapunzel and Flynn Rider

On the Edge of Rapunzel’s Forest 

  • Simba and Nala 

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The Impact of Disney’s Love Stories on Modern Dating

42 thoughts on “The Impact of Disney’s Love Stories on Modern Dating

  1. Lakeshia Artis says:

    I love the analysis. You dId an amazing job off breaking down each characters relationship and relating it to modern day romances. Ive never seen Beauty and the Beast but i really relate to that story. Looks come and go. Dont get me wrong, we all love eye candy but looks won’t keep you in a relationship. Thanks for a great read. Smooches!!!

    1. Thank you so much! I figured I would give myself two days off from January, and post this to start off the month of love for February!Ah, you should watch the original French version! It is sooo romantically intriguing. Yes, I completely agree. It is nice to have some physical attributes, but the emotional connection has to be there. Regardless of the circumstances, attraction is only skin deep in the long run. Thank you so much for your encouraging words. Take care, love. :*

      1. Haha, here: When someone mentions that they hope there isn’t something about them that keeps someone else away … I think the person should just come out and say there’s nothing, instead of thinking of any possible reasons to stay away from them.😛

    1. Well, we all know you got the part! Is your boyfriend hairy enough for you to RP with that one? Thanks for stopping by! It’s always a pleasure to see your face pop up in my notifications.🙂

      1. Lmfao! Actually…Shane does think he is hairy enough lol! And thank you for this fun post, I love Disney and your association with real life romance. Yeahh love it!

  2. I love that you pulled out lessons that are not stated obviously. As a child, I grew up learning from all the Disney princesses that my prince charming will come. When I became a teenager, I started to believe that Disney’s depiction of love was delusional. However, now that I’m in my 20s, I became a lot more open- minded and saw a deeper meaning beyond Disney’s portrayal of love. It wasn’t always about love and those were clearly stated in your post. I like this post! It was very interesting to read! Good job!!😀

    1. Ah, thank you for your encouraging words. As a child growing up, the moral understanding behind every story or life lessons that we could have noticed were never emphasized for a child to understand why the characters are feeling the way they do. We just associate how they are feeling, and react to the antagonists in a way where we have hatred for older women (step mothers, older step sisters, etc). Yes, precisely right! Love is only half the battle. You have to find some way to get there first. Thank you so much! I figured I would post this in February instead of the last two days of January.😀 Take care, love.

  3. Good Analyzation, I like all the tales, but like the way you interpreted Beauty & Beast best. I also have an article on my site called “The only worse than a disney princess is a disney prince” and that goes more into gender roles as well as the messages behind “falling in love with a prince…”

    1. Thank you so much for your feedback! Oh, I shall check it out! Thanks for pointing that out. Gender roles are primarily one of the most common themes you could find throughout the Disney movies. It should be an interesting read. Yes, that message to fall in love with a prince, and only a prince was emphasized enough with Shrek being an ogre. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I am glad you enjoyed this as much as I did writing it.

    1. I love providing that extra educational aspect to my writing. It’s not only advice, but well-rounded awareness to our favorite movies. It’s always intriguing to learn more about the origin and original founder for an inspirational story.I’m glad you enjoyed it, I may just check out your version soon. Thanks.

    1. Yes, you are precisely right! Whether it is physical or emotional strength, the gender barrier is removed with Mulan’s message of women empowerment in society. Thank you for your feedback. It is greatly appreciated.

  4. This is awesome! I never looked at Disney relationships that way – especially the analysis of the Dwarfes is plain brilliant. And thanks for giving the names of the princes. I only knew half of them😉

    1. Oh, you’re welcome! I am so glad this was a well-rounded learning experience. Yeah, the names can be overwhelming to remember, especially when the new ones are showing up more often, like Princess Mérida from Brave. It was a pleasure to provide this insight to you. Keep smiling! Take care, love.😉

      1. To be honest I haven’t even watched the new ones yet – which is quite a shame as I consider myself a huge fan of disney – even though I am not a 6 year old little girl anymore. But I guess Disney entertains everyone no matter how old they are (best example would be my Dad http://wp.me/p2E4zU-8D ). All the best Xx

  5. loved this! Felt inspired so later today I will be writing a piece on the symbolism behind a few specific items! Thank you! Hope you can check it out later today! But this was absolutely brilliant!🙂

    1. Thank you so much! It means a lot to me to read your words of encouragement. I love enticing inspiration by intriguing the mind to open up more. I am looking forward to your piece on the symbolism behind Disney’s love stories. It’s a pleasure hearing from you. I figured I would write this in January, but start of the Month of Love with this article. Thank you so much for stopping by! Take care, love.

  6. I found your article intriguing after having worked all day and come home exhausted and posted on my own blog. I did say I’d come back to read it.🙂 I may have to come back and read more now, if only to share in more of your curious thoughts on romance. I quite enjoyed the read.

    I don’t think I’ve thought through the Disney films of my childhood with that kind of clarity before, so this was definitely thought-provoking. Which of the princes do you identify with, then, Mr. Charming? I’m rather like Belle, more prone to waltz about reading a book and narrowly avoiding colliding with strangers in the street as I do, staring into the sky with my head in the clouds, and not caring one whit about the town brute (ah, that would be town god, I mean) when I could be off having an adventure. Then again, I always have identified more with Belle than most of the other Disney princesses.

    However… after living in China a year, I might give Jasmine a try for good measure. I’m sure my Fernando would enjoy the costume, in any event.

    Anyway, sorry for the introspection, I rather rambled on. Perhaps I’m in need of more sleep and those sweet, sweet dreams I seem to deprive myself of so often. I’m sure I’ll be back to read more of your fascinating takes on love, though, so do keep up the charming work.🙂

  7. There’s a fascinating article on how Princess Aurora is also about a young woman taking and sealing her youth, making the transition between being a girl and a woman, on her own terms (within a manner of speaking) and not necessarily being guided or influenced by society as a whole. Fair, and fine, she’s one of the Damsel in Distress Princesses, but she doesn’t have peer pressure.

    Beauty and the Beast is interesting because it’s one of those few Disney movies where the prince isn’t attractive and can’t walk in with the usual confidence (in his prowess and attractiveness) and cockiness of the other ‘princes’ (especially Aladdin) to woo the Princess. And Belle is a little too ‘different’ for her peers to be able to bank on her good looks to find a good match. This may be one of the more honest love stories from Disney, because it’s about personality matches, as opposed to the Fate-esque matches of previous heroines.

    As for Aladdin, I think that the reason Jasmine forgives Aladdin for lying is that she truly empathizes with him, and the constraints of societal requirements regarding status, class, caste, and etiquette. She runs away from the palace, disguised as a commoner in order to have a life of her own, being caged by her title of Princess. Aladdin longs for a life in the palace in order to not be looked down upon as ‘nothing more than a flea ridden street rat’ (the scene with the prince on the white horse towards the beginning of the film), and to this end, he pretends to be a prince. His behaviour when he meets the Sultan for the first time, and he brags about how the Princess need only meet him and she’ll fall in love with him, is a reflection of his intentions at that time. He doesn’t really know the princess at that point, perhaps he likes her, but he doesn’t love her, not yet. He’s more caught up in being socially acceptable, and by the Sultan, no less. I’d go a little further to say that Aladdin is also about going out to find out who you are, and not just ‘simply’ being yourself – which is one of those vague statements generally left hanging without guidance or direction for people trying to find themselves. Both characters grow and go through changes in the movie to accept who they are.

    I’d like to hear your take on Fa Mulan and Lee Chang.

    1. Wow, thank you so much for your extensive enlightenment! That sounds like a very intriguing article! Do you have the address by any chance? I would love to check it out some time. I love your interpretations throughout this comment. I completely agree with you. Yes, you are absolutely right. Aladdin faced self-discovery, instead of building an ego per se. It’s the emphasis on who we really are, rather than who we can become. Aladdin obviously knew his possibilities with the help of Genie, but eventually found out that he has more potential from within. Well, being in a lower class, it must take a lot of emotional burdens on oneself to associate with others in society. It was definitely a clear message of character building and self-discovery throughout the film, and many other Disney films.

      As for Fa Mulan, I enrolled in an East Asian History class at the University of Connecticut. In 1998, I was only turning nine years old. I would have never understood the importance behind gender politics, primarily focused on women empowerment. As a recent Political Science graduate, gender politics was a very fascinating topic for me. This is a very powerful message to take from this movie at a young age, but I am glad I can reflect on it now with better understanding.

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