What’s Up? Nothing Yet, Winky Face; Sexting 101

Life is a rewarding apparatus that provides countless obstacles, challenges, limitations, and opportunities to face. These situations are identified through a vast array of social, political, and economic influences. Work schedules can be tedious, tight, and overwhelming to plan anything exciting after work. If someone is tossing two jobs around, a personal note of appreciation goes to this workforce for their balancing act of eating healthy, maintaining work efficiency, and sleeping enough between and after their shifts. These productive individuals provide more tax paying power to our state and our country. Thank you for your support! Education can overwhelm the undergraduate, family influences can overwhelm anyone involved, and parenthood – let’s just move on. Although I am not a parent, from what I know, I was hired for my second job at a local grocery store down the street from my first job almost four months ago. I am still really stoked over this, and I am looking forward to staying productive with my time. Blogging has been pushed aside, but I am slowly coming back. I will try my best to blog at least twice a month when I get the chance. I wanted to submit an article by Valentine’s Day after reviewing all of the search keywords most people use to find my blog since January. I am intrigued to share search terms from several months ago to give you an idea of how people find my blog. A productive lifestyle filled with work and family has yet to hinder the free time people use to surf the Internet for dating and relationship advice. The following are search terms used via popular search engines to come across (no pun intended) this blog. Please note that these terms are also used to find pictures over the Internet. The first most commonly used term with 88 views will direct anyone to a picture of a young couple used for my blog article, “Romantic Résumé; Marketing Yourself for Love in 2013.” 

Search Engine List

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Wait, I am sorry. What was that? Porn air fresheners? What does porn even smell like? Wait, before anyone decides to smell any of their sexual paraphernalia, the biting theme seems to dominate the search list. I may consider this idea as another blog entry. I might approach this topic as a survey rather than from experience.  As for now, I will move on to say that sex is animalistic behavior. The animals involved will either care about enhancing their love making or take an advantage of the situation as a typical dominant role in the animal kingdom. Based on the search results, people use their free time on the Internet to search for sensual and sexual enhancement with their partners. Sexting is still appearing as a common theme among the search results. It is also appearing more widely across the news involving older men and young women using social media outlets, such as Kik. I provided links to the search results that directly connect to my previous blog posts. You may check them out at any time by clicking the hyperlink provided.

In this next social experiment, fifty men have settled the idea that sexting is reserved for both hook-ups and serious relationships. It appears that sexting is a qualitative act between two people, and altruism may or may not influence this notion. Whether we are celebrating Valentine’s Day or any other holiday, couples should engage through sexting to enhance their social and intimate relationship with each other. Sexting is not only popular to search across the Internet, but it is a missing component of intimate communication. As technology advances, communication between most couples across the world lack the essential interpersonal communication skills for exchanging ideas, feelings, similarities and differences. Emojis, or smiley faces used in SMS conversations, are ineffective if the receiver is not understanding that the flame next to the bed might indicate hot passionate love. Yes, the bed is really hot. Could you please remove some blankets? Awkward. It was worth a shot. Given a cultural and religious understanding, everyone must realize that sexting may hinder religious and/or moral beliefs. Everyone has their own right to their own body, and should express themselves freely as they will. Although equality to their own body is a human right, not all human rights are offered to those who deserve them in other countries. Male chauvinist countries may hinder these opportunities through religious and cultural beliefs, and rebellious acts of promiscuous activity may occur. For an interesting study on gender inequality and women’s rights to their own sexuality, research topics revolved around young Tunisian women. In addition, familiarize yourself with marital rape. Marriage is consensual on the day when two souls exchange vows, however this does not give free access to each other’s body at their own convenience.

Technological advancement in communication has comfortably set the tone for online dating. Most men would agree that they are smooth talkers, while most women (based on surveying the male perspective) feel the need to initiate a seductive line via SMS. This may or may not be the truth, but most guys feel the need to point fingers at the women who offer hints and suggestions to spark up more than a conversation. In February, I engaged in a social experiment with the two catfish accounts I have on the dating website OkCupid. I asked 50 men, 25 different men for each account, for their opinions of sexting. Guys, before I review the responses, feel free to take a moment to answer the following questions yourself. Then, compare your responses to the results. Note: the fifth question is not applicable because it is rather awkward, silly, and not effective without an actual image of the two catfish women. I will present the questions, the background results of how OkCupid established three compatibility percentages, and then the overall feedback of responses for each catfish account. The compatibility percentages range from Match, Friendship, and Enemy. In a recent update within the past several months, the website no longer has the friendship compatibility match option. Therefore, this will be the last time I will use this source for my blog.

Sexting Survey

The following are questions I provided to all the male participants that ranged from 18 to 45 years old:

1. Do you sext?

2. Why (for all ‘yes’ responses)?, Why not (‘no’ responses)?

3. Who initiates the sexting?

4. Do you prefer sexting with images or text?

5.  Give me an example of how you would sext me, providing details of how you would turn me on? Then, maybe, you can win my number with the best answer.

First Impressions Matter

Appearances can be deceiving, but first impressions are generally the foundation to most relationships. Regardless of your preferences for older men or women, most would hesitate to walk up to someone of any race, gender, or age with a clever pick-up line. If you are still shaking your head in disapproval, congratulations on providing an equal opportunity in your community. The Internet immediately creates a first impression of appearance, personality, and education level based upon how the individual markets, or portrays, their overall self-image. The captivating images of selfies, intriguing autobiographies, and word choice in exercising their freedom of speech are all factors in making or breaking that initial connection. In the last social experiment, I was analyzing conversations to discover this notion about social interaction between two catfish women and fifty randomly selected men. The rave girl’s promiscuous profile attracted the men who will most likely stay for a night or two.  The college graduate pursuing a Master’s degree in Clinical Psychology draws attention to men who are serious about bringing someone home to their family. The language between myself and the subjects were alternated under the idea that it was appropriate to maintain that overall profile’s reputation. The rave girl bluntly came out with the first question listed above on sexting, while the college graduate apologized to her audience for being blunt. The results for each profile were entertaining, inspirational, and well-worth the time in conducting this social experiment. All interaction with the men stopped after the last question was answered. No further communication was necessary, unless the last question sparked something intriguing. At most, I asked all sparked responses if they wrote often. This was more often for the rave girl than the college graduate. All other messages were noted, and briefly explained in the Aftermath section of this blog post.

Age

The age range between the two women I selected may or may not have been a major factor in which men decided to spark up a conversation. However,  I have noticed that age can play an important role in first impressions over the Internet. The 20 year-old rave girl attracted men between the ages of 18 to 45. The twenty-four year-old college graduate attracted men from the ages of 18 to 41. The modes, or values that were commonly represented throughout the data, were 21 and 24. Thus, making an observation that people attract their own age group more often as a norm. The average age of the men interested in the rave girl was 25.96, while the college graduate attracted an average of 26.72. The difference was only 0.76 off from each other. You can agree that age is just a number, but the intent of social interaction will change everything based on how the individual markets their intent for being on a dating website. If the rave girl was also pursuing a college degree, the results could have significantly changed if she only expressed this academic pursuit on her profile. Her sexual experience was noted in most of the questions answered prompted by OkCupid to set up match, friendship, and enemy percentages. Given this understanding, these percentages could have significantly changed, and interest between the two individuals might have altered any connection between each other. A male participant could have relied on these percentages to further engage in the match or moved on to someone with higher scores. A male participant might have solely depended on the responses to the separate questions provided by the website. Multiple factors were involved.

Sexuality 

In the previous social experiment, I have attracted a woman interested in small talk with the bisexual college graduate student. However,  the sexuality between the two women did not change any results for this experiment. All inquiries were straight single men. The men did not engage in any discussion around sexual orientation, and the male participants were primarily focused on one-on-one encounters.

Residential 

Despite the common residential location for these women residing in Los Angeles, a surprising discovery was made when both women attracted two men in their twenties from the East Coast. Although the New York men were two years apart from each other, they both scored at least a 90% for match compatibility with their love interest. After analyzing the data to find any local LA men, the results were surprisingly low. The ratio between LA men to the rest of the CA men (ignoring the two New York men) was 8 to 24 for the rave girl,  and only 5 to 24 for the college graduate. This may or may not imply that LA men prefer meeting women in public places rather than on dating websites. It is also important to note that the two women both share high compatibility ratings for both match and friendship compatibility percentages with the LA men. There were only two LA men with a high match compatibility, but a significantly low friendship compatibility. The rave girl attracted one LA male with 80% match and 25% friendship compatibility. The college graduate attracted one LA male with a 61% match and 43% friendship compatibility. In addition, one male had a balanced 64% and 63% compatibility for the college graduate.

Compatibility

On OkCupid, there are three percentages that are calculated based on answering a countless number of questions to provide a 99.9% chance of being soul-mates. One percentage will calculate match compatibility, another will determine friendship compatibility, and the last one will cover enemies (or the lack of a healthy compatibility). The rave girl attracted nine men with a match compatibility from 80% to 90%.  Only five men scored 72% to 77%. That is 14 men out of 25 who scored a C- or higher in a match compatibility percentage. Therefore, a little more than half of the men were compatible love interests for the rave girl. Only three men scored 82% to 85% for friendship compatibility. A score of 73% to 79% was achieved by six men for friendship compatibility. The enemy percentage ranged from 0% to 54%. Given the data results, the rave girl has a balanced compatibility (80% to 100% range for both match and friendship compatibility) with only three men. If she decided to lower her standards to a 70% to 100% balanced compatibility, she would have eight men out of 25 from this study. That is only 32% of men who are both match and friendship compatible.

The college graduate attracted 12 men with a match compatibility between 80% to 91%, and six men with 70% to 72%. In addition, more men fell into the 60% to 69% compatibility range compared to the rave girl by four additional men. That is a total of 18 men, 72% of men surveyed, who scored a C- or higher in a match compatibility percentage. Surprisingly, the college graduate came across one individual with a 94% friendship compatibility percentage. That individual male also scored a 90% match compatibility. Therefore, he will be part of the overall best suited men from this study. There were five men who scored between 83% to 87% for friendship compatibility. Only three men scored a C range from 71% to 79% for friendship compatibility. In comparison, there were more men who ranged from 62% to 69% for friendship compatibility with the college graduate than the rave girl by three men. The enemy percentage ranged from 0% to 62%. Given the data results, the college graduate has a balanced compatibility with five men. If she decided to lower her standards to a 70% to 100%  balanced compatibility, she would have eight men out of 25 from this study. That is another 32% of men who are both match and friendship compatible. Whether the participating catfish women choose to lower their own standards to find true love online, the average of all the percentages might shed light into online dating.

The match compatibility average for the rave girl resulted to 61.85%. The friendship compatibility was 56.18%, while the enemy percentage was 24.29%. In comparison to the college graduate, there was a higher compatibility match with 73.44%. The friendship compatibility was also higher with 61.40%. The enemies were significantly lower with the college graduate at 18.96%. The match compatibility for one young woman was very close to the friendship compatibility of the other woman.

Unexpected Factors

The results, including match percentages and question responses, of this experiment may have been affected by time of conversation, disabled accounts, lack of interest, and other distracting incidents. In addition, I did not engage further with the participating males after the fifth question was asked. I will include if any replies were added during the five month duration of leaving the conversations idle. The three compatibility percentages may have changed since I talked to the participants in February based on how they answered more (if any) questions. In a recent website update, the match and enemy compatibility percentages are the only two factors calculated on every member’s profile.

As of updating this blog entry, an additional three accounts were disabled since July 22, 2014, preventing the college graduate to pursue anything further with them. There are now ten disabled accounts since the social experiment initiated with the college graduate’s account. Surprisingly, two of the five LA guys disabled their accounts.  One of them was a well suited match for the college graduate with an 89% match and 84% friendship compatibility. In addition, her other top choice with an 88% match and 87% friendship compatibility also disabled their account. Luckily, she can still choose the guy with a 91% match and 87% friendship compatibility. The rave girl has six male participant inactive accounts, including the guy from New York and the second highest match (1 of the 8 LA men) with a compatibility of 89%.  The most common age for both accounts to see inactivity is 24 and 21. The youngest inactive account for the rave girl was 21, while the college graduate lost two 19 year old men. Keep in mind – the rave girl is 20, the college graduate is 24. That is a total of 16 men out of 50 whom disabled their accounts, or 32%, since the study began in February. The college graduate lost 10 out of 25, or 40%, of the prospective men while the rave girl lost 6 out of 25, or 24%, of the participating men. Can we say that men who are attracted to promiscuous women will most likely stay desperate for anyone faster than those looking for a serious relationship with a well-educated woman? Perhaps.

The Question Responses

In this social experiment, I maintained two different personalities to effectively portray the catfish accounts. The responses to the questions varied between both accounts under the impression that one young woman likes sex, raves, and partying. The other young woman admits to a private moment with an embarrassing sexting story on her profile. She claims that she accidentally sent a picture of herself to her friend, and her friend now calls her, “Cheeks.” Given that there were 50 men involved with this study, I will briefly mention the results for each profile. The college graduate will be reviewed first. I am looking forward to publishing a separate blog entry for the rave girl’s perspective.

1st Question

According to several men, sexting is a gender norm. Men do it. What else do you want to know? According to others, some are quite inexperienced with sexting, or prefer the real deal. Yeah, I am sure it is a lot better than your hand. Wait, how else would you sext? Ha. Gotcha. As a college graduate with high values, I was told not to be worried for being blunt about asking a question that involves digital intimacy. A more intriguing discovery is a common frequency of assumption and demand. Guys, for the record, never assume the following question is an immediate offer:

“Sorry to be blunt, but do you sext?”

Reality check. Guys, seriously, how many women bother to ask you a question like that anyway? Do you need to read my previous blog entry on analyzing conversations in online dating? Always read their profile! This is too fishy! This is a catfish red flag. Regardless of her intent, treat her question as any other. She is seeking information from you. She is not necessarily asking for your digits. Give her some respect. On the topic of respect, watch what you say when you prefer physical penetration rather than mental stimulation. We all understand you prefer the real deal. Limit your disclosure to respectable terms. She could live without the details. Interestingly, some guys questioned if sexting was a requirement. Again. Never assume she wants a relationship with you. Give her space. Lastly, some guys reserve sexting with people they are already hooking-up with, rather than new people from online dating websites. Well, isn’t that special? Keep in mind that people lie about their age. Always talk to them appropriately. One guy responded with a negative response. I was intrigued to discover his reasoning. He mentions the legality of sexting. Finally, someone bright enough to know their boundaries! The guy states, “I think it’s dumb and folks get themselves into trouble.” As soon as I mentioned a scenario of meeting someone on a website for intended legal age adults to avoid that problematic concern, he quickly threw back the unexpected when I questioned how he would accommodate the lack of physical intimacy in a long distant relationship. He brought up, “If this is some research project or something, I’m not really interested…” Well, I respect that. Kudos for analyzing conversations effectively. Was that it? No. I wanted to see his intent.

 His Intent 

CG: Why would you even think that? lol I am just curious to find out how romantic you are in expressing your feelings towards others, given an opportunity maybe in the future that something may happen between us. Sorry I bothered to get to know you better.

Him: There are girls who make accounts to collect information for psychology/sociology papers and stuff like that. It happens more than you would think. If you’re just curious, I’m really just not into sexting. I’ve never done long distance relationships, so I have no idea.
CG: Really? I’ve seen the show Catfish, but I never imagined anything academically intended. Did you know OkCupid does their own research? So, why bother to do something already done? lol Check out their blog if you’re intrigued: http://blog.okcupid.com/. So, you would rather express yourself in person than over the phone. That’s respectful. I like that. I am glad you’re not self-centered and selfish.
Him: The number one rule of college: just because somebody else has said it 9,999 times, it doesn’t mean you can’t say the exact same thing and consider yourself “edgy.” Haha. You can’t really blame me for being suspicious considering you’re going to grad school for psychology.
 
Reel em’ in! 
Well, he is definitely a keeper! He analyzed my profile effectively. What if I was going for grad school for something else? Do you think this would have resulted differently? The less confident men were quite open about their experience in sexting. One guy mentions, “Nah its fine haha n honestly no haha ive never done that n I dont think ill be good at it haha.” Excessive laughing. Grammatical errors. I get it. No, really, I do. Haha. I stumbled upon another who admitted that they did not have much experience, but would volunteer to do so. A thirty year old caught on quick:
Him: “I do if I’m with someone. You?”
CG: Yes, in the same context as you, so it’s special. Why do you do it?
Him: “What made you ask that as the first question? It’s not a common occurrence”
CG: Oh, I am just testing out romance types. I am curious to see your response to why do you do it? What’s your motive behind it? Who usually initiates it? Are you more dominant or submissive? Do you prefer images or text? It helps me understand you better.
Him: “I don’t see how. Why do you answer first and I can get a better understanding of you. Or you can just tell me about yourself, are you close with your family, how do you treat your mom, what do you do for fun, are you happy with your life, why did you join Okc. I think those would be more important than sexting.”
Well, we have a family man. Ladies, this one is up for grabs!

Him: To  sexting if it does happen is between that couple and should only be done with that couple. If they feel the need to “spice” things up they should do what makes them happy. As far as discussing it with a stranger it doesn’t apply, because it’s only pertinent to those involved.

CG: Ah, you would be surprised. Just that response alone tells me you genuinely care for the person. Yes, I am very close to my family. They’re the reason why I am here. lol In addition, you can choose your friends, but you can never choose your family. Although I would say a few cousins would be the first to be changed if possible. My mom and I are close, but I am closer to my father. I volunteer at a health clinic. That’s always fun, and very rewarding. My life could be better, but it’s much better than most my age. I joined this site because my friend told me about it. So, I figured, what’s there to lose? 

Him: I appreciate your honesty. It shows how sincere and well-brought up you are.
I try to be as honest as possible, especially online. I’m looking for something real and genuine so I figured I better be as real and as genuine as possible if I want that in return.
Then, there was this guy: 
“That’s pretty blunt. I have no idea how to sext.”

Well, you are not the only one. Is there a significant difference between texting and sexting other than a letter change?  Why would anyone bother to get intimate over a bunch of words? Why would you do such a thing? I mean, it sounds horrifying. Sexting. 

2nd Question: 
“It sounds pretty scary,” one guy replies. Seriously, sexting is a genre of sci-fi if they ignore washing themselves. The same guy questioned previously, “How does one typically start a sexting session?” I admire his curiosity and word choice. Do people typically call them sessions, moments, or opportunities? Why do we even bother?
Men have a very fascinating way of expressing themselves. This was absolutely one of my favorite questions that I asked. The opinionated gave me an overall understanding, while the passionate frankly admitted to just getting down and dirty in person.
Here are some ideas: 

“Well its a way for both people to have a fantasy in there head to get off to.” “My intent is not to sext but the other person is the one asking so I go along with it but they are no longer in my life.” “I’m good and only on tuesdays lol what are you up to?” “Idk just really havnt talked to anyone like that thru text haha id much rather perfer to do things in person espeacily if its messing around like that haha. Now im sorry if I sound creepy hear haha buy since u asked ill ask u the samething haha would u like to mess around but in person perferably haha xp”

“I only do it when I’m in a relationship, I guess it’s way to express yourself to your significant other.”
 “I dont think ive ever “sexted” but i do enjoy being involved in things revolved around sex. does that count?”
 
“I feel like sexting is a way to pass the time before actually hooking up and having sex. . if not it just seems like a tease i guess. but like i said i never done it.”
 
 “Only if they have a particular fetish for it.”
“Some girls I date do that so I play along.”
“I think I’d prefer to wait the first time and text, we could switch things up after build up some experience.”
One of the oldest guys I surveyed caught on by the second question questioning if I was doing research for a paper. I told him that I was just fascinated to figure people out their their intimate personalities (or lack thereof) to confirm compatibility. He replied, “I don’t really do that but if it’s with a woman that I have a very good connection with that it’s impossible to see then maybe will write something horny otherwise horny time is for when you’re both together what about you. Maybe it could be fun if the other person is good at it. I guess phone conversations much better.” I replied, “Yeah, phone sex is a lot better than sexting. It’s much more meaningful because it has an emotional and physical connection to the person. I am glad you’re not as easy as most men, and it takes a lot to gain your time. I respect that. In a serious relationship with you, who would normally initiate that intimate behavior?”
Well, I moved on the next question with him, and he nailed me. Pun not intended. He replied in a playful joking matter.
Him: Dude! your so obviously writing some kind of college paper cut it out 🙂 if you want to keep up this conversation why don’t you buy me a coffee or a beer or something I’m in Atwater and Silverlake area 😉 I’m super busy guy I’m starting a business etc but you seem interesting and smart so if you want to get together for a chat and some laughs or something . I’ll help you with your paper. let me know 323-his-digits-were-here.
I left him alone for a while. He still sent me messages, even after a month. “Coffee? Haha not talking to me any more?” He offered to help though. That made my day. Then, there was this guy. The guy who respects his women, but finds sexting weird:
“Cuz I need to have a lot of feelings for a woman before anything like that happens. Plus it is just weird.”
3rd Question: 

Would it be weird if the other person initiated it? No pressure to start, but so much pressure to finish? The other pressure, of course. The third question revolved around sexting initiation. Who gets the blame for being dominantly digital? According to the men I surveyed, consent between the couple happens before anything else. I was curious to question how sexting becomes consensual, but that would have caused confusion. Some guys mentioned that the girl would ask, and the guy will say yes. The rest of the responses speak for themselves:

“Haha well the boy n the girl can talk about it left n right but at the end its really up to the girl who decides if they want it in person or sexting haha. So wat do u think in person or sexting? Haha but just so u know im a lot better in person cuz im a sucky texter so ill bore u haha. I talk more in person n can keep u entertain.”
 
Well, at least he was honest. No sucky sucky for me. The inexperienced were quite the challenge, but nonetheless they were still helping my study:
“What do you mean? i dunno i guess there was texting before hand but i dont know if sending me tits counts as sexting. but i likeit none the less.”
 
Tits. Everyone likes those.

Well, what if tits were not interesting to them at the time? Yeah, some guys reported to say that it depends on their mood, and the person involved. The dominant sexters admitted that it depends on each other’s mood, not just their own. Well, that is reassuring someone else cares about the other person involved. Surprisingly, one admits that they have not had a lot of sex. I am only suggesting that it surprises me to connect sexting and actual sex together. Are we on the same page here or maybe we should change the chapter?

Participating Male: I wouldn’t know. I haven’t done it.

CG:Ah so you wouldn’t be able to express yourself over the phone to turn your girlfriend on?
PM: Can we change the conversation?
Yeah, why not? Let’s get visual!

4th Question: 

A picture is worth a thousand words, and some data usage! Everyone has a different way of appreciating visual stimulation, whether it was physically seeing images or creating mental images on their own. I have previously written a blog article on seductive sexting for those who wish to engage in imagery seen physically by the eyes, and not solely dependent on the mind. Instant gratification. I get it. No, not like that, but I understand why this is a very popular way of communicating intimate ideas across social media outlets. Please refer back to my previous blog article to understand that this intimate exchange is not meant for everyone, regardless of your personal preference. Whether you are explicitly communicating to minors in written text or via image exchange, it is still illegal. That is the law. As my two catfish accounts were portrayed as legal adults, we can continue on to what stimulates men more between imagery or text. Ladies, men want to see your goodies. For the love of God, just respect yourself with self-control. Other men prefer both imagery and textual communication for sexting. Surprisingly, men have admitted that it is not a turn on for them and they refuse to pay for webcam shows. A sense of invading space has surfaced the topic, as well as briefly discussing about bad previous experiences. This question was also opening up the door to assumption, and personal responses were openly exchanged. One participant admitted that he likes to use both imagery and text, and for the sake of me being cute, he admitted that he will definitely like both. That was for the hopes of giving him a chance in the near future. Guys, again, never assume she wants to engage in anything like that. She could be asking these questions to relieve herself from bad experiences of men sending her inappropriate images to her phone. Treat it as a question to answer, and an opportunity to understand. Not an opportunity to pursue anything further. I get it. A cute girl asked if you preferred images or text in sexting. She is attractive. Of course you would take anything you can from her. She gets it too. All the time. Stop it. I appreciated the honest responses that revolved around asking for too much if they received both forms of sexting. However, one continues to explain that, “images and texts both work good together. So ill say both.” That is a solid answer. Thank you. Then, there was Captain Obvious:

“Being a graphic designer, I’m a pretty visually-oriented guy. Send me something!”
Thanks! A special shout out to the guys who comfortably expressed their genuine interest of getting to know the person before they sext. This includes the guy who mentioned that it “helps if I had some idea of your turn ons and interests doll.” A special punch in the chest for the guy who assumes that a complimentary statement to their response is an immediate win of approval. I will give some kudos to the guy who felt that he would not be interested in “someone who could be pleased through a text message,” suggesting that they would not be compatible. However, I question his ability to take a balanced role (each other equally involved) in a long distant relationship if I was actually a girl trying to get to know him better on OkCupid. How else would he please me, from afar, if he feels that I cannot be pleased through the simplistic measure of a reading something genuine from him? Red flag for people who enjoy waking up to morning texts. This guy is probably not for you.

The Aftermath

The last question was a make it or break it for them. Of course – nobody won my number, or a local LA pizza place that I was hesitant to offer. After some participants heated things up with how they would please me through sexting, providing a detailed example of their sexting style, I left OkCupid inactive for a while from being busy with work. Some guys wondered if they passed my sex test while others insecurely questioned if they said something wrong. The best obvious response that I expected to see was something like this:

“So does this mean I didnt win ur number? Haha” 

Yes. Sorry, Romeo.

Pleading the 5th 
What exactly does a guy say to a young woman pursuing a Master’s degree in Clinical Psychology to provide her an example of sexting? The following are some fine examples:
“Hahaha i guess, it’s not a good idea, we should Skype to seduce each others lol” 
“Well for examples. above all im really into oral so mostly it will lead to licking your click and other pussy eating gestures. like fondling , rubbing/firmly gripping your tits, nipple sucking, and some kissing of the neck to make you as wet as possible so when i go south you’re nice and wet. then slowly crawls my hand down get by rubbing your clit some , listen to you moan . i love it. start fingering you first with one then 2 fingers , enjoying your pleasure very much , bump it up to three maybe bring down the other hand and start rubbing your clit simultaniously(spelling error) and eventually give you a break just to move over between your legs and start by placing my tongue on your wet hole and running my tongue up spreading your lips open . start fingering you as i grasp your clit with my lips and go to town on your clit , have you go crazy…. well theres an example :P”
Wait, my what? Your hand crawls without dragging your body? I would like to see this!  Woah, three? Dude, this isn’t poker. You’re not bumping up anything! Hey, at least he was grammatically honest! Ah, fuck. He said it. Wet hole. I am done. I lost my lady boner. Seriously, that is almost saying, “moist hole.” He was considerate to give me a break though!
“Depending on what you like, ill seductively talk about what turns you on in all the right places. Phrasing and acting out those actions are key to sexting. So if you liked doggie style I would say as I watched your figure from behind I placed my hands right on hips and gently put my penis inside of you for full feeling. That’s just an example though lol” 
Nailed it.  That’s a winner!

 “Well I guess yea haha but im more in person kinda guy haha. Well like I said ive never done this before so I wouldnt really know wat to say but if it were in person. Ill take u somewhere nice to enjoy the day n then wen we get intimate ill start off by kissing ur neck as I slowly remove ur shirt. Then lay u down n start kissing ur stomache as I slowly remove ur pants. Then ill start fingering n licking u til u get extremly wet. Then ill ask u wat exactly do u want me to do to u n ill do every single thing u like to make u finish ;)”

 
I cannot stomache people playing with my mustache. Woah, wait. Jokes aside. Did he just pass my lady border without any prolonged stimulation above my waistline? Fail. Make me want it. Could you kiss my thighs at least?

“I can go hard slow kinky passionate how ever u like I can do. Im better at passionate though haha”

Those hardly working or working hard are quite hard doing whatever they do best:
 
“Haha, I’m at work, so this will be a bit awkward typing this. I would gently push you down onto your bed, gently kissing you on the neck, my warm breath lingering on your skin as I start to unbutton your blouse. I slide my right hand on the outside of your increasingly moist panties. My fingers tracing the outline of your slit… OK that is as much as I can do right now as a sample. My boss is staring at me lol”
 

Then, let me introduce to you, Mr. Exotically Fun:

“Haha well first we would have a setting like a pool, shower, locker room, something fun and exotic. Then I would start with telling you abiut the foreplay.” 

 

Well, at least this guy is kinda in the same boat:
“How I’d massage, kiss, or rub you. Then I’d start telling you how I’d take your clothes off haha”
 
Honesty is quite honestly sexy. Trust me. You proved yourself worthy:
“I’ll be honest, I don’t know you and just sexting someone I don’t know doesn’t feel quite right. If I knew you I would.”
 
Ladies, this is my guy. Yeah. He knows me too well:
“It sounds like an awesome idea, however, I’m going to say no, cause I don’t know you, I don’t really know if you really say who you are..you could be a guy or some kid getting a kick out of this,I decline.”
 
And as for Mr. Cocky, my guy should calm this dude down:
“I’ll win you over, I would rather not sext you here. What’s your number?” 
Romance Recap
By reviewing these responses, you can understand the college graduate had to cringe, smile, laugh, and shake her head at all these attempts of winning her phone number. This is not just a competition for digits, but further engagement in communication. Guys, seriously, do you even care for more intellectual conversations with her? Ladies, there are really good guys out there. This was a brief summary of 25 of them engaging in a conversation with a college graduate. This was a sample of the higher quality group searching for women with respectable backgrounds, including a strong academic focus in life. Never settle for less! Communication is extremely important before engaging in physical intimacy, especially earlier in the relationship. Keep in mind that being blunt right away is not necessarily the best idea. Respect yourself and each other when you disclose this information. Would you throw all your baggage at someone while you exchange the first handshake? Compare experiences and preferences.  There are guys willing to understand you and your body before attempting to please it. Ignore the ones with assumptions for sexual gain and fulfillment. They will never care about you. Analyze conversations as soon as possible to understand which type of fish you reeled in this time. Always remember that it starts from within. How you market yourself for love can make or break the future for you. I will discuss the rave girl’s perspective in a separate blog entry. I will try to get it out to you by mid August. Thank you in advance for a strong following community. I never expected to reach this many followers since I started, and I had no idea the majority of you would stay after inactivity. My word count has reached 7,100 for this post alone. Hopefully, that made up for something. I am off to bed! Sorry for any grammatical errors (other than the direct quotes from my male participants).
What’s Up? Nothing Yet, Winky Face; Sexting 101

First Impressions and Unbelievable Confessions; Discussing Relationship Structure in Modern Dating

Traffic slows to a crawl on the Monash Freeway...

The competitive market for love shares similar characteristics to the job market for the unemployed. A hopeless romantic is similar to someone unemployed looking for a stable commitment for the next few years. The employers carefully select interviewees to filter out commitment driven people from the rest. A person looking for love will also follow the same process by prioritizing their prospective love interests from the desperate candidates. The people will seek information through casual conversations and non-verbal cues from body language. Regardless if there is an interest for commitment to a company or a relationship, there should never be a time to hesitate to settle for less. If the process fails to recognize sugar-coated first impressions, future problems will arise.

This article will briefly discuss the ineffective structure for building relationships in modern dating. A reputable value system for first impressions determines the selection process without the conflicting confessions surfacing the relationship at an earlier time. As the comfort equilibrium reaches stability, disclosure for a person’s true characteristics is transparent. These confessions are often pushed aside with positive first impressions to reassure that the relationship is fine to concerned family and friends.

Love at First Sight

The exchange of first impressions for any relationship is invaluable to the future of that initiated friendship. The struggle for men and women to market their capabilities to find true love turns to desperate measures. The emotional and intellectual strengths push aside for the physical attributes and effective interpersonal communication skills. Communication is inexpensive, but persuasive lines can lure someone closer. A woman may physically attract a male candidate by wearing something revealing. She will physically engage in the communication without any disclosure of words. The balance between initiating a physical attraction and establishing an emotional connection can spark a lot of interest. The person will feel comfortable and secure when some qualifications achieve satisfaction. If a guy has a great personality, the woman must make that decision to look over the lack of physical attraction. If a guy is sexually appealing without the great personality, love is not blind after all.

A mutual exchange of acceptance for two people is usually based on first impressions. A guy might return to his comfort zone by talking to his friends about his recent meeting. The woman might do the same thing, but describe him differently than he would describe her. The lack of information to understand each other is often replaced by physical and emotional first impressions. If the guy mentions that he is a recent graduate from a public university, a first impression of sophistication may spark her conversation with her friends. If the woman mentions an interest in music and art, the guy can describe her passion for the freedom of expression. If barely any exchange of information happens or almost everything is misunderstood, the descriptions will only be based upon the appearance that reflected the most from the first impressions.

A mutual connection between the two people will spark another date or another time to engage in a conversation. The disclosure of information can vary depending on the comfort of questioning and responding. The casual conversations can jump from general interests to personal explicit interests. During the first few weeks of engaging in daily conversations, the two people must disclose their intentions for pursuing an interest in connecting with each other. If this conversation is never covered since the first exchange, future conflicting matters will arise to sort out the issues of determining whether this is a prospective commitment or a way to satisfy physical intimacy deprivation. It is very important to disclose intentions of any relationship before a serious decision can emotionally hurt another person. This is when first impressions require depth and understanding before something serious happens. If the intentions were never disclosed from the beginning, they will surface when a couple least expects it.

Skeletons in the Closet

A person shows their natural behavior by slowly shedding off the sugar-coated first impressions when they reach their comfort zone.  The confession stage begins after a few months or a few years since the first day. If an interviewee discloses to their prospective employer that they are only interested in receiving paychecks, the poor quality of their work would already reflect on this intention earlier. If a person is only interested in someone’s appearance or wealth, they will curtail impressing them as the relationship grows further. This is also true when unconditional love delivers the natural perks of commitment, such as loyalty.

This ineffective structure of building relationships stirs up an argument to question if love is combining a fishing method and a reputable rewarding system. A person can lure someone through their own form of bait, whether it is a physical or verbal form of attraction, while rewarding them from past reputable experiences to overcome the flaws. A common excuse to accept abuse or dishonesty in a relationship is to acknowledge someone’s first impressions. Men and women seem to push aside negative characteristics without acknowledging that their partner’s behavior changed since they first met. A person will reassure concerned family and friends that their partner will change their behavior. This person often fails to recognize a sudden positive change in the last several years. A sign of denial is very common in these situations because the last ounce of hope is all they have to move forward.

Questions

  1. Why do people try too hard to make first impressions successful?
  2. How are first impressions created if the person does not satisfy your expectations for an intimate relationship? Do you disclose more or less information than you should?
  3. Although nobody is perfect, is it better to disclose your flaws before or after a few months of talking? Would you rather let your partner discover your flaws naturally or talk to them before they all appear within the relationship?
  4. Do people really change back into who they were a few years ago? Is it easy to push aside new habits, and return to the positive old ones?
  5. Do you agree that two people living together before marriage is more successful than a couple moving into a place shortly after the exchange of vows?
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First Impressions and Unbelievable Confessions; Discussing Relationship Structure in Modern Dating

Making Love Outside the Norm; Achieving Seductive Originality

A passionate desire for a lover’s chance to seduce the one they love with a sensual dance. The fingers wander like snakes with lust through the embrace of love and trust. Everyone desires the role of being the greatest lover in bed with no sense of direction or idea how to go ahead. Romantic ambitions lost without a compass or map, but an article to entice them to open up and unwrap.

After noticing the trending views for the sensualist perspective article, I am looking forward to providing some strategies on making Valentine’s Day extend for more than an entire 24 hours. This article will encourage your passionate minds to open up to originality and creativity. There is no age or experience requirement, however I do expect maturity and respect for everything you do to your partner. The main ingredients for these tactics are pure dedication and commitment. Push aside your insecurities, and discover each other in the most intimate way possible. My seductive strategies are effective because I care about what I do to the one experiencing my techniques. I do not recommend using my techniques with just anyone, but if you insist – make your one night-stand distinct from the rest. Give them quality over quantity performance. Make them come back for more. 

Sensual Suspense 

Guys, size does not matter at all with foreplay. All you need is confidence, passion, and patience. If you are unaware of how to use your hands and mouth effectively, please refer to my sensualist article. Ladies, give him a study guide after his lesson. Then, put him to the test. Most couples ignore or simply forget how to achieve the simplistic art of intimacy. Kissing is extremely important, but lips are not necessarily the only place to reserve a passionate kiss. This will be difficult to understand, but just ignore the sex for now. Imagine a cock block, or a chastity belt, preventing you from achieving sexual gratification. Find some other way around that to have fun.

Anatomy Class – 

English: A man handcuffed to a bed and blindfolded

Good morning, class!  First, I recommend an entire week of engaging in a hands-on anatomy class with your lover. Your first homework assignment will be due by the end of the week. No, seriously, learn more about your partner through a visual stimulation of who you are and what you have to offer. By the end of the week, you are able to identify (1) their erogenous zones,  (2) body language, and (3) an emotional and physical connection with the one you love. Sex is not just sex because there is an emotional and physical understanding that we rarely acknowledge. If you are willing to make love, you are willing to make some adjustments to how you approach your partner in bed.

Lab Instructions –

Use only your hands and your mouth in all the lab exercises you do in your intimate anatomy class. The only penetration allowed is using teeth, generally around the neck area. First, focus from the forehead down to the waistline. You are not ready for the next chapter (yet)! Do not exceed beyond their waistline. Confidence in trying something new is important, especially when it is simply showing off your passionate side for your partner. I have provided a list to entice your passionate side. If you follow the instructions carefully, you will be able to move on to the next level of intimate gratification. Please follow the following lab report template below to make sure that you are doing an outstanding job with your seductive experimental approach.

Lab Report – 

Statement of the Problem

How does my lover react to physical intimacy without sexual penetration? Are there any clear observations of arousal or discomfort in the attempts of seduction and sensual foreplay? My lover is willing to experience something new with me to entice their passionate side to release the buildup of sexual frustration and deprivation of sexual arousal.

Hypothesis 

If sensual kisses and massages from the forehead to the waistline entice my lover to bite their bottom lip, then sexual arousal will happen.

Materials

  • Hands
  • Mouth

Procedure

  1. Your lover can wear anything they want during this experiment. However, keep in mind that less is more. It is much easier to work around undergarments, instead of shirts and pants.
  2. Position your lover on the bed lying down on their back.
  3. Give one soft kiss upon your lover’s forehead with your eyes open. Mentally record facial expressions.
  4. Give one soft kiss upon one of your lover’s cheeks with your eyes open. Mentally record facial expressions.
  5. Give your lover slow, playful Eskimo kisses for at least 1 minute. Time is flexible. Stop when you are ready.
  6. Run your fingers through your lover’s hair while you teasingly brush your lips across theirs. Mentally record facial expressions and body language
  7. Transition further down to kiss their chin. Mentally record facial expressions.
  8. Continue caressing their hair. Close your eyes to signal a passionate embrace with your lips. No need to record anything.
  9. Transition further down to their neck. Give them a soft gentle blow on the side of their neck. Mentally record facial expressions and body language.
  10. Trace the side of their neck with the tip of your tongue. Do not use excessive amount of saliva. Keep it light and simple. Mentally record facial expressions and body language.
  11. I could write more steps, but I feel like you should take over. Be creative until you reach to the waistline… you got this. I believe in you.

Results

Well, what happened? Did you provide enough sensual kisses and massages from the forehead to the waistline? Did you entice your lover to bite their bottom lip? How many times? When did you notice them doing it? Where were you kissing and massaging for them to bite their bottom lip? Are you sure it was sexual arousal? Did they allow their hands to wander below the waistline? Did they encourage you to go further when you softly kissed across their waistline?

Conclusions

In conclusion, sensual kisses and massages from the forehead to the waistline will entice my lover to bite their bottom lip, and sexual arousal will happen. The tip of my tongue and my hands has successfully aroused my partner the most when I was caressing their breasts as their nipples erected inside my mouth. They bit their bottom lip the most when this happened. A possible error that may have hindered the overall performance while I was conducting this intimate experiment was when the phone rang. I may have to turn off the ringer next time we engage in a romantically sensual embrace.

Sensual Exploration

Congratulations! You successfully achieved your first lab report! Now, try these experiments:

  • The Impact of Different Juices on Sensational Kissing
  • The Impact of Whipped Cream on Sensual Foreplay 
  • The Impact of Showering in the Dark on Rekindling Romance

The main point to take from these experiments is to explore your partner with innermost passionate feelings. Use sensual food products, like fruit juice for kissing and whipped cream for foreplay. If you are willing to step outside the norm for more explorative opportunities, try ice cream or body paint. Just use your imagination and spice up your love life. As long as you are happy together and spending quality time together, endless possibilities of fun are open for inspirational consideration.

Sexual Surprise

Wow, talk about a heated discussion! Time to make love! Now, seduction is easy for any sensual intentions. The main problem is that seduction for sexual intentions can hinder any performance if there is no passion involved. Guys, she wants you to penetrate deep inside her just as much as you do. Never give her everything she wants right away! Never satisfy her completely until she begs for it. My seductive sexual strategies might leave her begging for more. She might even take control! Confidence is sexy, patience is running out, and dominance is ready to fight for sexual gratification. I encourage you all to try these sexual surprises.

Quading on Pink Terrain

Four wheeling, or commonly referred as quading, is extremely fun in open terrain. Try taking that same concept of digging into the dirt without a lot of penetration involved. Guys, when you quad on pink terrain, try to dig into her lips without penetrating deep inside. Use the head and the shaft as a shovel gliding against her wet pink lips. Experiment with this approach and see how long it takes for her to snap for more.

Shaft Spanking Paddle

BDSM is not for everyone, but spanking is always pleasurable when you do it right. Everyone’s level of tolerance for pain varies, but spanking your lover’s clit with your shaft is effective if you use the right amount of force and pace. Try doing it conservatively – before you penetrate inside and during your sexual exploration. Watch their body language and see if they enjoy a certain way of you doing it.

Chinese-pigs-in-blanket
Chinese-pigs-in-blanket (Photo credit: Andrea_Nguyen)

Pigs in a Blanket

It is time to feed your lover’s intimate part of her body with the pigs in a blanket approach. Guys, after you make your lover extremely wet, spoon with them with something extra. Slowly glide your shaft inside and then leave it there. Give them passionate kisses while you caress their body. Just connect with your partner in an emotional and physical way. Guys, forget about thrusting for a bit. Ladies, tease him by flexing your muscles and constricting his shaft. See how long you can go without deeper penetration.

Free Samples 

Someone is hungry for more! Just imagine unwrapping a layered present in wrapping paper, plastic bags, and newspaper. You want more after the first attempt and you continue unwrapping until you reach the end. Guys, size does not matter with this at all. Never feel intimidated. Give her one inch at a time. Glide an inch inside, take it out. Glide two inches inside, take it out. Glide three inches inside, take it out. Try the shaft spanking paddle while you experiment with this.

Please Note:

I understand that all relationships are different, and I do not encourage something that makes you or your partner uncomfortable. If you have any suggestions or comments, please leave them below. If you have any success stories or failed attempts from physical intimacy, tell me all about them. Please understand that this article is to encourage quality time with your partner while understanding their sexuality through physical intimacy. I encourage you all to take what you already know about your partner and use that knowledge to your advantage. The more you know about them, the better it is for both of you to achieve sensual and sexual gratification.

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Relaxing on First Base; A Brief Survey on Kissing Preferences

French Kiss

Physical intimacy is a healthy way of expressing our passionate sides to complete strangers or lovers. I appreciate the successful turn out for volunteers on my last poll. I will be writing a Part III very soon to conclude my thoughts about the results. I am looking forward on writing more about physical intimacy with the results from this poll as well. Please provide as much information as possible, including two detailed responses for the two questions requiring more information to fill out. All participants are not subjected to answer all the optional questions, including name or website address. However, there is acknowledgement for all participants willing to submit their website address for their voluntary contribution. All participants are aware that their information is not used for anything else other than the next blog publication. My intentions for the next blog publication are kept secret until the official publication of the results. I want more than seven submissions this time! I will hold off on ending this poll shortly before Valentine’s Day. Please reblog this or share the link to your friends. That would be greatly appreciated!

Survey: 

Reference:

 Erogenous Zone? 

Total Submissions: 

 

Number 22
Number 22 (Photo credit: beckycaplice)

 

Note: I will be updating this section as soon as I receive the submissions.

Comments: 

3:04 PM EST 02/04/13:  Wow! Twenty-two (22)  submissions already? That is amazing! Thanks everyone!

TECHNICAL ISSUE:  

I have to label the questions as (1), (2), (3) because it only registered one “Would You Rather,” so expect a message from me shortly to verify your answers. Sorry for the inconvenience! If you did not provide your website, then please resubmit and mention that you resubmitted within the response. I was wondering why everyone was skipping the questions! It is now working.

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Seductive Sexting; Making Your Man Beg for More

This article will explain how to engage in seductive sexting without overexposure, including suggestions on how to make your lover beg for more. Give your lover something to think about before revealing the complete exposure. The relationship will improve through effective communication with incentive driven goals. Whether you want to rekindle phone sex or improve your sexting experiences, this article will focus on sexting seductively.

Phone Sex Laws

Sexting is exchanging explicit messages or pictures through a cellular device. The laws prohibiting teens and adults exposing themselves to minors are not enforced enough. Parents should enforce the social and legal consequences of sexting. They should tell their children why possessing child pornography, including their own pictures, is not right. In most states, teens might be charged for their amateur collection. If the police are not aware, someone else received the message. If a boyfriend or girlfriend receives this explicit message, they will also be at risk for possession of child pornography. Although the recipient might also be a minor, the sender will be a victim of a digital consequence that goes viral. The recipient, or your lover, faces the temptations of becoming a catalyst for a viral pyramid exchange. Guy A sends it to guy B whom eventually sends it to everyone else until X, Y and Z receive it.

Although this is an extremely controversial topic, I encourage participation with your own opinions for discussion in the comment section below.

Texting on a qwerty keypad phone

Seductive Planning 

A new intimate picture is like a form of currency in a relationship, especially a long distant relationship. Your relationship will ignite into a whole new level of intimacy and maturity. If you have never exposed yourself to them yet, make it really special for each other. Make them come back for more because they want to. Don’t ever make them come back for more just to see everything before they leave.

Seductive planning is important because creating new incentives in the relationship will spark interest for each other. If you schedule a timeline for sexting, you will balance out the relationship for security and intimacy. If you were recently official, follow a monthly subscription. On the first month anniversary, send them a picture of you wearing a cute shirt and jeans, but revealing enough cleavage. A picture you should not have up on Facebook! If you lack the cleavage, simply wear something low-cut but not too revealing. On your second month anniversary, send them a picture of you lifting your shirt up to show them your stomach. Make sure to wear pants for this too! On the third month, take the shirt off but leave your bra and pants on. This encourages them to stay longer, chat with you, and find out what the next month will give them. This incentive program will effectively balance out a reward system of commitment. They will not only talk to you more, but they will stay for good reasons. If a guy is desperate, he will not wait that long to see the full exposure. When the fourth month comes, take off your pants but leave your shirt on. Then, have some fun with the rest of the year! You want him intrigued by everything you send him, but never become a victim of overexposure. There is no mystery in that at all. By the end of the year, two last pictures will be the big New Year’s special. When you are comfortable to send him a picture of the lovely ladies, take a picture of a part of them. Never send the full picture. Send a nipple or a side picture. Let him think all the way through this process. He will want you even more! When you send him something from below the waistline, push him off the edge with a picture of your mons pubis. It works like a charm! That is equivalent to him sending you a picture of the coronal ridge. Not quite the full picture, but you will want the rest as well!

Holidays

Holidays are an instant excuse to send your lover a picture. On Valentine’s Day, send them a picture of the lingerie they bought you. It will not only show sentimental value for the gift, but it shows how amazing you look with it on. I have Halloween, Valentine’s Day, and Christmas boxers for a reason. You should buy your lover a pair too! This will spice up the relationship by being spontaneous and passionately involved.

Let’s Get Textual

If you need help with the textual part of sexting, I recommend something from my poetic archives. A great suggestion would be, “An Erotic Masterpiece; A Painting of One Thousand Words.”

Sexting Fail

Failed Intentions 

Please refrain from failed attempts at sexting! Never face these circumstances!  Ouch! How embarrassing! Oh, another failure is below this paragraph! Check out the, “Grannies and grandads get into sexting,” article!

“Benaughty.com analysed the behaviour of 1783 of its members and found 31 per cent of those aged 50 or over admitted sexting.”

Yuck!

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Allons-y, mon chou!; Encouraging Terms of Endearment After Valentine’s Day

happy valentine's day
happy valentine’s day (Photo credit: mugley)

Salut, ça va? J’ai beaucoup des mots doux d’amour aujourd’hui! Hey, how are you? I have a lot of sweet words of love today! In the last two months, I prepared everyone for the upcoming Valentine’s Day, or Singles Awareness Day (S.A.D.).  Are you excited? Whether you are trying to find love online or you have that prospective lover already engaging in no strings attached snuggling, you might have to encourage more to your man than just keeping up with his qualifications.

Guys, my blog suggests romantic tips that will ignite a house fire from candlelit seduction or the freshly sparked ideas that will leave your lover begging like a feline in heat. I am not advocating that you should follow everything just for one night, but balance everything out for post Valentine’s Day. Your beautiful lover deserves more than just a holiday obligation for public displays of affection.  Never save up all your paychecks just to take her out for one night out of the entire year! Seriously, time to wake up and smell the roses before you buy them. Guys, this blog post will help you rekindle your relationship butterflies. Just promise me one thing. You hereby agree to the terms and conditions of relationship success. These terms include, but are not limited to, effective communication with your partner.  I cannot emphasize enough on communication. If verbal communication curtails your fullest relationship potential, body language is also misunderstood as well. If you cannot understand your lover’s body, please refer to my sensualist perspective approach before moving forward this year. When you are ready to take the test, study the erotic study guide. Ven aquí, Pablo Piccasso! Her beautiful canvas is ready for inspiration! No, just kidding. First, let’s focus on communication before and after Valentine’s Day. Then, go ahead. 

Sweethearts Box
Sweethearts Box (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Not Desperate, Just Be Mine!

On Valentine’s Day, talk is extremely cheap, corny, and sometimes very sweet! However, be extra cautious to sink your taste buds into something your valentine has yet to say! A relationship, regardless of its status, requires communication. The lack of communication raises red flags before someone’s heart is severely wounded. If your man cannot express terms of endearment, maybe giving him a box of Sweethearts was the worst inspirational idea you ever had. Guys, these candies are not meant for pick-up lines for one-night stands. They should encourage you to think outside the box (pun intended)! 

Guys, if you need some help on explorative writing, please feel free to check out my page before you open up on sugar-coated terms of endearment. Make your lover a priority, not an option, especially once a year!

Be Original 

A woman craves originality over physical intimacy.  Physical intimacy is extremely exciting, especially with strangers, but there are some consequences with marriage. You will end up married for 50 years with someone you passionately love, but you might not function the way you do when you were in college. If you have originality before Alzheimer’s disease takes over, you can still play your Shakespearean role in her life without rekindling your intimate newlywed adventures. Romeo, Juliet wants the poison from thy lips! If you can still spit up a few honest romantic lines, there will be a much happier ending with your love story. If you can do that while you rev up your rusty sex life, you may just have another chance between the hips as well.

Poetically Captivating 

It is perfectly acceptable if you cannot write anything like Shakespeare. I am not asking you to become the next Robert Frost either. The road you should take (pun intended) is from your heart. Practice does make a lot of progress if you show your sensitive side and begin writing how you feel every day. If you can recall back from earlier in this post, I recommend clicking on the word, “qualifications,” to review the emotionally sensitive section of that post. It is perfectly acceptable if you are sensitive about the way she feels about you or how you feel about her. She wants a well-rounded man, and being sensitive does not make you weak. It is simply the reason why you are her man. Start another WordPress blog for poetry! I have one! If someone provides you with constructive criticism or encouraging words, take them to move forward. Everyone expresses their own feelings through writing, music, and art. If you like music, you enjoy reading words that touch your innermost feelings about everything around you.  Just try it. Deliver the autumn breeze softly across her neck, and the sensual touch of a passionate embrace from a summer ray upon her flesh. You’ll understand. Trust me.

A Major Award [1091]
A Major Award [1091] (Photo credit: brianjmatis)
It’s Fragile! Must Be Italian!

A Christmas Story does not have a Valentine’s Day Story edition. So, please, never make it one! A personal recommendation for anyone trying to rekindle relationships is to learn multiple romance languages. Seriously, you will learn how to use patience and passion within everything you say. Go to the nearest book store, or Google foreign terms of endearment, or watch YouTube videos. Your possibilities are endless. There are no excuses to learn! Allons-y, mon chou! Guys, always remember to practice what you preach (pun intended)! Confidence sounds sexy! When you are confident in speaking another language, your lover will notice your determination. If you are successful, you may just have a romantic night outside of Paris! You might have a busy schedule, but learn how to organize time for a phrase a day while you do your daily routine. In the shower, start singing a phrase. It helps when the phrase is almost relevant to what you are doing. In Spanish, try saying, “Cuando yo tomo una ducha, yo pienso de mi corazon dulce.” It will eventually come to you. Trust me. You got this!

Pets Are Not Included 

You can have pet names without owning a pet! It is extremely healthy for couples to follow the pet naming trend for naming each other something cute for a change. No, I am terribly sorry, but “asshole” is not acceptable. However, there are plenty of pet names trending in different cultures for dating and relationships. Babe, what are your favorite pet names?

In the article, “Pet Names” Are Important for a Strong RelationshipJohn Tesh mentions how coded language can also help secure a healthier relationship. When your partner says, “Hey dear, I’m burning up inside,” never assume they want a fan! If they do, you might have to assume they want that autumn breeze I mentioned about earlier. Do you have a coded language or sugarcoated language with your partner to discuss things around your friends or family? Although I find this very effective, I barely find anyone else to join the fun. One last thought about pet names – try using their names as well! If their name is Laura, call her Alaurable! If her name is Kerry, grab a cup from your little Kerrig to start calling her Kerrbear.

Ladies, the next time your stud muffin wants to go back inside your oven, make him spill his heart out. Give him an incentive to make him crumb back for more!

Questions: 

  1. Do you have any plans lined up for Valentine’s Day? Are they better than last year?
  2. How do you spend a Valentine’s Day with (a) someone you love? (b) a crush? (c) family?
  3. Do you prefer unconditional love over materialistic love? Are you the type to pop the balloons, and embrace on the chocolate kisses? Was it embarrassing to carry around stuffed animals in school?
  4. Do you have a favorite pet name you love giving or receiving?
  5. Do your friends or family give you pet names?
  6. Did you know while I was writing this blog post, I just reached 9,000 hit views? That’s less than 3 months!
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Allons-y, mon chou!; Encouraging Terms of Endearment After Valentine’s Day

eWhoremany; Controversial Online Dating

Welcome! You’ve Got Love. 

While the any key is still unknown, finding love is simply a click away. Valentine’s Day is already a month around the corner, but who celebrates Singles Awareness Day (S.A.D) with their cat? I am not the Crazy Cat Lady, but I still do.

In 2013, you might eventually find someone to fulfill your New Year’s resolution of finding love, and you might satisfy your parents with hope that you will have someone by the age of 40. The rapid growth of match-making online initiated Cupid’s early retirement. Internet access is conveniently influencing the endless possibilities of finding Mr. Right, unless you are a shit magnet for attracting Mr. Wrong. Mr. Wrong might not even be Mr. Wrong! He might be trying his hardest for the Mr. Right nomination, but he ends up being another Mr. Wrong. This electronic interaction with strangers opens the doors for controversial debates. Are these men interested in serious relationships or do they want something else? Why would anyone use someone else’s picture to lure love and commitment? Are young women targeting vulnerable rich men for more than they bargained? Love does not cost a thing, but sex sells.

Stranger Request

When you receive a friend request notification, it does not necessarily mean you are already friends with them. People attract potential hookups through online communities or social networking websites by words, virtual actions, pictures, and games. How many people are legitimate and how many users hide behind fake accounts? Do you presume they are telling the truth?

On the right, you would assume that the guy with the overexposed light was Jake Timms from Indiana. If I talk to him, he might tell me his hometown. Well, that is precisely what, “Ask,” means. Although I would ask him more than just that question, his private profile denied my access. He can only accept friend requests if they confirm that they know his email address. A handsome young eighteen year old guy, playing hard to get, is checking out other guys’ profiles. Yeah, he came across mine and I have the privilege to see who might be checking out my profile daily. Do you think he might be interested in me? Well, shucks, that is very sweet. Honestly, I wish he lived closer! He seems to hold himself right looking like a lady-killer with those lips! Ouch! Seriously, Jake Timms might not even be Jake Timms. That guy in the photograph is commonly referred as, “Prinze Charming,” on WordPress. Yeah, that guy is me. That is my room, and I went to Amsterdam to buy that shirt. Sorry ladies, this guy is trying to compete with me. If you own an account on MyYearbook, or MeetMe, do not talk to a guy who uses this picture when his name is not Tony.

I contacted the MeetMe staff to take immediate action on this issue. They eventually responded back with some questions. They wanted me to prove that I am not someone else trying to take Jake Timms’ place or remove Jake Timms from existence. In the email, they responded with the following message:

“MeetMe Member Support replied:

Hello,
This is something that we can help with. To verify that the pictures are of you, we ask that you take a photograph of yourself today holding up a piece of paper that says:
“MeetMe – Today’s Date – my email is ________________”
Then, reply to this email with a copy of that photo attached so that we can verify that you are the account holder. We’ll then be able to close any profiles with your photos that do not have your email address.
The photo you send us to prove your identity will not be posted to the site, it will be deleted after your identity is confirmed.
MeetMe Member Support”

Well, that is reassuring. I replied back, “See picture enclosed with the same shirt in the same room.” Jake Timms has yet to surface on my recent viewer page again. I actually like Jake’s new face. It seems happier and less intimidating. Although Jake has two shades of grey, I wonder where the other 48 decided to go. If you or someone you know is in a similar dilemma, please contact every website that has proof that your identity being used. Although this is a serious matter, do I take this as a compliment? The guy knows I am marketable for romance. Could he fill my shoes if he tried? I doubt it.

13 Going on 18  (Just for Now!)

Are you just one of the targeted members of a specific categorized group? Questions arise every year, and parental controls are ineffectively working to curtail Internet access to young adolescent users. Is it really the parental controls? Could it possibly be the lack of any parental control?

If you are a parent, you might have Internet parental controls set for your children. You might have even considered the idealistic attempt to curtail their internet access by setting up timers. No, really, that motivated me to wake up earlier just to use the computer until the evening. If I had to download something, that was another issue, especially on dial-up.

If you were one of those teens, did you feel rushed every morning to surf the web before it was too late? Did you really leave the website after being confronted about your age? Did you enter a birthday year that guaranteed you were 18 years old? “Oh, I will use 1914! That was like uh, World War I?” Yeah, it helps when you are smart, or does it?

Success! A white lie gives the young viewer instant access to a page full of categories listed alphabetically order across the screen, from Amateur to Webcam. An erotic glow of explicit content flashes in front of the eyes of the next victimized child of the Internet, and nobody is there to block them. The ads on the side are enticing the young mind to wander off and click for, “Local Babes Ready for Fun.” What if an adolescent boy saw this website? Would he assume girls were this easy? What if an adolescent girl saw this website? Would she assume that this is the norm for young women to follow?

christina ricci marie claire uk magazine cover hot sexy photo shoot rare promo pan am bel ami 2012Young girls exploit themselves through instant messages, email, and cellphone texts. They crave attention in the wrong areas because society focuses on attraction and establishing relationships. Sex does sell. Magazine companies, especially Seventeen Magazine, lure young teen girls into this materialistic world.

If there is a really hot guy in your daughter’s class, and there is another girl trying to win him over, conflicting circumstances will occur. Let’s take a look at the really hot guy’s perspective. Most guys will know if they attract their peers or not, but most guys will not know how to handle this attraction. Some will take an advantage to rack up numbers in their phones. Instant bragging rights for them, and for ladies – you’re just being played. You are just a pawn for them to play their game. Is it Megan Monday? Tiffany Tuesday? Wait, Wednesday Wednesday! OK, maybe the Adam’s family wouldn’t approve of that one. Did you even notice that the woman on the side is Christina Ricci, the Wednesday of 2012, in the UK’s Marie Claire magazine earlier last year in March? Yeah, by the way, her birthday is February 12! That will be my third month blogiversary!  She’ll be turning 33! That is too weird! While I’m only 9 years apart, which is 3 x 3, I wouldn’t mind a date with her at all! Wednesday Wednesday it is!

40 Year Old Virgin

Nobody in the world wants the pressure of being a forty-year old virgin. Judd Apatow, director of the movie, “The 40 Year Old Virgin (2005),” conveys the message of how someone can live through a chaste lifestyle. Would you do it if you were given a second chance?

During my senior year at the University of Connecticut, I enrolled in a course called, “The Developing World,” which focused on precisely what the title entails. On December 10, 2011, I submitted nearly 4,000 words on a research paper called, “The Underlying Self Identity of Women in Tunisia; the Psychological Impact of Familial and Societal Pressures on Young Tunisian Women.” I concluded my paper of how familial and societal pressures change the lifestyles of young Tunisian women. Here is an excerpt of that conclusion:

The status of women lacks superior acknowledgement, but it has significantly rose higher up in Tunisia’s social hierarchy since the twentieth century. Tunisian women are becoming more aware of their own rights, sexuality, opportunities of higher education, and presumably achieving professional careers that men cannot compete against. Although the Code of Personal Status may grant women back their rights, Tunisian universities will still have women students to abide by the unconstitutional guidelines of the revised dress code.

In Tunisia, young women feel as if they are unattractive to have intimate relationships with men if they are left in society. Honestly, if a man doesn’t come up to you, he is doing you a favor. In addition, he is most likely intimidated by you. The following excerpt explains the societal and familial pressures:

The societal and familial pressures hinder young Tunisian women from adolescence to motherhood. Tunisian women construct their self-identity as an individual with significance within society, but the psychological factors which influence the way young women perceive themselves in Tunisia can leave women in distress. Young women will experience male peer pressure to engage in premarital sexual behavior, but they may also experience familial pressures to wed at an earlier age upon maturity. Moreover, motherhood will also have a societal pressure to face as women without children are frowned upon in society as lower class citizens of Tunisia. These mothers will direct their own daughters either away or into societal pressure by moderating their freedom to associate with their own peers.

The world revolves around the drive to find love and the strength to hold commitment. If a relationship lacks the stable architectural design, the couple will struggle to find their way through. We can all learn from our mistakes, but bad habits will encourage the victimized hopeless romantic to settle for less. The Internet is a portal for social acceptance and intimate fantasies. The envious Jake Timms could have been the catalyst for a future heartbreak of a young woman searching for Mr. Right. My identity was at risk for being subjected to false accusations and the girl’s hope for destiny blew into the wind of unrequited love.

Option Discussion Questions

  1. Have you ever met someone from the Internet? Was it a better experience than Dateline’s, “To Catch A Predator?”
  2. Do you have any idea why Jake Timms would choose me from many other guys online? Give me your thoughts about this in the comment section below.  
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