Why Do People Have Sex?; Surveying Sexual Preferences

The sexual frustration builds up this week for many passionate couples ready for a romantic Valentine’s Day. The hopeless romantics looking for a casual date hesitate for the final decision. A recommendation for anyone to follow is effective communication and body language. Pay close attention to what they say, how they say it, and what they do while they are expressing their feelings. A complimentary way of using terms of endearment, regardless of the relationship status, is extremely healthy for anyone to try. The mutual attraction for each other through verbal communication is never enough to satisfy physical intimacy. The two lovers must have a better understanding of how actions speak louder than words. The strong emotional and physical connection for the two may entice more romantic nights after Valentine’s Day.

Michael Castleman published an article in Psychology Today on November 15, 2010. The article surfaced the Internet via HoneyColony.com. According to Castleman, men believe that the woman’s physical characteristics play an important role in sexual attraction. The women desire more of an emotional connection with their partner instead. The reason to engage in sex varies depending on the person, but a recent study surveyed 442 people for the overall purpose of sexual intercourse. The rewarding results of the survey provide a clear understanding of sexuality between men and women.

Sexy Survey

Researchers have generally assumed that people have sex for one or more of three reasons: to have children, to experience sexual pleasure, and to cement relationships. Turns out there are more than that — 234 more.

Psychologists Cindy Meston and David Buss, of the University of Texas at Austin, surveyed 442 people, aged 17 to 52, asking just one question: “List all the reasons why you or those you know have engaged in sexual intercourse.”

The myth is that men and women are emotionally very different. An old saying illustrates this: Women have sex to become intimate. Men become intimate to have sex. There’s some truth to this. But surprisingly, in the Meston-Buss survey, eight of the top 10 reasons why men and women have sex and 20 of the top 25 are remarkably similar:

Women’s Reasons For Having Sex (from most to least frequently expressed)

1. I felt attracted to the person.
2. I wanted to experience the physical pleasure.
3. It feels good.
4. I wanted to show my affection for my partner.
5. I wanted to express my love for my partner.
6. I was sexually aroused and wanted the release.
7. I felt horny.
8. It’s fun.
9. I realized I was in love.
10. I was swept up in the heat of the moment.
11. I wanted to please my partner.
12. I wanted emotional closeness/intimacy.
13. I wanted the pure pleasure.
14. I wanted an orgasm.
15. It’s exciting, adventurous.
16. I wanted to feel connected to the person.
17. The person’s physical appearance turned me on.
18. It was a romantic setting.
19. The person really desired me.
20. The person made me feel sexy.
21. The person caressed me.
22. It seemed like the natural next step in the relationship.
23. I wanted to become one with the person.
24. It just happened.
25. I wanted to deepen our emotional bond.


Men’s Reasons For Having Sex

1. I was attracted to the person.
2. It feels good.
3. I wanted to experience the physical pleasure.
4. It’s fun.
5. I wanted to show my affection for the person.
6. I was sexually aroused and wanted the release.
7. I felt horny.
8. I wanted to express my love for the person.
9. I wanted an orgasm.
10. I wanted to please my partner.
11. The person’s physical appearance turned me on.
12. I wanted the pure pleasure.
13. I was swept up in the heat of the moment.
14. I desired emotional closeness/intimacy.
15. It’s exciting/adventurous.
16. The person had a desirable body.
17. I realized I was in love.
18. The person had an attractive face.
19. The person really desired me.
20. I wanted the adventure/excitement.
21. I wanted to feel connected to the person.
22. I wanted the experience.
23. It was a romantic setting.
24. The person caressed me.
25. The person made me feel sexy.

The myth is that men are obsessed with sex, while women view it as a way to deepen relationships. Not quite. The top three reasons why both men and women become sexual have nothing to do with either horniness or love. They are based on attraction and pleasure. Men and women gave the same priority to horniness (No. 7) and almost the same to expressing love (No. 5 for women, No. 8 for men), and feeling closeness/intimacy (No. 12 for women No. 14 for men).

Americans focus a good deal of attention on sexual victimization (rape, incest, pedophilia, sexual harassment, etc.), and using sex for personal gain (money, a job, a promotion, drugs, etc.) These turn out to be among the least frequent reasons for having sex.

Women’s 10 Least Frequent Reasons For Having Sex

237. I wanted to spread a sexually transmitted disease.
236. Someone offered me money to do it.
235. I wanted to get a raise.
234. It was an initiation rite to a club or organization.
233. I wanted to get a job.
232. I wanted to get a promotion.
231. The person offered me drugs to do it.
230. I wanted to punish myself.
229. I wanted to hurt/humiliate the person.
228. I wanted to feel closer to God.

Men’s 10 Least Frequent Reasons for Having Sex

237. The person offered me drugs to do it.
236. I wanted to spread a sexually transmitted disease.
235. I wanted to punish myself.
234. I wanted to break up my relationship.
233. I wanted to get a job.
232. It was an initiation rite to a club or organization.
231. Someone offered me money to do it.
230. I feared physical harm if I said no.
229. I wanted to make money.
228. I wanted to feel closer to God.

Of course, men and women are different, and despite the similarities just mentioned, they have different reasons for having sex. The researchers calculated the reasons for sex that differed the most by gender.

The Top 10 Largest Gender Differences

1. The person wore revealing clothes. Stated significantly more often by men than women.
2. I wanted to feel masculine. More men.
3. I wanted to relieve “blue balls.” More men.
4. I wanted to feel feminine. More women.
5. The person had a desirable body. More men.
6. The person was available. More men.
7. The person’s appearance turned me on. More men.
8. It’s fun. More men.
9. I wanted to have an orgasm. More men.
10. The opportunity presented itself. More men.

Men were much more likely to have sex based on women’s physical characteristics: desirable body, attractive face, she turned me on. This finding supports a great deal of research showing that men are sexually stimulated by visual cues (for example, pornography).

Women were more likely to have sex based on its contribution to a relationship: I wanted to express my love. I wanted deeper emotional closeness. Again, this finding supports other research showing that most women prefer sex in the context of a committed relationship.

So why do men and women have sex? For more reasons than most people think.

Source:
Meston, CM and DM Buss. “Why Humans Have Sex,” Archives of Sexual Behavior (2007) 36:477.

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Finding Chivalry; Discussion on Chivalry and Materialistic Relationships

New England Connecticut Snow
East Hartford, Connecticut

The historical Northeastern blizzard, dubbed Nemo, left millions of Americans waking up with snow between 6 to 40 inches on Saturday morning. A free gym membership from Mother Nature left a rewarding opportunity for some Americans to pursue the haul. The other Americans have decided between sleep, relaxation, or free time outside without shoveling. In Connecticut, one suburban man left his age behind when the dust blew off his snowmobile in his garage. The inner youth rekindled inside, while his partner struggled to shovel their walkway. Boys will be boys, but chivalry weakened when boys bought their own toys.  The second part of this article will primarily focus on a brief discussion on chivalry in modern dating, while briefly covering the impact of materialistic relationships on long-term commitments. I intend to publish a future post with discussion question results and concluding messages. The impact of the snow shoveling on my body has taken its toll. All requests for sensual back massages are welcomed in the comment section below.

Rest in Panama

Woman Looks for Husband
Woman Left Behind Shoveling Walkway

Chivalry is not lost or dead, but recently on vacation in Panama while everyone else in the Northeast is left to shovel a few feet of snow. A Connecticut woman stands in the snow watching her partner ride his snowmobile up and down the street. The only assumption to take from this is that his final decision is to play hard and work later. In the following pictures, the knight in shining armor comes flying through the snow down the street. Then, he figures out what to do next when his snowmobile sits on the sidewalk in front of his neighbor’s house.

The guy looks back to see if she actually cares to watch him. She finally decides to stop shoveling, and he followed  as soon as he picked up his toys. They never finished the driveway and the sidewalk until later in the day.

If you would like to take part in Part II of this post, please answer the following discussion questions below. I will be more than happy to acknowledge you and your blogs in the next publication. Please note that they are not all mandatory. Just answer enough to engage in a discussion for my next post.

Discussion Questions 

  1. Where is chivalry? Is it really dead, lost, or not as transparent in society? Please explain your answer!
  2. Do you believe chivalry is important in modern society? Modern dating?
  3. Have you ever experienced chivalry, whether it was directly to you or witnessed?
  4. Have you ever rekindled or revived chivalry?
  5. How do you feel about materialistic relationships? Have you ever been in one? Could you explain the pros and cons involved in that relationship? Did your partner have too many possessions? Was this your fault by spoiling them with materialistic love?
  6. Ladies: If you were this woman in this same situation, what would you do? How would you feel if your man decides to go play in the snow while you shovel the walkway? Remember – he drives down the street and leaves you for a while. 
  7. Guys: Do you hold off on using the snowmobile to help with the shoveling, or do you take an advantage of the road covered in a few feet of snow?
  8. What is one inspirational thing everyone can do to revive or rekindle chivalry?

Thank you all for understanding my sore aching body problems from Nemo. I’ve been trying to take it easy all day, but I could never leave you all wondering when the next publication will be! I hope you all have an amazing week ahead! 新年快乐! 太好了! Happy Chinese New Year! I am an Earth Snake! It’s my year to shine!

 

 

 

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Making Love Outside the Norm; Achieving Seductive Originality

A passionate desire for a lover’s chance to seduce the one they love with a sensual dance. The fingers wander like snakes with lust through the embrace of love and trust. Everyone desires the role of being the greatest lover in bed with no sense of direction or idea how to go ahead. Romantic ambitions lost without a compass or map, but an article to entice them to open up and unwrap.

After noticing the trending views for the sensualist perspective article, I am looking forward to providing some strategies on making Valentine’s Day extend for more than an entire 24 hours. This article will encourage your passionate minds to open up to originality and creativity. There is no age or experience requirement, however I do expect maturity and respect for everything you do to your partner. The main ingredients for these tactics are pure dedication and commitment. Push aside your insecurities, and discover each other in the most intimate way possible. My seductive strategies are effective because I care about what I do to the one experiencing my techniques. I do not recommend using my techniques with just anyone, but if you insist – make your one night-stand distinct from the rest. Give them quality over quantity performance. Make them come back for more. 

Sensual Suspense 

Guys, size does not matter at all with foreplay. All you need is confidence, passion, and patience. If you are unaware of how to use your hands and mouth effectively, please refer to my sensualist article. Ladies, give him a study guide after his lesson. Then, put him to the test. Most couples ignore or simply forget how to achieve the simplistic art of intimacy. Kissing is extremely important, but lips are not necessarily the only place to reserve a passionate kiss. This will be difficult to understand, but just ignore the sex for now. Imagine a cock block, or a chastity belt, preventing you from achieving sexual gratification. Find some other way around that to have fun.

Anatomy Class – 

English: A man handcuffed to a bed and blindfolded

Good morning, class!  First, I recommend an entire week of engaging in a hands-on anatomy class with your lover. Your first homework assignment will be due by the end of the week. No, seriously, learn more about your partner through a visual stimulation of who you are and what you have to offer. By the end of the week, you are able to identify (1) their erogenous zones,  (2) body language, and (3) an emotional and physical connection with the one you love. Sex is not just sex because there is an emotional and physical understanding that we rarely acknowledge. If you are willing to make love, you are willing to make some adjustments to how you approach your partner in bed.

Lab Instructions –

Use only your hands and your mouth in all the lab exercises you do in your intimate anatomy class. The only penetration allowed is using teeth, generally around the neck area. First, focus from the forehead down to the waistline. You are not ready for the next chapter (yet)! Do not exceed beyond their waistline. Confidence in trying something new is important, especially when it is simply showing off your passionate side for your partner. I have provided a list to entice your passionate side. If you follow the instructions carefully, you will be able to move on to the next level of intimate gratification. Please follow the following lab report template below to make sure that you are doing an outstanding job with your seductive experimental approach.

Lab Report – 

Statement of the Problem

How does my lover react to physical intimacy without sexual penetration? Are there any clear observations of arousal or discomfort in the attempts of seduction and sensual foreplay? My lover is willing to experience something new with me to entice their passionate side to release the buildup of sexual frustration and deprivation of sexual arousal.

Hypothesis 

If sensual kisses and massages from the forehead to the waistline entice my lover to bite their bottom lip, then sexual arousal will happen.

Materials

  • Hands
  • Mouth

Procedure

  1. Your lover can wear anything they want during this experiment. However, keep in mind that less is more. It is much easier to work around undergarments, instead of shirts and pants.
  2. Position your lover on the bed lying down on their back.
  3. Give one soft kiss upon your lover’s forehead with your eyes open. Mentally record facial expressions.
  4. Give one soft kiss upon one of your lover’s cheeks with your eyes open. Mentally record facial expressions.
  5. Give your lover slow, playful Eskimo kisses for at least 1 minute. Time is flexible. Stop when you are ready.
  6. Run your fingers through your lover’s hair while you teasingly brush your lips across theirs. Mentally record facial expressions and body language
  7. Transition further down to kiss their chin. Mentally record facial expressions.
  8. Continue caressing their hair. Close your eyes to signal a passionate embrace with your lips. No need to record anything.
  9. Transition further down to their neck. Give them a soft gentle blow on the side of their neck. Mentally record facial expressions and body language.
  10. Trace the side of their neck with the tip of your tongue. Do not use excessive amount of saliva. Keep it light and simple. Mentally record facial expressions and body language.
  11. I could write more steps, but I feel like you should take over. Be creative until you reach to the waistline… you got this. I believe in you.

Results

Well, what happened? Did you provide enough sensual kisses and massages from the forehead to the waistline? Did you entice your lover to bite their bottom lip? How many times? When did you notice them doing it? Where were you kissing and massaging for them to bite their bottom lip? Are you sure it was sexual arousal? Did they allow their hands to wander below the waistline? Did they encourage you to go further when you softly kissed across their waistline?

Conclusions

In conclusion, sensual kisses and massages from the forehead to the waistline will entice my lover to bite their bottom lip, and sexual arousal will happen. The tip of my tongue and my hands has successfully aroused my partner the most when I was caressing their breasts as their nipples erected inside my mouth. They bit their bottom lip the most when this happened. A possible error that may have hindered the overall performance while I was conducting this intimate experiment was when the phone rang. I may have to turn off the ringer next time we engage in a romantically sensual embrace.

Sensual Exploration

Congratulations! You successfully achieved your first lab report! Now, try these experiments:

  • The Impact of Different Juices on Sensational Kissing
  • The Impact of Whipped Cream on Sensual Foreplay 
  • The Impact of Showering in the Dark on Rekindling Romance

The main point to take from these experiments is to explore your partner with innermost passionate feelings. Use sensual food products, like fruit juice for kissing and whipped cream for foreplay. If you are willing to step outside the norm for more explorative opportunities, try ice cream or body paint. Just use your imagination and spice up your love life. As long as you are happy together and spending quality time together, endless possibilities of fun are open for inspirational consideration.

Sexual Surprise

Wow, talk about a heated discussion! Time to make love! Now, seduction is easy for any sensual intentions. The main problem is that seduction for sexual intentions can hinder any performance if there is no passion involved. Guys, she wants you to penetrate deep inside her just as much as you do. Never give her everything she wants right away! Never satisfy her completely until she begs for it. My seductive sexual strategies might leave her begging for more. She might even take control! Confidence is sexy, patience is running out, and dominance is ready to fight for sexual gratification. I encourage you all to try these sexual surprises.

Quading on Pink Terrain

Four wheeling, or commonly referred as quading, is extremely fun in open terrain. Try taking that same concept of digging into the dirt without a lot of penetration involved. Guys, when you quad on pink terrain, try to dig into her lips without penetrating deep inside. Use the head and the shaft as a shovel gliding against her wet pink lips. Experiment with this approach and see how long it takes for her to snap for more.

Shaft Spanking Paddle

BDSM is not for everyone, but spanking is always pleasurable when you do it right. Everyone’s level of tolerance for pain varies, but spanking your lover’s clit with your shaft is effective if you use the right amount of force and pace. Try doing it conservatively – before you penetrate inside and during your sexual exploration. Watch their body language and see if they enjoy a certain way of you doing it.

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Chinese-pigs-in-blanket (Photo credit: Andrea_Nguyen)

Pigs in a Blanket

It is time to feed your lover’s intimate part of her body with the pigs in a blanket approach. Guys, after you make your lover extremely wet, spoon with them with something extra. Slowly glide your shaft inside and then leave it there. Give them passionate kisses while you caress their body. Just connect with your partner in an emotional and physical way. Guys, forget about thrusting for a bit. Ladies, tease him by flexing your muscles and constricting his shaft. See how long you can go without deeper penetration.

Free Samples 

Someone is hungry for more! Just imagine unwrapping a layered present in wrapping paper, plastic bags, and newspaper. You want more after the first attempt and you continue unwrapping until you reach the end. Guys, size does not matter with this at all. Never feel intimidated. Give her one inch at a time. Glide an inch inside, take it out. Glide two inches inside, take it out. Glide three inches inside, take it out. Try the shaft spanking paddle while you experiment with this.

Please Note:

I understand that all relationships are different, and I do not encourage something that makes you or your partner uncomfortable. If you have any suggestions or comments, please leave them below. If you have any success stories or failed attempts from physical intimacy, tell me all about them. Please understand that this article is to encourage quality time with your partner while understanding their sexuality through physical intimacy. I encourage you all to take what you already know about your partner and use that knowledge to your advantage. The more you know about them, the better it is for both of you to achieve sensual and sexual gratification.

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The Impact of Disney’s Love Stories on Modern Dating

The structure of a childhood in the 90’s was greatly influenced by Walt Disney’s animated movie series playing on repeat. This indulgence of entertainment is very similar to the new generation exposed to SpongeBob SquarePants and Dora the Explorer. Mr. Walt Disney experienced a rough childhood growing up on his family farm, but his passion for commercial art lead him into the right direction for Hollywood fame. In 1937, Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs was an inspirational turning point in his entire life. Disney’s animated debut of his touching love story was a life changing moment for any hopeless romantic looking for true love.

Social, familial, religious and media influences continuously refine the new era of relationships and romance to guide the future of young hopeless romantics. The impact of Disney’s classics on older generations is greatly hindered by the new social influences. The important step forward is to read an article that focuses on rekindling inspirational messages from our adolescence. We must focus on reality while applying some important ideas from fantasy and fairy tale. A greater emphasis on how to achieve these messages is vital information for the health of any relationship. Although Disney stirred up some controversial sexual appetite within subliminal messaging, I will focus on the simplistic messages that everyone must take into their own relationships for 2013. This article will primarily focus on some of the Disney princesses and princes, as well the men who are not necessarily receiving that royal entitlement. The important message behind every love story is discussed, as well as some advice on effectively applying these messages into the modern style of dating.

Snow White ~ A Christms Fantasy Parade

Snow White and the Prince

Guten morgen, Schneewittchen! In the early 1890’s, Mrs. Klara Hitler Pölzl must have read baby Adolf the German version of Snow White throughout his adolescence.  Although Hitler’s love story after exchanging vows with Eva Braun lasted for only 40 hours, Snow White and Prince Ferdinand has a legacy of true love since their first embrace. I may emphasize on vanity for a moral lesson in this fairy tale, but materialistic measures might be too obvious. Although stating the obvious is not as effective as anticipated, feelings and emotions are always misunderstood or not acknowledged.

The Brothers Grimm, producers of the original German version of Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs, left the dwarfs unidentified.  Disney created names for the seven dwarfs to symbolize seven feelings that may or may not contribute to the seven deadly sins.  Regardless of their intentions, these feelings cannot be ignored in any relationship. I advocate for effective communication, but body language is an important part of that understanding. Actions do speak louder than words, but some actions are often pushed aside. While you communicate with your partner, make sure to notice their body movement and presentation. If you are single, learn how to analyze your date when they are representing the seven feelings portrayed in Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs. By the end of the month, you are able to differentiate between being happy and bored, as well as agitated and depressed. Although Doc does not represent a feeling or emotion, he does represent intelligence. In that perspective, understand the difference between your partner’s sarcasm and their brutally honest opinions. In a literal sense, find out how they are being smart with you.  Lastly, give each other compliments every other day. Although terms of endearment are healthy for any relationship, try not to overwhelm their self-esteem into an issue of vanity. If you notice your partner is talking to a mirror, question them about it. Reassure them that the mirror is dirty, and you see everything clear in your own eyes.

Cinderella and Prince Charming

Cinderella & Prince Charming

Bonjour, ma chérie Cendrillion! In 1697, Charles Perrault produced Cendrillon, the original French version of Cinderella, before Disney made it into an animated feature-length film in 1950. The moral of this love story is simple – work your ass off under guardian authority until your fortune comes knocking at your door with your glass slipper.  In reality, only those who work hard will achieve fortunate success in the future. A person’s emotional strength is more important with this lesson than to think about financial or economic conditions. If someone can hold off commitment for true love, let it happen naturally throughout their daily lifestyle. Regardless if there is no set of directions or manual to live life, challenging social and familial barriers will hold someone back from achieving their life ambitions. If you have a dysfunctional family, join the club. You might feel unimportant, worthless, and stuck in the middle of a lot of bullshit. Seriously, talk to me about it. Cinderella’s support was very limited, but she was fortunate enough that her Fairy Godmother was not listed in Craigslist.

I want you to find a comfort zone with a supportive network of people willing to help you realize that you are an important person in society. If you are in an abusive relationship, whether the situation is with family or a partner, never carry out that negative energy to the people around you. Regardless if Cinderella had family treating her like shit, she was always an amazing woman outside her home. Guys, everyone has baggage. If your Cinderella is experiencing overwhelming circumstances, take Prince Charming’s determination to move forward. Mr. Charming did not judge her in any shape or form, but he felt an instant connection with Cinderella at the ball.  Regardless if a woman leaves you after an amazing night, follow your heart to fill the vacant space between your fingers and arms. Seriously, this is a love story where two people meet for the first time, and experience love at first dance. Find some way to connect with your partner emotionally by being there for them when they need it the most.

Aurora and Prince Phillip

A Christmas Fantasy: Princess Aurora, Prince P...

On January 29th, 1959, Sleeping Beauty released a few months before the birth of my two lovely parents.  Mr. Perrault produced another romantic masterpiece, La Belle au bois dormant, that inspired Disney to pursue another animated sensation. Congratulations if you were never cursed at birth with an evil bitch fairy similar to Maleficent. Princess Aurora was very fortunate to have good fairies to bestow gifts upon her that would change her life forever. Maleficient cast a curse upon Princess Aurora shortly before Merryweather bestowed her gift to the newborn princess.  Merryweather decided to amend the original curse cast upon the baby with something less extreme than the death from a spindle on a spinning wheel during her sixteenth birthday.

Although a deep ageless slumber for 100 years sounds reassuring, a true love’s first kiss does not necessarily happen overnight for a sixteen year old.  This love story has an arranged marriage behind it, but there is so much more to learn from this fairy tale. The greatest advice someone can take from this story into their own love life is to drink responsibly for Thirsty Thursday when they hang out with their girlfriends. No, seriously, a random prince is not going to kiss you shortly after your hangover in the morning to wake you up. In all seriousness, 100 years is an extensively long time to wait for true love.

Young adolescent infatuations motivate two innocent individuals to move forward towards maturity and responsibility. A misunderstanding of love and infatuated feelings can break many young hearts before they realize the structure of a stable relationship. If someone loves another person, they can wait for another year after they both exchange conversations and develop understanding for each other. If Prince Phillip can wait 100 years to find true love, anyone can wait for another year before making anything official. Patience is primarily the easiest thing to have for any relationship, but love is worth the wait. If you are planning a future ahead together, just stop unless you are both engaged. Live each day to the fullest one heart beat at a time taking things slow and steady for as long as you can handle. If two people can handle being in an unofficial relationship with each other for a while, you can both understand the true value of true love.

Ariel and Prince Eric 

Ariel and Prince Eric

Although the year 1959 started off great, Princess Aurora was the last princess under Walt Disney’s management. On December 15, 1966, Mr. Disney was 65 years old when he passed in St. Joseph’s Hospital at 9:35 A.M. with an acute circulatory collapse from lung cancer.  In 1837, Hans Christian Andersen produced Disney’s little Danish seawoman in Den lille havfrue who later became Ariel in The Little Mermaid released in 1989. Although I was born on September 3rd, 1989, I was too young to understand the reasoning behind a young woman in search for love outside her own sea kingdom. Ariel’s love story is very similar to the young Amish community willing to step outside their norm to check out the city. Ursula’s human package deal in exchange for Ariel’s voice might be too much for love, but in three days a true love’s first kiss might be the most rewarding challenge any young teenager would face. Although Ursula used Vanessa against Ariel’s attempt with Eric, Ursula played very dirty to hinder a young couple from discovering true love.

The best advice for anyone, especially sixteen years old, taken from this Disney production is to realize how American culture is changing because of something very similar to this love story. Whether there is an interest in watching 16 and Pregnant or understanding that life is not easy by growing up too fast, no young woman should leave their family and friends behind for a chance at love.  However, one important message from Ursula is to use body language. Yes, body language is very effective for anyone without a voice in the relationship – literally. I cannot emphasize this enough – just learn about each other without speaking. For the scene where this happens, watch the following clip:

Belle and Prince Adam

Beauty and the Beast

In 1756, Jeanne-Marie Leprince de Beaumont, author of La Belle et la Bête, never imagined to inspire Disney to recapture Beauty and the Beast in 1991 as an animated love story. Whether you agree or disagree, this was one of the most dramatic and powerful love stories throughout Disney’s history. An enchantress disguised as an old woman panhandling and looking for shelter during Christmas night changes a young prince’s life forever. She offers the selfish young prince a rose in exchange for warmth and shelter.  The prince had a cold heart in a luxurious warm place to stay, but felt disgusted from the beggar’s appearance outside his door. The prince was instantly transformed into a hideous monster with beastly features. The Beast’s servants are all transformed into furniture and other household items that later encourage him to break the spell with the rose that has his life on hold. The Beast must find love, but not unrequited love, until his 21st birthday. If all the rose petals have fallen off, he will remain a hideous beast for his entire life.

The main message is not only that looks are deceiving, or the agreeable statement that inner beauty will only be more attractive when someone ignores their egotistical nature. The main message is to marry someone for love, and nothing but love. In addition, another main message here is to treat others the way you would like to be treated. If you are with someone for physical attraction, leave them. If you know someone is with you solely for your appearance, leave them. If you feel lust instead of love, change something about your current situation. Unfortunately, we will all age into old, wrinkly beasts. All that will be left is our inner beauty, and hopefully the person you marry is someone who can respect that permanent overall appearance from you.

Jasmine and Aladdin

Aladdin and Jasmine

你好吗?Disney’s Middle Eastern folk tale Aladdin in 1992 was originally set in China, making Aladdin explicitly Chinese.  The Book of One Thousand and One Nights was never popular in American culture, but Alladin was one of the few stories from the book which played a significant role in understanding Middle Eastern culture.

Jasmine, the Sultan’s daughter, experiences the same feeling as Ariel, but Jasmine wants to escape her duties of being a princess and step away from her luxurious lifestyle of royalty in the palace.  Jasmine meets Aladdin, a street rat, in an Arabian marketplace ran by peasants trying to make ends-meat. Jasmine wants to marry someone for true love, but her father insists that the law requires a royal marriage by the following year. Aladdin uses his Genie to grant wishes, but the Genie denies from granting any wish that involves true love. Aladdin’s social status in Agrabah is nothing to brag about to the Sultan, and Jasmine is strictly ordered to marry a prince. The important lesson in this love story is to be yourself, and always be honest. Regardless how your partner’s parents or friends feel about you, impress them with honesty.  Jasmine knew Aladdin was lying, but she only forgave him because he wanted to win her heart. Obviously, Jafar was no match made in heaven, but Aladdin had much more potential because his love for Jasmine was greater than Jafar’s love for superiority and power.

In honor of the ones I missed:

  • Pocahontas and Captain John Smith
  • Fa Mulan and Captain Li Shang
  • Tiana and Prince Naveen
  • Rapunzel and Flynn Rider

On the Edge of Rapunzel’s Forest 

  • Simba and Nala 

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The Impact of Disney’s Love Stories on Modern Dating

Relaxing on First Base; A Brief Survey on Kissing Preferences

French Kiss

Physical intimacy is a healthy way of expressing our passionate sides to complete strangers or lovers. I appreciate the successful turn out for volunteers on my last poll. I will be writing a Part III very soon to conclude my thoughts about the results. I am looking forward on writing more about physical intimacy with the results from this poll as well. Please provide as much information as possible, including two detailed responses for the two questions requiring more information to fill out. All participants are not subjected to answer all the optional questions, including name or website address. However, there is acknowledgement for all participants willing to submit their website address for their voluntary contribution. All participants are aware that their information is not used for anything else other than the next blog publication. My intentions for the next blog publication are kept secret until the official publication of the results. I want more than seven submissions this time! I will hold off on ending this poll shortly before Valentine’s Day. Please reblog this or share the link to your friends. That would be greatly appreciated!

Survey: 

Reference:

 Erogenous Zone? 

Total Submissions: 

 

Number 22
Number 22 (Photo credit: beckycaplice)

 

Note: I will be updating this section as soon as I receive the submissions.

Comments: 

3:04 PM EST 02/04/13:  Wow! Twenty-two (22)  submissions already? That is amazing! Thanks everyone!

TECHNICAL ISSUE:  

I have to label the questions as (1), (2), (3) because it only registered one “Would You Rather,” so expect a message from me shortly to verify your answers. Sorry for the inconvenience! If you did not provide your website, then please resubmit and mention that you resubmitted within the response. I was wondering why everyone was skipping the questions! It is now working.

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Relaxing on First Base; A Brief Survey on Kissing Preferences

Pushing Away Physical Intimacy; The Consequences of Playing Hard to Get Part 2

10 niveaux d’intimité dans les communications
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Interpersonal communication, regardless of the relationship status between the two conversationalists, is an effective skill for facilitating physical intimacy with another person. The level of social awkwardness, between socially awkward and awkwardly social, may hinder a person’s performance in achieving a physical and emotional connection. A social butterfly will have the comfort and flexibility to have alternative choices to move forward with the social interaction. The rising era of digital intimacy may entice two individuals to initiate an intimate textual exchange, but the new comfort zone has more challenging barriers for the introverts and extroverts to meet people from the Internet.

On January 21, 2013, a voluntary survey created in a blog post asked six core questions that will help the next article publication. The questions focused on social awkwardness, playing hard to get, concealing flirtatious intentions under the pressure of unrequited attraction, physical intimacy, making moves from a confirmed mutual attraction, and accepting awkward situations. All participants are aware that any of the information submitted is only for writing this article. All participants were aware that their names and blog website addresses are optional, and will only be used for acknowledgement if provided.

The following survey questions were not mandatory to answer, but it was greatly appreciated for any participant to completely answer all the questions to facilitate discussion.  If you have not contributed to this discussion, please feel free to answer the questions in the comment section below.

Survey Questions 

Question 1

Are you socially awkward or awkwardly social?

Question 2 

Do you play hard to get? Why? Why not?

Question 3

Yes or No? You tell someone attractive a flirtatious comment. You really aren’t kidding when you say, “JK!”. If yes, are you shy that they might not have the same feelings about you?

Question 4

How important is physical intimacy for you? If you have the confidence, would you want to entice and engage something with a complete stranger?

Question 5

If there was a mutual attraction for each other, both admitting that you really felt that way about the comments, would you make a move?

Question 6

Yes or No? A situation is only awkward because you accepted it that way.

Question Results 

Question 1 – 

Social awkwardness is commonly acknowledged throughout 57% of the seven responses for the first question. Two participants responded precisely as, “Not at all,” before explaining their reasoning behind their extroverted personalities. One participant described their social confidence is enough to plan social events with friends.  The other participant faces a common social barrier in the beginning by being shy, but extremely confident to converse when they reach their comfort zone. The socially awkward or awkwardly social participants explained their awkwardness very well. One participant faces social insecurities because of their social status of interpersonal communication. The best response was from a participant admitting to having socially awkward and awkwardly social characteristics. As a bartender, physical intimacy is normally achieved through flirtatious comments. However, an overwhelming complimentary place can push an individual into an extremely awkward situation. The exposure of complimentary and ritualistic language is easily identified in a public setting, but there is a concealed immunity from overexposure. If a woman experiences compliments every day, the desire for physical intimacy and attraction shifts aside. One participant did not answer the question.

Question 2 – 

The participants came to a consensus with playing hard to get under the influences of a maturity level, prioritizing time, and the comfort of the situation. The most intriguing discovery was when two participants mentioned about being coy in two completely different contexts. The majority believes that attraction is mandatory to acknowledge and confronted to avoid misleading someone on. If there is no attraction for a guy, playing hard to get might simply be the easy way of sending the message that they are not interested. One participant said they know exactly what they want, how they will get it, and when they will get it. A very intriguing response was that they do not play hard to get because they simply are hard to get. In addition, one participant is perceived as playing hard to get through first impressions of being awkward and uncomfortable.

Question 3 –

According to the responses, 71% of the participants responded negatively, while the remaining 29% agreed that they would not be kidding after giving a flirtatious comment. A consensus on how honesty towards someone with potential and interest for a prospective relationship is very important. However, one participant mentioned that they will say that they are just kidding only for the sake of attraction, but no potential interest for anything further. They believe that sending the mixed message would happen only if they did not mention that they were kidding.

Question 4 – 

A consensus of 71% all agreed that physical intimacy was very important, while the remaining 29% believed that physical intimacy requires an emotional connection or never experienced physical intimacy to fully appreciate it. In addition,  three participants would entice and engage something with a complete stranger, especially if that stranger was attractive. One participant believes that they will wait for physical intimacy if the guy has potential for a future relationship with them. Lastly, one participant mentions about the simplistic natural element of physical intimacy by mentioning that confidence is not necessarily mandatory for intimate encounters with random people. Therefore, the upbringing of moral and personal value of the individual has a lot to do with their decision for intimacy.

Question 5 – 

Although three participants agreed that they would make a move through acknowledging the mutual attraction, gender roles played a significant part within the context of the responses. The bold attempt to make a move has a few of the participants waiting for the other person to make their move first. Regardless of the circumstances, two participants believe that it is extremely attractive for the other person to make their move first.

Question – 6 
All participants agreed that a situation is only awkward because they accepted it that way. Therefore, nobody should ever feel awkward about something happening.
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Acknowledgement 
I would like to thank the following participants for their time:
I will conclude my final thoughts on this in Part III. Thank you.
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Pushing Away Physical Intimacy; The Consequences of Playing Hard to Get Part 2

Pushing Away Physical Intimacy; The Consequences of Playing Hard to Get Part I

Hey everyone!

Happy Martin Luther King, Jr. Day! I was extremely busy today with my family, and everything else that required immediate action. Now, I am willing to connect with my beautiful followers on the topic of physical intimacy and the consequences of playing hard to get. If anyone contributes to the submissions, you will acknowledge that I can use any of the information that you provide. This information will only be used for Part II of this post. Please be aware that the name and website address are optional. If you provide your name, it will be easier to acknowledge you. If you also use your website address, you will be instantly connected with your name. You deserve the acknowledgement, and everyone should check your blog out. As soon as I receive enough submissions on this, I will make a very rewarding article out of the data I collect.

All questions are not subjected for mandatory submission. You do not have to answer everything I ask. Feel free to contact me if you have any questions or concerns. Thank you.

Update:

Due to the blog theme, the questions are in capitalized letters. I am not yelling at you. Sorry for any inconvenience or mixed reactions to this!

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12:15 A.M. 1/25/13 (25/01/13)

EST Update:

There are six (6) submissions! Let’s shoot for at least 10! Thanks to those who have submitted! I am looking forward to writing this!

Pushing Away Physical Intimacy; The Consequences of Playing Hard to Get Part I