Driving Around Intimate Roadblocks; Addressing Concern for Making Moves

Jenna Marbles Sexually Frustrated

A hopeless romantic’s lust builds up sexual frustration into a conflicting matter with physical intimacy. A person feeling deprivation from love and the emotional connection with someone also conflicts with the desire of physical intimacy. The simplistic hug leads into wandering hands, while a forehead kiss turns into French kiss frenzy. A rewarding opportunity of no strings attached snuggling can happen unexpectedly. The desire for more than a sensual embrace stirs up a controversial discussion for couples being serious towards a prospective commitment. If there is a mutual attraction for each other, the couple is safe to push aside their Shakespearean romance for a special time.

Barely Moving Forward 

Past experiences of failed attempts in intimacy can hinder the enthusiasm for another chance at a spontaneous opportunity. Many young men and women face intimacy issues for various reasons. A young woman decides to exchange numbers with me after a brief acknowledgement of mutual attraction. The intellectual conversations over the phone entice the next step to happen rather quickly. She arrives at my house early in the afternoon confident about our casual intentions. A relaxed conversation after dinner left our passionate personalities ready for spontaneity.  In a sensual artistic manner, I transitioned across her face from a forehead kiss to a cheek kiss. Then, playful Eskimo kisses relaxed her shortly before the soft chin kiss. A person’s hazy, aroused eyes might imply the urge for a passionate kiss. A personal fantasy of mine is physical intimacy with a complete stranger, especially after achieving an emotional and physical attraction for each other.

Cock Block Ahead

The art of intimacy should never conflict with an interest for sex. A person can feel completely comfortable towards the exposure of something new, but there is always that one person who fails to recognize that the experience is not necessarily enjoyable for someone else. A mature discussion for sleeping apparel is very important for anyone to understand. The couple must confirm their intent to engage in snuggling. This will ensure respect for each other’s personal space and comfort zone, while building a sense of trust and security. After agreeing on sleeping attire, an emotional connection between the two individuals creates a powerful, sentimental feeling inside. When a person spoons with someone, they must follow the body language of the person next to them. The instinct to allow our hands to wander is natural, but it is not necessarily right to assume going further.

The exposure of sensual caressing from her arms to her waistline intrigued her sexuality and sensuality, but past experiences with intimate failures curtail the fullest potential of her arousal. She mentions with surprise how I am a “man whom doesn’t assume to go any further than below the waistline.” After mentioning this concern for intimacy, reflection on making advantageous moves left a concern to pursue an article about this. The intentions of sexual intercourse are natural, but men and women are responsible to reduce their sex drives to respect others and their own bodies.

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Sold it (Photo credit: Mundoo)

Sold! 

Sex can be perceived as the same process of buying a house. If two people have an interest in establishing a lifestyle together, they hold back on moving in right away to keep their options open and secure.  They understand that they must feel an emotional and physical connection to pursue a mature decision towards commitment. If two individuals engage in promiscuous activities, this is closely in comparison to renting a place to stay. Nobody owns anything yet, but there are possible chances for rewarding opportunities and responsibility later. When there is an interest in engaging in physical intimacy, a form of a down payment to secure their interest helps the two people out. As a tenant, or someone willing to pursue an intimate encounter with someone else’s property (being their body in this case), they must abide by the landlord’s residential rules. As a landlord, or the person responsible for their own body, must go over the expectations and intentions for the tenant to respect their property. Therefore, the couples are mutually responsible for being a tenant and a landlord. One person must respect their own property before they allow anyone else to pursue an interest with it.

Unloading the Truck

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(Photo credit: David Guo’s Master)

U-Haul, or any other moving truck company, conveys symbolism in this article as a convenient method of unloading all the baggage that one has from past experiences into their own intimate lifestyle. This is the most important part of the article to avoid driving around the most intimate roadblock anyone must face. Nobody should ever feel uncomfortable, pressured, and subjected to physical intimacy and sexual intercourse. Nobody should attempt to break the social and intimate connection they have with someone by taking advantageous actions. Therefore, a compiled list on how to respect a person’s body is given below.

The Do’s and Don’ts of Physical Intimacy

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DO:

  • Appreciate their time being with you, regardless of your intentions. 
  • Sincerely compliment them on how you really feel without thinking about what they want to hear.
  • Take patience into consideration for everything you do with them.
  • Take it to heart – show respect by considering a comfortable place, a reasonable time, and acknowledge the most important reason for being with them.  There is a time and place for everything, especially for first impressions.
  • Enjoy sensuality over sexuality for at least an hour. Come on, you can do it!
  • Follow a road map from the forehead to the waistline. The expected roadblock is the waistline. In a sexually corrupted society, this road map will be effective for you because there is never enough foreplay.
  • Remember that foreplay is not only fun, but it is very healthy!
  • Learn about their body just as well as they learn about yours. This is teamwork!

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DON’T:

  • Make an ass out of assumption! A date does not require physical intimacy. You do not have the right to kiss them, and they are also not entitled for a kiss from you either.
  • Believe that the first kiss entitles you to go further with your intentions. You were just fortunate enough for first base!
  • Assume that holding hands, kissing, and snuggling offers the right to caress the intimate parts of their body. Besides, Captain Obvious, you already know where yer treasure is! Argh! Ignore the X on the map, and pretend like you don’t know where it is! If you engage in effective prolonged foreplay with the right pace, they will voluntarily lead you in that direction. Yes, you can both share each other’s booty.

Most importantly …

Don’t you ever assume that it is right to make decisions because you feel comfortable about pursuing them. This isn’t about you! 

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Driving Around Intimate Roadblocks; Addressing Concern for Making Moves

Express Thy Heart, Thou Hast Change; Satisfying Follower Demand

Hey everyone,

How are you? I hope you are all doing great! Are you working hard on your New Year’s resolutions? The first week is almost here! Congratulations! If you have given up already or didn’t bother to start, try again next week! No, seriously. If you didn’t make any changes this year, continue living life to the fullest one heart beat at a time!

I am just giving you an update on the recent changes on my page. I have added a form page right underneath my About Me  tab. If you are not comfortable sending me a message through my Facebook  page, please use this form instead.

Your real name is not really required, but you should make something up. Make me laugh, please?

According to Anita Man, she is about to post a Blog Post Suggestion. If she scrolled down any further, she would also have the options of Questions / Concerns, Constructive Criticism, or Blog Promotion. Now, let me explain all of this to you.

Blog Post Suggestions (Default)

Please understand that this is a default option. It will submit as this type of submission for your submission if you do not change it. If you are willing to inspire me with a question for a blog post, submit it as a Blog Post Suggestion. Not as a Questions / Concerns submission.

Questions / Concerns Submissions 

Select this choice for serious questions or concerns. Is there a question that is not intended for a blog post? Submit it here. Do you have a concern about a link that isn’t working? Submit it here. Do you have any questions about my life? Submit it here. Do you want to know more about my personal life, e.g. dating, feel free to ask here. Everything that confuses you, makes you wonder, or makes you frustrated about my blog goes here. Simple? Good.

Constructive Criticism

Now, how simple can this be? Provide reasonable feedback to me. Don’t waste your time, and don’t waste mine. Did I have a grammatical error in a blog post? Oh, my bad! Just tell me. Was a post offensive? Maybe it was boring, and I wasn’t representing myself well? Just tell me. As long as your honest, let me know. I am here for quality, not quantity. I might have over 1,000 followers, but I really need 5 loyal followers to tell me what needs improvement. This is the same thing about liking my articles, or anyone else for that matter. If you leave constructive comments, you will engage more within my hopeless romantic community of followers.

Blog Promotion (Description of Blog Required)

My goal for 2013 is to organize a blog directory on my page because I know my page will never have everything on it. So, what do I need from you? An effective blog description! What does that entail? Well, let me give you a few examples:

Bad:

“My blog needs followers! I am new here! Promo?”


Poor:

“My blog is about things I like and things I don’t like. People will also like the things I like, and don’t like.”

OK:

“My blog is about boys, relationships, kittens, and inspirational quotes.”

Good:

“I have a counselling blog for depression. I offer advice to everyone who is sad and ready to give up on life. I love helping people out of those difficult times, and I would be honored for a promotion on your blog to encourage others to do the same.”

Great: 

“My blog, Just Weight & See, is my official progress for weight loss and a healthier diet throughout the year of 2013. I will upload weekly before and after pictures, while submitting a daily post about my meals throughout the day. I will encourage recipes, strategies, and words of encouragement to help motivate others as well.”

If you did not read my post, “One Step Forward; A Brief Discussion on Controversial Resolutions for 2013,” then just take this following message with you throughout 2013:

It’s your life. Change starts now! Just breathe, keep pushing through every day, and understand that you do have support at WordPress and in your local area. Feel free to ask around.

Now, here is the promotional proposal: 

If you have any weight loss blogs, please refer me to them at the comment section below. If you have any organizational blogs, with tips to organize and succeed, let me know those links as well. Are you a member of your own Frugal Anonymous group? Send me an invite to your next meeting! I will make a page to acknowledge these inspirational people.

WordPress community, let’s make a change today, tomorrow, and forever – together.

The following inspirational weight loss bloggers are already in queue for my directory under Weight Loss Blogs:

NoNeedToWeight

191PoundsToBikini

MakingMarciaMelt

One Day at a Time

Congratulations! 

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Express Thy Heart, Thou Hast Change; Satisfying Follower Demand

Hey everyone,

How are you? I hope you are all doing great! Are you working hard on your New Year’s resolutions? The first week is almost here! Congratulations! If you have given up already or didn’t bother to start, try again next week! No, seriously. If you didn’t make any changes this year, continue living life to the fullest one heart beat at a time!

I am just giving you an update on the recent changes on my page. I have added a form page right underneath my About Me  tab. If you are not comfortable sending me a message through my Facebook  page, please use this form instead.

Your real name is not really required, but you should make something up. Make me laugh, please?

According to Anita Man, she is about to post a Blog Post Suggestion. If she scrolled down any further, she would also have the options of Questions / Concerns, Constructive Criticism, or Blog Promotion. Now, let me explain all of this to you.

Blog Post Suggestions (Default)

Please understand that this is a default option. It will submit as this type of submission for your submission if you do not change it. If you are willing to inspire me with a question for a blog post, submit it as a Blog Post Suggestion. Not as a Questions / Concerns submission.

Questions / Concerns Submissions 

Select this choice for serious questions or concerns. Is there a question that is not intended for a blog post? Submit it here. Do you have a concern about a link that isn’t working? Submit it here. Do you have any questions about my life? Submit it here. Do you want to know more about my personal life, e.g. dating, feel free to ask here. Everything that confuses you, makes you wonder, or makes you frustrated about my blog goes here. Simple? Good.

Constructive Criticism

Now, how simple can this be? Provide reasonable feedback to me. Don’t waste your time, and don’t waste mine. Did I have a grammatical error in a blog post? Oh, my bad! Just tell me. Was a post offensive? Maybe it was boring, and I wasn’t representing myself well? Just tell me. As long as your honest, let me know. I am here for quality, not quantity. I might have over 1,000 followers, but I really need 5 loyal followers to tell me what needs improvement. This is the same thing about liking my articles, or anyone else for that matter. If you leave constructive comments, you will engage more within my hopeless romantic community of followers.

Blog Promotion (Description of Blog Required)

My goal for 2013 is to organize a blog directory on my page because I know my page will never have everything on it. So, what do I need from you? An effective blog description! What does that entail? Well, let me give you a few examples:

Bad:

“My blog needs followers! I am new here! Promo?”


Poor:

“My blog is about things I like and things I don’t like. People will also like the things I like, and don’t like.”

OK:

“My blog is about boys, relationships, kittens, and inspirational quotes.”

Good:

“I have a counselling blog for depression. I offer advice to everyone who is sad and ready to give up on life. I love helping people out of those difficult times, and I would be honored for a promotion on your blog to encourage others to do the same.”

Great: 

“My blog, Just Weight & See, is my official progress for weight loss and a healthier diet throughout the year of 2013. I will upload weekly before and after pictures, while submitting a daily post about my meals throughout the day. I will encourage recipes, strategies, and words of encouragement to help motivate others as well.”

If you did not read my post, “One Step Forward; A Brief Discussion on Controversial Resolutions for 2013,” then just take this following message with you throughout 2013:

It’s your life. Change starts now! Just breathe, keep pushing through every day, and understand that you do have support at WordPress and in your local area. Feel free to ask around.

Now, here is the promotional proposal: 

If you have any weight loss blogs, please refer me to them at the comment section below. If you have any organizational blogs, with tips to organize and succeed, let me know those links as well. Are you a member of your own Frugal Anonymous group? Send me an invite to your next meeting! I will make a page to acknowledge these inspirational people.

WordPress community, let’s make a change today, tomorrow, and forever – together.

The following inspirational weight loss bloggers are already in queue for my directory under Weight Loss Blogs:

NoNeedToWeight

191PoundsToBikini

MakingMarciaMelt

One Day at a Time

Congratulations! 

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Romantic Résumé; Marketing Yourself for Love in 2013

Happy New Year! Wait, does that traditional phrase  jinx our chance at love this year? Are there any hopeless romantics dusting off their sleeves for their heart to breathe through one last year of hope?

According to StatisticBrain.com, falling in love fell at #9 for Top 10 New Year’s Resolutions for 2012. Is 2013 your time to shine for romance and a long-term commitment? Although the recent study published from the University of Scranton in the Journal of Clinical Psychology did not show the participant sample that represented Americans, as a whole, these  New Year’s Resolution Statistics for 2012 might show that hope is running out very quickly for this year. According to the study, relationship related resolutions fell at the bottom of the categories at 31%. What matters more than finding Mr. Right? Self-improvement, weight related concerns, and money resolutions!

I am sorry, but I cannot help you with weight loss or financial assistance. I can give you encouragement to train yourself harder every day, but you will eventually snap at my advice because I am not there running with you. It may seem as if I am running against you. I can also help you become frugal, but who am I to control your lifestyle and the spending involved throughout the year? I will, however, help you with self-improvement and then the relationship building for 2013.

Polish Your Romantic Résumé

What the hell is a romantic résumé? Does Cupid have a romantic résumé, or how about Prince Charming? Mr. Right’s romantic résumé is extremely outstanding to read! Ladies, talk about overqualified!

Everyone has a passionate side about relationships, regardless how prude or introverted they are around their own peers. It is completely natural and very common to hide these ideas for their own personal preference. We are all human, and we all have romantic tendencies to engage and indulge in something that will arouse our senses. This could be a simple butterfly kiss on the forehead to something more playful and seductive if done right, like Eskimo kisses.

Now, when was the last time you have ever felt intimacy with another person? Let’s break it down into categories called bases. How many times have you allowed someone else, or yourself, to go to first base? Second base? Third? How about some grand slams, or home runs? Maybe you’re just a rookie who needs some pointers. That’s fine. Let me help before you step up to the plate once again – or at least, for the first time professionally. Sorry boys, this isn’t Little League anymore.

Check out my romantic résumé below. I have used my real name, my real email address, and partly some of my residence. Sorry, don’t get me wrong, I love intimate encounters with strangers, but I do not encourage those surprises! My linguistic skills and my interests are accurately written as well. I have provided a sample of how you will discover your strengths and weaknesses by laying them out in a professional format:

Anthony Terragna

Email: tony.terragna@gmail.com

69 Lover Lane

1 – 800 – ROMANCE

East Hartford, CT, 06118

CAREER AIM     Specialization in Sexology and Linguistics

EDUCATION

08/2008 – 08/2012         PhD in Passion, Romance and Seduction Studies, University of Seduction, 2012

WORK EXPERIENCE

2003 – Present       Phone Sex Operator

Achieved outstanding customer service with women in search for romantic, intellectual indulgence of passion over the phone. The instant gratification of passionate language and seductive techniques will always be guaranteed. A catalyst for irregular heart beats, hazy eyes, loss of voice, dry mouth, giggling or pure silence, bottom lip biting, wandering hands, and closed eyes imagining a vast array of erotic fantasies.

LINGUISTIC SKILLS; EUROPEAN, MIDDLE EASTERN, AND EAST ASIAN

East Hartford High School

Manchester Community College

University of Connecticut 

Spanish 4 Honors

1 Non-credit Introduction to Arabic night course during high school

Elementary Arabic I

French 3 Honors

Elementary Chinese I

Mandarin Chinese 1

Intermediate to Advanced French instructed courses

INTERESTS / SCHOLASTIC ACTIVITIES / AWARDS

Undergraduate: University of Connecticut American English Language Institute (UCAELI) Conversation Partner volunteer committed to the enrichment and exchange of interpersonal communication in English with native Mandarin, Arabic, Korean, and European speakers (2012)

High School: 1st Recipient Outstanding Six Year Student in World Language (2008)

High School: Department Scholar Plaque E.H.H.S. 2008 Presented for Excellence in World Language

Undergraduate: Primary Applied Foreign Language Certificate of Achievement in French (2011)

Emotional Baggage

Does a romantic résumé include past relationships under work experience? Any potential employer, or prospective partner,  would love to see how long your relationships might have lasted, but that is not necessarily conveying the overall quality of  each one. Now, what if you didn’t have any experience in the love department? Maybe your experiences hindered your ability to do better, and now you have bad work habits.  How do you refine yourself from those experiences? If you are willing to let go of emotional baggage, let me know.

You need to discover yourself before you discover everyone else. You need to find your strengths, weaknesses, and insecurities. You need to face everything and anything that may hinder your chance at finding the most suitable partner for your life. I am willing to help you find yourself, and your soul mate.

If I have enough interest from my hopeless romantic viewers, I will share my secrets of success at relationship building. Keep in mind – you will build your own relationship from within before you tackle one with someone else. You will feel confident, independent, and beautiful in what you do and what you say when you naturally market yourself for a successful relationship. This process will not force you in any way to step out of your own comfort zone. If you are introverted, I will suggest something to help you open up more. If you are extroverted, maybe you need a suggestion to cool down from being too open with people. If you have any problems along the way, it’s not you – it’s them.

Vote for change in 2013! Vote now! If you aren’t sure, fine. Let me know that you still read this article. I may count the “not sure” votes as “maybe” votes. Then, I will post the results and start refining relationships. Everyone is different, but we all have similarities and differences. This is a challenge, but it is well worth the wait.

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Romantic Résumé; Marketing Yourself for Love in 2013

One Step Forward; A Brief Discussion on Controversial Resolutions for 2013

Source: Statistic Brain

Happy New Year! This year I will connect the WordPress community together to create an architectural relationship to build a networking neighborhood of support and guidance throughout 2013.  I am willing to lend a helping hand after reading many unique blogs on very controversial topics that receive barely any feedback or words of encouragement. Yeah, that is very unfortunate. This needs to change now.

Many bloggers want their voices heard, and I am willing to make it happen. These topics include weight loss, stress, depression, financial burdens, a pessimistic outlook on life, lack of inspiration for writing, no drive for success to do anything, hopeless romantics doubting chivalry, and conflicting relationships. I am willing to stay there for you, and everyone else reading this post. Let’s make a change today, tomorrow, and forever – together.

A compiled list of resolutions is easy to admire, but the lack of drive for success hinders the success rate of Americans trying to meet their resolutions every year. According to Statistic Brain.com, a recent study from the University of Scranton in the Journal of Clinical Psychology published on December 13, 2012 on the New Year’s Resolution Statistics for 2012. Wait, why does this matter? The past is extremely important to understand how to make effective decisions for the future. No, leave politics out of this! We already know the damage. Thanks for your concerns for Congress’ spot in 2013. However, let’s focus on your place on the board game, “The Game of Life.”

The study focused on the following, “Top 10 New Year’s Resolutions for 2012″. These resolutions are commonly the primary focus every year for the last decade of American history. Although blood is thicker than water, family appears as the last thing to tackle for a resolutions list. That’s understandable. No, really, I have a family like that too.

Top 10 New Year’s Resolutions for 2012
1
 weightLose Weight
2
Getting Organized
3
Spend Less, Save More
4
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5
Staying Fit and Healthy
6
Learn Something Exciting
7
Quit Smoking
8
Help Others in Their Dreams
9
Fall in Love
10
Spend More Time with Family

Do they seem reasonable and possibly familiar? Great. Common interests are always easier to discuss than trying to persuade someone a new idea, like eating dark chocolate in moderation is still part of a healthier diet.

Now, before I introduce the results of those resolutions for the previous year, we must focus on how many Americans feel the need to make these lists. Yeah, you might agree with the top ten of last year, but what is the percentage of Americans who feel the same way you do? What about the people who don’t make lists? Are they still driven to succeed with their motto, “Live life to the fullest” or do they have some other drive to succeed every year?

The study concluded the percentages of Americans who are either driven, infrequent or rarely making New Year’s resolution lists. Whether you are usually apt, seldom, or never making resolution lists, check out the following statistics:

New Year’s Resolution Statistics Data
Percent of Americans who usually make New Year’s Resolutions 45%
Percent of Americans who infrequently make New Year’s Resolutions 17%
Percent of Americans who absolutely never make New Year’s Resolutions 38%
Percent of people who are successful in achieving their resolution 8%
Percent who have infrequent success 49%
Percent who never succeed and fail on their resolution each year 24%
People who explicitly make resolutions are 10 times more likely to meet their goals than people who don’t explicitly make resolutions

Did you notice the interesting fact on the bottom of the table? Do you agree with this result? Are you more likely to meet your goals if you planned for them through resolution lists, or are you more successful without the compiled agenda? If you really wanted to lose weight, do you have to remind yourself before the year starts? Aren’t you motivated when you see someone walking by you who is either your idealistic image or someone bigger than you? It’s your life. You decide how you should organize your goals.

The following are organized goals by the type of resolution with categories summarized by self-improvement, health, financial ambitions, and relationships:

Type of Resolutions (Percent above 100% because of multiple resolutions) Data
Self-Improvement or education related resolutions 47%
Weight related resolutions 38%
Money related resolutions 34%
Relationship related resolutions 31%

The overall demand for change targets ourselves, and what we have to change or refine from within. Do you agree that you should change on the inside before you start shedding off those unnecessary pounds on the outside? Right – fat is on the inside as well, but we cannot see self-improvement with sugar-coated smiles. Smile simply because you are happy with your own life, not because you can.

Do you agree with money over relationships? I thought money doesn’t buy happiness! Well, let’s face it. It was close! Unless your friends and family are contributing to your money related ambitions, friendships will not pay the bills. Effective communication – certainly! Try to persuade the bill collectors this year! I am sure they will understand your “extenuating circumstances beyond your control.”

Age cannot be controlled. I’m sorry, but we are constantly aging by the millisecond! The study found that more people, around my age, do something from their resolution list than people around their own parents’ age. If you don’t agree with this, let me know. I am definitely in favor for this one. Although the number of participants is not known, 14% is certainly something to brag about.

Age Success Rates Data
Percent of people in their twenties who achieve their resolution each year 39%
Percent of people over 50 who achieve their resolution each year 14%

Are we there yet? The time it takes to complete the resolutions are typically the first week of the New Year, but how often are they carried out until June? If weight loss is a resolution, the summer may definitely play an important role in commitment. Who wouldn’t to flaunt their results?

Length of Resolutions Data
Resolution maintained through first week 75%
Past two weeks 71%
Past one month 64%
Past six months 46%

Now, what can we get from this study of last year’s resolutions to focus on the new beginning that starts today? Well, for starters, the resolution lists from last year will most likely transition into this year. No big deal with second chances. Are you going to continue making lists or will you live life without a predetermined path? Do you feel like proving the 10x chance at success is wrong without following a list this year?

Well, regardless, are you going to represent that lower percentage (8% from last year) to achieve what you wanted to achieve? Don’t ever place yourself as one of the 24% from last year who feel failure and regret to themselves and the people around them.

This study obviously did not mention how many subjects represented the country within six months. This study also lacked ethnicity, marital status, income, residential status (rural, urban or suburban), and of course – gender – to accurately determine who is part of the successful group of Americans. I am a 23-year-old, white male suburban resident of East Hartford, Connecticut. Do I have a greater chance at success than another 23-year-old, white male  Hartford? Regardless of my place for this year, what is yours?

It’s your life. Change starts now! Just breathe, keep pushing through every day, and understand that you do have support at WordPress and in your local area. Feel free to ask around.

If you have any weight loss blogs, please refer me to them at the comment section below. If you have any organizational blogs, with tips to organize and succeed, let me know those links as well. Are you a member of your own Frugal Anonymous group? Send me an invite to your next meeting! I will make a page to acknowledge these inspirational people.

WordPress community, let’s make a change today, tomorrow, and forever – together.

Note: I would have published this earlier, but I was spending quality time with my mother. 😉

One Step Forward; A Brief Discussion on Controversial Resolutions for 2013

Discovering Mr. Right; A Brief Analysis on Idealistic Male Traits

Ladies, Mr. Right does not have a fixed image, but he certainly does have idealistic male traits that will help filter through all the Mr. Wrong’s that throw corny one-liners. Do you think Mr. Right is Prince Charming? Possibly, your knight in shining armor is the same guy too?  Chivalry does not necessarily need a horse. If the man of your dreams lost his horse, maybe he will offer a piggyback ride instead?

How do we address the idealistic characteristics of men portrayed in Disney movies or romantic comedies? Are they all physical attributes, or do they have some key factors for emotional strengths? You might consider yourself far from being shallow, but physically appealing genetics are always a plus.

Let’s discuss the idealistic characteristics that we commonly hear when we mention Mr. Right or Prince Charming. We can check which ones are idealistic and emphasize on the ones that have more potential with realistic reasoning.

Wealth and Power 

Did you see his Porsche? Wait, he has a Lamborghini too? Ladies, you know Richie Rich when you see him! Do you really want a man to put a price tag on your love? Do you really want him to pay his way into your pants? That’s not a lover, that’s a business man with a politician’s mind. You want someone who is financially stable, not financially capable. Does he live to work or work to live? Hopefully, you can find someone who does both. You want someone who sets life ambitions with a head over his shoulders while being a hard-working partner gradually moving closer to accomplishing those goals. Is it really necessary to find someone who makes more money than he can even handle? Money will pay off the bills, but happiness is not guaranteed.

Intelligence

Instantly, you imagine yourself being with McLovin. Does that satisfy your desire for knowledge? Intelligence has a vast array of definitions for many cultures and regions of the world. The definition may have a consensus that intelligence is the general mental ability to learn and apply information. How do we decide if Mr. Right has the idealistic measure of intelligence? The main focus is not necessarily his background in education, but how he presents himself to you effectively. Yes, he may carry himself as an effective conversationalist and public speaker without a four-year degree. However, it solely depends on your personal preference.

Generally, you want a social butterfly that can express himself effectively, present himself respectably, especially around your parents, and someone who can understand you entirely. No, that does not necessarily mean he should know that you burp five times a day, but he should understand how to offer the emotional and physical connection that you desire to have with him. Does it tickle your insides when he throws big words out there? Unless you’re part of The Big Bang Theory’s cast, I highly doubt you will come close to feeling the same intellectual connection as Sheldon’s girlfriend, Dr. Amy Farrah Fowler.

Guys, be yourself when you deal with intelligence. Impress her with how that information has changed you, not how much you actually learned.

If you want an example, I have studied five languages in a classroom, including English. Do I brag about the awards I received? I will briefly mention them in my About Me, but I would rather emphasize on the UCAELI conversation partner volunteer experience I had with foreign exchange students. Pick your spotlight moments and reflect on them. Unless you have more time to converse with each other, keep it brief.

Emotionally Sensitive

You have seen these men before, but watch out for best friend potential! These are the ones to friend zone! Shopping? Totally. Romantic comedies? Fabulous. No, really, you want that guy who can put the ‘man’ in ‘mannequin’. Let him shop with you, hold your purchases and wait for you outside the fitting room. Ladies, yeah I am talking to the exhibitionist out there, we can save the fitting room invitation talk later. I will admit that I like your style – thinking outside the bedroom.

However, there might be some trust issues involved, and you might not want someone waiting outside the fitting room checking out everyone in line. Yeah, that is definitely a trust buster. How do you know if he is patiently waiting for you? Well, regardless, you want a man who can voice his opinions about how you look in your latest shopping frenzy but you avoid the ones who know more designers than you ever wore in your lifetime. If the dress makes him upset or brutally honest that he throws a fit, you might not want the dress or him anymore.

Romantic comedies really are great. Guys, if you cried to A Walk to Remember and you took down a lot of mental notes from The Notebook – you are already showing your idealistic qualities! Women want men who can balance sensitivity where they can distinctly categorize you between her best friend and her boyfriend. It is completely natural to have feelings for romantic comedies, and it can enhance your relationship when you follow the notes you wrote down from other movies. She does not want another sister, but a lover. Express yourself, but try to limit on how much you express with the most effective delivery. Write the articles for Cosmopolitan, while you leave your mother or sister’s copy alone!

The Family Guy

Yes, the man who does not run away from minor conflicts or the one who rarely has an issue with establishing and maintaining commitment. He does not make you or his family an option, but a priority.   Ladies, when someone asks you, “How many children do you have?” I hope you have two children, and only say two children. If you are in the same boat as my mother mentioning that she has “three.” That’s a problem! Guys, women want men who can understand that family is invaluable. You can always pick your friends, but you can never pick your family. If you are hesitant about children, that is completely fine. As long as you are close to your family, treating them with the utmost respect, even if some bang heads, you will be ideal. It shows more than family value, but strength in building and maintaining relationships.

Former Boy Scout of America?

Remember the Boy Scout Law is a compiled list of other qualities that require more emphasis with your girlfriend too. These are as follows:

What qualities suit your Mr. Right?

If you could change or improve one thing about your man now, what would it be? Why? Feel free to comment below and express how you feel! Thanks!

Discovering Mr. Right; A Brief Analysis on Idealistic Male Traits

Lips Are Sealed; Holding Off a Perfect Moment with Bad Breath

What the hell did you eat? Have you ever came close to a disturbing smell lingering out of your date’s mouth? Was your passionate kiss delayed or did you continue to embrace upon a journey of no return? Did you think it could never be that bad, but realized the aftertaste left you sick? My lips were always sealed, escaping from another unforgettable love story,  but we know William Shakespeare’s Juliet was unbelievably in love with Romeo that she kissed poison off the lips of her dead man’s corpse. Although the dagger was more potent in this situation, what if you came close to toxic lips that Britney Spears seems to enjoy? Those lips gave her a ride and a “poison paradise”. I highly doubt bad breath kisses will cause an addiction. If they do, please send me or yourself to Desperate Kissing Anonymous.

If you chose taste in my senses challenge, the problem will still linger throughout the evening. The problem will be entirely different from the smell of burnt cookies in a lover’s kitchen with the Lover’s Christmas List. Maybe you woke up to this problem after engaging in no strings attached snuggling? What if you engaged in hot passionate sensualist foreplay? What do you do in these situations without hurting your date or partner? I will explain my perspective and experiences on this, and hopefully you can understand my motives. After you read this blog post, I hope the holiday season can still bring you intimate kisses under the mistletoe without leaving an aftertaste of obligation.

One of his hands finds a spot on the side of her face, the other sends the fingers out to roam aimlessly through her hair. A seductive exchange of eyes and grins entices the couple to embrace their lips. A delicate forehead kiss starts the fun, cheeks are anxiously awaiting for their turn. The nose awaits its turn too and Eskimo kisses are always fun to do. The perfect transition is down to their lips, but hindered confidence pushes aside this intimate idea. The pores of his masculine face shed tears of garlic from the romantic candlelit Italian dinner an hour ago. The feeling of dishonesty, betrayal and obligation may leave them thinking, “What’s next? Maybe we should have bought the Tiramisu for dessert instead.”

You saved each other for dessert? Yeah, I would do the same. I would never have to worry about gaining calories, rather enjoyably shedding them off. Now, what happens next? Do you change the topic and ask the waiter to bring out the dessert menu? Do you go back home and face the awkward blow of Italy’s most potent dish in the restaurant? Regardless if you chose the first option to sweeten up their lips, maybe the smell of Tiramisu and garlic will really throw you over the edge. Garlic cappuccino, anyone? Mama mia!  The two love birds will eventually have to leave, unless you are staying the night. Be sure to brush your teeth before hitting the sack. The departure will be an exchange of prolonged hugs and good-bye’s. Possibly his wandering hands fill your back pockets and your noses occupy with each other awaiting for the signal to shift further down. To exchange a goodnight kiss or not to exchange a goodnight kiss – that is the question I will answer. I will give you some suggestions on how to end a night out with a perfect alternative of battling your partner’s bad breath. If you have any other suggestions, please feel free to send them in the comments below.

Location, location, location! 

Yes, we are marketing our lips as temporary hotel stays. We want the best location for the most passionate embrace. What if the location was ideal for a quickie before stepping into the door where your parents lurk around for your arrival? Location is essentially important for any public display of affection. I will briefly go over the most commonly used places for a good-night kiss. Then, we can decide what to do after that destination is discovered.  If you have a special place where you enjoy the lips of your partner or casual dates, let me know under the comment section below.

The Restaurant 

Well, it has to start somewhere! I am trying to convey the message here that it is perfectly fine to kiss someone at a restaurant! However, it is not fine when they have bad breath. How do we avoid being intimate with a lingering enemy taking over your attractive date’s lips? We let them win, but we play back harder. It is perfectly fine if you never kissed on the first date, most people feel the same way. What if you went out for a night with your girlfriend/boyfriend or spouse? I am sure they will love these alternative approaches to restaurant etiquette. I will explain three of my favorite alternatives to being playfully passionate and assertive.

The Restaurant: Footsie

Ah, yes, a very discreet way of expressing your playful submissive side without exchanging lips. Try it sometime! This is not necessarily limited to the restaurant setting. You can also do this at home at the kitchen table, on the couch or in bed.

Communication is essentially important, especially non-verbal communication. If your partner is receptive, this is a win-win. If they are too oblivious or uncomfortable, at least you tried. In the bedroom, toes can be used like fingers. Be soft, gentle and playfully outgoing. Practice and find a perfect technique that you are comfortable doing outside the bedroom. Always remember to maintain restaurant etiquette. Make sure you showered before your socks slip off, and look around to see if anyone would notice. In advanced, request for a booth, unless you are an exhibitionist for public attention.

Holding hands under the table.

The Restaurant: Hold Hands

Can it really be that simple? Yes! You can do this anywhere you want and most people will actually approve. You might make other couples jealous. Do this before and after your meals, or even during your meal! Caress their fingers, massage their wrists. I am not asking for much here. This is casual, but very effective. Think of this as an under the counter addiction. Communicate them with words and actions. Talk is extremely cheap, and this speaks everything you could never explain. If you are a professional hand holder, you may sway them to forget about the kiss or possibly entice it. Whether or not they understand that you declined the kiss, they will be more than happy to hold your hand until the check comes.

The Restaurant: Breath check, please?

Let’s face it – you are not confident enough to kiss them in public, especially with a lingering Italian garlic monster. That is completely fine. The dinner towelette is an idealistic  suggestion thrown on the table. Ask for two mints, and head out the door. Maybe the mint and the fresh air will help the problem by the time you arrive home. Next time, go out for ice cream or hot chocolate at a local diner after a movie date. Keep the garlic possibilities aside.

The Bedroom: Good Mourning!

Rise and shi .. SHIT! Morning breath is not a fun battle every morning. I have no problem with it, but I did experience a no strings attached snuggle with someone who did.  They thought it was extremely bad, however my personal rating was below the worst one I have ever experienced. Although  a “good mourning” is an oxymoron, nobody wants to mourn over any morning unless it’s Monday!

The Bedroom: Foreplay? No, more like foul play! 

The romantic dinner at the Italian restaurant was priceless, even if you skipped satisfying your sweet tooth for dessert. You are both sprawled out in bed, looking up at the ceiling, and wondering, “What’s next?” Do you tuck each other in for bed or take up on the rain check for dessert now? Did the breath mint help resolve the problem or did it make it any worse than before? Regardless whether you woke up to this morning surprise or brought it home with you as an Italian dinner souvenir, you have to learn how to work around it.

The Bedroom: Embracing the Sensualist Approach

Learn how to seduce them without kissing them right away. I cannot emphasize this enough. Everyone seems to pucker up without hesitation. Learn how to balance out the playful and submissive side. First, check out my other article on The Art of Seduction; Revealing the Sensualist PerspectiveTake some mental notes, and come back. It will save me a lot of time rewriting those ideas. The core message that I want you take from that article is how to avoid kissing their lips right away, and how you can do this in a sexy, confident manner.

The Movie Theater

Aw, a romantic Italian dinner and a movie? Wait,  we all know you aren’t really watching this movie! Could have fooled me! Do chick flicks make you think, “I could kiss better than that! Watch!” Well, hopefully garlic glazed popcorn isn’t served in this theater! Does it still smell or maybe the bad breath was before the movie date? Do you feel obligated to look as cute as this couple on the left? You might want to try that pose, but it might do more harm than teasing them instead. Try these alternative approaches during the boring scenes!

The Movie Theater: Hold Hands

I’m sorry but this is when I repeat myself from earlier:

Can it really be that simple? Yes! You can do this anywhere you want and most people will actually approve. You might make other couples jealous.

No, honestly, you paid good money for those seats! Enjoy the movie, even if you end up looking anticipated to make your moves.  Now, one last time I repeat why you should embrace those fingers together:

Caress their fingers, massage their wrists. I am not asking for much here. This is casual, but very effective.

Honestly, let those hands wander aimlessly around. Guys, massage her arms. Girls, play with his arm hairs. If you really want the exhibitionist way of doing things, sit in the back with the wall behind you. As long as it is consensual fun, enjoy yourselves. It is extremely difficult when you try your best not to kiss them, but kiss them somewhere else. Try for their neck! As long as you set your morals straight, you will never have to worry about traumatizing a little boy’s movie theater experience.

Home Sweet Home

Whether you had a romantic Italian dinner, a movie, or possibly both, the date was a success. Now, it is time to leave your own ways until the next time your eyes meet once again. If you’re married or living with them, just follow the bedroom section. Now, do you exchange your kisses here at the front door, or do you embrace the hugs? Are your parents watching outside the windows or your siblings are running outside to make front row seats in the nearby bushes? Just remember the article I suggested earlier. It might be too explicit for you, but the core message is communication. Understand what their body language suggests and learn how to work around it. Does it look like they want to kiss you? Maybe they need more time to re-evaluate the date? Maybe they already know they have bad breath from a self-check in the restaurant or movie theater bathroom? Learn how to playfully change the mood about kissing them. An easier way to remember this is to take the ‘u’ in “fun” and turn it the other way around to make it a ‘c’. Now, you have FCN which stands for, “Forehead, Cheek, and Nose.” Give them forehead kisses, two cheek kisses, and then some Eskimo kisses. Unless the breath is that bad, stay away from the Eskimo kisses for a while. Never let the bad breath garlic monsters hinder your romantic experiences!

Have you ever experienced bad breath on a date? How did you work things out? Do you have any suggestions? Leave the comments below!  

Lips Are Sealed; Holding Off a Perfect Moment with Bad Breath