Sensual Sexting Stimulates Longevity Without Overexposure

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Young Woman Texting, Pixabay Photo Credit

Technological advancement has introduced a main hallway of networking doors through self-discovery, instant gratification, and sense of self-worth. The mobile convenience for finding the next physical, emotional or mental fix is right at someone’s fingertips. This mobile portal provides access to the private lives outside the professional space. Younger generations are becoming more vulnerable over the course of new phone upgrades to WiFi compatible devices. Despite the wide range of explicit content on the Internet, peers have encouraged each other to exchange intimate pictures to fulfill the next hormonal high. This exchange has increased the high risk of online predators lurking on messaging mobile apps, like Kik and Snapchat. High schools have held class meetings in lecture halls discussing child pornography, as most students are under eighteen, but the lascivious behavior still continues.

On January 22nd, 2013, I published an article, Seductive Sexting; Making Your Man Beg for Moreexplaining how phone sex laws are not enforced to protect our future leaders from predators. The lack of participating in seductive sexting has increasingly flooded social media space for picture sharing with explicit images. I focused attention on the value of pictures, almost like currency, in a relationship. A long distant relationship requires constant reassurance through effective communication, regardless of materialistic or unconditional intent.

In the past two years, I have new insight and challenges to engage mobile intimacy more effectively.  When I published the article, my intent for seductive sexting was some exposure of skin around a private area. Seductive planning,  or  simply planning seductively,  mentioned as an important tactic for creating new incentives that may spark interest between a couple.

In the previous article, I provided some useful tips for carrying out this plan of action:
If you schedule a timeline for sexting, you will balance out the relationship for security and intimacy. If you were recently official, follow a monthly subscription. On the first month anniversary, send them a picture of you wearing a cute shirt and jeans, but revealing enough cleavage. A picture you should not have up on Facebook! If you lack the cleavage, simply wear something low-cut but not too revealing.
I continued with the second month incentives:
On your second month anniversary, send them a picture of you lifting your shirt up to show them your stomach. Make sure to wear pants for this too!
As well as the third:
On the third month, take the shirt off but leave your bra and pants on. This encourages them to stay longer, chat with you, and find out what the next month will give them.
The incentive program that I designed is extremely effective. Although I mentioned that it balances a reward system of commitment,  short-term relationships work as well. These incentives will only drive the person closer and more attached than being the next picture sent to their phone. Ladies, you are worth more than a notification. Any desperate person willing to break the system will lose interest and resistance will be too overwhelming. As the fourth month takes into play, consider your options. You should never feel obligated (especially out of love) to expose yourself to someone who claims to have interest with you. You should not feel entitled to see another person exposed simply for the relationship longevity , friendship, or role in contributions toward the relationship.
When the fourth month comes, take off your pants but leave your shirt on. Then, have some fun with the rest of the year … By the end of the year, (the) two last pictures will be the big New Year’s special.
Now, taking my advice to practice to modern dating, I encouraged women to share intimate pictures of themselves with the most stimulating macro shots of their body. I suggested a nipple shot or side shot of one breast after suggesting thighs and legs. I took everything slow and appreciated every inch of their body. I am still in the process of encouraging those to take it slow and not to reveal too much too soon. As I have mentioned, the mons pubis is an area that will push someone off the edge.
When you send him something from below the waistline, push him off the edge with a picture of your mons pubis. It works like a charm! That is equivalent to him sending you a picture of the coronal ridge. Not quite the full picture, but you will want the rest as well!
 I will make note that I do not encourage this step unless the couple is emotionally, physically, and mentally content with each other. This is one of the suggestions for the last image of the year. As for now, build up to that moment by playing Economics with your sex drive. Check out today’s discussion questions. Feel free to answer them in the comment section below.
  
  • How much exposure at a minimal standard is enough to fully peak and climax?
  • How much are you willing to balance a physical and emotional connection to be aroused?
This has been an intriguing experiment as I have been writing my latest novel, The Sensualist; A Voiceless Young Man’s Struggle for Love. Logan Coeur, an undergraduate at Greyfield University, is granted a wish from a homeless man leaving him speechlessly struggling to find love and self-discovery. As I build the intimate chapters with Logan and Jessica, I am not entirely writing from experience because I have never been successful with everyone. Although everyone contributed differently to the experience, I must reshape the situations as I feel would fit to the circumstances. Logan is mute. He expresses himself through action because he is unable to communicate in American Sign Language (ASL). Logan learns about sensuality over sexuality with many ideas from this blog. The chemistry should never be forced, but embraced as delivered.
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Sensual Sexting Stimulates Longevity Without Overexposure

Reading Between the Lines; Analyzing Conversations in Online Dating

MuffDiver69 sent you a message! “F**k. Why me?” You start to question your sane existence on a dating website. Is it acceptable to judge someone based on their dating profile username, or do we assume that it was just a joke? The username implies a lot of mixed messages. I doubt this guy works at a bakery diving into muffins every morning. Perhaps, his favorite number is sixty-nine because it represents 1969 as the year of the first episode of Scooby-Doo, Where Are You! that appeared on CBS.  Clearly, he must be referring to himself as a dog after all.

The username sets up the first impression with a lot of hesitation and disinterest. The next step is how they start the conversation. Whether you effectively analyzed their dating profile or started browsing through an endless list of fan letters, stay engaged with someone you are truly interested in. You might actually miss something important other than picking up on their account credentials.

In this article, I will focus on conversation analysis. Guys, the clue phone rang plenty of times, and you still have messages! Why not check them? She either wants you to stay or pack your bags. Pick it up! This one is for you! Girls, there are plenty of fish in the sea. Why are you still letting that one swim around at the end of the hook? If you are trying to reel him in and he is not putting any effort into coming closer, stop struggling! Let him swim away. We need to discuss how to analyze conversations through first impressions and word choice. Lastly, we need to start treating life like an hourglass! If the person is not worth a grain of sand, move on before time runs out!

In addition, I am going to discuss conversation methods that guys use with OkCupid. I will be incorporating a social experiment that I personally conducted with my two Catfish dating profiles. Are they thirsty or are they serious? I caught the same guy fishing for both ladies! Did he talk to them differently based on what they provided on their dating profile? Is the education section more intimidating for the guys who sleep around all the time? Is there a greater chance that family oriented guys are looking for someone serious?

When someone sends you a message, you have to keep in mind that not all messages are created with equal intentions. I will categorize the three types of groups on a dating website that most hopeless romantics will discover. These three main areas of concern are Physical Intimacy and/or Emotional Comfort Deficiency, Sexual frustration, and the Disney Believers.

Physical intimacy

Physical Intimacy and/or Emotional Comfort Deficiency

We all crave a physical and/or emotional connection with someone. This deficiency in physical intimacy and emotional comfort can push hopeless romantics over the edge. We tend to satisfy these urges through social networking websites, but sometimes we need more than that. We need to meet people in person to get the actual physical or emotional fix from physical intimacy. The intellectual conversations can only do so much for a strong, emotional connection with someone. The way we approach this desire can come off as desperate or too clingy. I am down to cuddle with anyone through no strings attached snuggling. However, the sensual intentions are constantly surrounded by sexual misconceptions. An instant wall of hesitation creates a temporary access of trust until boundaries are crossed. That is the crucial moment when trust will be much harder to achieve. If two people mutually agree that they will only cuddle with each other, how does one continue to trust the other if they take an advantage of the situation? How will you be certain that they will respect your own morals and values to your own body if they made an attempt to challenge them?

In one of my most explicit road maps to seduction,  I created an article that reveals the sensualist perspective. I focus on a forehead to waistline outline that will only make or break the encounter. I cannot guarantee success because nobody shares the same tolerance of pleasure, however I can guarantee confidence in the bedroom. I can guarantee that you will get your fix if it is solely on a sensual, rather than sexual, experience.

Sexual Frustration

Sexual Frustration

Your magazines appear to be used, flipped, and sticky. Your DVD collection has at least two scratches on each CD. Your computer is running extremely slow with content that eventually grew on you after years of commitment. Your toys ran out of batteries, or your virtual flesh is starting to tear apart. Your blowup doll had enough hot air to warm up an entire winter season. Your hand needs a vacation. You crave the real thing, but you hesitate to pay for an erotic service. If it was given for free, do you even have standards for one-night stands? College students might have this sexually frustrated stereotype, and older individuals might be overwhelmed with a mid-life crisis. This is the group that has a greater impact on social networks. Sex is a physical and emotional desire for some, and an addiction for others. Some people count each other as numbers, others look at the quality of each person. This divide has become the most conflicting issue on dating websites. Anyone with class or respect for themselves will not carry around the easy impression. Regardless how sexually frustrated they are, the least they can do is find someone reasonably respectful and passionate to treat them as a temporary partner.

Disney Believers 

There is still hope that one day a Disney believer’s  fairy tale ending will come around the corner. They will have to kiss many toads, face ugly dragons, obsessive knights, and plenty of jokers throughout their journey for true love. They give dating websites a second chance rather than their only hope. They have plenty of hope that their soul-mate is somewhere in the world. They feel as if their knight and shining armor was never meant to be down the street from them, but they are determined to find them eventually. The only way to expand their search is to look online. They can live without the physical or emotional connection, but the sexually frustrated individuals annoy them. They are classy, spontaneous, and heartfelt. These people stand out from the rest because they come across as patient, optimistic, and determined hopeless romantics. They will not settle for less because they already know they deserve much better than that. Time will tell, believers. Those butterflies should rest until then.

Categorizing First Impressions

The first impression of someone’s message will instantly determine which group describes their overall personality. When you engage in a conversation, the way they express their ideas will provide more clues on their overall self-esteem and identity. This might sound overwhelming to remember, but it should come natural with interpersonal communication. I will provide some examples of how guys approached two of my Catfish OkCupid accounts posing as two girls in their early 20’s living in California.

I portray as a recent UConn graduate with a B.A. in Psychology, minor in French. She is pursuing a Master’s degree in Clinical Psychology in California while volunteering at a health clinic. Nobody ever questioned why she was in Connecticut before she came to California. The other account portrays as a rave girl living in California with no academic aspirations. She makes her own cosplay outfits.  She answers her questions on her dating profile with sexual responses. This allows me to understand if guys take the time to read the responses. Although the sophisticated one is very bubbly and outgoing, she makes a note that she recently left an abusive relationship. In addition, the most private thing to admit is an accidental, embarrassing sext moment when she sexted her best friend. Now, her best guy friend calls her, “Cheeks.”  

The OkCupid Social Experiment 

This is how the OkCupid social experiment played out with each account. I will compare the first message from the same guy with the college graduate and the next will show an example of the first message to the rave girl. Notice the tone and word choice with each account. Think about how education and sexual gratification play into these messages.

An example first message for the college graduate:

“Hey maybe we could chat sometime if you like?”

An example first message from the same guy for the rave girl:

“Hey there cutie maybe we could chat sometime”

Ah, he almost uses a copy and paste method of chatting. The main difference is that he actually made a move on my appearance as the rave chick and not the one with the four year degree. Does that really prove anything? Is it more polite to ask, “if you like,” rather than assume that the other will talk to him sometime? Let’s find out. On the sophisticated side, he asks a basic question to engage in conversation:

Him: Lol I’ll do my best. So how is your day?

College Graduate: It was fun. Just talking to a bunch of weirdos on here. lol

Him: That doesn’t sounds fun lol I would hate that
CG: Yeah, especially the horny ones. Did porn shut down or something? lol

Him: Lol I know what you mean I hear about guys like that a lot on here and I’m like why?

CG: Yeah, they would f**k anything that has a hole. lol

Him: Lmao that sounds about right for most guys on the internet in general 😛

CG: Are you like most guys? 

Him: I don’t think I am but I honestly couldn’t tell you for sure 

CG: Why not? Is there something you’re hiding from me? 
Him: I’m not hiding anything from you I just honestly don’t couldn’t tell you if I’m like most guys because it would be your personal opinion lol
CG: Are you usually engaging in sexual conversations with other women on the Internet? That wouldn’t be a personal opinion. You either do or you don’t … like most guys.

Him: I honestly don’t unless the girl I’m talking to is my gf lol but I haven’t had one in a while lol

How about the rave girl?  
In summary, the chat went like this:
Him: I want you so bad I’ll do anything you like 😉
RG:anything? what are you confident the most about? 😉

Him: Confident about? Thats a good question lol idk honestly I’m not to confident of a person lol

 RG: haha, you’re silly! what could you do for me that you know would please me and make me moan? ^_^

Him: Mmm I could probably play with your nice tits and rub that wet pussy 😉

RG: mmm hey babe, do you know what erogenous zones are?

Him: No what are they?
RG: Aw, that’s a shame. If you did, you could please me really well. 😦
Him: I’m so sorry baby could you tell me what they are? 
Him: I wanna please you as much as I can babe
RG:[sent him a link on erogenous zones] 
The guy never came back to me to verify that he understands the importance of erogenous zones. I was hesitant to give him one of my blog articles, so I sent him a link to askmen.com. He continued the conversation with complimentary language, mentioning how sexy I was. The concept of erogenous zones will give you that warm sexy vibe, but that was not the point. I wish he asked which areas would I enjoy the most. Does it matter? Was he caught up with his own selfish sexual gratification? Does he really care about pleasing me much as he promises? I doubt it. I am not his girlfriend, remember?
The Compatibility Stats 
RG: 8% Match 53% Friend 40% Enemy
CG: 65% Match 46% Friend 20% Enemy
If this guy cared about matches, he is trying his best to make an impression on the educated woman. If he cared about friends (with benefits), he would go after the rave girl. In the long run, he knows the rave girl would not be the ideal match for him for something stable. So, why would he waste his time on her? The emotional attachment might end up with the educated woman, while the physical attachment is with the rave girl. After an hour later, the guy messages the college graduate back.

Him: I hope I didn’t scare you off lol

CG: I am pretty sure you just want a f**k buddy. Sorry I wasted your time.

Him: I never said that :/ I honestly don’t sorry that it seemed like that and sorry that I wasted your time.

Conversational Strategies Most People Do 

1. If the person is a potential ideal match for a serious commitment, they are generally more respectful. It’s common sense.

Example:

Girl: Here’s the guy I’ve been talking to this whole time, mom!

Mom: Aw, how did you two meet? Was it at school? 

The young couple embarrassingly looks at each other, hesitating to respond. The idea of meeting each other online was nothing to be ashamed about, but the initial message that created this inseparable bond.

2. If the person is a potential hook-up, one-night stand, or a fling, meeting family is generally a reserved situation. Complimentary language, pick-up lines, and anything oriented around appearance is an immediate red flag. Guys, if you cared that much to set an impression, why not focus on complimenting her on something that rarely receives praise? These factors are generally academic achievements,  a legitimate profile analysis, and keywords that struck you the most. Just remember my previous blog post about analyzing dating profiles.

3. The tone of voice and word choice in language is very flexible. The college graduate used “lol” at the end of each response until she questioned him on the spot if he was like most guys on the Internet. In comparison, his tone of language is slightly different from the way he communicates with the rave girl. According to the guy, there is no reason to talk dirty to other women on the Internet because he only reserves that behavior with his girlfriend. He mentions that he has not had one in a while. Therefore, in his opinion, he is clear from being like most guys on the Internet. He hears about the behavior of men on the Internet, yet questions it as a hypocrite.

A Side Note

Keep in mind that people have their own word banks for different emotions, reactions, or feelings toward a situation. On the phone, there are different non-verbal cues like giggling and hesitation to speak. Always be on the alert for these things! Now, as far as prolonged foreplay goes, this guy receives an F for F**ck Off! He needs to tackle a few things before going for the end zone with the football. Seriously, do we blame porn for the deterioration of prolonged foreplay? When was it acceptable to assume that it is necessary to skip her facial features? Forget chivalry, what ever happened to sensual forehead kisses? Does he skip around the bases?

Concluding Thoughts

We are all human, we have urges, and we desire to feel physically and emotionally connected with other people. How we approach these conflicting issues in our lives to overcome the overwhelming desire is primarily based on convenience. If there is a local bar or a glowing monitor screen around the corner, we take action. What we need to understand is that we all have primitive instincts on relationships. If someone attracts us, we are intrigued. We initiate contact, engage in communication, and we market ourselves in the dating marketplace. The communication can be both verbal or non-verbal, but the Internet acts as a virtual barrier to change the way we challenge the question as to whether this person is worth a date, several dates, or a possible long-term commitment. The way we engage with each other sets the tone in the conversation. Do they seem interested? Are they writing in paragraphs? Are they caught up with complimentary vocabulary or factual information? Take a note to the response time. If they never mentioned that they were busy, why are they taking longer than expected to reply back if they are interested? Until next time, take action and start questioning! You deserve better than the second option. Thanks for reading!

Let’s Talk!

Questions, comments, concerns? Get argumentative. I write for the sake of engagement. This is what makes an effective blog worth reading. Never take everything, and go with it. Opinions! What sparked your interested? A different guy questioned both women if they had Instagram to verify that he was not being Catfished. Would you do the same? What triggers your gut instinct to say that someone is too good to be true?

Reading Between the Lines; Analyzing Conversations in Online Dating

It’s Not Astrology, It’s Common Sense; Analyzing Dating Profiles for Compatibility

Forever Alone on New Years

It is finally a brand new year! You are still single, employed, and lonely after work. Perhaps, you are still a full time student,  single, and lonely after exams. What if you are in a relationship, regardless if you are married or not, but your partner pays little to no attention to you? That feeling of intimate detachment has mixed emotions in every situation. How do you overcome these feelings? How would you fill the vacancy between your arms?

In this blog article, I am going to pay closer attention to the people who are still searching for love without anyone there. If they cannot meet someone in person in a public setting, how will the Internet effectively guide the hopeless romantic into the right arms? I am going to explain how you can effectively analyze a dating profile with common sense. No prior astrological knowledge is required, or experience in dating. Be confident. Just be yourself. Just use your personal judgement through this How-To-Guide.

Catching a Glimpse of Potential

The local bars might give off the wrong one-night stand impression, and picking up someone near the ice cream freezers at the grocery store might cut into a recent breakup. The local bookstore might be a great idea, but without judging the book before they buy it, does the overall book section accurately define the individual’s personality? The guy is reading a book about studying abroad. That topic might sound adventurous, but that might also be an indicator for a prospective long-distant relationship. He might not even be ready to commit until his flight reaches his foreign destination. Bummer. Assumptions are always flawed and mixed emotions will eventually push individuals out of the comfort zone of meeting someone in a public environment. Ah, ignore the family suggestions or referrals from friends because the support network  is not qualified to play Cupid’s assistant.  The Internet is the last resort for love after all.

In the last five years, I have been analyzing social networking profiles with tolerance for diversity, patience for grammatical errors, and common sense for interpretation. There is a greater incentive to gain respect from someone if the visitor takes their time to read everything. Yes, including the part about disclosing the most private thing to tell the whole world. However, I have noticed that people try too hard in making first impressions. I have written plenty of first impression blog articles in the last year. Those articles should be pushed to the side this year.

Now, take a moment to just remove the obvious steps in making first impressions, such as stating the obvious because you read something.

“So, you like cats.” 

Congratulations, you proved to them that you are literate. I need you to focus on using a common sense analysis for the rest of the year. Guys, this is especially for you! If someone likes cats, think about the difference between a “dog person” and a “cat person.” If someone has both pets, that can be a little conflicting or extremely balanced. It all varies depending on their individual lifestyle. In general, I have a theory for how sensual cat owners compare to dog owners under the sheets. See Feline Foreplay for more details on how to use quality time with your cat to become more seductive with your lover.

Now, try focusing on these subjects of interest:

Personality Traits 

Whether it is big or small, everyone has an ego. It is how we identify ourselves without paying attention to insecurities or pride. Now, personality traits make up this identity. They also transition into our language. The word choices we make to express and convey our feelings will be the fine print of a dating profile.

Academic, Professional, and Social Struggles

“I am in school and I work.” 

Okay, in the context of word choice, that does sound a bit boring. Wait, what if they wrote the following sentence right after:

“Not to toot my own horn here but I’m pretty good at drawing lol”

Now,  you have an idea that they are sophisticated, hardworking, and passionate about the freedom of expression. How? School implies sophistication,  work implies hardworking, and the way they mentioned about drawing instantly conveys the concept of appreciating the freedom of expression. Why would I assume they are passionate about it? Well, they never mentioned that they like drawing. They mentioned that they are pretty good with it.  In general, anyone who is passionate about something will try to make the most of their effort to do well in whatever they do. Therefore, this example displays a few personality traits that were not directly expressed, but common sense highlighted them accordingly.

Try this one: 

“Rolling, Writting music, Fluent in Spanish, Agricultural Science, Making Drinks 😉 Dancing, Poetry, Oil Paints, Cooking”

Hopefully, we can all agree that this individual conveys the image of being an independent, expressive conversationalist, and someone with a spontaneous  energetic attitude that can warm up a kitchen. This person has great taste in productivity, time management, and lives life without a dull moment.

Just think about how we can interpret simplistic words into semantics, or meaning of the overall context.  However, try not to overwhelm the idea that you are ready to settle:

“No one wants to put in 100% and get nothing in return which is what I’ve been doing all this time with females on this website…”

We get it. You are tired of playing games. Maybe it was something you said in the private message? This message on your dating profile conveys the idea that you are desperately searching for someone. Stop. Just breathe. How much time have you invested in this hard labor of finding someone? Take that section out, give yourself a break, and get some fresh air. Then, go back and revise your dating profile. Evaluate yourself over again, but stay away from making it seem as if sending messages over a dating website is a daily chore for you. If you are looking for love and it was meant to be, it will happen over time. Just be patient.

Education 

If you are an undergraduate, whether you chose a major or remain undecided, education will always be mentioned on a dating profile. If you have already graduated, you will make sure the dating world knows you have an expensive piece of paper framed on a wall somewhere in your house. This status means a lot to you because you are doing something with your life. You worked hard for it! This important milestone in your life will make or break the impression that people might interpret from you. You might be intimidating for some, and intellectual hope for others.

Example: 

“I’m going to Eastern Connecticut State University studying child psychology.”

One more for education:

“Human Development and Family Studies major at UConn looking to develop within a Human Resource Department.”

Ah, another Husky!  As a graduate from the University of Connecticut, I can relate to the overall experience of living in Storrs, Connecticut. I can associate my experiences with their own, and we can exchange stories that will make sense because we have that New England collegiate connection. Now, going back to their studies, human development and family studies will open the doors to social work. This will give you an idea of what kind of person you are going to get yourself acquainted with if you pursue anything serious.

Now, let us graduate from this topic. Next, focus on how they feel about working. Their work ethics will generally follow with their education.

Career 

“Manager at a salon.  I love my job and want to open my own business one day.”

There are three types of workers in the world. The basic “stay for pay” employee,  the “gets the job done” worker, and the workaholic. If someone wants to be a manager at a salon, they are commitment driven, flexible, and willing to work hard for what they have in life. If they dream about owning their own business, that shows a lot of responsibility within their character.

Hey, you might even fall in love with someone with a great hairstyle. In return, they can save you a few bucks for yours! If they are passionate about what they do for a living, yet lack expertise in cutting hair in the beginning, embrace the way they spent quality time with you. They could have done something else with their time! Ah, those are hobbies.

Hobbies 

A hobby is a regular activity that pleases the individual. While I was at work, I read an educational poster attached to the classroom wall. “What you DO makes who you ARE!” Well, that might seem obvious, but in this last take on analyzing profiles, you will see why nobody bothers to pay attention to the little details. Stop judging and start appreciating! I am going to skip the obvious section on hobbies, and focus upon the status of who we represent within a community. What is our significant role or membership within that hobby that can either make or break the date?

Roles and Memberships

Instead of focusing on basic hobbies to analyze a person’s background, try taking important roles and memberships into the context. No, not a gym or Zumba membership. That could imply self-esteem, determination, goal-driven attitudes, and other great characteristics. However, not all gym memberships are taken as a New Year’s resolution advantage, especially on days with poor weather conditions. Focus on something that will always be a priority in someone’s life, even if they are not receiving any praise or appreciation in what they do on a daily basis.

Single Parents and the Package Deal in Daitng

Parenting. When you see an indication of being a parent on the prospective love interest’s dating profile, this is going to imply more than you can handle. Yeah, it might be baggage for some, and others are willing to take a load off another’s shoulders. This might be concerning to someone who is not willing to accept an additional person to their life. However, never use this as a detour in finding someone. Forget about the other half of DNA. If you are willing to make a difference in their lives, being the parent and the child, prove to them that you can accept being a second priority in the relationship. Young parents are not all lazy, inconsiderate, and careless. The main goal is to give their child a life that cannot compare to their own. They want to make the best out of the situation, and succeed to prove everyone around them that their first impression was wrong. Society will give out free labels, but they are much stronger than that to see their situation as another product of poor parenting. You do not understand what they went through, but take their hand to move on together.

These individuals will be much stronger, more independent, and reliable than the rest of those who cannot relate to anything close to what they have been through. Guys, when you stumble upon a young mother, the first thing you should ever say to them is, “Give yourself mommy time, you deserve it.”  Those encouraging words are not going to refund time or money, but it shows appreciation in what they have been doing with their lives.  Primarily, this is the reason why they barely have any time to meet someone in person, and ended up on a dating website instead. Take that imitative as a friend, and give them praise for how hardworking they are.

Next time you read a dating profile, the least you could do is scan it for important keywords. When you discover keywords, analyze them. Never take a first impression solely on appearance or the lack of information they provided. The more information they provided, the implication of an open-minded, extroverted individual can pop out of the description. If they are barely throwing themselves out there with details, talk about that insecurity in a respectful manner. Are they afraid to commit? Are they still hurt from the last time they let themselves out in the open? Take these precautions seriously, and take everything they give you as an opportunity. Treat them as a priority, never an option.

Next Time on PrinzeCharming.com: 

In the next blog article, I am going to focus on conversation analysis. Guys, the clue phone rang plenty of times, and you still have messages! Why not check them? She either wants you to stay or pack your bags. Pick it up! This one is for you! Girls, there are plenty of fish in the sea! Why are you still letting that one swim around at the end of the hook? If you are reeling him in, and he is not putting any effort into coming closer, stop struggling! Let him swim away. We need to discuss how to analyze conversations, word choice, and treat life like an hourglass! If the person is not worth a grain of sand, move on before time runs out!

In addition, I am going to discuss actual conversation methods that guys use in general with OkCupid. I will be incorporating a social experiment that I personally conducted with my two Catfish dating profiles. Are they thirsty or are they serious? I caught the same guy fishing for both ladies! Did he talk to them differently based on what they provided on their dating profile? Is the education section more intimidating for the guys who sleep around all the time? Is there a greater chance that family oriented guys are looking for someone serious? Thanks for reading!

It’s Not Astrology, It’s Common Sense; Analyzing Dating Profiles for Compatibility

Lips Are Sealed; Holding Off a Perfect Moment with Bad Breath

What the hell did you eat? Have you ever came close to a disturbing smell lingering out of your date’s mouth? Was your passionate kiss delayed or did you continue to embrace upon a journey of no return? Did you think it could never be that bad, but realized the aftertaste left you sick? My lips were always sealed, escaping from another unforgettable love story,  but we know William Shakespeare’s Juliet was unbelievably in love with Romeo that she kissed poison off the lips of her dead man’s corpse. Although the dagger was more potent in this situation, what if you came close to toxic lips that Britney Spears seems to enjoy? Those lips gave her a ride and a “poison paradise”. I highly doubt bad breath kisses will cause an addiction. If they do, please send me or yourself to Desperate Kissing Anonymous.

If you chose taste in my senses challenge, the problem will still linger throughout the evening. The problem will be entirely different from the smell of burnt cookies in a lover’s kitchen with the Lover’s Christmas List. Maybe you woke up to this problem after engaging in no strings attached snuggling? What if you engaged in hot passionate sensualist foreplay? What do you do in these situations without hurting your date or partner? I will explain my perspective and experiences on this, and hopefully you can understand my motives. After you read this blog post, I hope the holiday season can still bring you intimate kisses under the mistletoe without leaving an aftertaste of obligation.

One of his hands finds a spot on the side of her face, the other sends the fingers out to roam aimlessly through her hair. A seductive exchange of eyes and grins entices the couple to embrace their lips. A delicate forehead kiss starts the fun, cheeks are anxiously awaiting for their turn. The nose awaits its turn too and Eskimo kisses are always fun to do. The perfect transition is down to their lips, but hindered confidence pushes aside this intimate idea. The pores of his masculine face shed tears of garlic from the romantic candlelit Italian dinner an hour ago. The feeling of dishonesty, betrayal and obligation may leave them thinking, “What’s next? Maybe we should have bought the Tiramisu for dessert instead.”

You saved each other for dessert? Yeah, I would do the same. I would never have to worry about gaining calories, rather enjoyably shedding them off. Now, what happens next? Do you change the topic and ask the waiter to bring out the dessert menu? Do you go back home and face the awkward blow of Italy’s most potent dish in the restaurant? Regardless if you chose the first option to sweeten up their lips, maybe the smell of Tiramisu and garlic will really throw you over the edge. Garlic cappuccino, anyone? Mama mia!  The two love birds will eventually have to leave, unless you are staying the night. Be sure to brush your teeth before hitting the sack. The departure will be an exchange of prolonged hugs and good-bye’s. Possibly his wandering hands fill your back pockets and your noses occupy with each other awaiting for the signal to shift further down. To exchange a goodnight kiss or not to exchange a goodnight kiss – that is the question I will answer. I will give you some suggestions on how to end a night out with a perfect alternative of battling your partner’s bad breath. If you have any other suggestions, please feel free to send them in the comments below.

Location, location, location! 

Yes, we are marketing our lips as temporary hotel stays. We want the best location for the most passionate embrace. What if the location was ideal for a quickie before stepping into the door where your parents lurk around for your arrival? Location is essentially important for any public display of affection. I will briefly go over the most commonly used places for a good-night kiss. Then, we can decide what to do after that destination is discovered.  If you have a special place where you enjoy the lips of your partner or casual dates, let me know under the comment section below.

The Restaurant 

Well, it has to start somewhere! I am trying to convey the message here that it is perfectly fine to kiss someone at a restaurant! However, it is not fine when they have bad breath. How do we avoid being intimate with a lingering enemy taking over your attractive date’s lips? We let them win, but we play back harder. It is perfectly fine if you never kissed on the first date, most people feel the same way. What if you went out for a night with your girlfriend/boyfriend or spouse? I am sure they will love these alternative approaches to restaurant etiquette. I will explain three of my favorite alternatives to being playfully passionate and assertive.

The Restaurant: Footsie

Ah, yes, a very discreet way of expressing your playful submissive side without exchanging lips. Try it sometime! This is not necessarily limited to the restaurant setting. You can also do this at home at the kitchen table, on the couch or in bed.

Communication is essentially important, especially non-verbal communication. If your partner is receptive, this is a win-win. If they are too oblivious or uncomfortable, at least you tried. In the bedroom, toes can be used like fingers. Be soft, gentle and playfully outgoing. Practice and find a perfect technique that you are comfortable doing outside the bedroom. Always remember to maintain restaurant etiquette. Make sure you showered before your socks slip off, and look around to see if anyone would notice. In advanced, request for a booth, unless you are an exhibitionist for public attention.

Holding hands under the table.

The Restaurant: Hold Hands

Can it really be that simple? Yes! You can do this anywhere you want and most people will actually approve. You might make other couples jealous. Do this before and after your meals, or even during your meal! Caress their fingers, massage their wrists. I am not asking for much here. This is casual, but very effective. Think of this as an under the counter addiction. Communicate them with words and actions. Talk is extremely cheap, and this speaks everything you could never explain. If you are a professional hand holder, you may sway them to forget about the kiss or possibly entice it. Whether or not they understand that you declined the kiss, they will be more than happy to hold your hand until the check comes.

The Restaurant: Breath check, please?

Let’s face it – you are not confident enough to kiss them in public, especially with a lingering Italian garlic monster. That is completely fine. The dinner towelette is an idealistic  suggestion thrown on the table. Ask for two mints, and head out the door. Maybe the mint and the fresh air will help the problem by the time you arrive home. Next time, go out for ice cream or hot chocolate at a local diner after a movie date. Keep the garlic possibilities aside.

The Bedroom: Good Mourning!

Rise and shi .. SHIT! Morning breath is not a fun battle every morning. I have no problem with it, but I did experience a no strings attached snuggle with someone who did.  They thought it was extremely bad, however my personal rating was below the worst one I have ever experienced. Although  a “good mourning” is an oxymoron, nobody wants to mourn over any morning unless it’s Monday!

The Bedroom: Foreplay? No, more like foul play! 

The romantic dinner at the Italian restaurant was priceless, even if you skipped satisfying your sweet tooth for dessert. You are both sprawled out in bed, looking up at the ceiling, and wondering, “What’s next?” Do you tuck each other in for bed or take up on the rain check for dessert now? Did the breath mint help resolve the problem or did it make it any worse than before? Regardless whether you woke up to this morning surprise or brought it home with you as an Italian dinner souvenir, you have to learn how to work around it.

The Bedroom: Embracing the Sensualist Approach

Learn how to seduce them without kissing them right away. I cannot emphasize this enough. Everyone seems to pucker up without hesitation. Learn how to balance out the playful and submissive side. First, check out my other article on The Art of Seduction; Revealing the Sensualist PerspectiveTake some mental notes, and come back. It will save me a lot of time rewriting those ideas. The core message that I want you take from that article is how to avoid kissing their lips right away, and how you can do this in a sexy, confident manner.

The Movie Theater

Aw, a romantic Italian dinner and a movie? Wait,  we all know you aren’t really watching this movie! Could have fooled me! Do chick flicks make you think, “I could kiss better than that! Watch!” Well, hopefully garlic glazed popcorn isn’t served in this theater! Does it still smell or maybe the bad breath was before the movie date? Do you feel obligated to look as cute as this couple on the left? You might want to try that pose, but it might do more harm than teasing them instead. Try these alternative approaches during the boring scenes!

The Movie Theater: Hold Hands

I’m sorry but this is when I repeat myself from earlier:

Can it really be that simple? Yes! You can do this anywhere you want and most people will actually approve. You might make other couples jealous.

No, honestly, you paid good money for those seats! Enjoy the movie, even if you end up looking anticipated to make your moves.  Now, one last time I repeat why you should embrace those fingers together:

Caress their fingers, massage their wrists. I am not asking for much here. This is casual, but very effective.

Honestly, let those hands wander aimlessly around. Guys, massage her arms. Girls, play with his arm hairs. If you really want the exhibitionist way of doing things, sit in the back with the wall behind you. As long as it is consensual fun, enjoy yourselves. It is extremely difficult when you try your best not to kiss them, but kiss them somewhere else. Try for their neck! As long as you set your morals straight, you will never have to worry about traumatizing a little boy’s movie theater experience.

Home Sweet Home

Whether you had a romantic Italian dinner, a movie, or possibly both, the date was a success. Now, it is time to leave your own ways until the next time your eyes meet once again. If you’re married or living with them, just follow the bedroom section. Now, do you exchange your kisses here at the front door, or do you embrace the hugs? Are your parents watching outside the windows or your siblings are running outside to make front row seats in the nearby bushes? Just remember the article I suggested earlier. It might be too explicit for you, but the core message is communication. Understand what their body language suggests and learn how to work around it. Does it look like they want to kiss you? Maybe they need more time to re-evaluate the date? Maybe they already know they have bad breath from a self-check in the restaurant or movie theater bathroom? Learn how to playfully change the mood about kissing them. An easier way to remember this is to take the ‘u’ in “fun” and turn it the other way around to make it a ‘c’. Now, you have FCN which stands for, “Forehead, Cheek, and Nose.” Give them forehead kisses, two cheek kisses, and then some Eskimo kisses. Unless the breath is that bad, stay away from the Eskimo kisses for a while. Never let the bad breath garlic monsters hinder your romantic experiences!

Have you ever experienced bad breath on a date? How did you work things out? Do you have any suggestions? Leave the comments below!  

Lips Are Sealed; Holding Off a Perfect Moment with Bad Breath

No Strings Attached Snuggling; The Trending Sensual Intentions Surrounded by Sexual Misconceptions

You are most likely a hopeless romantic following my blog for an instant emotional and intellectual connection within yourself. My recent blog posts may have helped you release your daily stress from work, school or taking care of children. Possibly, you could have all three of those emotional burdens hindering some time alone for yourself. You may argue that you do manage your time wisely to schedule personal time alone from reality, however it is only limited to meals, showers and sleep. It is unfortunate that my presence is absent to fulfill your innermost desire for physical touch and the embrace of two bodies with legs intertwined by engaging in no strings attached snuggling. There is a guarantee that you can find someone else who will make you completely comfortable with that taboo concept of snuggling with strangers.  You may decline to take part in the latest trend to market your snuggling skills as a professional cuddler, like the woman in New York who owns The Snuggery, but there are people willing to snuggle free of charge.

Jacqueline, the founder of The Snuggery, has a chart provided on her website that discloses the rates and services. You can have a complete hour with her for only a dollar a minute. If you choose 45 minutes, you lose $5 for jumping off the bed too soon. Do you have a ménage à trois preference? You can double the cuddle ratio for twice as much for another professional cuddler to join you. Honestly, two people can save $180 to cuddle with me for more than 180 minutes. Yes, this is a personal advertisement, please ask for applications in the comment section below. I will also mention that age is just a number because snuggling is not sexual, it is sensual.

The concept of no strings attached snuggling has stirred up some controversial questioning on the sensual vs. sexual debate. My primary focus is to step into the cold shower from the last three posts that I have written and focus on the sexual misconceptions of no strings attached snuggling. I will also be laying out the differences between sensual play vs. sexual play to help refine those questionable areas. I define play as participating in an active role in having consensual fun

First, let us step away from imagining the vulnerable dependency with our five traditional senses in the bedroom. Secondly, let us put aside the Lover’s Christmas List which perfectly transitioned into the most explicitly written post. We can go back to the seductive sensualist approach later. I hope all of those posts relaxed you to reconnect with your comfort zone and allow you to sleep well for the night you read them.

What is no strings attached snuggling? How is it different engaging in sex with no strings attached? How do you lay out the rules and restrictions for no strings attached snuggling? How can you say that snuggling does not lead to sex, while many others arguably say that spooning does?  How will I ever be sure to find someone who will respect me and my decision to only subject myself to platonic snuggling? Should I let them caress my shoulders or arms? Should we hold hands and occasionally massage each other’s wrists and fingers? What happens when the person takes an advantage of me? Do I slap them? These are only a few of the questions that arise around this trending sensation. I will try my best to answer all the ones I mentioned and hopefully clear up the sexual misconceptions surrounded by this sensual activity.

According to UrbanDictionary.com, no strings attached snuggling is accurately defined:

“Snuggling or sleeping together with no real intention of having any intimate time. Can turn sexual by accident but generally just a platonic relationship for the mutal [sic] benifit [sic] of enjoying sleep while being close to someone. More common in winter, where single men and women attempt to keep warm. Sometimes wrongly interpreted as Friends with benifits [sic].  No strings attached snuggling wether  [sic] platonic or not generally has no after-sleep awkwardness or strings.

Although snuggling does not necessarily mean sleeping, it does lead into being relaxed and comfortable with each other which may result to falling asleep in each other’s arms. If you cannot fall asleep, but simply embrace this temporary physical bond that you two have created, you might be stuck in a place where you are wide awake in the early morning right before your parents wake up for their caffeine fix. Hopefully they can accept your “sleep over” by avoiding the twenty questions of whether or not seeing you sleeping next to someone else was just as they perceived it, especially in your bed. If you are a male in your twenties, questioning protection will definitely be top priority. If you are a young woman, this great idea for a sleep over was not the best decision after all. If you are much older, out on your own, there really isn’t much to worry about other than waking up to the weekend with someone physically appealing. Go back to bed and let them stay where they are.

Now, intimacy is a different path to understand. If you have snuggled with your best friend for a while, you cannot say that you have no intimacy within that relationship. Intimacy requires a closer relationship with the person by effectively understanding them better through warmth and affection. As an experienced person with no strings attached snuggling, I have a tendency to show warmth and affection regardless if I barely know them. I do it under the consensual conditions that we are both relaxed, comfortable and willing to exchange little perks of affection to help relieve stress and entice the release of hormones throughout the body, like serotonin. The feeling of physical and emotional compatibility will generally offer more affection to those who fit my qualifications. If I go out of my way to become more affectionate, understand that I have feelings for you. This is only common when I have a strong attraction for you earlier in stages of our relationship, or a gradual acceptance over a few months of spending time together. Everyone has different perceptions on intimacy, however it is entirely up to them to talk about what they can and will not accept when you snuggle together. Discuss this with them and find out all the restrictions. Maybe they will allow forehead kisses, Eskimo kisses, cheek kisses, butterfly kisses, and chin kisses. Communication cannot be emphasized enough – just talk to them.

According to the Snuggery’s Policies and FAQ, there is a mandatory first meeting time before you experience snuggling with Jacqueline to discuss these same policies and make sure the clients are comfortable in pursuing your intentions for no strings attached snuggling. She does reassure you that  “although sexual activity is not permitted,” she mentions that arousal is “perfectly normal and should not make anyone feel uncomfortable.” The exchange of communication is also mentioned, and should only be up your personal preference whether you wish to talk during your session or not. Yes, everyone has their own personal preferences for everything they do, especially when they subject themselves to something physically and emotionally mutual. However, we must control ourselves with platonic intentions, unless you wish to pursue the sensual intentions mentioned earlier. I would recommend it if you are completely aware of the situation and how you both will move on from this experience without being emotionally hurt. Discuss the circumstances and the “what-if” scenarios. If you knew that you would crave more of their sensual touch after that night, leaving you left with unrequited love or the lack of a mutual exchange, you will definitely feel left out. Be extra careful with your feelings on this one. I will also emphasize that you should never do something or say something that you know will cause a significant impact on their emotions and feelings. This is not a moment to lead anyone on. That is the least of their concerns. Although it might sound ideal to just embrace  sleeping with someone with no other intentions, people will seek more options to explore. Discuss this with either the person you barely know or your lover for that cuddle session. Your boyfriend or girlfriend may take an advantage, but that does not necessarily mean it is right. Let them know. This also goes with marital concerns. Please understand the controversial topic of  marital rape. It is a matter of self-control and being assertive. Lay out the barriers, respect each other’s requests, and do not attempt to alter any decisions. If you have animals, why would you decline their offers? We all know you are comfortable about this one! Just take it and appreciate it! Your bundle of fur will hold a grudge if you ignore them. I suppose that also goes to everyone else.

How can you say that snuggling does not lead to sex? Communication.  Draw the fine lines between sexual and sensual. Kissing does not necessarily have to lead to sex either. Chocolate covered strawberries are also blamed for enticing something sexual to occur. Is it your boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse? Just communicate. Tell them to cool it down and accept it as it is. Is it a summer fling, no strings attached night out on the couch, or someone temporary? You may barely know each other, but be open about this now. Lay out your expectations! Yes, if you spoon with someone, it may cause some arousal. Embrace it as a product of your emotions. Never use it to your advantage. Discuss and convey everything about yourselves. Why would you even bother to ignore important information like that?

How will I ever be sure to find someone who will respect me and my decision? 

Communication. I cannot emphasize enough on exchanging ideas and concerns with each other.

Should I allow caressing? 

If there is a consensual decision to allow caressing shoulders and arms, let it happen. The feelings will be greatly enhance during your physical embrace. If you are willing to hold each other’s hands, occasionally massaging their wrists and fingers, discuss this with them. Honestly, if you are not looking forward to feeling the extra perks of snuggling with someone, grab a pillow!

Lastly, when is the caressing too much? How do I let them know that I am uncomfortable?

Everyone has boundaries and expectations. Do not cross over the boundaries by violating the expectations. You should have laid out the rules and expectations before you decided to snuggle with each other. Guys, your sexual arousal is completely natural. Do not assume to share the latest news that recently popped up – literally. Ladies,  your sexual arousal is completely natural. Do not assume it is completely fine to entice the moment by slowly grinding against him. You are officially a tease. Most guys would love to feel that tease, but others may take it the wrong way. If they take an advantage of you by allowing their hands to wander, stop them. That simple. If you are in relationship with them, never feel obligated that you should continue. Yes, although they might enjoy it, just slap them.

Snuggling is a sensual act of two bodies pressed closed together. You want to feel their warmth through the exchange of body heat. You crave that security blanket of physical and emotional sensation of being with someone. Try it out with everyone you feel comfortable inviting into your personal space. I am always interested in rekindling high school crushes or finding someone brand new to share these warm urges during the holiday season. We are all mammals craving for that sensational feeling of physical touch. Embrace the opportunity, improve the experience. Friends will refer to what you are doing as “friends with benefits” while you can reassure to them that they are friends with explorative opportunities. Although I will not dive into the concept around friends with benefits, I will briefly explain sensual play vs. sexual play. I define play as participating in an active role in having consensual funSensual play can lead into foreplay, but it is not necessarily mandatory for this moment. A sensualist craves stimulating their senses, while sexual play has overwhelmingly taken over everyone’s mind to assume that sensual is sexual. The appreciation for the act of snuggling can push aside the idea that being sexual is a catalytic spark that can suddenly deteriorate relationships.  When someone finally realizes that there is so much more to a relationship than being in the bedroom, communication improves the growth and development of everything established.

A Mini How-To Guide on Snuggling Improvement 

How do I improve snuggling? Well, simply embrace the S.N.U.G. 

Socialize. Pillow talk without the post-sexual feeling.

Negotiate. Ask for more time, ask for a closer position, and talk about places outside the house for snuggling.

Understand. Just stop, and admire. Understand what their body is telling you. Watch non-verbal cues through their eyes and facial expressions.

Gather. Take all the mental notes you can. Never assume that you know everything. Knowledge is power, especially when you notice the smallest details and then bring them up in the next conversation. They will be very surprised that you bothered to pay close attention. That shows a sign of being a priority over being an option.

No Strings Attached Snuggling; The Trending Sensual Intentions Surrounded by Sexual Misconceptions

No Strings Attached Snuggling; The Trending Sensual Intentions Surrounded by Sexual Misconceptions

You are most likely a hopeless romantic following my blog for an instant emotional and intellectual connection within yourself. My recent blog posts may have helped you release your daily stress from work, school or taking care of children. Possibly, you could have all three of those emotional burdens hindering some time alone for yourself. You may argue that you do manage your time wisely to schedule personal time alone from reality, however it is only limited to meals, showers and sleep. It is unfortunate that my presence is absent to fulfill your innermost desire for physical touch and the embrace of two bodies with legs intertwined by engaging in no strings attached snuggling. There is a guarantee that you can find someone else who will make you completely comfortable with that taboo concept of snuggling with strangers.  You may decline to take part in the latest trend to market your snuggling skills as a professional cuddler, like the woman in New York who owns The Snuggery, but there are people willing to snuggle free of charge.

Jacqueline, the founder of The Snuggery, has a chart provided on her website that discloses the rates and services. You can have a complete hour with her for only a dollar a minute. If you choose 45 minutes, you lose $5 for jumping off the bed too soon. Do you have a ménage à trois preference? You can double the cuddle ratio for twice as much for another professional cuddler to join you. Honestly, two people can save $180 to cuddle with me for more than 180 minutes. Yes, this is a personal advertisement, please ask for applications in the comment section below. I will also mention that age is just a number because snuggling is not sexual, it is sensual.

The concept of no strings attached snuggling has stirred up some controversial questioning on the sensual vs. sexual debate. My primary focus is to step into the cold shower from the last three posts that I have written and focus on the sexual misconceptions of no strings attached snuggling. I will also be laying out the differences between sensual play vs. sexual play to help refine those questionable areas. I define play as participating in an active role in having consensual fun

First, let us step away from imagining the vulnerable dependency with our five traditional senses in the bedroom. Secondly, let us put aside the Lover’s Christmas List which perfectly transitioned into the most explicitly written post. We can go back to the seductive sensualist approach later. I hope all of those posts relaxed you to reconnect with your comfort zone and allow you to sleep well for the night you read them.

What is no strings attached snuggling? How is it different engaging in sex with no strings attached? How do you lay out the rules and restrictions for no strings attached snuggling? How can you say that snuggling does not lead to sex, while many others arguably say that spooning does?  How will I ever be sure to find someone who will respect me and my decision to only subject myself to platonic snuggling? Should I let them caress my shoulders or arms? Should we hold hands and occasionally massage each other’s wrists and fingers? What happens when the person takes an advantage of me? Do I slap them? These are only a few of the questions that arise around this trending sensation. I will try my best to answer all the ones I mentioned and hopefully clear up the sexual misconceptions surrounded by this sensual activity.

According to UrbanDictionary.com, no strings attached snuggling is accurately defined:

Snuggling or sleeping together with no real intention of having any intimate time. Can turn sexual by accident but generally just a platonic relationship for the mutal [sic] benifit [sic] of enjoying sleep while being close to someone. More common in winter, where single men and women attempt to keep warm. Sometimes wrongly interpreted as Friends with benifits [sic].  No strings attached snuggling wether  [sic] platonic or not generally has no after-sleep awkwardness or strings.

Although snuggling does not necessarily mean sleeping, it does lead into being relaxed and comfortable with each other which may result to falling asleep in each other’s arms. If you cannot fall asleep, but simply embrace this temporary physical bond that you two have created, you might be stuck in a place where you are wide awake in the early morning right before your parents wake up for their caffeine fix. Hopefully they can accept your “sleep over” by avoiding the twenty questions of whether or not seeing you sleeping next to someone else was just as they perceived it, especially in your bed. If you are a male in your twenties, questioning protection will definitely be top priority. If you are a young woman, this great idea for a sleep over was not the best decision after all. If you are much older, out on your own, there really isn’t much to worry about other than waking up to the weekend with someone physically appealing. Go back to bed and let them stay where they are.

Now, intimacy is a different path to understand. If you have snuggled with your best friend for a while, you cannot say that you have no intimacy within that relationship. Intimacy requires a closer relationship with the person by effectively understanding them better through warmth and affection. As an experienced person with no strings attached snuggling, I have a tendency to show warmth and affection regardless if I barely know them. I do it under the consensual conditions that we are both relaxed, comfortable and willing to exchange little perks of affection to help relieve stress and entice the release of hormones throughout the body, like serotonin. The feeling of physical and emotional compatibility will generally offer more affection to those who fit my qualifications. If I go out of my way to become more affectionate, understand that I have feelings for you. This is only common when I have a strong attraction for you earlier in stages of our relationship, or a gradual acceptance over a few months of spending time together. Everyone has different perceptions on intimacy, however it is entirely up to them to talk about what they can and will not accept when you snuggle together. Discuss this with them and find out all the restrictions. Maybe they will allow forehead kisses, Eskimo kisses, cheek kisses, butterfly kisses, and chin kisses. Communication cannot be emphasized enough – just talk to them.

According to the Snuggery’s Policies and FAQ, there is a mandatory first meeting time before you experience snuggling with Jacqueline to discuss these same policies and make sure the clients are comfortable in pursuing your intentions for no strings attached snuggling. She does reassure you that  “although sexual activity is not permitted,” she mentions that arousal is “perfectly normal and should not make anyone feel uncomfortable.” The exchange of communication is also mentioned, and should only be up your personal preference whether you wish to talk during your session or not. Yes, everyone has their own personal preferences for everything they do, especially when they subject themselves to something physically and emotionally mutual. However, we must control ourselves with platonic intentions, unless you wish to pursue the sensual intentions mentioned earlier. I would recommend it if you are completely aware of the situation and how you both will move on from this experience without being emotionally hurt. Discuss the circumstances and the “what-if” scenarios. If you knew that you would crave more of their sensual touch after that night, leaving you left with unrequited love or the lack of a mutual exchange, you will definitely feel left out. Be extra careful with your feelings on this one. I will also emphasize that you should never do something or say something that you know will cause a significant impact on their emotions and feelings. This is not a moment to lead anyone on. That is the least of their concerns. Although it might sound ideal to just embrace  sleeping with someone with no other intentions, people will seek more options to explore. Discuss this with either the person you barely know or your lover for that cuddle session. Your boyfriend or girlfriend may take an advantage, but that does not necessarily mean it is right. Let them know. This also goes with marital concerns. Please understand the controversial topic of  marital rape. It is a matter of self-control and being assertive. Lay out the barriers, respect each other’s requests, and do not attempt to alter any decisions. If you have animals, why would you decline their offers? We all know you are comfortable about this one! Just take it and appreciate it! Your bundle of fur will hold a grudge if you ignore them. I suppose that also goes to everyone else.

How can you say that snuggling does not lead to sex? Communication.  Draw the fine lines between sexual and sensual. Kissing does not necessarily have to lead to sex either. Chocolate covered strawberries are also blamed for enticing something sexual to occur. Is it your boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse? Just communicate. Tell them to cool it down and accept it as it is. Is it a summer fling, no strings attached night out on the couch, or someone temporary? You may barely know each other, but be open about this now. Lay out your expectations! Yes, if you spoon with someone, it may cause some arousal. Embrace it as a product of your emotions. Never use it to your advantage. Discuss and convey everything about yourselves. Why would you even bother to ignore important information like that?

How will I ever be sure to find someone who will respect me and my decision? 

Communication. I cannot emphasize enough on exchanging ideas and concerns with each other.

Should I allow caressing? 

If there is a consensual decision to allow caressing shoulders and arms, let it happen. The feelings will be greatly enhance during your physical embrace. If you are willing to hold each other’s hands, occasionally massaging their wrists and fingers, discuss this with them. Honestly, if you are not looking forward to feeling the extra perks of snuggling with someone, grab a pillow!

Lastly, when is the caressing too much? How do I let them know that I am uncomfortable?

Everyone has boundaries and expectations. Do not cross over the boundaries by violating the expectations. You should have laid out the rules and expectations before you decided to snuggle with each other. Guys, your sexual arousal is completely natural. Do not assume to share the latest news that recently popped up – literally. Ladies,  your sexual arousal is completely natural. Do not assume it is completely fine to entice the moment by slowly grinding against him. You are officially a tease. Most guys would love to feel that tease, but others may take it the wrong way. If they take an advantage of you by allowing their hands to wander, stop them. That simple. If you are in relationship with them, never feel obligated that you should continue. Yes, although they might enjoy it, just slap them.

Snuggling is a sensual act of two bodies pressed closed together. You want to feel their warmth through the exchange of body heat. You crave that security blanket of physical and emotional sensation of being with someone. Try it out with everyone you feel comfortable inviting into your personal space. I am always interested in rekindling high school crushes or finding someone brand new to share these warm urges during the holiday season. We are all mammals craving for that sensational feeling of physical touch. Embrace the opportunity, improve the experience. Friends will refer to what you are doing as “friends with benefits” while you can reassure to them that they are friends with explorative opportunities. Although I will not dive into the concept around friends with benefits, I will briefly explain sensual play vs. sexual play. I define play as participating in an active role in having consensual funSensual play can lead into foreplay, but it is not necessarily mandatory for this moment. A sensualist craves stimulating their senses, while sexual play has overwhelmingly taken over everyone’s mind to assume that sensual is sexual. The appreciation for the act of snuggling can push aside the idea that being sexual is a catalytic spark that can suddenly deteriorate relationships.  When someone finally realizes that there is so much more to a relationship than being in the bedroom, communication improves the growth and development of everything established.


A Mini How-To Guide on Snuggling Improvement 

How do I improve snuggling? Well, simply embrace the S.N.U.G. 

Socialize. Pillow talk without the post-sexual feeling.

Negotiate. Ask for more time, ask for a closer position, and talk about places outside the house for snuggling.

Understand. Just stop, and admire. Understand what their body is telling you. Watch non-verbal cues through their eyes and facial expressions.

Gather. Take all the mental notes you can. Never assume that you know everything. Knowledge is power, especially when you notice the smallest details and then bring them up in the next conversation. They will be very surprised that you bothered to pay close attention. That shows a sign of being a priority over being an option.

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No Strings Attached Snuggling; The Trending Sensual Intentions Surrounded by Sexual Misconceptions

L.O.V.E

Good evening, everyone! 

I have to tell you about my next How-To guide for explorative writing! If you still need to review the first one, please visit that page soon! My latest writing technique is called, “L.O.V.E” for a vast array of reasons. First, let’s define it.

Listen.

Organize.

Value.

Express.

Not sure when? Well, let me make this loud and clear. START LISTENING! No, really, listen to your heart before you write. Your mind is too busy trying to figure out how to express your feelings when you have yet to organize them. Yes, please organize your feelings and thoughts into categories. Write them down. Everything should be in front of you. Don’t bother to filter out anything. Just express rather impress. They are all your feelings, who is there to judge?  Let me provide you an example:

So, what if you wrote or typed the following words in two minutes: 

him, eyes, lips, touch, face, tender, passionate, lust, fear, hope, seduction, romance, butterflies, tonight, last night, yesterday, tomorrow, dreams, kisses, candles, strawberries, rose petals …

Well, that’s a lot on your mind, right? 

Start off with subjects, like people.

him, eyes, lips, touch, face, tender, passionate, lust, fear, hope, seduction, romance, butterflies, tonight, last night, yesterday, tomorrow, dreams, kisses, candles, strawberries, rose petals …

Ah, found Mr. Right! Oh, well, fingers crossed! Now, why does this guy leave such an impact on your mind?

him, eyes, lips, touch, face, tender, passionate, lust, fear, hope, seduction, romance, butterflies, tonight, last night, yesterday, tomorrow, dreams, kisses, candles, strawberries, rose petals …

Well, I can see why! You are physically attracted to him! What else? 

him, eyes, lips, touch, face, tender, passionate, lust, fear, hope, seduction, romance, butterflies, tonight, last night, yesterday, tomorrow, dreams, kisses, candles, strawberries, rose petals …

Oh, is he a sensualist? Perhaps, you want him to be a sensualist with you. You might be craving his passionate touch and tender affection for the most rewarding kisses. That is quite a seductive trait! Oh, candle lit atmosphere in a bed of rose petals? As you are blindfolded, strawberries softly glide across your lips. You can smell the sensational fruit right under your nose! What? You want him to feed you? Nice, very warm ideas. Now, what if you dream about him, or desire to be with him as yours? Not feeling a mutual connection? Don’t let your feelings disappear! Write them out! Regardless how he feels, your feelings will help you understand yourself better!

One last time evaluating: 

him, eyes, lips, touch, face, tender, passionate, lust, fear, hope, seduction, romance, butterflies, tonight, last night, yesterday, tomorrow, dreams, kisses, candles, strawberries, rose petals …

Is this a summer fling? A one night stand? A sexual fantasy with a classmate or co-worker? Lust can be quite a challenging deprivation without a sense of control and moderation. Do you fear that this is not going to be a mutual relationship? Do you fall too easily? Does unrequited love look closer than anticipated? Is there a time restraint? Is distance hindering your relationship with the man of your dreams?

Phew, that was a lot to take in! 

So, maybe you have an active imagination, or a passionately deprived imagination? Well, no worries. Embrace it! Tell that man to come closer and take a wild advantage of him. Make him realize you are available for him and only him. This is when you value your thoughts.

How much can you write from all of that? Is it all worth writing about? Well, it is not a crime to write everything out but you want to engage your audience in what matters the most. Value your ideas and prioritize the ones that can really reshape a poetic piece.

Now, ladies, your time has come.

Express how much you took L.O.V.E seriously.

Here’s an example: 

A red carpet entrance of rose petals leading to the bedroom persuades the mind, intrigues the heart, and mesmerizes the eyes. Perfection awaits on a white canvas sprawled out on the bed. The vulnerably exposed man is blindfolded by sugarcoated intentions for a starving artist deprived of sensual encounters. Whisper softly in his ears, “Baby, fear that I am here for only tonight, but hope that your butterflies can handle tomorrow’s hangover of yesterday’s fantasies.” Drunk from tender lips, high as a kite with no strings attached, and hungover by a bottle of lust. The tip of your tongue is ready to explore like a paintbrush, and paint an extraordinarily breathtaking picture to convey your hopeless romantic side; from forehead kisses to waistline teases.

Wow, time for a hot shower! Please leave feedback.

Continue writing! 

Write with your heart, spell check with your mind

L.O.V.E