What’s Up? Nothing Yet, Winky Face; Sexting 101

Life is a rewarding apparatus that provides countless obstacles, challenges, limitations, and opportunities to face. These situations are identified through a vast array of social, political, and economic influences. Work schedules can be tedious, tight, and overwhelming to plan anything exciting after work. If someone is tossing two jobs around, a personal note of appreciation goes to this workforce for their balancing act of eating healthy, maintaining work efficiency, and sleeping enough between and after their shifts. These productive individuals provide more tax paying power to our state and our country. Thank you for your support! Education can overwhelm the undergraduate, family influences can overwhelm anyone involved, and parenthood – let’s just move on. Although I am not a parent, from what I know, I was hired for my second job at a local grocery store down the street from my first job almost four months ago. I am still really stoked over this, and I am looking forward to staying productive with my time. Blogging has been pushed aside, but I am slowly coming back. I will try my best to blog at least twice a month when I get the chance. I wanted to submit an article by Valentine’s Day after reviewing all of the search keywords most people use to find my blog since January. I am intrigued to share search terms from several months ago to give you an idea of how people find my blog. A productive lifestyle filled with work and family has yet to hinder the free time people use to surf the Internet for dating and relationship advice. The following are search terms used via popular search engines to come across (no pun intended) this blog. Please note that these terms are also used to find pictures over the Internet. The first most commonly used term with 88 views will direct anyone to a picture of a young couple used for my blog article, “Romantic Résumé; Marketing Yourself for Love in 2013.” 

Search Engine List

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Wait, I am sorry. What was that? Porn air fresheners? What does porn even smell like? Wait, before anyone decides to smell any of their sexual paraphernalia, the biting theme seems to dominate the search list. I may consider this idea as another blog entry. I might approach this topic as a survey rather than from experience.  As for now, I will move on to say that sex is animalistic behavior. The animals involved will either care about enhancing their love making or take an advantage of the situation as a typical dominant role in the animal kingdom. Based on the search results, people use their free time on the Internet to search for sensual and sexual enhancement with their partners. Sexting is still appearing as a common theme among the search results. It is also appearing more widely across the news involving older men and young women using social media outlets, such as Kik. I provided links to the search results that directly connect to my previous blog posts. You may check them out at any time by clicking the hyperlink provided.

In this next social experiment, fifty men have settled the idea that sexting is reserved for both hook-ups and serious relationships. It appears that sexting is a qualitative act between two people, and altruism may or may not influence this notion. Whether we are celebrating Valentine’s Day or any other holiday, couples should engage through sexting to enhance their social and intimate relationship with each other. Sexting is not only popular to search across the Internet, but it is a missing component of intimate communication. As technology advances, communication between most couples across the world lack the essential interpersonal communication skills for exchanging ideas, feelings, similarities and differences. Emojis, or smiley faces used in SMS conversations, are ineffective if the receiver is not understanding that the flame next to the bed might indicate hot passionate love. Yes, the bed is really hot. Could you please remove some blankets? Awkward. It was worth a shot. Given a cultural and religious understanding, everyone must realize that sexting may hinder religious and/or moral beliefs. Everyone has their own right to their own body, and should express themselves freely as they will. Although equality to their own body is a human right, not all human rights are offered to those who deserve them in other countries. Male chauvinist countries may hinder these opportunities through religious and cultural beliefs, and rebellious acts of promiscuous activity may occur. For an interesting study on gender inequality and women’s rights to their own sexuality, research topics revolved around young Tunisian women. In addition, familiarize yourself with marital rape. Marriage is consensual on the day when two souls exchange vows, however this does not give free access to each other’s body at their own convenience.

Technological advancement in communication has comfortably set the tone for online dating. Most men would agree that they are smooth talkers, while most women (based on surveying the male perspective) feel the need to initiate a seductive line via SMS. This may or may not be the truth, but most guys feel the need to point fingers at the women who offer hints and suggestions to spark up more than a conversation. In February, I engaged in a social experiment with the two catfish accounts I have on the dating website OkCupid. I asked 50 men, 25 different men for each account, for their opinions of sexting. Guys, before I review the responses, feel free to take a moment to answer the following questions yourself. Then, compare your responses to the results. Note: the fifth question is not applicable because it is rather awkward, silly, and not effective without an actual image of the two catfish women. I will present the questions, the background results of how OkCupid established three compatibility percentages, and then the overall feedback of responses for each catfish account. The compatibility percentages range from Match, Friendship, and Enemy. In a recent update within the past several months, the website no longer has the friendship compatibility match option. Therefore, this will be the last time I will use this source for my blog.

Sexting Survey

The following are questions I provided to all the male participants that ranged from 18 to 45 years old:

1. Do you sext?

2. Why (for all ‘yes’ responses)?, Why not (‘no’ responses)?

3. Who initiates the sexting?

4. Do you prefer sexting with images or text?

5.  Give me an example of how you would sext me, providing details of how you would turn me on? Then, maybe, you can win my number with the best answer.

First Impressions Matter

Appearances can be deceiving, but first impressions are generally the foundation to most relationships. Regardless of your preferences for older men or women, most would hesitate to walk up to someone of any race, gender, or age with a clever pick-up line. If you are still shaking your head in disapproval, congratulations on providing an equal opportunity in your community. The Internet immediately creates a first impression of appearance, personality, and education level based upon how the individual markets, or portrays, their overall self-image. The captivating images of selfies, intriguing autobiographies, and word choice in exercising their freedom of speech are all factors in making or breaking that initial connection. In the last social experiment, I was analyzing conversations to discover this notion about social interaction between two catfish women and fifty randomly selected men. The rave girl’s promiscuous profile attracted the men who will most likely stay for a night or two.  The college graduate pursuing a Master’s degree in Clinical Psychology draws attention to men who are serious about bringing someone home to their family. The language between myself and the subjects were alternated under the idea that it was appropriate to maintain that overall profile’s reputation. The rave girl bluntly came out with the first question listed above on sexting, while the college graduate apologized to her audience for being blunt. The results for each profile were entertaining, inspirational, and well-worth the time in conducting this social experiment. All interaction with the men stopped after the last question was answered. No further communication was necessary, unless the last question sparked something intriguing. At most, I asked all sparked responses if they wrote often. This was more often for the rave girl than the college graduate. All other messages were noted, and briefly explained in the Aftermath section of this blog post.

Age

The age range between the two women I selected may or may not have been a major factor in which men decided to spark up a conversation. However,  I have noticed that age can play an important role in first impressions over the Internet. The 20 year-old rave girl attracted men between the ages of 18 to 45. The twenty-four year-old college graduate attracted men from the ages of 18 to 41. The modes, or values that were commonly represented throughout the data, were 21 and 24. Thus, making an observation that people attract their own age group more often as a norm. The average age of the men interested in the rave girl was 25.96, while the college graduate attracted an average of 26.72. The difference was only 0.76 off from each other. You can agree that age is just a number, but the intent of social interaction will change everything based on how the individual markets their intent for being on a dating website. If the rave girl was also pursuing a college degree, the results could have significantly changed if she only expressed this academic pursuit on her profile. Her sexual experience was noted in most of the questions answered prompted by OkCupid to set up match, friendship, and enemy percentages. Given this understanding, these percentages could have significantly changed, and interest between the two individuals might have altered any connection between each other. A male participant could have relied on these percentages to further engage in the match or moved on to someone with higher scores. A male participant might have solely depended on the responses to the separate questions provided by the website. Multiple factors were involved.

Sexuality 

In the previous social experiment, I have attracted a woman interested in small talk with the bisexual college graduate student. However,  the sexuality between the two women did not change any results for this experiment. All inquiries were straight single men. The men did not engage in any discussion around sexual orientation, and the male participants were primarily focused on one-on-one encounters.

Residential 

Despite the common residential location for these women residing in Los Angeles, a surprising discovery was made when both women attracted two men in their twenties from the East Coast. Although the New York men were two years apart from each other, they both scored at least a 90% for match compatibility with their love interest. After analyzing the data to find any local LA men, the results were surprisingly low. The ratio between LA men to the rest of the CA men (ignoring the two New York men) was 8 to 24 for the rave girl,  and only 5 to 24 for the college graduate. This may or may not imply that LA men prefer meeting women in public places rather than on dating websites. It is also important to note that the two women both share high compatibility ratings for both match and friendship compatibility percentages with the LA men. There were only two LA men with a high match compatibility, but a significantly low friendship compatibility. The rave girl attracted one LA male with 80% match and 25% friendship compatibility. The college graduate attracted one LA male with a 61% match and 43% friendship compatibility. In addition, one male had a balanced 64% and 63% compatibility for the college graduate.

Compatibility

On OkCupid, there are three percentages that are calculated based on answering a countless number of questions to provide a 99.9% chance of being soul-mates. One percentage will calculate match compatibility, another will determine friendship compatibility, and the last one will cover enemies (or the lack of a healthy compatibility). The rave girl attracted nine men with a match compatibility from 80% to 90%.  Only five men scored 72% to 77%. That is 14 men out of 25 who scored a C- or higher in a match compatibility percentage. Therefore, a little more than half of the men were compatible love interests for the rave girl. Only three men scored 82% to 85% for friendship compatibility. A score of 73% to 79% was achieved by six men for friendship compatibility. The enemy percentage ranged from 0% to 54%. Given the data results, the rave girl has a balanced compatibility (80% to 100% range for both match and friendship compatibility) with only three men. If she decided to lower her standards to a 70% to 100% balanced compatibility, she would have eight men out of 25 from this study. That is only 32% of men who are both match and friendship compatible.

The college graduate attracted 12 men with a match compatibility between 80% to 91%, and six men with 70% to 72%. In addition, more men fell into the 60% to 69% compatibility range compared to the rave girl by four additional men. That is a total of 18 men, 72% of men surveyed, who scored a C- or higher in a match compatibility percentage. Surprisingly, the college graduate came across one individual with a 94% friendship compatibility percentage. That individual male also scored a 90% match compatibility. Therefore, he will be part of the overall best suited men from this study. There were five men who scored between 83% to 87% for friendship compatibility. Only three men scored a C range from 71% to 79% for friendship compatibility. In comparison, there were more men who ranged from 62% to 69% for friendship compatibility with the college graduate than the rave girl by three men. The enemy percentage ranged from 0% to 62%. Given the data results, the college graduate has a balanced compatibility with five men. If she decided to lower her standards to a 70% to 100%  balanced compatibility, she would have eight men out of 25 from this study. That is another 32% of men who are both match and friendship compatible. Whether the participating catfish women choose to lower their own standards to find true love online, the average of all the percentages might shed light into online dating.

The match compatibility average for the rave girl resulted to 61.85%. The friendship compatibility was 56.18%, while the enemy percentage was 24.29%. In comparison to the college graduate, there was a higher compatibility match with 73.44%. The friendship compatibility was also higher with 61.40%. The enemies were significantly lower with the college graduate at 18.96%. The match compatibility for one young woman was very close to the friendship compatibility of the other woman.

Unexpected Factors

The results, including match percentages and question responses, of this experiment may have been affected by time of conversation, disabled accounts, lack of interest, and other distracting incidents. In addition, I did not engage further with the participating males after the fifth question was asked. I will include if any replies were added during the five month duration of leaving the conversations idle. The three compatibility percentages may have changed since I talked to the participants in February based on how they answered more (if any) questions. In a recent website update, the match and enemy compatibility percentages are the only two factors calculated on every member’s profile.

As of updating this blog entry, an additional three accounts were disabled since July 22, 2014, preventing the college graduate to pursue anything further with them. There are now ten disabled accounts since the social experiment initiated with the college graduate’s account. Surprisingly, two of the five LA guys disabled their accounts.  One of them was a well suited match for the college graduate with an 89% match and 84% friendship compatibility. In addition, her other top choice with an 88% match and 87% friendship compatibility also disabled their account. Luckily, she can still choose the guy with a 91% match and 87% friendship compatibility. The rave girl has six male participant inactive accounts, including the guy from New York and the second highest match (1 of the 8 LA men) with a compatibility of 89%.  The most common age for both accounts to see inactivity is 24 and 21. The youngest inactive account for the rave girl was 21, while the college graduate lost two 19 year old men. Keep in mind – the rave girl is 20, the college graduate is 24. That is a total of 16 men out of 50 whom disabled their accounts, or 32%, since the study began in February. The college graduate lost 10 out of 25, or 40%, of the prospective men while the rave girl lost 6 out of 25, or 24%, of the participating men. Can we say that men who are attracted to promiscuous women will most likely stay desperate for anyone faster than those looking for a serious relationship with a well-educated woman? Perhaps.

The Question Responses

In this social experiment, I maintained two different personalities to effectively portray the catfish accounts. The responses to the questions varied between both accounts under the impression that one young woman likes sex, raves, and partying. The other young woman admits to a private moment with an embarrassing sexting story on her profile. She claims that she accidentally sent a picture of herself to her friend, and her friend now calls her, “Cheeks.” Given that there were 50 men involved with this study, I will briefly mention the results for each profile. The college graduate will be reviewed first. I am looking forward to publishing a separate blog entry for the rave girl’s perspective.

1st Question

According to several men, sexting is a gender norm. Men do it. What else do you want to know? According to others, some are quite inexperienced with sexting, or prefer the real deal. Yeah, I am sure it is a lot better than your hand. Wait, how else would you sext? Ha. Gotcha. As a college graduate with high values, I was told not to be worried for being blunt about asking a question that involves digital intimacy. A more intriguing discovery is a common frequency of assumption and demand. Guys, for the record, never assume the following question is an immediate offer:

“Sorry to be blunt, but do you sext?”

Reality check. Guys, seriously, how many women bother to ask you a question like that anyway? Do you need to read my previous blog entry on analyzing conversations in online dating? Always read their profile! This is too fishy! This is a catfish red flag. Regardless of her intent, treat her question as any other. She is seeking information from you. She is not necessarily asking for your digits. Give her some respect. On the topic of respect, watch what you say when you prefer physical penetration rather than mental stimulation. We all understand you prefer the real deal. Limit your disclosure to respectable terms. She could live without the details. Interestingly, some guys questioned if sexting was a requirement. Again. Never assume she wants a relationship with you. Give her space. Lastly, some guys reserve sexting with people they are already hooking-up with, rather than new people from online dating websites. Well, isn’t that special? Keep in mind that people lie about their age. Always talk to them appropriately. One guy responded with a negative response. I was intrigued to discover his reasoning. He mentions the legality of sexting. Finally, someone bright enough to know their boundaries! The guy states, “I think it’s dumb and folks get themselves into trouble.” As soon as I mentioned a scenario of meeting someone on a website for intended legal age adults to avoid that problematic concern, he quickly threw back the unexpected when I questioned how he would accommodate the lack of physical intimacy in a long distant relationship. He brought up, “If this is some research project or something, I’m not really interested…” Well, I respect that. Kudos for analyzing conversations effectively. Was that it? No. I wanted to see his intent.

 His Intent 

CG: Why would you even think that? lol I am just curious to find out how romantic you are in expressing your feelings towards others, given an opportunity maybe in the future that something may happen between us. Sorry I bothered to get to know you better.

Him: There are girls who make accounts to collect information for psychology/sociology papers and stuff like that. It happens more than you would think. If you’re just curious, I’m really just not into sexting. I’ve never done long distance relationships, so I have no idea.
CG: Really? I’ve seen the show Catfish, but I never imagined anything academically intended. Did you know OkCupid does their own research? So, why bother to do something already done? lol Check out their blog if you’re intrigued: http://blog.okcupid.com/. So, you would rather express yourself in person than over the phone. That’s respectful. I like that. I am glad you’re not self-centered and selfish.
Him: The number one rule of college: just because somebody else has said it 9,999 times, it doesn’t mean you can’t say the exact same thing and consider yourself “edgy.” Haha. You can’t really blame me for being suspicious considering you’re going to grad school for psychology.
 
Reel em’ in! 
Well, he is definitely a keeper! He analyzed my profile effectively. What if I was going for grad school for something else? Do you think this would have resulted differently? The less confident men were quite open about their experience in sexting. One guy mentions, “Nah its fine haha n honestly no haha ive never done that n I dont think ill be good at it haha.” Excessive laughing. Grammatical errors. I get it. No, really, I do. Haha. I stumbled upon another who admitted that they did not have much experience, but would volunteer to do so. A thirty year old caught on quick:
Him: “I do if I’m with someone. You?”
CG: Yes, in the same context as you, so it’s special. Why do you do it?
Him: “What made you ask that as the first question? It’s not a common occurrence”
CG: Oh, I am just testing out romance types. I am curious to see your response to why do you do it? What’s your motive behind it? Who usually initiates it? Are you more dominant or submissive? Do you prefer images or text? It helps me understand you better.
Him: “I don’t see how. Why do you answer first and I can get a better understanding of you. Or you can just tell me about yourself, are you close with your family, how do you treat your mom, what do you do for fun, are you happy with your life, why did you join Okc. I think those would be more important than sexting.”
Well, we have a family man. Ladies, this one is up for grabs!

Him: To  sexting if it does happen is between that couple and should only be done with that couple. If they feel the need to “spice” things up they should do what makes them happy. As far as discussing it with a stranger it doesn’t apply, because it’s only pertinent to those involved.

CG: Ah, you would be surprised. Just that response alone tells me you genuinely care for the person. Yes, I am very close to my family. They’re the reason why I am here. lol In addition, you can choose your friends, but you can never choose your family. Although I would say a few cousins would be the first to be changed if possible. My mom and I are close, but I am closer to my father. I volunteer at a health clinic. That’s always fun, and very rewarding. My life could be better, but it’s much better than most my age. I joined this site because my friend told me about it. So, I figured, what’s there to lose? 

Him: I appreciate your honesty. It shows how sincere and well-brought up you are.
I try to be as honest as possible, especially online. I’m looking for something real and genuine so I figured I better be as real and as genuine as possible if I want that in return.
Then, there was this guy: 
“That’s pretty blunt. I have no idea how to sext.”

Well, you are not the only one. Is there a significant difference between texting and sexting other than a letter change?  Why would anyone bother to get intimate over a bunch of words? Why would you do such a thing? I mean, it sounds horrifying. Sexting. 

2nd Question: 
“It sounds pretty scary,” one guy replies. Seriously, sexting is a genre of sci-fi if they ignore washing themselves. The same guy questioned previously, “How does one typically start a sexting session?” I admire his curiosity and word choice. Do people typically call them sessions, moments, or opportunities? Why do we even bother?
Men have a very fascinating way of expressing themselves. This was absolutely one of my favorite questions that I asked. The opinionated gave me an overall understanding, while the passionate frankly admitted to just getting down and dirty in person.
Here are some ideas: 

“Well its a way for both people to have a fantasy in there head to get off to.” “My intent is not to sext but the other person is the one asking so I go along with it but they are no longer in my life.” “I’m good and only on tuesdays lol what are you up to?” “Idk just really havnt talked to anyone like that thru text haha id much rather perfer to do things in person espeacily if its messing around like that haha. Now im sorry if I sound creepy hear haha buy since u asked ill ask u the samething haha would u like to mess around but in person perferably haha xp”

“I only do it when I’m in a relationship, I guess it’s way to express yourself to your significant other.”
 “I dont think ive ever “sexted” but i do enjoy being involved in things revolved around sex. does that count?”
 
“I feel like sexting is a way to pass the time before actually hooking up and having sex. . if not it just seems like a tease i guess. but like i said i never done it.”
 
 “Only if they have a particular fetish for it.”
“Some girls I date do that so I play along.”
“I think I’d prefer to wait the first time and text, we could switch things up after build up some experience.”
One of the oldest guys I surveyed caught on by the second question questioning if I was doing research for a paper. I told him that I was just fascinated to figure people out their their intimate personalities (or lack thereof) to confirm compatibility. He replied, “I don’t really do that but if it’s with a woman that I have a very good connection with that it’s impossible to see then maybe will write something horny otherwise horny time is for when you’re both together what about you. Maybe it could be fun if the other person is good at it. I guess phone conversations much better.” I replied, “Yeah, phone sex is a lot better than sexting. It’s much more meaningful because it has an emotional and physical connection to the person. I am glad you’re not as easy as most men, and it takes a lot to gain your time. I respect that. In a serious relationship with you, who would normally initiate that intimate behavior?”
Well, I moved on the next question with him, and he nailed me. Pun not intended. He replied in a playful joking matter.
Him: Dude! your so obviously writing some kind of college paper cut it out 🙂 if you want to keep up this conversation why don’t you buy me a coffee or a beer or something I’m in Atwater and Silverlake area 😉 I’m super busy guy I’m starting a business etc but you seem interesting and smart so if you want to get together for a chat and some laughs or something . I’ll help you with your paper. let me know 323-his-digits-were-here.
I left him alone for a while. He still sent me messages, even after a month. “Coffee? Haha not talking to me any more?” He offered to help though. That made my day. Then, there was this guy. The guy who respects his women, but finds sexting weird:
“Cuz I need to have a lot of feelings for a woman before anything like that happens. Plus it is just weird.”
3rd Question: 

Would it be weird if the other person initiated it? No pressure to start, but so much pressure to finish? The other pressure, of course. The third question revolved around sexting initiation. Who gets the blame for being dominantly digital? According to the men I surveyed, consent between the couple happens before anything else. I was curious to question how sexting becomes consensual, but that would have caused confusion. Some guys mentioned that the girl would ask, and the guy will say yes. The rest of the responses speak for themselves:

“Haha well the boy n the girl can talk about it left n right but at the end its really up to the girl who decides if they want it in person or sexting haha. So wat do u think in person or sexting? Haha but just so u know im a lot better in person cuz im a sucky texter so ill bore u haha. I talk more in person n can keep u entertain.”
 
Well, at least he was honest. No sucky sucky for me. The inexperienced were quite the challenge, but nonetheless they were still helping my study:
“What do you mean? i dunno i guess there was texting before hand but i dont know if sending me tits counts as sexting. but i likeit none the less.”
 
Tits. Everyone likes those.

Well, what if tits were not interesting to them at the time? Yeah, some guys reported to say that it depends on their mood, and the person involved. The dominant sexters admitted that it depends on each other’s mood, not just their own. Well, that is reassuring someone else cares about the other person involved. Surprisingly, one admits that they have not had a lot of sex. I am only suggesting that it surprises me to connect sexting and actual sex together. Are we on the same page here or maybe we should change the chapter?

Participating Male: I wouldn’t know. I haven’t done it.

CG:Ah so you wouldn’t be able to express yourself over the phone to turn your girlfriend on?
PM: Can we change the conversation?
Yeah, why not? Let’s get visual!

4th Question: 

A picture is worth a thousand words, and some data usage! Everyone has a different way of appreciating visual stimulation, whether it was physically seeing images or creating mental images on their own. I have previously written a blog article on seductive sexting for those who wish to engage in imagery seen physically by the eyes, and not solely dependent on the mind. Instant gratification. I get it. No, not like that, but I understand why this is a very popular way of communicating intimate ideas across social media outlets. Please refer back to my previous blog article to understand that this intimate exchange is not meant for everyone, regardless of your personal preference. Whether you are explicitly communicating to minors in written text or via image exchange, it is still illegal. That is the law. As my two catfish accounts were portrayed as legal adults, we can continue on to what stimulates men more between imagery or text. Ladies, men want to see your goodies. For the love of God, just respect yourself with self-control. Other men prefer both imagery and textual communication for sexting. Surprisingly, men have admitted that it is not a turn on for them and they refuse to pay for webcam shows. A sense of invading space has surfaced the topic, as well as briefly discussing about bad previous experiences. This question was also opening up the door to assumption, and personal responses were openly exchanged. One participant admitted that he likes to use both imagery and text, and for the sake of me being cute, he admitted that he will definitely like both. That was for the hopes of giving him a chance in the near future. Guys, again, never assume she wants to engage in anything like that. She could be asking these questions to relieve herself from bad experiences of men sending her inappropriate images to her phone. Treat it as a question to answer, and an opportunity to understand. Not an opportunity to pursue anything further. I get it. A cute girl asked if you preferred images or text in sexting. She is attractive. Of course you would take anything you can from her. She gets it too. All the time. Stop it. I appreciated the honest responses that revolved around asking for too much if they received both forms of sexting. However, one continues to explain that, “images and texts both work good together. So ill say both.” That is a solid answer. Thank you. Then, there was Captain Obvious:

“Being a graphic designer, I’m a pretty visually-oriented guy. Send me something!”
Thanks! A special shout out to the guys who comfortably expressed their genuine interest of getting to know the person before they sext. This includes the guy who mentioned that it “helps if I had some idea of your turn ons and interests doll.” A special punch in the chest for the guy who assumes that a complimentary statement to their response is an immediate win of approval. I will give some kudos to the guy who felt that he would not be interested in “someone who could be pleased through a text message,” suggesting that they would not be compatible. However, I question his ability to take a balanced role (each other equally involved) in a long distant relationship if I was actually a girl trying to get to know him better on OkCupid. How else would he please me, from afar, if he feels that I cannot be pleased through the simplistic measure of a reading something genuine from him? Red flag for people who enjoy waking up to morning texts. This guy is probably not for you.

The Aftermath

The last question was a make it or break it for them. Of course – nobody won my number, or a local LA pizza place that I was hesitant to offer. After some participants heated things up with how they would please me through sexting, providing a detailed example of their sexting style, I left OkCupid inactive for a while from being busy with work. Some guys wondered if they passed my sex test while others insecurely questioned if they said something wrong. The best obvious response that I expected to see was something like this:

“So does this mean I didnt win ur number? Haha” 

Yes. Sorry, Romeo.

Pleading the 5th 
What exactly does a guy say to a young woman pursuing a Master’s degree in Clinical Psychology to provide her an example of sexting? The following are some fine examples:
“Hahaha i guess, it’s not a good idea, we should Skype to seduce each others lol” 
“Well for examples. above all im really into oral so mostly it will lead to licking your click and other pussy eating gestures. like fondling , rubbing/firmly gripping your tits, nipple sucking, and some kissing of the neck to make you as wet as possible so when i go south you’re nice and wet. then slowly crawls my hand down get by rubbing your clit some , listen to you moan . i love it. start fingering you first with one then 2 fingers , enjoying your pleasure very much , bump it up to three maybe bring down the other hand and start rubbing your clit simultaniously(spelling error) and eventually give you a break just to move over between your legs and start by placing my tongue on your wet hole and running my tongue up spreading your lips open . start fingering you as i grasp your clit with my lips and go to town on your clit , have you go crazy…. well theres an example :P”
Wait, my what? Your hand crawls without dragging your body? I would like to see this!  Woah, three? Dude, this isn’t poker. You’re not bumping up anything! Hey, at least he was grammatically honest! Ah, fuck. He said it. Wet hole. I am done. I lost my lady boner. Seriously, that is almost saying, “moist hole.” He was considerate to give me a break though!
“Depending on what you like, ill seductively talk about what turns you on in all the right places. Phrasing and acting out those actions are key to sexting. So if you liked doggie style I would say as I watched your figure from behind I placed my hands right on hips and gently put my penis inside of you for full feeling. That’s just an example though lol” 
Nailed it.  That’s a winner!

 “Well I guess yea haha but im more in person kinda guy haha. Well like I said ive never done this before so I wouldnt really know wat to say but if it were in person. Ill take u somewhere nice to enjoy the day n then wen we get intimate ill start off by kissing ur neck as I slowly remove ur shirt. Then lay u down n start kissing ur stomache as I slowly remove ur pants. Then ill start fingering n licking u til u get extremly wet. Then ill ask u wat exactly do u want me to do to u n ill do every single thing u like to make u finish ;)”

 
I cannot stomache people playing with my mustache. Woah, wait. Jokes aside. Did he just pass my lady border without any prolonged stimulation above my waistline? Fail. Make me want it. Could you kiss my thighs at least?

“I can go hard slow kinky passionate how ever u like I can do. Im better at passionate though haha”

Those hardly working or working hard are quite hard doing whatever they do best:
 
“Haha, I’m at work, so this will be a bit awkward typing this. I would gently push you down onto your bed, gently kissing you on the neck, my warm breath lingering on your skin as I start to unbutton your blouse. I slide my right hand on the outside of your increasingly moist panties. My fingers tracing the outline of your slit… OK that is as much as I can do right now as a sample. My boss is staring at me lol”
 

Then, let me introduce to you, Mr. Exotically Fun:

“Haha well first we would have a setting like a pool, shower, locker room, something fun and exotic. Then I would start with telling you abiut the foreplay.” 

 

Well, at least this guy is kinda in the same boat:
“How I’d massage, kiss, or rub you. Then I’d start telling you how I’d take your clothes off haha”
 
Honesty is quite honestly sexy. Trust me. You proved yourself worthy:
“I’ll be honest, I don’t know you and just sexting someone I don’t know doesn’t feel quite right. If I knew you I would.”
 
Ladies, this is my guy. Yeah. He knows me too well:
“It sounds like an awesome idea, however, I’m going to say no, cause I don’t know you, I don’t really know if you really say who you are..you could be a guy or some kid getting a kick out of this,I decline.”
 
And as for Mr. Cocky, my guy should calm this dude down:
“I’ll win you over, I would rather not sext you here. What’s your number?” 
Romance Recap
By reviewing these responses, you can understand the college graduate had to cringe, smile, laugh, and shake her head at all these attempts of winning her phone number. This is not just a competition for digits, but further engagement in communication. Guys, seriously, do you even care for more intellectual conversations with her? Ladies, there are really good guys out there. This was a brief summary of 25 of them engaging in a conversation with a college graduate. This was a sample of the higher quality group searching for women with respectable backgrounds, including a strong academic focus in life. Never settle for less! Communication is extremely important before engaging in physical intimacy, especially earlier in the relationship. Keep in mind that being blunt right away is not necessarily the best idea. Respect yourself and each other when you disclose this information. Would you throw all your baggage at someone while you exchange the first handshake? Compare experiences and preferences.  There are guys willing to understand you and your body before attempting to please it. Ignore the ones with assumptions for sexual gain and fulfillment. They will never care about you. Analyze conversations as soon as possible to understand which type of fish you reeled in this time. Always remember that it starts from within. How you market yourself for love can make or break the future for you. I will discuss the rave girl’s perspective in a separate blog entry. I will try to get it out to you by mid August. Thank you in advance for a strong following community. I never expected to reach this many followers since I started, and I had no idea the majority of you would stay after inactivity. My word count has reached 7,100 for this post alone. Hopefully, that made up for something. I am off to bed! Sorry for any grammatical errors (other than the direct quotes from my male participants).
What’s Up? Nothing Yet, Winky Face; Sexting 101

Making Love Outside the Norm; Achieving Seductive Originality

A passionate desire for a lover’s chance to seduce the one they love with a sensual dance. The fingers wander like snakes with lust through the embrace of love and trust. Everyone desires the role of being the greatest lover in bed with no sense of direction or idea how to go ahead. Romantic ambitions lost without a compass or map, but an article to entice them to open up and unwrap.

After noticing the trending views for the sensualist perspective article, I am looking forward to providing some strategies on making Valentine’s Day extend for more than an entire 24 hours. This article will encourage your passionate minds to open up to originality and creativity. There is no age or experience requirement, however I do expect maturity and respect for everything you do to your partner. The main ingredients for these tactics are pure dedication and commitment. Push aside your insecurities, and discover each other in the most intimate way possible. My seductive strategies are effective because I care about what I do to the one experiencing my techniques. I do not recommend using my techniques with just anyone, but if you insist – make your one night-stand distinct from the rest. Give them quality over quantity performance. Make them come back for more. 

Sensual Suspense 

Guys, size does not matter at all with foreplay. All you need is confidence, passion, and patience. If you are unaware of how to use your hands and mouth effectively, please refer to my sensualist article. Ladies, give him a study guide after his lesson. Then, put him to the test. Most couples ignore or simply forget how to achieve the simplistic art of intimacy. Kissing is extremely important, but lips are not necessarily the only place to reserve a passionate kiss. This will be difficult to understand, but just ignore the sex for now. Imagine a cock block, or a chastity belt, preventing you from achieving sexual gratification. Find some other way around that to have fun.

Anatomy Class – 

English: A man handcuffed to a bed and blindfolded

Good morning, class!  First, I recommend an entire week of engaging in a hands-on anatomy class with your lover. Your first homework assignment will be due by the end of the week. No, seriously, learn more about your partner through a visual stimulation of who you are and what you have to offer. By the end of the week, you are able to identify (1) their erogenous zones,  (2) body language, and (3) an emotional and physical connection with the one you love. Sex is not just sex because there is an emotional and physical understanding that we rarely acknowledge. If you are willing to make love, you are willing to make some adjustments to how you approach your partner in bed.

Lab Instructions –

Use only your hands and your mouth in all the lab exercises you do in your intimate anatomy class. The only penetration allowed is using teeth, generally around the neck area. First, focus from the forehead down to the waistline. You are not ready for the next chapter (yet)! Do not exceed beyond their waistline. Confidence in trying something new is important, especially when it is simply showing off your passionate side for your partner. I have provided a list to entice your passionate side. If you follow the instructions carefully, you will be able to move on to the next level of intimate gratification. Please follow the following lab report template below to make sure that you are doing an outstanding job with your seductive experimental approach.

Lab Report – 

Statement of the Problem

How does my lover react to physical intimacy without sexual penetration? Are there any clear observations of arousal or discomfort in the attempts of seduction and sensual foreplay? My lover is willing to experience something new with me to entice their passionate side to release the buildup of sexual frustration and deprivation of sexual arousal.

Hypothesis 

If sensual kisses and massages from the forehead to the waistline entice my lover to bite their bottom lip, then sexual arousal will happen.

Materials

  • Hands
  • Mouth

Procedure

  1. Your lover can wear anything they want during this experiment. However, keep in mind that less is more. It is much easier to work around undergarments, instead of shirts and pants.
  2. Position your lover on the bed lying down on their back.
  3. Give one soft kiss upon your lover’s forehead with your eyes open. Mentally record facial expressions.
  4. Give one soft kiss upon one of your lover’s cheeks with your eyes open. Mentally record facial expressions.
  5. Give your lover slow, playful Eskimo kisses for at least 1 minute. Time is flexible. Stop when you are ready.
  6. Run your fingers through your lover’s hair while you teasingly brush your lips across theirs. Mentally record facial expressions and body language
  7. Transition further down to kiss their chin. Mentally record facial expressions.
  8. Continue caressing their hair. Close your eyes to signal a passionate embrace with your lips. No need to record anything.
  9. Transition further down to their neck. Give them a soft gentle blow on the side of their neck. Mentally record facial expressions and body language.
  10. Trace the side of their neck with the tip of your tongue. Do not use excessive amount of saliva. Keep it light and simple. Mentally record facial expressions and body language.
  11. I could write more steps, but I feel like you should take over. Be creative until you reach to the waistline… you got this. I believe in you.

Results

Well, what happened? Did you provide enough sensual kisses and massages from the forehead to the waistline? Did you entice your lover to bite their bottom lip? How many times? When did you notice them doing it? Where were you kissing and massaging for them to bite their bottom lip? Are you sure it was sexual arousal? Did they allow their hands to wander below the waistline? Did they encourage you to go further when you softly kissed across their waistline?

Conclusions

In conclusion, sensual kisses and massages from the forehead to the waistline will entice my lover to bite their bottom lip, and sexual arousal will happen. The tip of my tongue and my hands has successfully aroused my partner the most when I was caressing their breasts as their nipples erected inside my mouth. They bit their bottom lip the most when this happened. A possible error that may have hindered the overall performance while I was conducting this intimate experiment was when the phone rang. I may have to turn off the ringer next time we engage in a romantically sensual embrace.

Sensual Exploration

Congratulations! You successfully achieved your first lab report! Now, try these experiments:

  • The Impact of Different Juices on Sensational Kissing
  • The Impact of Whipped Cream on Sensual Foreplay 
  • The Impact of Showering in the Dark on Rekindling Romance

The main point to take from these experiments is to explore your partner with innermost passionate feelings. Use sensual food products, like fruit juice for kissing and whipped cream for foreplay. If you are willing to step outside the norm for more explorative opportunities, try ice cream or body paint. Just use your imagination and spice up your love life. As long as you are happy together and spending quality time together, endless possibilities of fun are open for inspirational consideration.

Sexual Surprise

Wow, talk about a heated discussion! Time to make love! Now, seduction is easy for any sensual intentions. The main problem is that seduction for sexual intentions can hinder any performance if there is no passion involved. Guys, she wants you to penetrate deep inside her just as much as you do. Never give her everything she wants right away! Never satisfy her completely until she begs for it. My seductive sexual strategies might leave her begging for more. She might even take control! Confidence is sexy, patience is running out, and dominance is ready to fight for sexual gratification. I encourage you all to try these sexual surprises.

Quading on Pink Terrain

Four wheeling, or commonly referred as quading, is extremely fun in open terrain. Try taking that same concept of digging into the dirt without a lot of penetration involved. Guys, when you quad on pink terrain, try to dig into her lips without penetrating deep inside. Use the head and the shaft as a shovel gliding against her wet pink lips. Experiment with this approach and see how long it takes for her to snap for more.

Shaft Spanking Paddle

BDSM is not for everyone, but spanking is always pleasurable when you do it right. Everyone’s level of tolerance for pain varies, but spanking your lover’s clit with your shaft is effective if you use the right amount of force and pace. Try doing it conservatively – before you penetrate inside and during your sexual exploration. Watch their body language and see if they enjoy a certain way of you doing it.

Chinese-pigs-in-blanket
Chinese-pigs-in-blanket (Photo credit: Andrea_Nguyen)

Pigs in a Blanket

It is time to feed your lover’s intimate part of her body with the pigs in a blanket approach. Guys, after you make your lover extremely wet, spoon with them with something extra. Slowly glide your shaft inside and then leave it there. Give them passionate kisses while you caress their body. Just connect with your partner in an emotional and physical way. Guys, forget about thrusting for a bit. Ladies, tease him by flexing your muscles and constricting his shaft. See how long you can go without deeper penetration.

Free Samples 

Someone is hungry for more! Just imagine unwrapping a layered present in wrapping paper, plastic bags, and newspaper. You want more after the first attempt and you continue unwrapping until you reach the end. Guys, size does not matter with this at all. Never feel intimidated. Give her one inch at a time. Glide an inch inside, take it out. Glide two inches inside, take it out. Glide three inches inside, take it out. Try the shaft spanking paddle while you experiment with this.

Please Note:

I understand that all relationships are different, and I do not encourage something that makes you or your partner uncomfortable. If you have any suggestions or comments, please leave them below. If you have any success stories or failed attempts from physical intimacy, tell me all about them. Please understand that this article is to encourage quality time with your partner while understanding their sexuality through physical intimacy. I encourage you all to take what you already know about your partner and use that knowledge to your advantage. The more you know about them, the better it is for both of you to achieve sensual and sexual gratification.

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Pushing Away Physical Intimacy; The Consequences of Playing Hard to Get Part 2

10 niveaux d’intimité dans les communications
(Photo credit: Emilie Ogez)

Interpersonal communication, regardless of the relationship status between the two conversationalists, is an effective skill for facilitating physical intimacy with another person. The level of social awkwardness, between socially awkward and awkwardly social, may hinder a person’s performance in achieving a physical and emotional connection. A social butterfly will have the comfort and flexibility to have alternative choices to move forward with the social interaction. The rising era of digital intimacy may entice two individuals to initiate an intimate textual exchange, but the new comfort zone has more challenging barriers for the introverts and extroverts to meet people from the Internet.

On January 21, 2013, a voluntary survey created in a blog post asked six core questions that will help the next article publication. The questions focused on social awkwardness, playing hard to get, concealing flirtatious intentions under the pressure of unrequited attraction, physical intimacy, making moves from a confirmed mutual attraction, and accepting awkward situations. All participants are aware that any of the information submitted is only for writing this article. All participants were aware that their names and blog website addresses are optional, and will only be used for acknowledgement if provided.

The following survey questions were not mandatory to answer, but it was greatly appreciated for any participant to completely answer all the questions to facilitate discussion.  If you have not contributed to this discussion, please feel free to answer the questions in the comment section below.

Survey Questions 

Question 1

Are you socially awkward or awkwardly social?

Question 2 

Do you play hard to get? Why? Why not?

Question 3

Yes or No? You tell someone attractive a flirtatious comment. You really aren’t kidding when you say, “JK!”. If yes, are you shy that they might not have the same feelings about you?

Question 4

How important is physical intimacy for you? If you have the confidence, would you want to entice and engage something with a complete stranger?

Question 5

If there was a mutual attraction for each other, both admitting that you really felt that way about the comments, would you make a move?

Question 6

Yes or No? A situation is only awkward because you accepted it that way.

Question Results 

Question 1 – 

Social awkwardness is commonly acknowledged throughout 57% of the seven responses for the first question. Two participants responded precisely as, “Not at all,” before explaining their reasoning behind their extroverted personalities. One participant described their social confidence is enough to plan social events with friends.  The other participant faces a common social barrier in the beginning by being shy, but extremely confident to converse when they reach their comfort zone. The socially awkward or awkwardly social participants explained their awkwardness very well. One participant faces social insecurities because of their social status of interpersonal communication. The best response was from a participant admitting to having socially awkward and awkwardly social characteristics. As a bartender, physical intimacy is normally achieved through flirtatious comments. However, an overwhelming complimentary place can push an individual into an extremely awkward situation. The exposure of complimentary and ritualistic language is easily identified in a public setting, but there is a concealed immunity from overexposure. If a woman experiences compliments every day, the desire for physical intimacy and attraction shifts aside. One participant did not answer the question.

Question 2 – 

The participants came to a consensus with playing hard to get under the influences of a maturity level, prioritizing time, and the comfort of the situation. The most intriguing discovery was when two participants mentioned about being coy in two completely different contexts. The majority believes that attraction is mandatory to acknowledge and confronted to avoid misleading someone on. If there is no attraction for a guy, playing hard to get might simply be the easy way of sending the message that they are not interested. One participant said they know exactly what they want, how they will get it, and when they will get it. A very intriguing response was that they do not play hard to get because they simply are hard to get. In addition, one participant is perceived as playing hard to get through first impressions of being awkward and uncomfortable.

Question 3 –

According to the responses, 71% of the participants responded negatively, while the remaining 29% agreed that they would not be kidding after giving a flirtatious comment. A consensus on how honesty towards someone with potential and interest for a prospective relationship is very important. However, one participant mentioned that they will say that they are just kidding only for the sake of attraction, but no potential interest for anything further. They believe that sending the mixed message would happen only if they did not mention that they were kidding.

Question 4 – 

A consensus of 71% all agreed that physical intimacy was very important, while the remaining 29% believed that physical intimacy requires an emotional connection or never experienced physical intimacy to fully appreciate it. In addition,  three participants would entice and engage something with a complete stranger, especially if that stranger was attractive. One participant believes that they will wait for physical intimacy if the guy has potential for a future relationship with them. Lastly, one participant mentions about the simplistic natural element of physical intimacy by mentioning that confidence is not necessarily mandatory for intimate encounters with random people. Therefore, the upbringing of moral and personal value of the individual has a lot to do with their decision for intimacy.

Question 5 – 

Although three participants agreed that they would make a move through acknowledging the mutual attraction, gender roles played a significant part within the context of the responses. The bold attempt to make a move has a few of the participants waiting for the other person to make their move first. Regardless of the circumstances, two participants believe that it is extremely attractive for the other person to make their move first.

Question – 6 
All participants agreed that a situation is only awkward because they accepted it that way. Therefore, nobody should ever feel awkward about something happening.
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Acknowledgement 
I would like to thank the following participants for their time:
I will conclude my final thoughts on this in Part III. Thank you.
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Pushing Away Physical Intimacy; The Consequences of Playing Hard to Get Part 2

Seductive Sexting; Making Your Man Beg for More

This article will explain how to engage in seductive sexting without overexposure, including suggestions on how to make your lover beg for more. Give your lover something to think about before revealing the complete exposure. The relationship will improve through effective communication with incentive driven goals. Whether you want to rekindle phone sex or improve your sexting experiences, this article will focus on sexting seductively.

Phone Sex Laws

Sexting is exchanging explicit messages or pictures through a cellular device. The laws prohibiting teens and adults exposing themselves to minors are not enforced enough. Parents should enforce the social and legal consequences of sexting. They should tell their children why possessing child pornography, including their own pictures, is not right. In most states, teens might be charged for their amateur collection. If the police are not aware, someone else received the message. If a boyfriend or girlfriend receives this explicit message, they will also be at risk for possession of child pornography. Although the recipient might also be a minor, the sender will be a victim of a digital consequence that goes viral. The recipient, or your lover, faces the temptations of becoming a catalyst for a viral pyramid exchange. Guy A sends it to guy B whom eventually sends it to everyone else until X, Y and Z receive it.

Although this is an extremely controversial topic, I encourage participation with your own opinions for discussion in the comment section below.

Texting on a qwerty keypad phone

Seductive Planning 

A new intimate picture is like a form of currency in a relationship, especially a long distant relationship. Your relationship will ignite into a whole new level of intimacy and maturity. If you have never exposed yourself to them yet, make it really special for each other. Make them come back for more because they want to. Don’t ever make them come back for more just to see everything before they leave.

Seductive planning is important because creating new incentives in the relationship will spark interest for each other. If you schedule a timeline for sexting, you will balance out the relationship for security and intimacy. If you were recently official, follow a monthly subscription. On the first month anniversary, send them a picture of you wearing a cute shirt and jeans, but revealing enough cleavage. A picture you should not have up on Facebook! If you lack the cleavage, simply wear something low-cut but not too revealing. On your second month anniversary, send them a picture of you lifting your shirt up to show them your stomach. Make sure to wear pants for this too! On the third month, take the shirt off but leave your bra and pants on. This encourages them to stay longer, chat with you, and find out what the next month will give them. This incentive program will effectively balance out a reward system of commitment. They will not only talk to you more, but they will stay for good reasons. If a guy is desperate, he will not wait that long to see the full exposure. When the fourth month comes, take off your pants but leave your shirt on. Then, have some fun with the rest of the year! You want him intrigued by everything you send him, but never become a victim of overexposure. There is no mystery in that at all. By the end of the year, two last pictures will be the big New Year’s special. When you are comfortable to send him a picture of the lovely ladies, take a picture of a part of them. Never send the full picture. Send a nipple or a side picture. Let him think all the way through this process. He will want you even more! When you send him something from below the waistline, push him off the edge with a picture of your mons pubis. It works like a charm! That is equivalent to him sending you a picture of the coronal ridge. Not quite the full picture, but you will want the rest as well!

Holidays

Holidays are an instant excuse to send your lover a picture. On Valentine’s Day, send them a picture of the lingerie they bought you. It will not only show sentimental value for the gift, but it shows how amazing you look with it on. I have Halloween, Valentine’s Day, and Christmas boxers for a reason. You should buy your lover a pair too! This will spice up the relationship by being spontaneous and passionately involved.

Let’s Get Textual

If you need help with the textual part of sexting, I recommend something from my poetic archives. A great suggestion would be, “An Erotic Masterpiece; A Painting of One Thousand Words.”

Sexting Fail

Failed Intentions 

Please refrain from failed attempts at sexting! Never face these circumstances!  Ouch! How embarrassing! Oh, another failure is below this paragraph! Check out the, “Grannies and grandads get into sexting,” article!

“Benaughty.com analysed the behaviour of 1783 of its members and found 31 per cent of those aged 50 or over admitted sexting.”

Yuck!

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Is It Really in Their Kiss?; The Art of Seductive Kissing

January is a very awkward month of resolutions, self-improvement, and rekindled interests to succeed. When next week approaches, January 14 will spark the countdown to a day when hopeless romantics celebrate Singles Awareness Day. Although Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching, the materialistic attitudes will immediately take over the unconditional motives for love. The act of kissing another person, regardless of their relationship status, conveys mixed emotions for a serious commitment.

Dusting Off Mr. Snuggles

Have you ever received love letters and teddy bears on Valentine’s Day? Are you just hoarding unrequited love from every Valentine’s Day since someone gave you something sentimental in kindergarten? Hallmark’s time to shine will also be yours as well! Whether you have already kissed someone you are passionately in love with in 2013 or you are still mustering enough hope that someone will come around the corner, this is an article that will help refine the meaning of a true love’s first kiss.

The Hollies and Cher have one important thing in common. The meaning behind a sensual kiss determines whether you are experiencing love’s presence or lust. In their two songs that are almost titled the same, “It’s In Her Kiss,” and “The Shoop Shoop Song (It’s In His Kiss),”  eyes of lust are very deceiving to someone vulnerable to easily misunderstand the persuasive body language. A man with charm in his face might be enticing a vulnerable woman to kiss him, but he might not have what it takes to passionately kiss her back. The “warm embrace” explained in the songs are precisely accurate because anyone can snuggle with the exchange of body heat.  Never let no strings attached snuggling fool you into something else!

Pucker Up, Boys

Kissing is one of the most effective approaches for romance and seduction. Everyone wants that physical intimacy with someone new, especially if the attraction was from love at first sight. The awkward suspense intensifies when your eyes exchange seductive smirks and the faces speak to each other by moving in closer. Are they ready for the passionate embrace? Kissing is extremely enjoyable, but it is also part of the list of things that have a process, place and time. It is also the destination after a flight through the clouds of interpersonal communication and disclosure. Never assume that someone will kiss you after an engaging conversation that leads to smiles and laughter. The ability to effectively communicate through non-verbal cues is important to understand. Therefore, it really is in their kiss.

Pucking Amazing! 

Congratulations! You finally found someone weeks before Valentine’s Day on the Internet. The luxurious Italian restaurant on Saturday is going viral on your Twitter. Your hashtag, #foreverfound, is picking up more followers. The pictures are still left inside your memory card, but they look amazing! The two love birds were singing majestically underneath the city lights with a moon lit sky. The lousy attempt at serenading you with a shower love song was cute enough for a smile. The date went smoothly without the unnecessary intoxication of Sex on the Beach. Although Halitosis delayed the kiss, the prolonged affection for each other was well worth the wait. Was it love at first website? The texts shortly after suggest the vacancy for improvement with your intimate intentions.

Mother Pucker!

Damn it! The urge for a passionate embrace failed miserably! Did you end up hugging after a romantic night out in the city? Wait, was the hug weak or not long enough? Oh, not another side hug! Seriously? Try harder next time! This is no time for regret, but plenty of time for self-improvement. Practice will enhance perfection, and the main goal is achieving a hug from behind. Let them know that they are safely secured between your arms. I would emphasize more on hugging before kissing, but hugging is easy. Everyone should have their own norm for hugging friends, family, or the prospective boyfriend or girlfriend. Kissing requires more attention. Although the first impression matters the most, an awkward hug is replaceable in seconds after the first attempt. If a first kiss fails, someone might not have the courage to fix the problem. The problem might only be the poor kissing habits, and the misunderstanding of using the wrong techniques for finding intimacy.

The Sherminator?

No, I’m the Escalator, baby.

A sophisticated Shakespearean kisser sent back through time to change the future for Juliet’s intoxicated lips.

If you have never seen the American Pie series, please watch them. First, before I begin the escalation, I must tell you that everything you are willing to do with a person has a process. Whether you are simply talking, walking, dancing, or snuggling, there is a process behind every interactive approach to building a healthy relationship with a prospective match. In the kissing department, there’s the E.S.C.A.L.A.T.O.R. approach. If you want to achieve something, you move up to the next level. If you want to return back to where you started, you can go back down.  I believe my approach can help every situation out with the right understanding. If you are writing a research paper, follow an escalator approach. Have you tried writing the middle of your paper before you complete the introduction? It is not easy, but it is possible. Although we cannot jump into the middle of an escalator, we are extremely flexible with sensual escalation.

The E.S.C.A.L.A.T.O.R. Approach 

Engage in eye contact.

Secure a simple kiss on their forehead.

Caress their hair while you stare into their eyes.

Allow your noses to playfully glide against each other.

Let’s focus on soft cheek and chin kisses.

Acquire confidence in teasingly brushing your lips across theirs.

Tame the prolonged desire of kissing with an Eskimo nose dance.

Offer the signal that you are willing to go further by biting your own bottom lip.

Release the escalation by closing your eyes and leaning closer.

Try It Before You Buy It

The concept of kissing is over rated. Time to go window shopping before you start checking out on something you might not actually enjoy. When you go shopping for clothes, you head over to the fitting rooms before you buy everything. The same concept applies with kissing. Why would you buy their lips before you try them on? My approach allows flexibility while testing out intimate personalities. How does someone respond to your sensual kisses? Guys, give your date something she never felt before. Keep your mind off the lips, especially below the hips! Your date wants to feel special by affection and selection. Silence is golden, especially when you do everything I mentioned without a word. Let the bodies communicate effectively and you will see immediate improvement if you do it right.

When you are already Eskimo kissing, or playfully gliding your noses together, you are so close yet so far away from their lips. When you move further down, teasingly brushing your lips across theirs, you are sending more than just the message, “Are you ready?” You are testing out the water before you dive in! You are also testing the pH level of your passion pool. Is it halitosis tonight? Maybe it was something she just ate? That is effective for planning ahead. If she has never experienced sensual kisses from a man, you might have her begging for more! Now, don’t take this the wrong way. I am only discussing the true love’s first kiss. Ladies, if you tease a man with my approach, please let me know how much he fights for your lips. Is there anyone interested in holding a contest? The longer you last without kissing, with the leverage of brushing your lips across theirs, wins.

Checkout and Flaunt It! 

Great! You finally released escalated passion from an intimate embrace! The two lips gliding against each other created something euphoric! Now, where is the true love’s first kiss? How does it start and how much focus falls upon the performance? Is it acceptable to go with the flow? No, not necessarily. If you are uncomfortable, you should step back. Guys, if she wanted a dog to kiss her, she would let her own family friend make the moves before you do. If you are giving her a tongue bath,  she will most likely blow the whistle for a lifeguard. I cannot emphasize enough on how awkward it is to drown while someone is trying to kiss you. Learn how to control your saliva. Ladies, this also goes out for you as well. Start off sweet with soft lips. You already brushed your lips across theirs, and you are already familiar with the texture of their lips. Start off with something light. Guys, listen carefully, caress their lips with yours while your hands wander off somewhere appropriate. Choose between running your fingers through their hair, on the side of their face, or down at their hips. Change it up every other minute and let them experience another alternative between those suggestions.

Pepé Le Puke

No way, José! Hold off on the French kissing for a while! Just enjoy your quality time together before something serious happens. It is not acceptable to find any leftovers from your date or from breakfast before you two saw each other. Stay out of their mouth for a while, and embrace upon something right in front of you. Class is not over yet, fish! Although your session might be romantically engaged, you will need to swim back up for fresh air. When you give yourself a break, just admire each other while your noses touch. This is not only adding kudos to your passionate side, but the emotional connection with someone amazing will gradually become stronger. Use this time to treat them as a person, not another number in your daily planner.

When you have that physical connection with someone, confirm your intentions with them. If you are not willing to commit soon, let them know. If there is interest in pursuing further, talk about it. Let them know that you enjoyed your time together. Communication is important in every status of a relationship, especially the one from within.

Just be yourself, express what you feel, and go with the flow if you two are completely comfortable with each other. If something does not work out effectively, talk about it. Never leave them hanging out to dry for several weeks after your date. That raises a red flag to stay away as far as possible.

Facing Beyond the Face

Do you think kissing leads to more intimacy and sexual attraction? How do you effectively kiss further away from their face? Guys, is there a technique used for kissing a woman’s neck, shoulders, back, nipples, stomach, around their belly button, hips, thighs, inner thighs, legs or softly upon their mons pubis? Ladies, how do you like your sensual kisses? Does the job position entail biting as well, especially for the neck? That may just be another future post! I hope you all enjoyed this article, please feel free to leave any questions or comments below! Start puckering, you hopeless puckers!

xoxoxo

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A Lover’s Christmas List; Top Five Things to Do in December

 T’was the month of November, when gratitude was exchanged throughout the house, families feasted with gluttony and rejoiced with their spouse. The Christmas trees stood tall, completely bare, awaiting for the ornaments and other Christmas decorations to prepare.

The single life is boring with everything lingering in our heads, mistletoe romance, snow angels and rose petals across our beds. I believe I am ready to move on from all this crap, my heart is set to follow life’s mysterious road map. After six years of looking, I thought it didn’t really matter, I have a four year degree, I’m spontaneous and I didn’t get any fatter. I work with family to earn some cash, while my heart is still open from the cheater’s vicious slash.

A lover’s Christmas list is compiled below, the top five things you should do from inside to out in the snow. If you are single, please don’t fear, everything you see planned for this month will still sound great, my dear.

Honestly, I would love to continue that parody. However, I must continue to express the core message of this post. Perfectly transitioned into the holiday spirit, this post is dedicated for those who wish to spice up their love life whether they are currently in a fun, stabilized  relationship or willing to find someone with no strings attached Christmas benefits. I could never compile a list like this one with a numerical order of significance. I do believe we should start off from the beginning of December and move on to something more intimately rewarding at the end. We should all reconsider this month to take an advantage of these ideas and recreate explorative opportunities with loved ones. Whether this will be an incentive to enhance relationships or continue to maintain the strength of many, please relax, have fun, and stay warm.

Do you love the smell of freshly cut Christmas trees? Maybe you would rather prefer to admire something artificial with fiber optic features? Well, regardless of the tree, let’s focus on ourselves. The latest trend for the holiday season is to embrace the lights and the kiss that follows.

Save a tree, decorate each other. 

 No, really, this is an extremely bright idea!  Close your eyes, feel the embrace, lips touch and we’re face to face. Put your arms around my waist, the holiday spirit has much more to taste. Eventually, you’ll decorate something together. Whether you have a Charlie Brown tree, a real spruce, or an artificial – have fun before tackling the tree with lights. If you’re celebrating your first Christmas together, this one is recommended! Take your time and be extra careful not to break any of the lights. Release your wild side, but control yourself at the same time! Explore outside the living room! Bring these lights into the bedroom and let loose. If you are stuck with someone who cannot bring themselves down to this level of being intimately playful, lure their inner teen out to play. It’s in there! Be creative and everything will go perfectly fine.

Mistletoe kisses 

Be honest. How many times have you ever kissed under the mistletoe? Plenty? How many people did that entail? Well, did you follow the rules? What? You didn’t know about mistletoe etiquette? According to HowStuffWork.com, all couples must follow the rules:

“The correct mistletoe etiquette is for the man to remove one berry when he kisses a woman. When all the berries are gone, there’s no more kissing permitted underneath that plant. One legend states that a couple who kisses underneath mistletoe will have good luck, but a couple neglecting to perform the ritual will have bad luck. Specifically, it is believed that a couple kissing under the mistletoe ensure themselves of marriage and a long, happy life, while an unmarried woman not kissed under the mistletoe will remain single for another year.”

Well, that might seem intriguing to do some research before your lips exchange a passionate holiday moment. If you would like more history about this romantic ritual, follow the citation at the end of this post.

There’s Snow Way We’re Leaving 

 Are you from New England? Alaska? Somewhere cold? Do you have enough snow for snow angels? If you said yes, great. If not, consider sand angels. Making snow angels solo can be very difficult. There are no extra hands for support to pull you up to make a perfect snow angel. When you have someone, maybe the perfection isn’t all about the angel itself, but it is simply in the kiss. A passionate kiss in the snow might allow your mind to drift off before realizing that you are losing body heat. Well, it was definitely worth the hypothermia! Go after that vulnerably exposed neck for love bites. When you two are caught up in the moment, you might lose track of the time. Don’t stay out too long, frostbites are not fun at all. Would you rather stay inside away from the cold? Try using thermal sleeping bags that can undergo the cold pressures and obligations of staying outside for your loved one and maintaining your warmth. Do you have a few blankets lying around the house? Bring your comforter outside instead! There are so many fun alternatives to embrace the first snow fall of the year. Take a moment out of your busy day, and relax in the innocently white snow.

If you prefer to stay away from the open field of snow, make an igloo together! If you prefer to stay off the snow, try using a tent with lots of blankets. That will work just as great! Whatever you end up doing, just be safe. The cool temperatures can do some harm. Learn basic survival skills to deal with any concerns or situations you may encounter in the extreme cold temperatures. Take your time, enjoy, and don’t rush the moment.

Embrace the snuggling, and exchange the body heat. The closer you are together, the better you will be. Intertwine those legs together, spend quality time with your significant other, and tell them how much they mean to you. Now is your time to put them in the spotlight!

Heat Up the Kitchen 

 Are you feeling Jack Frost’s winter blow across your face? Let’s go inside for more intimate ways to spend quality time together.  One of the first passionately creative ways to have fun this year would involve heating up the kitchen. You are not a lover unless you know how to use your kitchen counters the right way. If you aren’t confident enough to bake homemade cookies, buy the slice and bake. It is completely fine, but the fun will only be limited to simplistic measures. Now, buy the ingredients and take off those clothes! You should leave your bra, panties, and boxers on to create a sexually appealing atmosphere. It may entice something new or spark up your love life by rekindling old flames.  If you make your own holiday cookies, you can lick the excess mess off each other later!

A personal recommendation would be gingerbread stripper cookies! Check those guys out above this paragraph! One dollar at a time, folks! If you are way too enthusiastic about being intimate with each other in the kitchen, pushing the baking aside, grab yourselves two cans of whipped cream! Just imagine whipped cream kisses! Maybe spray some along the side of your desirable neck awaiting for a tongue’s embrace as a sweet sensational moment. Try other places as well! I heard the movie, “Varsity Blues” enticed a trending whipped cream bikini idea! Why not try that out? Maybe you prefer edible underwear or lingerie? Look, as long as you both understand that the quality over the quantity matters the most. Make the holidays an excuse to explore each other’s passionate sides better. Invest some time thinking about creative ways to make sensual foreplay in the kitchen, bedroom or living room with edible alternatives. If you haven’t discussed allergies, now is a great time! Personally, I don’t have any. Feel free to express yourself with me in any way possible. Well, now that you are a hot mess, maybe it is time to take a cold shower?

By now, you should have decorated each other with lights, exchanged in passionate kisses under the mistletoe, and made the most breathtakingly chilly experiences outside. Always remember – if you live in much warmer climates, or never cold enough for snow, learn how to make sand angels. Use the sand as an alternative for snow. Beach dates are always the best for two hopeless romantics. You have successfully made a batch of sensually arousing foreplay in the kitchen, and you have delivered the freshly baked stimulation into the bedroom.

Now, here is the moment you have all been waiting for throughout the post. The last thing you should reconsider on Christmas Day is to play the big man himself, Santa Claus, and the lovely lady should be entitled to become Santa’s little helper. Ladies, Amazon.com has a vast array of Christmas lingerie. You can also check out sexy Santa costumes. Find one that intrigues your mind, arouses your curiosity, and mesmerizes your eyes. During this month, you two have been extremely naughty!  The naughty list is definitely full this year, and you two made the top! Ladies, you are now awaiting Santa’s arrival. Be sure to ask politely for his candy cane.

Naughty List? Awaiting Santa’s Arrival

The rose petals lead into the bedroom from the Christmas tree that glistens at night. The candle lit atmosphere entices the seductive play to roam free and right. You are completely comfortable to explore each other’s desire to make love. The fireplace is fierce with its warmth from the fire, as stockings are hung from the chimney above. The bed sheets are made with a temporary stay, bring out an extra set of lights to start the play. Wrapped around your neck, pulling you closer for our bodies to collide. The bare skin brushing against each other occurs while the tongues lean in further to glide. A seductive stare implies the motives for a passionate embrace, watch the pupils dilate with a grin on that face. Mount them against the wall, pin them down across the bed, or maybe find a spot right in front of the fireplace. Run your fingers through each other’s hair, noses must come close for Eskimo pride. Teasingly brush your lips across theirs without a kiss just yet, let them beg for it – I’m sure they will start to lose the bet. Prolong the moment, embrace the face. Forehead kisses should start the race. Move with pace, and transition to cheek kisses and chin kisses while moving all over the place.

Let those hands wander, let them run along their neck. Watch out – it might lead into something they hope to expect. Give them a stare, give them a smile – move further down and stay for a while. They will lean their neck over to feel the moment of burning desire. Take an advantage of their vulnerably exposed neck and don’t ever retire. Soft gentle blows across will do the trick, while you run your fingers through their hair and slightly tug quick. Wherever you two may be for the night, enjoy it.

Entice, explore, and express.

Entice the passionate feelings by making them completely comfortable and sexy for you. Explore their body like an artist penetrates his brush against an untouched canvas. Express your sensual side by massaging and caressing their body closer to your lips.

Why not bring a part of the outside with you? Take some snow or ice to glide right across their hot body. Teasingly glide along their neck, across their chest, and along their waistline. Do you dare attempt to run along their thighs and eventually transitioning to their inner thighs?  Always remember to wrap your tongue around the erogenous zones, or hot spots. Watch their body movements and understand what everything is non-verbally telling you. If their fingers are digging into skin or bed sheets, you might be giving them a deep penetrating sensation. You will not only end the year with a bang, but start off the New Year as two distinct lovers in the bedroom. Happy Holidays! No, really, you deserve it!

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A Lover’s Christmas List; Top Five Things to Do in December