Romantic Résumé; Marketing Yourself for Love in 2013

Happy New Year! Wait, does that traditional phrase  jinx our chance at love this year? Are there any hopeless romantics dusting off their sleeves for their heart to breathe through one last year of hope?

According to StatisticBrain.com, falling in love fell at #9 for Top 10 New Year’s Resolutions for 2012. Is 2013 your time to shine for romance and a long-term commitment? Although the recent study published from the University of Scranton in the Journal of Clinical Psychology did not show the participant sample that represented Americans, as a whole, these  New Year’s Resolution Statistics for 2012 might show that hope is running out very quickly for this year. According to the study, relationship related resolutions fell at the bottom of the categories at 31%. What matters more than finding Mr. Right? Self-improvement, weight related concerns, and money resolutions!

I am sorry, but I cannot help you with weight loss or financial assistance. I can give you encouragement to train yourself harder every day, but you will eventually snap at my advice because I am not there running with you. It may seem as if I am running against you. I can also help you become frugal, but who am I to control your lifestyle and the spending involved throughout the year? I will, however, help you with self-improvement and then the relationship building for 2013.

Polish Your Romantic Résumé

What the hell is a romantic résumé? Does Cupid have a romantic résumé, or how about Prince Charming? Mr. Right’s romantic résumé is extremely outstanding to read! Ladies, talk about overqualified!

Everyone has a passionate side about relationships, regardless how prude or introverted they are around their own peers. It is completely natural and very common to hide these ideas for their own personal preference. We are all human, and we all have romantic tendencies to engage and indulge in something that will arouse our senses. This could be a simple butterfly kiss on the forehead to something more playful and seductive if done right, like Eskimo kisses.

Now, when was the last time you have ever felt intimacy with another person? Let’s break it down into categories called bases. How many times have you allowed someone else, or yourself, to go to first base? Second base? Third? How about some grand slams, or home runs? Maybe you’re just a rookie who needs some pointers. That’s fine. Let me help before you step up to the plate once again – or at least, for the first time professionally. Sorry boys, this isn’t Little League anymore.

Check out my romantic résumé below. I have used my real name, my real email address, and partly some of my residence. Sorry, don’t get me wrong, I love intimate encounters with strangers, but I do not encourage those surprises! My linguistic skills and my interests are accurately written as well. I have provided a sample of how you will discover your strengths and weaknesses by laying them out in a professional format:

Anthony Terragna

Email: tony.terragna@gmail.com

69 Lover Lane

1 – 800 – ROMANCE

East Hartford, CT, 06118

CAREER AIM     Specialization in Sexology and Linguistics

EDUCATION

08/2008 – 08/2012         PhD in Passion, Romance and Seduction Studies, University of Seduction, 2012

WORK EXPERIENCE

2003 – Present       Phone Sex Operator

Achieved outstanding customer service with women in search for romantic, intellectual indulgence of passion over the phone. The instant gratification of passionate language and seductive techniques will always be guaranteed. A catalyst for irregular heart beats, hazy eyes, loss of voice, dry mouth, giggling or pure silence, bottom lip biting, wandering hands, and closed eyes imagining a vast array of erotic fantasies.

LINGUISTIC SKILLS; EUROPEAN, MIDDLE EASTERN, AND EAST ASIAN

East Hartford High School

Manchester Community College

University of Connecticut 

Spanish 4 Honors

1 Non-credit Introduction to Arabic night course during high school

Elementary Arabic I

French 3 Honors

Elementary Chinese I

Mandarin Chinese 1

Intermediate to Advanced French instructed courses

INTERESTS / SCHOLASTIC ACTIVITIES / AWARDS

Undergraduate: University of Connecticut American English Language Institute (UCAELI) Conversation Partner volunteer committed to the enrichment and exchange of interpersonal communication in English with native Mandarin, Arabic, Korean, and European speakers (2012)

High School: 1st Recipient Outstanding Six Year Student in World Language (2008)

High School: Department Scholar Plaque E.H.H.S. 2008 Presented for Excellence in World Language

Undergraduate: Primary Applied Foreign Language Certificate of Achievement in French (2011)

Emotional Baggage

Does a romantic résumé include past relationships under work experience? Any potential employer, or prospective partner,  would love to see how long your relationships might have lasted, but that is not necessarily conveying the overall quality of  each one. Now, what if you didn’t have any experience in the love department? Maybe your experiences hindered your ability to do better, and now you have bad work habits.  How do you refine yourself from those experiences? If you are willing to let go of emotional baggage, let me know.

You need to discover yourself before you discover everyone else. You need to find your strengths, weaknesses, and insecurities. You need to face everything and anything that may hinder your chance at finding the most suitable partner for your life. I am willing to help you find yourself, and your soul mate.

If I have enough interest from my hopeless romantic viewers, I will share my secrets of success at relationship building. Keep in mind – you will build your own relationship from within before you tackle one with someone else. You will feel confident, independent, and beautiful in what you do and what you say when you naturally market yourself for a successful relationship. This process will not force you in any way to step out of your own comfort zone. If you are introverted, I will suggest something to help you open up more. If you are extroverted, maybe you need a suggestion to cool down from being too open with people. If you have any problems along the way, it’s not you – it’s them.

Vote for change in 2013! Vote now! If you aren’t sure, fine. Let me know that you still read this article. I may count the “not sure” votes as “maybe” votes. Then, I will post the results and start refining relationships. Everyone is different, but we all have similarities and differences. This is a challenge, but it is well worth the wait.

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Romantic Résumé; Marketing Yourself for Love in 2013

Lips Are Sealed; Holding Off a Perfect Moment with Bad Breath

What the hell did you eat? Have you ever came close to a disturbing smell lingering out of your date’s mouth? Was your passionate kiss delayed or did you continue to embrace upon a journey of no return? Did you think it could never be that bad, but realized the aftertaste left you sick? My lips were always sealed, escaping from another unforgettable love story,  but we know William Shakespeare’s Juliet was unbelievably in love with Romeo that she kissed poison off the lips of her dead man’s corpse. Although the dagger was more potent in this situation, what if you came close to toxic lips that Britney Spears seems to enjoy? Those lips gave her a ride and a “poison paradise”. I highly doubt bad breath kisses will cause an addiction. If they do, please send me or yourself to Desperate Kissing Anonymous.

If you chose taste in my senses challenge, the problem will still linger throughout the evening. The problem will be entirely different from the smell of burnt cookies in a lover’s kitchen with the Lover’s Christmas List. Maybe you woke up to this problem after engaging in no strings attached snuggling? What if you engaged in hot passionate sensualist foreplay? What do you do in these situations without hurting your date or partner? I will explain my perspective and experiences on this, and hopefully you can understand my motives. After you read this blog post, I hope the holiday season can still bring you intimate kisses under the mistletoe without leaving an aftertaste of obligation.

One of his hands finds a spot on the side of her face, the other sends the fingers out to roam aimlessly through her hair. A seductive exchange of eyes and grins entices the couple to embrace their lips. A delicate forehead kiss starts the fun, cheeks are anxiously awaiting for their turn. The nose awaits its turn too and Eskimo kisses are always fun to do. The perfect transition is down to their lips, but hindered confidence pushes aside this intimate idea. The pores of his masculine face shed tears of garlic from the romantic candlelit Italian dinner an hour ago. The feeling of dishonesty, betrayal and obligation may leave them thinking, “What’s next? Maybe we should have bought the Tiramisu for dessert instead.”

You saved each other for dessert? Yeah, I would do the same. I would never have to worry about gaining calories, rather enjoyably shedding them off. Now, what happens next? Do you change the topic and ask the waiter to bring out the dessert menu? Do you go back home and face the awkward blow of Italy’s most potent dish in the restaurant? Regardless if you chose the first option to sweeten up their lips, maybe the smell of Tiramisu and garlic will really throw you over the edge. Garlic cappuccino, anyone? Mama mia!  The two love birds will eventually have to leave, unless you are staying the night. Be sure to brush your teeth before hitting the sack. The departure will be an exchange of prolonged hugs and good-bye’s. Possibly his wandering hands fill your back pockets and your noses occupy with each other awaiting for the signal to shift further down. To exchange a goodnight kiss or not to exchange a goodnight kiss – that is the question I will answer. I will give you some suggestions on how to end a night out with a perfect alternative of battling your partner’s bad breath. If you have any other suggestions, please feel free to send them in the comments below.

Location, location, location! 

Yes, we are marketing our lips as temporary hotel stays. We want the best location for the most passionate embrace. What if the location was ideal for a quickie before stepping into the door where your parents lurk around for your arrival? Location is essentially important for any public display of affection. I will briefly go over the most commonly used places for a good-night kiss. Then, we can decide what to do after that destination is discovered.  If you have a special place where you enjoy the lips of your partner or casual dates, let me know under the comment section below.

The Restaurant 

Well, it has to start somewhere! I am trying to convey the message here that it is perfectly fine to kiss someone at a restaurant! However, it is not fine when they have bad breath. How do we avoid being intimate with a lingering enemy taking over your attractive date’s lips? We let them win, but we play back harder. It is perfectly fine if you never kissed on the first date, most people feel the same way. What if you went out for a night with your girlfriend/boyfriend or spouse? I am sure they will love these alternative approaches to restaurant etiquette. I will explain three of my favorite alternatives to being playfully passionate and assertive.

The Restaurant: Footsie

Ah, yes, a very discreet way of expressing your playful submissive side without exchanging lips. Try it sometime! This is not necessarily limited to the restaurant setting. You can also do this at home at the kitchen table, on the couch or in bed.

Communication is essentially important, especially non-verbal communication. If your partner is receptive, this is a win-win. If they are too oblivious or uncomfortable, at least you tried. In the bedroom, toes can be used like fingers. Be soft, gentle and playfully outgoing. Practice and find a perfect technique that you are comfortable doing outside the bedroom. Always remember to maintain restaurant etiquette. Make sure you showered before your socks slip off, and look around to see if anyone would notice. In advanced, request for a booth, unless you are an exhibitionist for public attention.

Holding hands under the table.

The Restaurant: Hold Hands

Can it really be that simple? Yes! You can do this anywhere you want and most people will actually approve. You might make other couples jealous. Do this before and after your meals, or even during your meal! Caress their fingers, massage their wrists. I am not asking for much here. This is casual, but very effective. Think of this as an under the counter addiction. Communicate them with words and actions. Talk is extremely cheap, and this speaks everything you could never explain. If you are a professional hand holder, you may sway them to forget about the kiss or possibly entice it. Whether or not they understand that you declined the kiss, they will be more than happy to hold your hand until the check comes.

The Restaurant: Breath check, please?

Let’s face it – you are not confident enough to kiss them in public, especially with a lingering Italian garlic monster. That is completely fine. The dinner towelette is an idealistic  suggestion thrown on the table. Ask for two mints, and head out the door. Maybe the mint and the fresh air will help the problem by the time you arrive home. Next time, go out for ice cream or hot chocolate at a local diner after a movie date. Keep the garlic possibilities aside.

The Bedroom: Good Mourning!

Rise and shi .. SHIT! Morning breath is not a fun battle every morning. I have no problem with it, but I did experience a no strings attached snuggle with someone who did.  They thought it was extremely bad, however my personal rating was below the worst one I have ever experienced. Although  a “good mourning” is an oxymoron, nobody wants to mourn over any morning unless it’s Monday!

The Bedroom: Foreplay? No, more like foul play! 

The romantic dinner at the Italian restaurant was priceless, even if you skipped satisfying your sweet tooth for dessert. You are both sprawled out in bed, looking up at the ceiling, and wondering, “What’s next?” Do you tuck each other in for bed or take up on the rain check for dessert now? Did the breath mint help resolve the problem or did it make it any worse than before? Regardless whether you woke up to this morning surprise or brought it home with you as an Italian dinner souvenir, you have to learn how to work around it.

The Bedroom: Embracing the Sensualist Approach

Learn how to seduce them without kissing them right away. I cannot emphasize this enough. Everyone seems to pucker up without hesitation. Learn how to balance out the playful and submissive side. First, check out my other article on The Art of Seduction; Revealing the Sensualist PerspectiveTake some mental notes, and come back. It will save me a lot of time rewriting those ideas. The core message that I want you take from that article is how to avoid kissing their lips right away, and how you can do this in a sexy, confident manner.

The Movie Theater

Aw, a romantic Italian dinner and a movie? Wait,  we all know you aren’t really watching this movie! Could have fooled me! Do chick flicks make you think, “I could kiss better than that! Watch!” Well, hopefully garlic glazed popcorn isn’t served in this theater! Does it still smell or maybe the bad breath was before the movie date? Do you feel obligated to look as cute as this couple on the left? You might want to try that pose, but it might do more harm than teasing them instead. Try these alternative approaches during the boring scenes!

The Movie Theater: Hold Hands

I’m sorry but this is when I repeat myself from earlier:

Can it really be that simple? Yes! You can do this anywhere you want and most people will actually approve. You might make other couples jealous.

No, honestly, you paid good money for those seats! Enjoy the movie, even if you end up looking anticipated to make your moves.  Now, one last time I repeat why you should embrace those fingers together:

Caress their fingers, massage their wrists. I am not asking for much here. This is casual, but very effective.

Honestly, let those hands wander aimlessly around. Guys, massage her arms. Girls, play with his arm hairs. If you really want the exhibitionist way of doing things, sit in the back with the wall behind you. As long as it is consensual fun, enjoy yourselves. It is extremely difficult when you try your best not to kiss them, but kiss them somewhere else. Try for their neck! As long as you set your morals straight, you will never have to worry about traumatizing a little boy’s movie theater experience.

Home Sweet Home

Whether you had a romantic Italian dinner, a movie, or possibly both, the date was a success. Now, it is time to leave your own ways until the next time your eyes meet once again. If you’re married or living with them, just follow the bedroom section. Now, do you exchange your kisses here at the front door, or do you embrace the hugs? Are your parents watching outside the windows or your siblings are running outside to make front row seats in the nearby bushes? Just remember the article I suggested earlier. It might be too explicit for you, but the core message is communication. Understand what their body language suggests and learn how to work around it. Does it look like they want to kiss you? Maybe they need more time to re-evaluate the date? Maybe they already know they have bad breath from a self-check in the restaurant or movie theater bathroom? Learn how to playfully change the mood about kissing them. An easier way to remember this is to take the ‘u’ in “fun” and turn it the other way around to make it a ‘c’. Now, you have FCN which stands for, “Forehead, Cheek, and Nose.” Give them forehead kisses, two cheek kisses, and then some Eskimo kisses. Unless the breath is that bad, stay away from the Eskimo kisses for a while. Never let the bad breath garlic monsters hinder your romantic experiences!

Have you ever experienced bad breath on a date? How did you work things out? Do you have any suggestions? Leave the comments below!  

Lips Are Sealed; Holding Off a Perfect Moment with Bad Breath

No Strings Attached Snuggling; The Trending Sensual Intentions Surrounded by Sexual Misconceptions

You are most likely a hopeless romantic following my blog for an instant emotional and intellectual connection within yourself. My recent blog posts may have helped you release your daily stress from work, school or taking care of children. Possibly, you could have all three of those emotional burdens hindering some time alone for yourself. You may argue that you do manage your time wisely to schedule personal time alone from reality, however it is only limited to meals, showers and sleep. It is unfortunate that my presence is absent to fulfill your innermost desire for physical touch and the embrace of two bodies with legs intertwined by engaging in no strings attached snuggling. There is a guarantee that you can find someone else who will make you completely comfortable with that taboo concept of snuggling with strangers.  You may decline to take part in the latest trend to market your snuggling skills as a professional cuddler, like the woman in New York who owns The Snuggery, but there are people willing to snuggle free of charge.

Jacqueline, the founder of The Snuggery, has a chart provided on her website that discloses the rates and services. You can have a complete hour with her for only a dollar a minute. If you choose 45 minutes, you lose $5 for jumping off the bed too soon. Do you have a ménage à trois preference? You can double the cuddle ratio for twice as much for another professional cuddler to join you. Honestly, two people can save $180 to cuddle with me for more than 180 minutes. Yes, this is a personal advertisement, please ask for applications in the comment section below. I will also mention that age is just a number because snuggling is not sexual, it is sensual.

The concept of no strings attached snuggling has stirred up some controversial questioning on the sensual vs. sexual debate. My primary focus is to step into the cold shower from the last three posts that I have written and focus on the sexual misconceptions of no strings attached snuggling. I will also be laying out the differences between sensual play vs. sexual play to help refine those questionable areas. I define play as participating in an active role in having consensual fun

First, let us step away from imagining the vulnerable dependency with our five traditional senses in the bedroom. Secondly, let us put aside the Lover’s Christmas List which perfectly transitioned into the most explicitly written post. We can go back to the seductive sensualist approach later. I hope all of those posts relaxed you to reconnect with your comfort zone and allow you to sleep well for the night you read them.

What is no strings attached snuggling? How is it different engaging in sex with no strings attached? How do you lay out the rules and restrictions for no strings attached snuggling? How can you say that snuggling does not lead to sex, while many others arguably say that spooning does?  How will I ever be sure to find someone who will respect me and my decision to only subject myself to platonic snuggling? Should I let them caress my shoulders or arms? Should we hold hands and occasionally massage each other’s wrists and fingers? What happens when the person takes an advantage of me? Do I slap them? These are only a few of the questions that arise around this trending sensation. I will try my best to answer all the ones I mentioned and hopefully clear up the sexual misconceptions surrounded by this sensual activity.

According to UrbanDictionary.com, no strings attached snuggling is accurately defined:

“Snuggling or sleeping together with no real intention of having any intimate time. Can turn sexual by accident but generally just a platonic relationship for the mutal [sic] benifit [sic] of enjoying sleep while being close to someone. More common in winter, where single men and women attempt to keep warm. Sometimes wrongly interpreted as Friends with benifits [sic].  No strings attached snuggling wether  [sic] platonic or not generally has no after-sleep awkwardness or strings.

Although snuggling does not necessarily mean sleeping, it does lead into being relaxed and comfortable with each other which may result to falling asleep in each other’s arms. If you cannot fall asleep, but simply embrace this temporary physical bond that you two have created, you might be stuck in a place where you are wide awake in the early morning right before your parents wake up for their caffeine fix. Hopefully they can accept your “sleep over” by avoiding the twenty questions of whether or not seeing you sleeping next to someone else was just as they perceived it, especially in your bed. If you are a male in your twenties, questioning protection will definitely be top priority. If you are a young woman, this great idea for a sleep over was not the best decision after all. If you are much older, out on your own, there really isn’t much to worry about other than waking up to the weekend with someone physically appealing. Go back to bed and let them stay where they are.

Now, intimacy is a different path to understand. If you have snuggled with your best friend for a while, you cannot say that you have no intimacy within that relationship. Intimacy requires a closer relationship with the person by effectively understanding them better through warmth and affection. As an experienced person with no strings attached snuggling, I have a tendency to show warmth and affection regardless if I barely know them. I do it under the consensual conditions that we are both relaxed, comfortable and willing to exchange little perks of affection to help relieve stress and entice the release of hormones throughout the body, like serotonin. The feeling of physical and emotional compatibility will generally offer more affection to those who fit my qualifications. If I go out of my way to become more affectionate, understand that I have feelings for you. This is only common when I have a strong attraction for you earlier in stages of our relationship, or a gradual acceptance over a few months of spending time together. Everyone has different perceptions on intimacy, however it is entirely up to them to talk about what they can and will not accept when you snuggle together. Discuss this with them and find out all the restrictions. Maybe they will allow forehead kisses, Eskimo kisses, cheek kisses, butterfly kisses, and chin kisses. Communication cannot be emphasized enough – just talk to them.

According to the Snuggery’s Policies and FAQ, there is a mandatory first meeting time before you experience snuggling with Jacqueline to discuss these same policies and make sure the clients are comfortable in pursuing your intentions for no strings attached snuggling. She does reassure you that  “although sexual activity is not permitted,” she mentions that arousal is “perfectly normal and should not make anyone feel uncomfortable.” The exchange of communication is also mentioned, and should only be up your personal preference whether you wish to talk during your session or not. Yes, everyone has their own personal preferences for everything they do, especially when they subject themselves to something physically and emotionally mutual. However, we must control ourselves with platonic intentions, unless you wish to pursue the sensual intentions mentioned earlier. I would recommend it if you are completely aware of the situation and how you both will move on from this experience without being emotionally hurt. Discuss the circumstances and the “what-if” scenarios. If you knew that you would crave more of their sensual touch after that night, leaving you left with unrequited love or the lack of a mutual exchange, you will definitely feel left out. Be extra careful with your feelings on this one. I will also emphasize that you should never do something or say something that you know will cause a significant impact on their emotions and feelings. This is not a moment to lead anyone on. That is the least of their concerns. Although it might sound ideal to just embrace  sleeping with someone with no other intentions, people will seek more options to explore. Discuss this with either the person you barely know or your lover for that cuddle session. Your boyfriend or girlfriend may take an advantage, but that does not necessarily mean it is right. Let them know. This also goes with marital concerns. Please understand the controversial topic of  marital rape. It is a matter of self-control and being assertive. Lay out the barriers, respect each other’s requests, and do not attempt to alter any decisions. If you have animals, why would you decline their offers? We all know you are comfortable about this one! Just take it and appreciate it! Your bundle of fur will hold a grudge if you ignore them. I suppose that also goes to everyone else.

How can you say that snuggling does not lead to sex? Communication.  Draw the fine lines between sexual and sensual. Kissing does not necessarily have to lead to sex either. Chocolate covered strawberries are also blamed for enticing something sexual to occur. Is it your boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse? Just communicate. Tell them to cool it down and accept it as it is. Is it a summer fling, no strings attached night out on the couch, or someone temporary? You may barely know each other, but be open about this now. Lay out your expectations! Yes, if you spoon with someone, it may cause some arousal. Embrace it as a product of your emotions. Never use it to your advantage. Discuss and convey everything about yourselves. Why would you even bother to ignore important information like that?

How will I ever be sure to find someone who will respect me and my decision? 

Communication. I cannot emphasize enough on exchanging ideas and concerns with each other.

Should I allow caressing? 

If there is a consensual decision to allow caressing shoulders and arms, let it happen. The feelings will be greatly enhance during your physical embrace. If you are willing to hold each other’s hands, occasionally massaging their wrists and fingers, discuss this with them. Honestly, if you are not looking forward to feeling the extra perks of snuggling with someone, grab a pillow!

Lastly, when is the caressing too much? How do I let them know that I am uncomfortable?

Everyone has boundaries and expectations. Do not cross over the boundaries by violating the expectations. You should have laid out the rules and expectations before you decided to snuggle with each other. Guys, your sexual arousal is completely natural. Do not assume to share the latest news that recently popped up – literally. Ladies,  your sexual arousal is completely natural. Do not assume it is completely fine to entice the moment by slowly grinding against him. You are officially a tease. Most guys would love to feel that tease, but others may take it the wrong way. If they take an advantage of you by allowing their hands to wander, stop them. That simple. If you are in relationship with them, never feel obligated that you should continue. Yes, although they might enjoy it, just slap them.

Snuggling is a sensual act of two bodies pressed closed together. You want to feel their warmth through the exchange of body heat. You crave that security blanket of physical and emotional sensation of being with someone. Try it out with everyone you feel comfortable inviting into your personal space. I am always interested in rekindling high school crushes or finding someone brand new to share these warm urges during the holiday season. We are all mammals craving for that sensational feeling of physical touch. Embrace the opportunity, improve the experience. Friends will refer to what you are doing as “friends with benefits” while you can reassure to them that they are friends with explorative opportunities. Although I will not dive into the concept around friends with benefits, I will briefly explain sensual play vs. sexual play. I define play as participating in an active role in having consensual funSensual play can lead into foreplay, but it is not necessarily mandatory for this moment. A sensualist craves stimulating their senses, while sexual play has overwhelmingly taken over everyone’s mind to assume that sensual is sexual. The appreciation for the act of snuggling can push aside the idea that being sexual is a catalytic spark that can suddenly deteriorate relationships.  When someone finally realizes that there is so much more to a relationship than being in the bedroom, communication improves the growth and development of everything established.

A Mini How-To Guide on Snuggling Improvement 

How do I improve snuggling? Well, simply embrace the S.N.U.G. 

Socialize. Pillow talk without the post-sexual feeling.

Negotiate. Ask for more time, ask for a closer position, and talk about places outside the house for snuggling.

Understand. Just stop, and admire. Understand what their body is telling you. Watch non-verbal cues through their eyes and facial expressions.

Gather. Take all the mental notes you can. Never assume that you know everything. Knowledge is power, especially when you notice the smallest details and then bring them up in the next conversation. They will be very surprised that you bothered to pay close attention. That shows a sign of being a priority over being an option.

No Strings Attached Snuggling; The Trending Sensual Intentions Surrounded by Sexual Misconceptions

No Strings Attached Snuggling; The Trending Sensual Intentions Surrounded by Sexual Misconceptions

You are most likely a hopeless romantic following my blog for an instant emotional and intellectual connection within yourself. My recent blog posts may have helped you release your daily stress from work, school or taking care of children. Possibly, you could have all three of those emotional burdens hindering some time alone for yourself. You may argue that you do manage your time wisely to schedule personal time alone from reality, however it is only limited to meals, showers and sleep. It is unfortunate that my presence is absent to fulfill your innermost desire for physical touch and the embrace of two bodies with legs intertwined by engaging in no strings attached snuggling. There is a guarantee that you can find someone else who will make you completely comfortable with that taboo concept of snuggling with strangers.  You may decline to take part in the latest trend to market your snuggling skills as a professional cuddler, like the woman in New York who owns The Snuggery, but there are people willing to snuggle free of charge.

Jacqueline, the founder of The Snuggery, has a chart provided on her website that discloses the rates and services. You can have a complete hour with her for only a dollar a minute. If you choose 45 minutes, you lose $5 for jumping off the bed too soon. Do you have a ménage à trois preference? You can double the cuddle ratio for twice as much for another professional cuddler to join you. Honestly, two people can save $180 to cuddle with me for more than 180 minutes. Yes, this is a personal advertisement, please ask for applications in the comment section below. I will also mention that age is just a number because snuggling is not sexual, it is sensual.

The concept of no strings attached snuggling has stirred up some controversial questioning on the sensual vs. sexual debate. My primary focus is to step into the cold shower from the last three posts that I have written and focus on the sexual misconceptions of no strings attached snuggling. I will also be laying out the differences between sensual play vs. sexual play to help refine those questionable areas. I define play as participating in an active role in having consensual fun

First, let us step away from imagining the vulnerable dependency with our five traditional senses in the bedroom. Secondly, let us put aside the Lover’s Christmas List which perfectly transitioned into the most explicitly written post. We can go back to the seductive sensualist approach later. I hope all of those posts relaxed you to reconnect with your comfort zone and allow you to sleep well for the night you read them.

What is no strings attached snuggling? How is it different engaging in sex with no strings attached? How do you lay out the rules and restrictions for no strings attached snuggling? How can you say that snuggling does not lead to sex, while many others arguably say that spooning does?  How will I ever be sure to find someone who will respect me and my decision to only subject myself to platonic snuggling? Should I let them caress my shoulders or arms? Should we hold hands and occasionally massage each other’s wrists and fingers? What happens when the person takes an advantage of me? Do I slap them? These are only a few of the questions that arise around this trending sensation. I will try my best to answer all the ones I mentioned and hopefully clear up the sexual misconceptions surrounded by this sensual activity.

According to UrbanDictionary.com, no strings attached snuggling is accurately defined:

Snuggling or sleeping together with no real intention of having any intimate time. Can turn sexual by accident but generally just a platonic relationship for the mutal [sic] benifit [sic] of enjoying sleep while being close to someone. More common in winter, where single men and women attempt to keep warm. Sometimes wrongly interpreted as Friends with benifits [sic].  No strings attached snuggling wether  [sic] platonic or not generally has no after-sleep awkwardness or strings.

Although snuggling does not necessarily mean sleeping, it does lead into being relaxed and comfortable with each other which may result to falling asleep in each other’s arms. If you cannot fall asleep, but simply embrace this temporary physical bond that you two have created, you might be stuck in a place where you are wide awake in the early morning right before your parents wake up for their caffeine fix. Hopefully they can accept your “sleep over” by avoiding the twenty questions of whether or not seeing you sleeping next to someone else was just as they perceived it, especially in your bed. If you are a male in your twenties, questioning protection will definitely be top priority. If you are a young woman, this great idea for a sleep over was not the best decision after all. If you are much older, out on your own, there really isn’t much to worry about other than waking up to the weekend with someone physically appealing. Go back to bed and let them stay where they are.

Now, intimacy is a different path to understand. If you have snuggled with your best friend for a while, you cannot say that you have no intimacy within that relationship. Intimacy requires a closer relationship with the person by effectively understanding them better through warmth and affection. As an experienced person with no strings attached snuggling, I have a tendency to show warmth and affection regardless if I barely know them. I do it under the consensual conditions that we are both relaxed, comfortable and willing to exchange little perks of affection to help relieve stress and entice the release of hormones throughout the body, like serotonin. The feeling of physical and emotional compatibility will generally offer more affection to those who fit my qualifications. If I go out of my way to become more affectionate, understand that I have feelings for you. This is only common when I have a strong attraction for you earlier in stages of our relationship, or a gradual acceptance over a few months of spending time together. Everyone has different perceptions on intimacy, however it is entirely up to them to talk about what they can and will not accept when you snuggle together. Discuss this with them and find out all the restrictions. Maybe they will allow forehead kisses, Eskimo kisses, cheek kisses, butterfly kisses, and chin kisses. Communication cannot be emphasized enough – just talk to them.

According to the Snuggery’s Policies and FAQ, there is a mandatory first meeting time before you experience snuggling with Jacqueline to discuss these same policies and make sure the clients are comfortable in pursuing your intentions for no strings attached snuggling. She does reassure you that  “although sexual activity is not permitted,” she mentions that arousal is “perfectly normal and should not make anyone feel uncomfortable.” The exchange of communication is also mentioned, and should only be up your personal preference whether you wish to talk during your session or not. Yes, everyone has their own personal preferences for everything they do, especially when they subject themselves to something physically and emotionally mutual. However, we must control ourselves with platonic intentions, unless you wish to pursue the sensual intentions mentioned earlier. I would recommend it if you are completely aware of the situation and how you both will move on from this experience without being emotionally hurt. Discuss the circumstances and the “what-if” scenarios. If you knew that you would crave more of their sensual touch after that night, leaving you left with unrequited love or the lack of a mutual exchange, you will definitely feel left out. Be extra careful with your feelings on this one. I will also emphasize that you should never do something or say something that you know will cause a significant impact on their emotions and feelings. This is not a moment to lead anyone on. That is the least of their concerns. Although it might sound ideal to just embrace  sleeping with someone with no other intentions, people will seek more options to explore. Discuss this with either the person you barely know or your lover for that cuddle session. Your boyfriend or girlfriend may take an advantage, but that does not necessarily mean it is right. Let them know. This also goes with marital concerns. Please understand the controversial topic of  marital rape. It is a matter of self-control and being assertive. Lay out the barriers, respect each other’s requests, and do not attempt to alter any decisions. If you have animals, why would you decline their offers? We all know you are comfortable about this one! Just take it and appreciate it! Your bundle of fur will hold a grudge if you ignore them. I suppose that also goes to everyone else.

How can you say that snuggling does not lead to sex? Communication.  Draw the fine lines between sexual and sensual. Kissing does not necessarily have to lead to sex either. Chocolate covered strawberries are also blamed for enticing something sexual to occur. Is it your boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse? Just communicate. Tell them to cool it down and accept it as it is. Is it a summer fling, no strings attached night out on the couch, or someone temporary? You may barely know each other, but be open about this now. Lay out your expectations! Yes, if you spoon with someone, it may cause some arousal. Embrace it as a product of your emotions. Never use it to your advantage. Discuss and convey everything about yourselves. Why would you even bother to ignore important information like that?

How will I ever be sure to find someone who will respect me and my decision? 

Communication. I cannot emphasize enough on exchanging ideas and concerns with each other.

Should I allow caressing? 

If there is a consensual decision to allow caressing shoulders and arms, let it happen. The feelings will be greatly enhance during your physical embrace. If you are willing to hold each other’s hands, occasionally massaging their wrists and fingers, discuss this with them. Honestly, if you are not looking forward to feeling the extra perks of snuggling with someone, grab a pillow!

Lastly, when is the caressing too much? How do I let them know that I am uncomfortable?

Everyone has boundaries and expectations. Do not cross over the boundaries by violating the expectations. You should have laid out the rules and expectations before you decided to snuggle with each other. Guys, your sexual arousal is completely natural. Do not assume to share the latest news that recently popped up – literally. Ladies,  your sexual arousal is completely natural. Do not assume it is completely fine to entice the moment by slowly grinding against him. You are officially a tease. Most guys would love to feel that tease, but others may take it the wrong way. If they take an advantage of you by allowing their hands to wander, stop them. That simple. If you are in relationship with them, never feel obligated that you should continue. Yes, although they might enjoy it, just slap them.

Snuggling is a sensual act of two bodies pressed closed together. You want to feel their warmth through the exchange of body heat. You crave that security blanket of physical and emotional sensation of being with someone. Try it out with everyone you feel comfortable inviting into your personal space. I am always interested in rekindling high school crushes or finding someone brand new to share these warm urges during the holiday season. We are all mammals craving for that sensational feeling of physical touch. Embrace the opportunity, improve the experience. Friends will refer to what you are doing as “friends with benefits” while you can reassure to them that they are friends with explorative opportunities. Although I will not dive into the concept around friends with benefits, I will briefly explain sensual play vs. sexual play. I define play as participating in an active role in having consensual funSensual play can lead into foreplay, but it is not necessarily mandatory for this moment. A sensualist craves stimulating their senses, while sexual play has overwhelmingly taken over everyone’s mind to assume that sensual is sexual. The appreciation for the act of snuggling can push aside the idea that being sexual is a catalytic spark that can suddenly deteriorate relationships.  When someone finally realizes that there is so much more to a relationship than being in the bedroom, communication improves the growth and development of everything established.


A Mini How-To Guide on Snuggling Improvement 

How do I improve snuggling? Well, simply embrace the S.N.U.G. 

Socialize. Pillow talk without the post-sexual feeling.

Negotiate. Ask for more time, ask for a closer position, and talk about places outside the house for snuggling.

Understand. Just stop, and admire. Understand what their body is telling you. Watch non-verbal cues through their eyes and facial expressions.

Gather. Take all the mental notes you can. Never assume that you know everything. Knowledge is power, especially when you notice the smallest details and then bring them up in the next conversation. They will be very surprised that you bothered to pay close attention. That shows a sign of being a priority over being an option.

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The Art of Seduction; Revealing the Sensualist Perspective

You made an ultimate sacrifice with your five traditional senses to make hot passionate love with your loved one. You are slowly checking off the Lover’s Christmas List as the countdown in December entices participation in every room of the house. The Christmas tree is finally decorated with bright lights, handmade ornaments, and decorative holiday ribbons. The stockings are hung by the chimney with care and the arousing scent of the slice and bake cookies linger in the air. The passionate urges surface the mind, your lover patiently awaits in the bedroom sprawled out and refined. Your mesmerized eyes pay close attention to the red carpet runner of rose petals leading into the bedroom. Your significant other’s sexually appealing nature in intimate apparel is an incentive to come closer.

The candle lit atmosphere glistening across the room rejuvenated the desire to embrace the night’s anticipated explorative opportunity. Then, you suddenly hesitate upon entering the room. Your mind races with mixed feelings of love and betrayal from the lack of disclosing concerns of intimacy through an effective exchange of communication. You placed in a situation where you crave their sensual touch and emotional connection but the overall intimate performance has declined in the last few attempts. You are always left hot, bothered and never sexually satisfied. The stimulating foreplay, if you are extremely fortunate that night, is rarely introduced. The opposite side of the situation may lead into the wrong approach for sensual play. You might be receiving the foreplay, but something is hindering your body’s potential to release the inner lover from within. How do you help them forward to enhance the overall intimate encounter without being too assertive? I am proud to announce my secrets behind my intimate motives for the art of seduction. I hope you can take this opportunity with you back into the bedroom. If you are single, just imagine everything happening. Let me intrigue your mind, stimulate ideas, and allow yourself to explore the unknown of qualitative erotic narration. Ladies, I will make you relaxed in the next few paragraphs. Please be aware that this will be one of my first erotically explicit posts I have ever written. Find a place to relax, get comfortable and enjoy The Art of Seduction; Revealing the Sensualist Perspective.

The spotlight is now on the woman who knows what she wants, where she will get it, how she will get it, and when she will get it. Guys, you will have your turn later with a very rewarding outcome if you follow my advice precisely as written. We cannot cut corners here. She is not an economic concern, but a physical and emotional one. Now, let me explain a few things before we get started. I cannot emphasize enough on how many times my friends come up to me to vent their sexual frustration from their boyfriends. If you cannot please your woman the most effective way possible, please continue reading. I will explain everything in a very fun and interactive way. First, let’s focus on her. Just take this time to look at your woman from afar. What makes her distinct in a public environment? What fascinates you the most about her appearance? Do you ever acknowledge your feelings about her appearance or personality? Straight dope – do you tell her how you truly feel just enough for her to realize the appreciation, love, and security with the man of her dreams? If she has to question whether she should stay or not, or if her friends feel obligated to suggest that you do not deserve the role of being her boyfriend – there is a deterioration in the relationship. If you do not fix this now, you will face the consequences of a failed attempt at building an architectural masterpiece. If you want sex, earn it. If you want great sex, give yourself more challenges. Learn to build a solid foundation of first impressions and honesty. Begin to structure the walls with durability and spaces for captured moments and framed memories. Then, build more floors until you reach the opportunity to complete the house with a roof. The roof of trust is not only for security, but strength and reputation that you both can maintain stability in the future. That is why you should understand the connection between architectural design and building relationships.

Now, I must lay out the rules and instructions on how to “play your cards right“. I am not bluffing and you will win that large pot of chips left in the center of the table.

Remember, this is a 2 player only game. Sorry, but there is no ménage à trois, monsieur.

Object: Collect all the sexy facts about your lover and successfully show your comprehension at the end by taking an oral examination. If you pass this test with at least 90% of the answers right through your actions,  a label of being crowned as one of the best lovers in the world will occur. Now, that does not sound that bad at all, right? It sounds like a very fun-filled interactive way of saying, “20 Questions for Adults”. However, there is a catch. I did not mention how many sexy facts for you to figure out. Why? All women are created equally .. different. Yes, what pleases her may not please the girl next door. Be careful! You only have one shot at this! If you do not succeed, the overall performance that night will fail miserably, especially for her.

Setting up:  Find some time together to discuss intimate matters before gliding across the game board. Never assume that she is ready to open up to a personal and private conversation. Sit down, relax, and open up to the conversation by saying, “Hey, I’ve been thinking about you a lot lately.” You will instantly spark her curiosity, and interest will arise in what you  say next. If are not the guy to ever open up to your own woman, this will definitely throw her off guard. Make her feel appreciated, loved and important. Tell her how much you feel about her and your concern that she never takes time out of her busy day to relax. If you emphasize and acknowledge taking time out for herself, it might be difficult to persuade a business woman. Engage in effective communication with her. This does not entitle you to talk her ears off about your sexual preferences.

The core object of the game is to collect as many sexy facts about her before you make your moves. If you cared that much, the least you could do is spare some time to understand her from a physical and emotional level. Establishing and maintaining relationships might be tough for someone trying to figure out what they want out of life. Ladies, do you ever fear that you landed in a commitment with someone who does not perform the greatest in the bedroom? Are you experiencing the life with someone who lost the passionate flame years ago? You will be trapped in a lot of unnecessary pressures, leaving you hesitant to seek an affair. That is completely understandable and I have no objection to those ideas. It is not your fault. Guys, a one-night stand does imply no strings attached interaction, however that does not necessarily mean you should slack off on the quality performance. If you are single, make her come back for more! Why settle for less and make no effort to take an advantage of that rewarding experience of being physically and emotionally connected with a complete stranger? Sex is not just sex, but the embrace of two bodies intimately intertwined with each other by fulfilling emotional and physical deprivations of the innate human soul.

When you mustered up the confidence to talk to her about something personal, you need to make that delivery important. Be extra careful not to leave the impression that you are in it to win it. This is a learning experience for both of you. This is an invaluable mutual embrace between two people and it should not be considered as a time to relieve sexual frustration. Let’s speed up the process of communicating effectively and turn to the questions you should muster up to ask. Why is this important? The choice of words will definitely have an impact on her feelings about this desire to make love to her. The precise location of the words that you may disclose might also be inappropriately premature. Do not suggest anything below the chin until you get your facts straight. Let me help you organize this transitional process in forming and articulating these questions. I will give you the information, and you ask about it later.

Let’s focus on the very first thing that she is begging you to explore due to the lack of attention provided. Put yourself ahead of everything, and give her sensual scalp massages. Did you know that scalp messages offer a release of serotonin, or the hormone that makes you feel really good inside, throughout your body? This massage will not only help rejuvenate her energy, but it will also help relieve pain and stress. Guys, do not assume that you are doing a great job. Explore the scalp from ear to ear, working around the base of the neck and behind the neck. Ask her about sensual scalp massages. Emphasize on running your fingers through her hair as she closes her eyes and expects a comfortable amount of pressure applied to the massage. If you do this right, you are on the path to success. Don’t just do it because I told you, but take out your isolated passionate side and caress her scalp with confidence.

All aboard! Remove that boulder off her shoulder!

Now, I am not necessarily telling you to give her a full body massage. However, a shoulder massage is definitely key to ease out the stress from her busy day. You want your woman completely relaxed, and she wants you to do the same. As your caressing her shoulders, ask her about her day. When she talks about the stress, reassure that she is in good hands. When you can start to feel her shoulders loosening up, give her another five minutes. If you feel frisky, give her shoulders a sensual peck.

Slowly glide your fingers across her neck, and caress her face closer to yours. As one hand is placed on her neck, hold it into position to provide her a few recommended kisses. Close your eyes. Start off with the forehead. The forehead is commonly ignored. Place a soft peck upon her forehead and then slowly open up your eyes to her beautiful smile raising high. She thinks you are extremely cute. Stop, take a moment to admire her by staring deep into her eyes and then kiss her cheek. Now, move across to her nose. Yes, her nose. Eskimo kisses are the best way to stay warm this holiday season. Do you have a cat? Practice this technique with your cat. They will also enjoy it, unless you have a cat from Hell. Slowly and playfully glide your nose along each side of their nose. Do it in a way where your noses are almost dancing together.

Are you taking all of this information down? Should we review? The best part is coming up next! The perfect transition from her nose is leading towards her chin. Yes, her chin. Believe it or not, but you can not spoil her rotten yet. Make her squirm with anticipation for that kiss! She wants you to indulge in a full-blown lip to lip embrace! Kiss that chin and move up to her other cheek. Go back to her nose, and playfully glide again. Playfully stare back, looking into her eyes and watch her non-verbal cues go wild after you. They are telling you that she is craving a passionate kiss now. She is completely open to this new arousal of physical intimacy. You are definitely showing off moves that most people cannot seem to express. That hidden desire for most people to discover on the outside is incredibly sexy to experience. Just follow the body language. Yes, now is a time to watch and listen. Stay focused and aware of what is going on.

Ready for the next tease? Move away from her nose, transition further down, teasingly brushing your lips across hers. Oh! She almost stole a kiss from you if you were quick enough to step back. Tame this wild lioness. She is ready to pounce! She is getting  extremely restless! Okay, fine, spoil her. Close your eyes, and embrace your lips together. Everyone is different in this department and there should be no assumptions within the expectations of each other. By understanding each other’s motives, the drive to work with the flow will be elevated. Be sensual and have fun. Slowly explore her lips and appreciate the kiss. Why rush this moment? You both deserve more than just this! Feel the adrenaline high and fight the butterflies that come along. You will be battling more butterflies when I mention the next destination. Are you ready? This one might leave a vampire ready to sink into more than just my words.

The neck is one of the most sensitive tourist attractions for anyone to discover on their expedition. Treat this vulnerable exposed area to a breathtaking experience with your fingertips and mouth.  Remember, less is definitely more. Slowly run your fingers across their neck and explore their neck with your fingertips. Watch carefully for body language. They might close their eyes, bite their bottom lip or pursue something else intriguing. Now, have some fun with this one. Tease them with soft blows across their neck until you reach to their cleavage. Then, quickly move back up gradually moving your lips away from their neck. Stare into their eyes and see their facial expressions. They might be sending out the invite for a deep penetrating blow to their skin with your teeth. Move back down, and softly kiss across their neck. Make sure to run your fingers through their hair while your lips are pressed against their neck. This will definitely spark some wild fires! As your massaging through her hair, gradually sink your teeth into her skin. Penetrate just enough for her to feel it without leaving any love bites behind, and then bring your lips out to kiss the spot. Mentally take notes and record her reactions. Ask for feedback. Determine what was too weak or just right. If you followed everything up to this point, you might be on the right track for success. Make sure to practice, improve and excel. Be committed to her and her body by truly understanding its fullest potential. You will see many rewarding results later as time progresses.

Feel free to come back up for fresh air and admire her brightly flushed face and her beautiful hazy eyes. If you are doing everything right, and she is melting at your fingertips, you will definitely see it by now. Admire her appearance, conservatively compliment her and just tell her enough to summarize your feelings of what just happened. Did you enjoy everything just as much as she did? Communication is a core reason for any sensual activity, especially when we transition further down to the next section of this post. Did you understand the core aim for why I started off with top region of her body? What you just did, or expect to do after you read this article, has shifted many different feelings aside. You allowed her body to relax, her mind to absorb all this attention and her fingers to feel the urge to wander. The respect for you has significantly increased the desire to pursue your intentions. 

Congratulations,  rookie! You finally hit a home run! I will help you reach a grand slam by the end of this post. Now, slow down just a minute there. Yes, you earned your way to second base. No, you really should take your time running there. Walk it out nonchalantly. She will wonder why you are taking your sweet time there. Give her the expectation of the unexpected. In the next section, I will focus on second base foreplay with explicit detail. If you are craving that transition further, continue reading. Consider yourself warned and extremely vulnerable for more warmth. Enjoy.

Soft passionate kisses run along the side of her neck moving further down her soft moisturized skin. Her sexually appealing, explorative body awaits the next move to come. Teasingly kiss along her sides and move down to her hips to give her some more excitement. Work your way back up by kissing across her vulnerable exposed stomach, teasingly gliding your lips along her skin. Now, take your time with this one. Caress her breasts and massage the area surrounding her nipples. Do not arouse or stimulate them just yet. Slowly bring them closer to your mouth and kiss softly around her nipples. Ready? A soft gentle blow across her nipples will give you a priceless facial expression. Tease them some more by gliding your lips around them. While you are caressing her body, kiss back up to her neck. Understand what arouses her the most and you will be golden. Remember, duct tape is silver. Everyone is different and not everyone will tolerate the same treatment. Some like it soft and sensual while others would rather have you do the next approach. Go in for the kill. Caress her breasts closer to your mouth, allowing your tongue to wrap around her nipples, feeling them harden inside. This is when you take the rewarding opportunity to use the tip of your tongue and playfully rub against them. Make her squirm and watch her facial expressions. Her body will be telling you a lot through non-verbal communication. Watch carefully and then decide when you move further down.

9e8fc-woron_sensual_hot_art_model_sexy_kiss_couple_passion_amor_clo3_sex_passion_love_pics_imagineglows_erotic_lara_angie56_kissing_ilag_36_soft_couples_large_largeTry standing behind her, allowing her hand to be placed upon your thigh, and caress her body closer to you. As one hand massages her breast closer, you can teasingly glide your hand across her stomach. Massage her hips while you inch down further to her waistline. As soon as you take your sweet time moving further down, this is when she will expect you to slip your fingers down her panties. Give her that complete opposite response back. As soon as you start to feel her mons pubis, Latin for pubic mound, stop right there. Don’t feel for her Pudendal cleft! That would be the irresistible slit dividing her lips. Now, take your hand, and slowly caress this area. Massage it slowly and feel her body squirm even more. As your hand massages the skin right below her waistline, lean in from behind to kiss her neck. Then, be playful about where you are located.

Kiss the base of her neck, her shoulder, along her arms, and just relax her even more. Understand the huge difference between sensual and sexual. You are providing an emotional and physical support for her by being sensual. You are arousing all of her senses and her desires to feel intimately comfortable with you. Please do not ruin the moment by assuming she is ready. She wants you to continue the amazing work you are doing. You are proving yourself different from the rest. However, do not feel cocky about that role. You are a man, not a little boy. Do not assume you have bragging rights. You are technically not at third base. Do not blow it for the team! Now, lay her across the bed. Time to learn, explore and understand her body at a closer angle. Just stop, admire your woman all sprawled out and ready for you take an intimate advantage. No, she does not want you to penetrate her just yet. Learn how to prolong the process and understand that the outcome will be successful in the long run. Patience is the key to success, especially in this department. Ready? Let’s go, stud muffin.

Crawl on top of her, pinning her down on the bed with your hands linked with hers. Stare into her eyes, admire what you see, and appreciate who you are with at that precise moment. Smile back at her, repeat the facial kisses as I mentioned earlier and continue to make her feel everything she ever wanted. As your hands occupy hers, work your way across her face. Be playful and control the pace. As soon as you reach down to her neck, do as I mentioned before. Soft gentle blows across with your lips to follow along the way. Kiss across her neck, let go of her hands and allow her hands to guide your head further down. If she decides to push your head further down, do not go with the flow just yet. Slowly work your way across her chest, caress her beautiful breasts some more and passionately embrace your lips upon her erected nipples. Enjoy that sensational feeling of knowing that she is completely aroused and wet for you. However, do not take that as an advantage. You are extremely close to successfully making her dreams come true! Work your way back across her stomach, playfully kiss around her belly button, and give her hips some more attention while you are there. Congratulations. You are almost there to her waistline. There are some rules when you are approaching this zone. Take it easy and continue to be the ‘man‘ in ‘romance‘.

  Kiss along her waistline giving her the incentive that you are not rushing the moment of intense pleasure and anticipation. Think of this as if you are following a treasure map. You know exactly where the treasure chest is buried around you, but assume that nobody else will get the booty before you do. It is definitely reserved for you and only you at this time. Just wait it out by “digging” other areas around the x marked spot. Give her soft gentle blows across her thighs, and then make a trail of kisses along the way. Massage her thighs and tease her by giving her the impression that you are going to go further with your hands. Caress her inner thighs in a way where you know exactly where your fingers are teasingly running across but do not pay any attention to that area yet. Just focus on her inner thighs at this moment. The sensational feeling of arousal is building up inside. She does have another side to work on her thighs. Move over to do the same steps again with that side. Try kissing up her thighs, along her waistline and back down to other side. There is never enough time to throw out the door. So, you have yet to move to the third base. Impressive that you did not even attempt to go there yet! You are finally showing the true colors of a lover and a sensualist at a heart. Now, some women will not allow you to go down on them and others will invite you in a vast array of options. Most of the time they expect a mutual cunnilingus which can be easily arranged with the 69 sex position. If she does feel the urge to stay where she is and invite you down for a visit, take that offer if you are comfortable in doing so. Do not assume that you have to take that offer.  She will understand if you decline, however do not always expect to receive a favor in return.

Suddenly, she pushes your head further down to explore her most intimate area of her body. She has you secured while her legs straddle your face, and you are vulnerably set into the position to move into third base. What do you do now? Embrace the moment and take the next step to heart. She played a dominant move on you and now it is your turn to prove that you are not easy. Make those fingers work their magic! Massage her labia majora, the outermost lips around her vagina, to watch her squirm some more. Understand how sensitive her body is down there and take your time in exploring. Ready for some fun? Spread her lips apart with your fingers, the innermost labia minora, to exchange a pleasurable tease across. Now, with the tip of your tongue, slowly trace the alphabet between these lips. This will help you understand how to keep an effectively seductive pace going and how her body reacts to an overwhelming sensation. Would you like to see some sparks fly? Throw her off guard by gently blowing across her clitoris. Hopefully, you know where that is! Try not to overstimulate it! No, really, it is not funny to mess with that area. Try different techniques with your tongue and be comfortable with what you are doing. Confidence is definitely sexy here. If you don’t know what you are doing or how you should be doing it, let her help you. This is when communication is essentially important to please her in the most sexually fulfilling way. If she has yet to experience this, it will definitely be a learning curve for both of you.

By growing and developing a strong understanding for each other with the sexual preferences you both share, gradual improvement upon your overall sexual performance will definitely occur while maintaining a healthy sex life. Due to the fact that most women are different, it is an invaluable, yet extremely rewarding opportunity to understand your own woman better. As long as you can both communicate effectively through verbal and non verbal communication, the possibilities are endless. The core message for this post was to understand the art of seduction through a sensualist perspective. The oral penetration that you learned from the base of the neck to between her legs should give you a foundation of how to appreciate prolonged foreplay. I blame pornography and explicit videos that cannot emphasis the importance of foreplay. I have yet to show my chaotic intentions  for writing a romance novel. Stay tuned and extremely warm! If I stimulated interest and you want more to read in a much more explicit post, stepping aside from the How-To department, let me know. I will be willing to accommodate you in every way possible. Take care, everyone! Thank you for reading!

The Art of Seduction; Revealing the Sensualist Perspective