Allons-y, mon chou!; Encouraging Terms of Endearment After Valentine’s Day

happy valentine's day
happy valentine’s day (Photo credit: mugley)

Salut, ça va? J’ai beaucoup des mots doux d’amour aujourd’hui! Hey, how are you? I have a lot of sweet words of love today! In the last two months, I prepared everyone for the upcoming Valentine’s Day, or Singles Awareness Day (S.A.D.).  Are you excited? Whether you are trying to find love online or you have that prospective lover already engaging in no strings attached snuggling, you might have to encourage more to your man than just keeping up with his qualifications.

Guys, my blog suggests romantic tips that will ignite a house fire from candlelit seduction or the freshly sparked ideas that will leave your lover begging like a feline in heat. I am not advocating that you should follow everything just for one night, but balance everything out for post Valentine’s Day. Your beautiful lover deserves more than just a holiday obligation for public displays of affection.  Never save up all your paychecks just to take her out for one night out of the entire year! Seriously, time to wake up and smell the roses before you buy them. Guys, this blog post will help you rekindle your relationship butterflies. Just promise me one thing. You hereby agree to the terms and conditions of relationship success. These terms include, but are not limited to, effective communication with your partner.  I cannot emphasize enough on communication. If verbal communication curtails your fullest relationship potential, body language is also misunderstood as well. If you cannot understand your lover’s body, please refer to my sensualist perspective approach before moving forward this year. When you are ready to take the test, study the erotic study guide. Ven aquí, Pablo Piccasso! Her beautiful canvas is ready for inspiration! No, just kidding. First, let’s focus on communication before and after Valentine’s Day. Then, go ahead. 

Sweethearts Box
Sweethearts Box (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Not Desperate, Just Be Mine!

On Valentine’s Day, talk is extremely cheap, corny, and sometimes very sweet! However, be extra cautious to sink your taste buds into something your valentine has yet to say! A relationship, regardless of its status, requires communication. The lack of communication raises red flags before someone’s heart is severely wounded. If your man cannot express terms of endearment, maybe giving him a box of Sweethearts was the worst inspirational idea you ever had. Guys, these candies are not meant for pick-up lines for one-night stands. They should encourage you to think outside the box (pun intended)! 

Guys, if you need some help on explorative writing, please feel free to check out my page before you open up on sugar-coated terms of endearment. Make your lover a priority, not an option, especially once a year!

Be Original 

A woman craves originality over physical intimacy.  Physical intimacy is extremely exciting, especially with strangers, but there are some consequences with marriage. You will end up married for 50 years with someone you passionately love, but you might not function the way you do when you were in college. If you have originality before Alzheimer’s disease takes over, you can still play your Shakespearean role in her life without rekindling your intimate newlywed adventures. Romeo, Juliet wants the poison from thy lips! If you can still spit up a few honest romantic lines, there will be a much happier ending with your love story. If you can do that while you rev up your rusty sex life, you may just have another chance between the hips as well.

Poetically Captivating 

It is perfectly acceptable if you cannot write anything like Shakespeare. I am not asking you to become the next Robert Frost either. The road you should take (pun intended) is from your heart. Practice does make a lot of progress if you show your sensitive side and begin writing how you feel every day. If you can recall back from earlier in this post, I recommend clicking on the word, “qualifications,” to review the emotionally sensitive section of that post. It is perfectly acceptable if you are sensitive about the way she feels about you or how you feel about her. She wants a well-rounded man, and being sensitive does not make you weak. It is simply the reason why you are her man. Start another WordPress blog for poetry! I have one! If someone provides you with constructive criticism or encouraging words, take them to move forward. Everyone expresses their own feelings through writing, music, and art. If you like music, you enjoy reading words that touch your innermost feelings about everything around you.  Just try it. Deliver the autumn breeze softly across her neck, and the sensual touch of a passionate embrace from a summer ray upon her flesh. You’ll understand. Trust me.

A Major Award [1091]
A Major Award [1091] (Photo credit: brianjmatis)
It’s Fragile! Must Be Italian!

A Christmas Story does not have a Valentine’s Day Story edition. So, please, never make it one! A personal recommendation for anyone trying to rekindle relationships is to learn multiple romance languages. Seriously, you will learn how to use patience and passion within everything you say. Go to the nearest book store, or Google foreign terms of endearment, or watch YouTube videos. Your possibilities are endless. There are no excuses to learn! Allons-y, mon chou! Guys, always remember to practice what you preach (pun intended)! Confidence sounds sexy! When you are confident in speaking another language, your lover will notice your determination. If you are successful, you may just have a romantic night outside of Paris! You might have a busy schedule, but learn how to organize time for a phrase a day while you do your daily routine. In the shower, start singing a phrase. It helps when the phrase is almost relevant to what you are doing. In Spanish, try saying, “Cuando yo tomo una ducha, yo pienso de mi corazon dulce.” It will eventually come to you. Trust me. You got this!

Pets Are Not Included 

You can have pet names without owning a pet! It is extremely healthy for couples to follow the pet naming trend for naming each other something cute for a change. No, I am terribly sorry, but “asshole” is not acceptable. However, there are plenty of pet names trending in different cultures for dating and relationships. Babe, what are your favorite pet names?

In the article, “Pet Names” Are Important for a Strong RelationshipJohn Tesh mentions how coded language can also help secure a healthier relationship. When your partner says, “Hey dear, I’m burning up inside,” never assume they want a fan! If they do, you might have to assume they want that autumn breeze I mentioned about earlier. Do you have a coded language or sugarcoated language with your partner to discuss things around your friends or family? Although I find this very effective, I barely find anyone else to join the fun. One last thought about pet names – try using their names as well! If their name is Laura, call her Alaurable! If her name is Kerry, grab a cup from your little Kerrig to start calling her Kerrbear.

Ladies, the next time your stud muffin wants to go back inside your oven, make him spill his heart out. Give him an incentive to make him crumb back for more!


  1. Do you have any plans lined up for Valentine’s Day? Are they better than last year?
  2. How do you spend a Valentine’s Day with (a) someone you love? (b) a crush? (c) family?
  3. Do you prefer unconditional love over materialistic love? Are you the type to pop the balloons, and embrace on the chocolate kisses? Was it embarrassing to carry around stuffed animals in school?
  4. Do you have a favorite pet name you love giving or receiving?
  5. Do your friends or family give you pet names?
  6. Did you know while I was writing this blog post, I just reached 9,000 hit views? That’s less than 3 months!
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Allons-y, mon chou!; Encouraging Terms of Endearment After Valentine’s Day

A Road Trip on a Cul-de-Sac; Rekindling Relationship Butterflies

Megan asks,

” I would love to hear your opinions on how to make a relationship exciting again!  At the beginning, they are always so exciting and new and there’s always that mystery of, “when will he kiss me?” or “where will he take me to next?”.  As time goes by, it gets a little less exciting and new. What are you suggestions on this?”


Great question! As I am preparing everyone for Valentine’s Day next month, the New Year might have started off with false hopes and sugar-coated resolutions. A girlfriend can only hope that her boyfriend changes his douchebag ways, while the boyfriend might also feel the same way about his controlling princess. Your blog suggestion is intriguing for several reasons.

First, this is one of the oldest, yet unfortunate issues of relationships. Most relationships will never be resolved with enough advice for self-improvement and readjustment. The mixed feelings and lingering doubts will only cause more harm for the couple in the future. Secondly, men and women have commitment issues. Yeah, let’s face it, nobody is perfect. Although we can acknowledge our mistakes, we should never make them as an excuse to make the poor decisions about love and commitment. Everyone should learn how to curtail the feelings that entice immoral decisions, like cheating or home wrecking. The second chance debate is extremely difficult to discuss, especially for those reasons previously mentioned. I do not support cheating, especially from being the victim of that unfortunate experience. I also despise breaks or relationship recess, because there is no point in bringing it up unless someone wants freedom. If someone requests a mandatory break, go outside for fresh air. When you are outside long enough, come back and reconnect. The red flag raises high when someone has no interest to rekindle their relationship’s butterflies.

I could understand why someone would move on to a brighter flame. If the spark isn’t there, why would you sing campfire songs alone? Although most people search for answers through friends and family, others might rekindle past relationships. They are already comfortable with someone else, and the mutual connection for each other is still there. If your sex life isn’t the greatest, or not existent, you might also face the lack of interest from your lover. The best way to prevent someone you love from renewing their subscription with someone else is to step in and take action. No, I am not telling you to confront them like your own episode on Jerry Springer. I am telling you to communicate with them. Tell them how you feel and ask them for any suggestions on what should be done.

Well, I have some suggestions on the next steps ahead to rekindle those giggly times and wake up that inner child from a tediously long wait for their crush to return. I am willing to share my successful strategies on finishing what you started. Hop in the front seat, we are going for a long ride!

Fresh Car Smell 

The car dealership is like a dating website where you find your soul-mate in the form of a brand new car. Guys, you know exactly what I am talking about! Check out her exterior! Whether you are a rims guy or ready to rev her engine, there is so much more to learn from your new experience. Where do you start from there? How do you keep your driving record clean, stable and reputable without going back for a new car? Precisely! You get your car checked at the local auto-body repair shop! Yes, that entails a lot of communication. Communication is extremely important for a relationship to continue its strength and spontaneity for several years. The relationship itself might not necessarily be the only problem. Could it possibly be the people involved? Yes! Is someone ready to drive off the cliff because someone suddenly changed since the first day? That is not only a possibility,  but that is an issue for self-improvement.

An online German company,, is selling beautiful Shine Star air fresheners to help clear the air from the lingering past. Is it possible to do the same for a conflicting relationship? Of course! Ladies, I am not here to tell you to change who you are, but refine yourself to shine with your greatest potential. You should never settle for less!You are so much better than that! Guys, I am also telling you the same thing. Spice up your relationship with something new to admire and appreciate. How does that work for an arguing couple? Just stop. Life is way too short to fight all the time! Just take a moment, breathe and sort through your differences. Hopefully, your similarities and interests can come to a consensus for the following relationship rekindling strategies.


Does your ride need a pimped out opportunity by Xzibit? Well, unfortunately for you, the last episode aired on May 24, 2007. So, what is the next option? Try a new wardrobe change! If your budget is tight, make some time to run in the morning or at night in your neighborhood. No, seriously, this is cheaper than a gym membership! When you start feeling better about yourself and how you look, others will notice the gradual change in your appearance and attitude. Does your lover secretly want you to pursue a mini makeover? This is not as fancy as an extreme makeover, but just enough to make an unexpected impact on them. If exercise and diet isn’t an option, regardless of the circumstances, talk to them. Please understand why they are feeling the way they do, and what they miss about what you once had when you started talking. If this is an intimate issue, be open about it when you are both alone, and away from others.

The car manual is forever alone. This handy booklet is rarely taken out for attention from the glove compartment. Guys, I recommend reading my article, “The Art of Seduction; Revealing the Sensualist Perspective,” to understand her exterior the right way. If you had no idea in the beginning, or you need some advice to build on to your previous knowledge, treat that as a manual. Ladies, while he reads that, I recommend, “An Erotic Masterpiece; A Painting of One Thousand Words,” to patiently wait for his return. If that doesn’t work out for the exterior part of this post, then there is something wrong with the interior.


You two have been together for a reasonable time. If the attraction is still there, there is a catalytic situation inside. What could be the catalyst for a sudden change in personality? Can idealistic traits deteriorate into undesirable ones? The social distractions of meeting new people or hanging out in different places might hinder interests.  People lose a lot of hope from being deprived of spontaneity with a pessimistic partner. They know they are with someone draining their energetic side into a dark hole of regret. The best way to resolve this issue is to seek help outside the relationship with people you can trust. If professional help seems a bit much, try some free advice with me.

I recommend opening up with each other by exercising your freedom of expression. If that isn’t enough, learn what love really stands for when you express yourself. That is the key to success in the health of your relationship. Now, how do you open up with someone distant? Try snuggling with them, and reconnect at a physical level before tackling the emotional level. If you engage in something sensual, keep it light. Relax and enjoy the quality time together. Then, reconnect with their passionate side. Everyone has one, but not everyone understands the powerful impact you can have with your senses. When you finally start talking, opening up more and exploring each other’s interests, you can move forward to casual dates out in public. Keep it simple like a walk in the park or take a city bus down to a local event. If you live in the rural areas, check out Mother Nature’s breathtaking appearance. Just stay away from the drama, and understand why quality time together is extremely important. Quality time together does not necessarily mean more sex!

Speed Bumps

Slow down! You guys are well over the speed limit! There is no excuse for your relationship to go full speed ahead when it starts heating up because something rekindled your passionate drive for each other. If your relationship hits a brick wall, someone is at risk for upsetting feelings. Try an incentive program in your relationship before you schedule too much intimacy in one week. You both overwhelm with lust, and you will only become dependent on those feelings. Keep the relationship balanced with unconditional and sensual love. Play games with each other to prolong the intimacy. Although Christmas has passed, I would suggest playing in the snow and baking cookies from my article, “A Lover’s Christmas List; Top Five Things to Do in December“. If you live in warmer climates, I suggested sand angels in that post as well. There are plenty of alternatives to help the growth and development of your relationship. Just keep it steady, and keep your eyes ahead of you . You must face the unexpected, and step down on the brakes as soon as something comes up.

Highway to Heaven 

Let’s run down the five basic strategies for rekindling those relationship butterflies. Let me show you what you should really ‘C’ out of this one:

  1. Continuing Commitment
  2. Considering Communication 
  3. Contributing Compliments
  4. Combating Conflicts
  5. Caressing Cuddles

Are We There Yet? 

Yes! Congratulations! You will be able to rekindle your relationship if you follow my article, engage with your lover, and sort out those differences with each other. If nothing seems to work after that, I am sorry to say, but it is time to give them a sincere breakup. Tell them, “We’re not romantically compatible, but I see no reason to end everything we have together.”


In a concluding thought, there is a misunderstanding between domestic violence and tough love. I am here to sort things out, and put an end to that unnecessary abuse. Ladies, if he lays an aggressive hand on you, please tell someone you trust about it. Once is enough, and there should never be a second time. You should never allow a second time to happen by ignoring the first time. Yeah, I understand you’re scared to tell someone. Look, that is not tough love, but domestic abuse. In addition, marital rape is nothing to ignore. If anyone is aggressive to another person under, especially taking an advantage of being together, take further action. Never feel pressured to have sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend because you feel obligated to do that with them. If you ever feel this way, regardless of the circumstances, organize your resources and talk to people about it. Thank you. I wish the best of luck in the health of all your relationships for 2013.

Take care.


Mr. Charming 

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A Road Trip on a Cul-de-Sac; Rekindling Relationship Butterflies