No Strings Attached Snuggling; The Trending Sensual Intentions Surrounded by Sexual Misconceptions

You are most likely a hopeless romantic following my blog for an instant emotional and intellectual connection within yourself. My recent blog posts may have helped you release your daily stress from work, school or taking care of children. Possibly, you could have all three of those emotional burdens hindering some time alone for yourself. You may argue that you do manage your time wisely to schedule personal time alone from reality, however it is only limited to meals, showers and sleep. It is unfortunate that my presence is absent to fulfill your innermost desire for physical touch and the embrace of two bodies with legs intertwined by engaging in no strings attached snuggling. There is a guarantee that you can find someone else who will make you completely comfortable with that taboo concept of snuggling with strangers.  You may decline to take part in the latest trend to market your snuggling skills as a professional cuddler, like the woman in New York who owns The Snuggery, but there are people willing to snuggle free of charge.

Jacqueline, the founder of The Snuggery, has a chart provided on her website that discloses the rates and services. You can have a complete hour with her for only a dollar a minute. If you choose 45 minutes, you lose $5 for jumping off the bed too soon. Do you have a ménage à trois preference? You can double the cuddle ratio for twice as much for another professional cuddler to join you. Honestly, two people can save $180 to cuddle with me for more than 180 minutes. Yes, this is a personal advertisement, please ask for applications in the comment section below. I will also mention that age is just a number because snuggling is not sexual, it is sensual.

The concept of no strings attached snuggling has stirred up some controversial questioning on the sensual vs. sexual debate. My primary focus is to step into the cold shower from the last three posts that I have written and focus on the sexual misconceptions of no strings attached snuggling. I will also be laying out the differences between sensual play vs. sexual play to help refine those questionable areas. I define play as participating in an active role in having consensual fun

First, let us step away from imagining the vulnerable dependency with our five traditional senses in the bedroom. Secondly, let us put aside the Lover’s Christmas List which perfectly transitioned into the most explicitly written post. We can go back to the seductive sensualist approach later. I hope all of those posts relaxed you to reconnect with your comfort zone and allow you to sleep well for the night you read them.

What is no strings attached snuggling? How is it different engaging in sex with no strings attached? How do you lay out the rules and restrictions for no strings attached snuggling? How can you say that snuggling does not lead to sex, while many others arguably say that spooning does?  How will I ever be sure to find someone who will respect me and my decision to only subject myself to platonic snuggling? Should I let them caress my shoulders or arms? Should we hold hands and occasionally massage each other’s wrists and fingers? What happens when the person takes an advantage of me? Do I slap them? These are only a few of the questions that arise around this trending sensation. I will try my best to answer all the ones I mentioned and hopefully clear up the sexual misconceptions surrounded by this sensual activity.

According to UrbanDictionary.com, no strings attached snuggling is accurately defined:

“Snuggling or sleeping together with no real intention of having any intimate time. Can turn sexual by accident but generally just a platonic relationship for the mutal [sic] benifit [sic] of enjoying sleep while being close to someone. More common in winter, where single men and women attempt to keep warm. Sometimes wrongly interpreted as Friends with benifits [sic].  No strings attached snuggling wether  [sic] platonic or not generally has no after-sleep awkwardness or strings.

Although snuggling does not necessarily mean sleeping, it does lead into being relaxed and comfortable with each other which may result to falling asleep in each other’s arms. If you cannot fall asleep, but simply embrace this temporary physical bond that you two have created, you might be stuck in a place where you are wide awake in the early morning right before your parents wake up for their caffeine fix. Hopefully they can accept your “sleep over” by avoiding the twenty questions of whether or not seeing you sleeping next to someone else was just as they perceived it, especially in your bed. If you are a male in your twenties, questioning protection will definitely be top priority. If you are a young woman, this great idea for a sleep over was not the best decision after all. If you are much older, out on your own, there really isn’t much to worry about other than waking up to the weekend with someone physically appealing. Go back to bed and let them stay where they are.

Now, intimacy is a different path to understand. If you have snuggled with your best friend for a while, you cannot say that you have no intimacy within that relationship. Intimacy requires a closer relationship with the person by effectively understanding them better through warmth and affection. As an experienced person with no strings attached snuggling, I have a tendency to show warmth and affection regardless if I barely know them. I do it under the consensual conditions that we are both relaxed, comfortable and willing to exchange little perks of affection to help relieve stress and entice the release of hormones throughout the body, like serotonin. The feeling of physical and emotional compatibility will generally offer more affection to those who fit my qualifications. If I go out of my way to become more affectionate, understand that I have feelings for you. This is only common when I have a strong attraction for you earlier in stages of our relationship, or a gradual acceptance over a few months of spending time together. Everyone has different perceptions on intimacy, however it is entirely up to them to talk about what they can and will not accept when you snuggle together. Discuss this with them and find out all the restrictions. Maybe they will allow forehead kisses, Eskimo kisses, cheek kisses, butterfly kisses, and chin kisses. Communication cannot be emphasized enough – just talk to them.

According to the Snuggery’s Policies and FAQ, there is a mandatory first meeting time before you experience snuggling with Jacqueline to discuss these same policies and make sure the clients are comfortable in pursuing your intentions for no strings attached snuggling. She does reassure you that  “although sexual activity is not permitted,” she mentions that arousal is “perfectly normal and should not make anyone feel uncomfortable.” The exchange of communication is also mentioned, and should only be up your personal preference whether you wish to talk during your session or not. Yes, everyone has their own personal preferences for everything they do, especially when they subject themselves to something physically and emotionally mutual. However, we must control ourselves with platonic intentions, unless you wish to pursue the sensual intentions mentioned earlier. I would recommend it if you are completely aware of the situation and how you both will move on from this experience without being emotionally hurt. Discuss the circumstances and the “what-if” scenarios. If you knew that you would crave more of their sensual touch after that night, leaving you left with unrequited love or the lack of a mutual exchange, you will definitely feel left out. Be extra careful with your feelings on this one. I will also emphasize that you should never do something or say something that you know will cause a significant impact on their emotions and feelings. This is not a moment to lead anyone on. That is the least of their concerns. Although it might sound ideal to just embrace  sleeping with someone with no other intentions, people will seek more options to explore. Discuss this with either the person you barely know or your lover for that cuddle session. Your boyfriend or girlfriend may take an advantage, but that does not necessarily mean it is right. Let them know. This also goes with marital concerns. Please understand the controversial topic of  marital rape. It is a matter of self-control and being assertive. Lay out the barriers, respect each other’s requests, and do not attempt to alter any decisions. If you have animals, why would you decline their offers? We all know you are comfortable about this one! Just take it and appreciate it! Your bundle of fur will hold a grudge if you ignore them. I suppose that also goes to everyone else.

How can you say that snuggling does not lead to sex? Communication.  Draw the fine lines between sexual and sensual. Kissing does not necessarily have to lead to sex either. Chocolate covered strawberries are also blamed for enticing something sexual to occur. Is it your boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse? Just communicate. Tell them to cool it down and accept it as it is. Is it a summer fling, no strings attached night out on the couch, or someone temporary? You may barely know each other, but be open about this now. Lay out your expectations! Yes, if you spoon with someone, it may cause some arousal. Embrace it as a product of your emotions. Never use it to your advantage. Discuss and convey everything about yourselves. Why would you even bother to ignore important information like that?

How will I ever be sure to find someone who will respect me and my decision? 

Communication. I cannot emphasize enough on exchanging ideas and concerns with each other.

Should I allow caressing? 

If there is a consensual decision to allow caressing shoulders and arms, let it happen. The feelings will be greatly enhance during your physical embrace. If you are willing to hold each other’s hands, occasionally massaging their wrists and fingers, discuss this with them. Honestly, if you are not looking forward to feeling the extra perks of snuggling with someone, grab a pillow!

Lastly, when is the caressing too much? How do I let them know that I am uncomfortable?

Everyone has boundaries and expectations. Do not cross over the boundaries by violating the expectations. You should have laid out the rules and expectations before you decided to snuggle with each other. Guys, your sexual arousal is completely natural. Do not assume to share the latest news that recently popped up – literally. Ladies,  your sexual arousal is completely natural. Do not assume it is completely fine to entice the moment by slowly grinding against him. You are officially a tease. Most guys would love to feel that tease, but others may take it the wrong way. If they take an advantage of you by allowing their hands to wander, stop them. That simple. If you are in relationship with them, never feel obligated that you should continue. Yes, although they might enjoy it, just slap them.

Snuggling is a sensual act of two bodies pressed closed together. You want to feel their warmth through the exchange of body heat. You crave that security blanket of physical and emotional sensation of being with someone. Try it out with everyone you feel comfortable inviting into your personal space. I am always interested in rekindling high school crushes or finding someone brand new to share these warm urges during the holiday season. We are all mammals craving for that sensational feeling of physical touch. Embrace the opportunity, improve the experience. Friends will refer to what you are doing as “friends with benefits” while you can reassure to them that they are friends with explorative opportunities. Although I will not dive into the concept around friends with benefits, I will briefly explain sensual play vs. sexual play. I define play as participating in an active role in having consensual funSensual play can lead into foreplay, but it is not necessarily mandatory for this moment. A sensualist craves stimulating their senses, while sexual play has overwhelmingly taken over everyone’s mind to assume that sensual is sexual. The appreciation for the act of snuggling can push aside the idea that being sexual is a catalytic spark that can suddenly deteriorate relationships.  When someone finally realizes that there is so much more to a relationship than being in the bedroom, communication improves the growth and development of everything established.

A Mini How-To Guide on Snuggling Improvement 

How do I improve snuggling? Well, simply embrace the S.N.U.G. 

Socialize. Pillow talk without the post-sexual feeling.

Negotiate. Ask for more time, ask for a closer position, and talk about places outside the house for snuggling.

Understand. Just stop, and admire. Understand what their body is telling you. Watch non-verbal cues through their eyes and facial expressions.

Gather. Take all the mental notes you can. Never assume that you know everything. Knowledge is power, especially when you notice the smallest details and then bring them up in the next conversation. They will be very surprised that you bothered to pay close attention. That shows a sign of being a priority over being an option.

No Strings Attached Snuggling; The Trending Sensual Intentions Surrounded by Sexual Misconceptions

No Strings Attached Snuggling; The Trending Sensual Intentions Surrounded by Sexual Misconceptions

You are most likely a hopeless romantic following my blog for an instant emotional and intellectual connection within yourself. My recent blog posts may have helped you release your daily stress from work, school or taking care of children. Possibly, you could have all three of those emotional burdens hindering some time alone for yourself. You may argue that you do manage your time wisely to schedule personal time alone from reality, however it is only limited to meals, showers and sleep. It is unfortunate that my presence is absent to fulfill your innermost desire for physical touch and the embrace of two bodies with legs intertwined by engaging in no strings attached snuggling. There is a guarantee that you can find someone else who will make you completely comfortable with that taboo concept of snuggling with strangers.  You may decline to take part in the latest trend to market your snuggling skills as a professional cuddler, like the woman in New York who owns The Snuggery, but there are people willing to snuggle free of charge.

Jacqueline, the founder of The Snuggery, has a chart provided on her website that discloses the rates and services. You can have a complete hour with her for only a dollar a minute. If you choose 45 minutes, you lose $5 for jumping off the bed too soon. Do you have a ménage à trois preference? You can double the cuddle ratio for twice as much for another professional cuddler to join you. Honestly, two people can save $180 to cuddle with me for more than 180 minutes. Yes, this is a personal advertisement, please ask for applications in the comment section below. I will also mention that age is just a number because snuggling is not sexual, it is sensual.

The concept of no strings attached snuggling has stirred up some controversial questioning on the sensual vs. sexual debate. My primary focus is to step into the cold shower from the last three posts that I have written and focus on the sexual misconceptions of no strings attached snuggling. I will also be laying out the differences between sensual play vs. sexual play to help refine those questionable areas. I define play as participating in an active role in having consensual fun

First, let us step away from imagining the vulnerable dependency with our five traditional senses in the bedroom. Secondly, let us put aside the Lover’s Christmas List which perfectly transitioned into the most explicitly written post. We can go back to the seductive sensualist approach later. I hope all of those posts relaxed you to reconnect with your comfort zone and allow you to sleep well for the night you read them.

What is no strings attached snuggling? How is it different engaging in sex with no strings attached? How do you lay out the rules and restrictions for no strings attached snuggling? How can you say that snuggling does not lead to sex, while many others arguably say that spooning does?  How will I ever be sure to find someone who will respect me and my decision to only subject myself to platonic snuggling? Should I let them caress my shoulders or arms? Should we hold hands and occasionally massage each other’s wrists and fingers? What happens when the person takes an advantage of me? Do I slap them? These are only a few of the questions that arise around this trending sensation. I will try my best to answer all the ones I mentioned and hopefully clear up the sexual misconceptions surrounded by this sensual activity.

According to UrbanDictionary.com, no strings attached snuggling is accurately defined:

Snuggling or sleeping together with no real intention of having any intimate time. Can turn sexual by accident but generally just a platonic relationship for the mutal [sic] benifit [sic] of enjoying sleep while being close to someone. More common in winter, where single men and women attempt to keep warm. Sometimes wrongly interpreted as Friends with benifits [sic].  No strings attached snuggling wether  [sic] platonic or not generally has no after-sleep awkwardness or strings.

Although snuggling does not necessarily mean sleeping, it does lead into being relaxed and comfortable with each other which may result to falling asleep in each other’s arms. If you cannot fall asleep, but simply embrace this temporary physical bond that you two have created, you might be stuck in a place where you are wide awake in the early morning right before your parents wake up for their caffeine fix. Hopefully they can accept your “sleep over” by avoiding the twenty questions of whether or not seeing you sleeping next to someone else was just as they perceived it, especially in your bed. If you are a male in your twenties, questioning protection will definitely be top priority. If you are a young woman, this great idea for a sleep over was not the best decision after all. If you are much older, out on your own, there really isn’t much to worry about other than waking up to the weekend with someone physically appealing. Go back to bed and let them stay where they are.

Now, intimacy is a different path to understand. If you have snuggled with your best friend for a while, you cannot say that you have no intimacy within that relationship. Intimacy requires a closer relationship with the person by effectively understanding them better through warmth and affection. As an experienced person with no strings attached snuggling, I have a tendency to show warmth and affection regardless if I barely know them. I do it under the consensual conditions that we are both relaxed, comfortable and willing to exchange little perks of affection to help relieve stress and entice the release of hormones throughout the body, like serotonin. The feeling of physical and emotional compatibility will generally offer more affection to those who fit my qualifications. If I go out of my way to become more affectionate, understand that I have feelings for you. This is only common when I have a strong attraction for you earlier in stages of our relationship, or a gradual acceptance over a few months of spending time together. Everyone has different perceptions on intimacy, however it is entirely up to them to talk about what they can and will not accept when you snuggle together. Discuss this with them and find out all the restrictions. Maybe they will allow forehead kisses, Eskimo kisses, cheek kisses, butterfly kisses, and chin kisses. Communication cannot be emphasized enough – just talk to them.

According to the Snuggery’s Policies and FAQ, there is a mandatory first meeting time before you experience snuggling with Jacqueline to discuss these same policies and make sure the clients are comfortable in pursuing your intentions for no strings attached snuggling. She does reassure you that  “although sexual activity is not permitted,” she mentions that arousal is “perfectly normal and should not make anyone feel uncomfortable.” The exchange of communication is also mentioned, and should only be up your personal preference whether you wish to talk during your session or not. Yes, everyone has their own personal preferences for everything they do, especially when they subject themselves to something physically and emotionally mutual. However, we must control ourselves with platonic intentions, unless you wish to pursue the sensual intentions mentioned earlier. I would recommend it if you are completely aware of the situation and how you both will move on from this experience without being emotionally hurt. Discuss the circumstances and the “what-if” scenarios. If you knew that you would crave more of their sensual touch after that night, leaving you left with unrequited love or the lack of a mutual exchange, you will definitely feel left out. Be extra careful with your feelings on this one. I will also emphasize that you should never do something or say something that you know will cause a significant impact on their emotions and feelings. This is not a moment to lead anyone on. That is the least of their concerns. Although it might sound ideal to just embrace  sleeping with someone with no other intentions, people will seek more options to explore. Discuss this with either the person you barely know or your lover for that cuddle session. Your boyfriend or girlfriend may take an advantage, but that does not necessarily mean it is right. Let them know. This also goes with marital concerns. Please understand the controversial topic of  marital rape. It is a matter of self-control and being assertive. Lay out the barriers, respect each other’s requests, and do not attempt to alter any decisions. If you have animals, why would you decline their offers? We all know you are comfortable about this one! Just take it and appreciate it! Your bundle of fur will hold a grudge if you ignore them. I suppose that also goes to everyone else.

How can you say that snuggling does not lead to sex? Communication.  Draw the fine lines between sexual and sensual. Kissing does not necessarily have to lead to sex either. Chocolate covered strawberries are also blamed for enticing something sexual to occur. Is it your boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse? Just communicate. Tell them to cool it down and accept it as it is. Is it a summer fling, no strings attached night out on the couch, or someone temporary? You may barely know each other, but be open about this now. Lay out your expectations! Yes, if you spoon with someone, it may cause some arousal. Embrace it as a product of your emotions. Never use it to your advantage. Discuss and convey everything about yourselves. Why would you even bother to ignore important information like that?

How will I ever be sure to find someone who will respect me and my decision? 

Communication. I cannot emphasize enough on exchanging ideas and concerns with each other.

Should I allow caressing? 

If there is a consensual decision to allow caressing shoulders and arms, let it happen. The feelings will be greatly enhance during your physical embrace. If you are willing to hold each other’s hands, occasionally massaging their wrists and fingers, discuss this with them. Honestly, if you are not looking forward to feeling the extra perks of snuggling with someone, grab a pillow!

Lastly, when is the caressing too much? How do I let them know that I am uncomfortable?

Everyone has boundaries and expectations. Do not cross over the boundaries by violating the expectations. You should have laid out the rules and expectations before you decided to snuggle with each other. Guys, your sexual arousal is completely natural. Do not assume to share the latest news that recently popped up – literally. Ladies,  your sexual arousal is completely natural. Do not assume it is completely fine to entice the moment by slowly grinding against him. You are officially a tease. Most guys would love to feel that tease, but others may take it the wrong way. If they take an advantage of you by allowing their hands to wander, stop them. That simple. If you are in relationship with them, never feel obligated that you should continue. Yes, although they might enjoy it, just slap them.

Snuggling is a sensual act of two bodies pressed closed together. You want to feel their warmth through the exchange of body heat. You crave that security blanket of physical and emotional sensation of being with someone. Try it out with everyone you feel comfortable inviting into your personal space. I am always interested in rekindling high school crushes or finding someone brand new to share these warm urges during the holiday season. We are all mammals craving for that sensational feeling of physical touch. Embrace the opportunity, improve the experience. Friends will refer to what you are doing as “friends with benefits” while you can reassure to them that they are friends with explorative opportunities. Although I will not dive into the concept around friends with benefits, I will briefly explain sensual play vs. sexual play. I define play as participating in an active role in having consensual funSensual play can lead into foreplay, but it is not necessarily mandatory for this moment. A sensualist craves stimulating their senses, while sexual play has overwhelmingly taken over everyone’s mind to assume that sensual is sexual. The appreciation for the act of snuggling can push aside the idea that being sexual is a catalytic spark that can suddenly deteriorate relationships.  When someone finally realizes that there is so much more to a relationship than being in the bedroom, communication improves the growth and development of everything established.


A Mini How-To Guide on Snuggling Improvement 

How do I improve snuggling? Well, simply embrace the S.N.U.G. 

Socialize. Pillow talk without the post-sexual feeling.

Negotiate. Ask for more time, ask for a closer position, and talk about places outside the house for snuggling.

Understand. Just stop, and admire. Understand what their body is telling you. Watch non-verbal cues through their eyes and facial expressions.

Gather. Take all the mental notes you can. Never assume that you know everything. Knowledge is power, especially when you notice the smallest details and then bring them up in the next conversation. They will be very surprised that you bothered to pay close attention. That shows a sign of being a priority over being an option.

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No Strings Attached Snuggling; The Trending Sensual Intentions Surrounded by Sexual Misconceptions

A Lover’s Christmas List; Top Five Things to Do in December

 T’was the month of November, when gratitude was exchanged throughout the house, families feasted with gluttony and rejoiced with their spouse. The Christmas trees stood tall, completely bare, awaiting for the ornaments and other Christmas decorations to prepare.

The single life is boring with everything lingering in our heads, mistletoe romance, snow angels and rose petals across our beds. I believe I am ready to move on from all this crap, my heart is set to follow life’s mysterious road map. After six years of looking, I thought it didn’t really matter, I have a four year degree, I’m spontaneous and I didn’t get any fatter. I work with family to earn some cash, while my heart is still open from the cheater’s vicious slash.

A lover’s Christmas list is compiled below, the top five things you should do from inside to out in the snow. If you are single, please don’t fear, everything you see planned for this month will still sound great, my dear.

Honestly, I would love to continue that parody. However, I must continue to express the core message of this post. Perfectly transitioned into the holiday spirit, this post is dedicated for those who wish to spice up their love life whether they are currently in a fun, stabilized  relationship or willing to find someone with no strings attached Christmas benefits. I could never compile a list like this one with a numerical order of significance. I do believe we should start off from the beginning of December and move on to something more intimately rewarding at the end. We should all reconsider this month to take an advantage of these ideas and recreate explorative opportunities with loved ones. Whether this will be an incentive to enhance relationships or continue to maintain the strength of many, please relax, have fun, and stay warm.

Do you love the smell of freshly cut Christmas trees? Maybe you would rather prefer to admire something artificial with fiber optic features? Well, regardless of the tree, let’s focus on ourselves. The latest trend for the holiday season is to embrace the lights and the kiss that follows.

Save a tree, decorate each other. 

 No, really, this is an extremely bright idea!  Close your eyes, feel the embrace, lips touch and we’re face to face. Put your arms around my waist, the holiday spirit has much more to taste. Eventually, you’ll decorate something together. Whether you have a Charlie Brown tree, a real spruce, or an artificial – have fun before tackling the tree with lights. If you’re celebrating your first Christmas together, this one is recommended! Take your time and be extra careful not to break any of the lights. Release your wild side, but control yourself at the same time! Explore outside the living room! Bring these lights into the bedroom and let loose. If you are stuck with someone who cannot bring themselves down to this level of being intimately playful, lure their inner teen out to play. It’s in there! Be creative and everything will go perfectly fine.

Mistletoe kisses 

Be honest. How many times have you ever kissed under the mistletoe? Plenty? How many people did that entail? Well, did you follow the rules? What? You didn’t know about mistletoe etiquette? According to HowStuffWork.com, all couples must follow the rules:

“The correct mistletoe etiquette is for the man to remove one berry when he kisses a woman. When all the berries are gone, there’s no more kissing permitted underneath that plant. One legend states that a couple who kisses underneath mistletoe will have good luck, but a couple neglecting to perform the ritual will have bad luck. Specifically, it is believed that a couple kissing under the mistletoe ensure themselves of marriage and a long, happy life, while an unmarried woman not kissed under the mistletoe will remain single for another year.”

Well, that might seem intriguing to do some research before your lips exchange a passionate holiday moment. If you would like more history about this romantic ritual, follow the citation at the end of this post.

There’s Snow Way We’re Leaving 

 Are you from New England? Alaska? Somewhere cold? Do you have enough snow for snow angels? If you said yes, great. If not, consider sand angels. Making snow angels solo can be very difficult. There are no extra hands for support to pull you up to make a perfect snow angel. When you have someone, maybe the perfection isn’t all about the angel itself, but it is simply in the kiss. A passionate kiss in the snow might allow your mind to drift off before realizing that you are losing body heat. Well, it was definitely worth the hypothermia! Go after that vulnerably exposed neck for love bites. When you two are caught up in the moment, you might lose track of the time. Don’t stay out too long, frostbites are not fun at all. Would you rather stay inside away from the cold? Try using thermal sleeping bags that can undergo the cold pressures and obligations of staying outside for your loved one and maintaining your warmth. Do you have a few blankets lying around the house? Bring your comforter outside instead! There are so many fun alternatives to embrace the first snow fall of the year. Take a moment out of your busy day, and relax in the innocently white snow.

If you prefer to stay away from the open field of snow, make an igloo together! If you prefer to stay off the snow, try using a tent with lots of blankets. That will work just as great! Whatever you end up doing, just be safe. The cool temperatures can do some harm. Learn basic survival skills to deal with any concerns or situations you may encounter in the extreme cold temperatures. Take your time, enjoy, and don’t rush the moment.

Embrace the snuggling, and exchange the body heat. The closer you are together, the better you will be. Intertwine those legs together, spend quality time with your significant other, and tell them how much they mean to you. Now is your time to put them in the spotlight!

Heat Up the Kitchen 

 Are you feeling Jack Frost’s winter blow across your face? Let’s go inside for more intimate ways to spend quality time together.  One of the first passionately creative ways to have fun this year would involve heating up the kitchen. You are not a lover unless you know how to use your kitchen counters the right way. If you aren’t confident enough to bake homemade cookies, buy the slice and bake. It is completely fine, but the fun will only be limited to simplistic measures. Now, buy the ingredients and take off those clothes! You should leave your bra, panties, and boxers on to create a sexually appealing atmosphere. It may entice something new or spark up your love life by rekindling old flames.  If you make your own holiday cookies, you can lick the excess mess off each other later!

A personal recommendation would be gingerbread stripper cookies! Check those guys out above this paragraph! One dollar at a time, folks! If you are way too enthusiastic about being intimate with each other in the kitchen, pushing the baking aside, grab yourselves two cans of whipped cream! Just imagine whipped cream kisses! Maybe spray some along the side of your desirable neck awaiting for a tongue’s embrace as a sweet sensational moment. Try other places as well! I heard the movie, “Varsity Blues” enticed a trending whipped cream bikini idea! Why not try that out? Maybe you prefer edible underwear or lingerie? Look, as long as you both understand that the quality over the quantity matters the most. Make the holidays an excuse to explore each other’s passionate sides better. Invest some time thinking about creative ways to make sensual foreplay in the kitchen, bedroom or living room with edible alternatives. If you haven’t discussed allergies, now is a great time! Personally, I don’t have any. Feel free to express yourself with me in any way possible. Well, now that you are a hot mess, maybe it is time to take a cold shower?

By now, you should have decorated each other with lights, exchanged in passionate kisses under the mistletoe, and made the most breathtakingly chilly experiences outside. Always remember – if you live in much warmer climates, or never cold enough for snow, learn how to make sand angels. Use the sand as an alternative for snow. Beach dates are always the best for two hopeless romantics. You have successfully made a batch of sensually arousing foreplay in the kitchen, and you have delivered the freshly baked stimulation into the bedroom.

Now, here is the moment you have all been waiting for throughout the post. The last thing you should reconsider on Christmas Day is to play the big man himself, Santa Claus, and the lovely lady should be entitled to become Santa’s little helper. Ladies, Amazon.com has a vast array of Christmas lingerie. You can also check out sexy Santa costumes. Find one that intrigues your mind, arouses your curiosity, and mesmerizes your eyes. During this month, you two have been extremely naughty!  The naughty list is definitely full this year, and you two made the top! Ladies, you are now awaiting Santa’s arrival. Be sure to ask politely for his candy cane.

Naughty List? Awaiting Santa’s Arrival

The rose petals lead into the bedroom from the Christmas tree that glistens at night. The candle lit atmosphere entices the seductive play to roam free and right. You are completely comfortable to explore each other’s desire to make love. The fireplace is fierce with its warmth from the fire, as stockings are hung from the chimney above. The bed sheets are made with a temporary stay, bring out an extra set of lights to start the play. Wrapped around your neck, pulling you closer for our bodies to collide. The bare skin brushing against each other occurs while the tongues lean in further to glide. A seductive stare implies the motives for a passionate embrace, watch the pupils dilate with a grin on that face. Mount them against the wall, pin them down across the bed, or maybe find a spot right in front of the fireplace. Run your fingers through each other’s hair, noses must come close for Eskimo pride. Teasingly brush your lips across theirs without a kiss just yet, let them beg for it – I’m sure they will start to lose the bet. Prolong the moment, embrace the face. Forehead kisses should start the race. Move with pace, and transition to cheek kisses and chin kisses while moving all over the place.

Let those hands wander, let them run along their neck. Watch out – it might lead into something they hope to expect. Give them a stare, give them a smile – move further down and stay for a while. They will lean their neck over to feel the moment of burning desire. Take an advantage of their vulnerably exposed neck and don’t ever retire. Soft gentle blows across will do the trick, while you run your fingers through their hair and slightly tug quick. Wherever you two may be for the night, enjoy it.

Entice, explore, and express.

Entice the passionate feelings by making them completely comfortable and sexy for you. Explore their body like an artist penetrates his brush against an untouched canvas. Express your sensual side by massaging and caressing their body closer to your lips.

Why not bring a part of the outside with you? Take some snow or ice to glide right across their hot body. Teasingly glide along their neck, across their chest, and along their waistline. Do you dare attempt to run along their thighs and eventually transitioning to their inner thighs?  Always remember to wrap your tongue around the erogenous zones, or hot spots. Watch their body movements and understand what everything is non-verbally telling you. If their fingers are digging into skin or bed sheets, you might be giving them a deep penetrating sensation. You will not only end the year with a bang, but start off the New Year as two distinct lovers in the bedroom. Happy Holidays! No, really, you deserve it!

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The Ultimate Sacrifice for Love; Makes Sense to Deny Participation

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Good evening, everyone! 

Just a quick thought for the day:

Your world is your inspiration. Take mental notes, write poetic evaluations.

Intimate hour! Are you ready? Do you have your comfortable pajamas on? Ladies, you lean towards the casual bedtime attire to bra and panties, right? For guys, just the boxers? Now, how should we come back to explorative writing but with an explicit twist? Let’s start this evening with a question for a warm up:

If you had to risk and lose one of your traditional five senses to make love to your lover, unless of course you associate with paranormal activity, which one would it be, and why?

First, I should verify the rules. Answer whether you will or will not give up one of your senses to make love to your loved one. Is that a permanent thing? Yes, this one decision will change all the romantic evenings for you to engage intimacy with your partner for the rest of your life. Think of it as if you were experiencing Ariel’s dilemma, the little mermaid, where she gave up her voice to become a human. Would you give up one sense for something personal? Now, think about the invaluable importance behind your senses to your unique lifestyle and sex appeal in the bedroom.

This is not an easy task, but this exercise can really open up your mind to amazingly passionate ideas. You will also discover, and possibly release, the inner hopeless romantic nestled inside. Watch out! Can you handle what you are capable of doing? Let’s find out.

Note: Disabled persons will feel left out by their physical disadvantages already, leaving options to only a few of their senses. If you deal with a barrier that hinders your five senses, ask yourself … if you knew that this decision would enhance your love life, would you give up one of the senses you already have for another sense that you have lost for a long time? Think about why you would make that decision whether you agree or disagree, and imagine what life would be like in the bedroom with that final decision that you make. Maybe you said yes, but what will improve the most in your love life? Maybe you said no, what hindered your decision?

Let’s go over the five traditional senses: 

Sight:

You might refer to yourself as someone who isn’t shallow, but you believe there is some reason for physical attraction to become a core foundation, or key for sexual appeal. You might be right. However, maybe you should start closing your eyes more often during the foreplay? Kisses are not always the ones left to be unseen. If you already close your eyes while you make love, maybe you already know you can live without this opportunity.

Hearing:

What? Are you talking to me? He’s standing right behind you, leaning in to secure his arms around your body. A hug from behind finalizes the moment when his fingers link into yours and his chin rests on your shoulder. Ah, wait, not yet. Where did the whispers of sweet nothings in a foreign language come into play? Oh, right, you made a choice to become oblivious to his words, yet fully awake for his motives. Many men and women prefer dirty talk while making love. Maybe others would rather experience sensual talk or a seductive role-playing that prolongs foreplay. Talk is cheap, but moans are also sounds to explain the pace of the enthusiastic beating heart. Would you rather put them on mute or hear the impact of the penetrating thrusts deep inside? That is entirely up to your personal preference.

Smell:

Any cheap whores around? Natural body odor enthusiasts? Yeah, that’s right, the smell of this topic might intrigue you to continue reading. How much do you rely on your nose when you engage in intimate encounters? Ah, let me rephrase that, you cute Eskimo kissing types. Does it make sense to alter your sense of smell just to make love to your significant other? Although smell might play a significant role in arousal, you will be missing out when they whisper across your lips, “I’m yours.” Yeah, you might be right about missing that one sensational reason of that moment. If their breath smells, you may never know the circumstances. The truth hurts, but it will be completely ignored. We’ll get to taste later!  Just remember that it might be odorless, but the taste may leave something else behind. Yeah, the aftermath of your dinner and a movie date!

Touch: 

I close my eyes as his fingers aimlessly wander across my vulnerable exposed neck. I am awaiting for his arrival to run his fingers through my hair, pulling me closer to exchange a passionate kiss beyond my control.

Oh, you saw that picture differently? That is completely fine! Wait, what? Say that again? Slower? Oh, you. Maybe later. I dedicate this section to my sensualist out there. Who doesn’t love physical touch? That indescribable feeling when two bodies slowly collide against each other, bare skin rubbing softly against bare skin, in a hot steaming shower. Ladies, it’s that feeling when you’re snuggling with someone in just your bra and panties on, and they leave just their boxers on. Yes, touch would be incredibly difficult for passionate foreplay. Maybe you disagree? Maybe touch isn’t what sparks arousal, but what else would ignite the flames much brighter and warmer if you can’t feel your significant other against you? Let’s bite into one last thing before commenting.

 Taste:

Are you seductively playful? Would you prevent anyone to witness your  chaotic intentions? Ah, this is a moment where you should relax your eyes with my hands over them, and embrace upon our lips. Maybe I am not ready? Let me teasingly brush my lips across yours without a kiss. What? You like bottom lip biting instead? Feel my hands run along the side of your face, smiling at such a passionate embrace.

Warm? Yeah, sorry, it was quite chilly in here. I only turned the heat up just a few degrees higher. How much did you bite out of that last paragraph? Was it all bite and no taste? I hope it was because that was my intent. You should have not felt any desire to taste my lips, but the explorative opportunity in that moment. Do you enjoy the taste of one’s lips with yours? Do you enjoy oral stimulation? Why? Maybe you only enjoy it for the thrill of arousal? Maybe you like the taste of necks? Well, whether you like to taste or bite, decide on your own. You don’t always have to taste what you bite.

Now, I have stimulated interest. Great. I am sure you thought about each one. Did you think about erogenous zones? Did you decide if your turn ons, wild kinky fetishes, or sexual preferences would face difficult barriers? Go back to each one. Re-evaluate yourself, rediscover your feelings, and make that decision. Would you risk a sense to make love with a significant other? What sense would you give up, and how do you explain your answer?

Now, back to that question from earlier:

If you had to risk and lose one of your traditional five senses to make love to your lover, which one would it be, and why? Please comment below!

Tell me how you feel about this question! What senses matter more outside the bedroom, and which ones are the core factors in love-making? You love seeing the world, but maybe your significant other is the world. You risk losing one sense for life, just to make love to them that one time. Obviously, they are not an option, they are your priority. How do you prioritize your senses?

Thank you for reading. Sweet dreams! Keep them dry! Ok, fine, just don’t drown!

Take care!

The Ultimate Sacrifice for Love; Makes Sense to Deny Participation