Why Do People Have Sex?; Surveying Sexual Preferences

The sexual frustration builds up this week for many passionate couples ready for a romantic Valentine’s Day. The hopeless romantics looking for a casual date hesitate for the final decision. A recommendation for anyone to follow is effective communication and body language. Pay close attention to what they say, how they say it, and what they do while they are expressing their feelings. A complimentary way of using terms of endearment, regardless of the relationship status, is extremely healthy for anyone to try. The mutual attraction for each other through verbal communication is never enough to satisfy physical intimacy. The two lovers must have a better understanding of how actions speak louder than words. The strong emotional and physical connection for the two may entice more romantic nights after Valentine’s Day.

Michael Castleman published an article in Psychology Today on November 15, 2010. The article surfaced the Internet via HoneyColony.com. According to Castleman, men believe that the woman’s physical characteristics play an important role in sexual attraction. The women desire more of an emotional connection with their partner instead. The reason to engage in sex varies depending on the person, but a recent study surveyed 442 people for the overall purpose of sexual intercourse. The rewarding results of the survey provide a clear understanding of sexuality between men and women.

Sexy Survey

Researchers have generally assumed that people have sex for one or more of three reasons: to have children, to experience sexual pleasure, and to cement relationships. Turns out there are more than that — 234 more.

Psychologists Cindy Meston and David Buss, of the University of Texas at Austin, surveyed 442 people, aged 17 to 52, asking just one question: “List all the reasons why you or those you know have engaged in sexual intercourse.”

The myth is that men and women are emotionally very different. An old saying illustrates this: Women have sex to become intimate. Men become intimate to have sex. There’s some truth to this. But surprisingly, in the Meston-Buss survey, eight of the top 10 reasons why men and women have sex and 20 of the top 25 are remarkably similar:

Women’s Reasons For Having Sex (from most to least frequently expressed)

1. I felt attracted to the person.
2. I wanted to experience the physical pleasure.
3. It feels good.
4. I wanted to show my affection for my partner.
5. I wanted to express my love for my partner.
6. I was sexually aroused and wanted the release.
7. I felt horny.
8. It’s fun.
9. I realized I was in love.
10. I was swept up in the heat of the moment.
11. I wanted to please my partner.
12. I wanted emotional closeness/intimacy.
13. I wanted the pure pleasure.
14. I wanted an orgasm.
15. It’s exciting, adventurous.
16. I wanted to feel connected to the person.
17. The person’s physical appearance turned me on.
18. It was a romantic setting.
19. The person really desired me.
20. The person made me feel sexy.
21. The person caressed me.
22. It seemed like the natural next step in the relationship.
23. I wanted to become one with the person.
24. It just happened.
25. I wanted to deepen our emotional bond.


Men’s Reasons For Having Sex

1. I was attracted to the person.
2. It feels good.
3. I wanted to experience the physical pleasure.
4. It’s fun.
5. I wanted to show my affection for the person.
6. I was sexually aroused and wanted the release.
7. I felt horny.
8. I wanted to express my love for the person.
9. I wanted an orgasm.
10. I wanted to please my partner.
11. The person’s physical appearance turned me on.
12. I wanted the pure pleasure.
13. I was swept up in the heat of the moment.
14. I desired emotional closeness/intimacy.
15. It’s exciting/adventurous.
16. The person had a desirable body.
17. I realized I was in love.
18. The person had an attractive face.
19. The person really desired me.
20. I wanted the adventure/excitement.
21. I wanted to feel connected to the person.
22. I wanted the experience.
23. It was a romantic setting.
24. The person caressed me.
25. The person made me feel sexy.

The myth is that men are obsessed with sex, while women view it as a way to deepen relationships. Not quite. The top three reasons why both men and women become sexual have nothing to do with either horniness or love. They are based on attraction and pleasure. Men and women gave the same priority to horniness (No. 7) and almost the same to expressing love (No. 5 for women, No. 8 for men), and feeling closeness/intimacy (No. 12 for women No. 14 for men).

Americans focus a good deal of attention on sexual victimization (rape, incest, pedophilia, sexual harassment, etc.), and using sex for personal gain (money, a job, a promotion, drugs, etc.) These turn out to be among the least frequent reasons for having sex.

Women’s 10 Least Frequent Reasons For Having Sex

237. I wanted to spread a sexually transmitted disease.
236. Someone offered me money to do it.
235. I wanted to get a raise.
234. It was an initiation rite to a club or organization.
233. I wanted to get a job.
232. I wanted to get a promotion.
231. The person offered me drugs to do it.
230. I wanted to punish myself.
229. I wanted to hurt/humiliate the person.
228. I wanted to feel closer to God.

Men’s 10 Least Frequent Reasons for Having Sex

237. The person offered me drugs to do it.
236. I wanted to spread a sexually transmitted disease.
235. I wanted to punish myself.
234. I wanted to break up my relationship.
233. I wanted to get a job.
232. It was an initiation rite to a club or organization.
231. Someone offered me money to do it.
230. I feared physical harm if I said no.
229. I wanted to make money.
228. I wanted to feel closer to God.

Of course, men and women are different, and despite the similarities just mentioned, they have different reasons for having sex. The researchers calculated the reasons for sex that differed the most by gender.

The Top 10 Largest Gender Differences

1. The person wore revealing clothes. Stated significantly more often by men than women.
2. I wanted to feel masculine. More men.
3. I wanted to relieve “blue balls.” More men.
4. I wanted to feel feminine. More women.
5. The person had a desirable body. More men.
6. The person was available. More men.
7. The person’s appearance turned me on. More men.
8. It’s fun. More men.
9. I wanted to have an orgasm. More men.
10. The opportunity presented itself. More men.

Men were much more likely to have sex based on women’s physical characteristics: desirable body, attractive face, she turned me on. This finding supports a great deal of research showing that men are sexually stimulated by visual cues (for example, pornography).

Women were more likely to have sex based on its contribution to a relationship: I wanted to express my love. I wanted deeper emotional closeness. Again, this finding supports other research showing that most women prefer sex in the context of a committed relationship.

So why do men and women have sex? For more reasons than most people think.

Source:
Meston, CM and DM Buss. “Why Humans Have Sex,” Archives of Sexual Behavior (2007) 36:477.

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Why Do People Have Sex?; Surveying Sexual Preferences

Driving Around Intimate Roadblocks; Addressing Concern for Making Moves

Jenna Marbles Sexually Frustrated

A hopeless romantic’s lust builds up sexual frustration into a conflicting matter with physical intimacy. A person feeling deprivation from love and the emotional connection with someone also conflicts with the desire of physical intimacy. The simplistic hug leads into wandering hands, while a forehead kiss turns into French kiss frenzy. A rewarding opportunity of no strings attached snuggling can happen unexpectedly. The desire for more than a sensual embrace stirs up a controversial discussion for couples being serious towards a prospective commitment. If there is a mutual attraction for each other, the couple is safe to push aside their Shakespearean romance for a special time.

Barely Moving Forward 

Past experiences of failed attempts in intimacy can hinder the enthusiasm for another chance at a spontaneous opportunity. Many young men and women face intimacy issues for various reasons. A young woman decides to exchange numbers with me after a brief acknowledgement of mutual attraction. The intellectual conversations over the phone entice the next step to happen rather quickly. She arrives at my house early in the afternoon confident about our casual intentions. A relaxed conversation after dinner left our passionate personalities ready for spontaneity.  In a sensual artistic manner, I transitioned across her face from a forehead kiss to a cheek kiss. Then, playful Eskimo kisses relaxed her shortly before the soft chin kiss. A person’s hazy, aroused eyes might imply the urge for a passionate kiss. A personal fantasy of mine is physical intimacy with a complete stranger, especially after achieving an emotional and physical attraction for each other.

Cock Block Ahead

The art of intimacy should never conflict with an interest for sex. A person can feel completely comfortable towards the exposure of something new, but there is always that one person who fails to recognize that the experience is not necessarily enjoyable for someone else. A mature discussion for sleeping apparel is very important for anyone to understand. The couple must confirm their intent to engage in snuggling. This will ensure respect for each other’s personal space and comfort zone, while building a sense of trust and security. After agreeing on sleeping attire, an emotional connection between the two individuals creates a powerful, sentimental feeling inside. When a person spoons with someone, they must follow the body language of the person next to them. The instinct to allow our hands to wander is natural, but it is not necessarily right to assume going further.

The exposure of sensual caressing from her arms to her waistline intrigued her sexuality and sensuality, but past experiences with intimate failures curtail the fullest potential of her arousal. She mentions with surprise how I am a “man whom doesn’t assume to go any further than below the waistline.” After mentioning this concern for intimacy, reflection on making advantageous moves left a concern to pursue an article about this. The intentions of sexual intercourse are natural, but men and women are responsible to reduce their sex drives to respect others and their own bodies.

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Sold it (Photo credit: Mundoo)

Sold! 

Sex can be perceived as the same process of buying a house. If two people have an interest in establishing a lifestyle together, they hold back on moving in right away to keep their options open and secure.  They understand that they must feel an emotional and physical connection to pursue a mature decision towards commitment. If two individuals engage in promiscuous activities, this is closely in comparison to renting a place to stay. Nobody owns anything yet, but there are possible chances for rewarding opportunities and responsibility later. When there is an interest in engaging in physical intimacy, a form of a down payment to secure their interest helps the two people out. As a tenant, or someone willing to pursue an intimate encounter with someone else’s property (being their body in this case), they must abide by the landlord’s residential rules. As a landlord, or the person responsible for their own body, must go over the expectations and intentions for the tenant to respect their property. Therefore, the couples are mutually responsible for being a tenant and a landlord. One person must respect their own property before they allow anyone else to pursue an interest with it.

Unloading the Truck

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U-Haul, or any other moving truck company, conveys symbolism in this article as a convenient method of unloading all the baggage that one has from past experiences into their own intimate lifestyle. This is the most important part of the article to avoid driving around the most intimate roadblock anyone must face. Nobody should ever feel uncomfortable, pressured, and subjected to physical intimacy and sexual intercourse. Nobody should attempt to break the social and intimate connection they have with someone by taking advantageous actions. Therefore, a compiled list on how to respect a person’s body is given below.

The Do’s and Don’ts of Physical Intimacy

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DO:

  • Appreciate their time being with you, regardless of your intentions. 
  • Sincerely compliment them on how you really feel without thinking about what they want to hear.
  • Take patience into consideration for everything you do with them.
  • Take it to heart – show respect by considering a comfortable place, a reasonable time, and acknowledge the most important reason for being with them.  There is a time and place for everything, especially for first impressions.
  • Enjoy sensuality over sexuality for at least an hour. Come on, you can do it!
  • Follow a road map from the forehead to the waistline. The expected roadblock is the waistline. In a sexually corrupted society, this road map will be effective for you because there is never enough foreplay.
  • Remember that foreplay is not only fun, but it is very healthy!
  • Learn about their body just as well as they learn about yours. This is teamwork!

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DON’T:

  • Make an ass out of assumption! A date does not require physical intimacy. You do not have the right to kiss them, and they are also not entitled for a kiss from you either.
  • Believe that the first kiss entitles you to go further with your intentions. You were just fortunate enough for first base!
  • Assume that holding hands, kissing, and snuggling offers the right to caress the intimate parts of their body. Besides, Captain Obvious, you already know where yer treasure is! Argh! Ignore the X on the map, and pretend like you don’t know where it is! If you engage in effective prolonged foreplay with the right pace, they will voluntarily lead you in that direction. Yes, you can both share each other’s booty.

Most importantly …

Don’t you ever assume that it is right to make decisions because you feel comfortable about pursuing them. This isn’t about you! 

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Driving Around Intimate Roadblocks; Addressing Concern for Making Moves

Making Love Outside the Norm; Achieving Seductive Originality

A passionate desire for a lover’s chance to seduce the one they love with a sensual dance. The fingers wander like snakes with lust through the embrace of love and trust. Everyone desires the role of being the greatest lover in bed with no sense of direction or idea how to go ahead. Romantic ambitions lost without a compass or map, but an article to entice them to open up and unwrap.

After noticing the trending views for the sensualist perspective article, I am looking forward to providing some strategies on making Valentine’s Day extend for more than an entire 24 hours. This article will encourage your passionate minds to open up to originality and creativity. There is no age or experience requirement, however I do expect maturity and respect for everything you do to your partner. The main ingredients for these tactics are pure dedication and commitment. Push aside your insecurities, and discover each other in the most intimate way possible. My seductive strategies are effective because I care about what I do to the one experiencing my techniques. I do not recommend using my techniques with just anyone, but if you insist – make your one night-stand distinct from the rest. Give them quality over quantity performance. Make them come back for more. 

Sensual Suspense 

Guys, size does not matter at all with foreplay. All you need is confidence, passion, and patience. If you are unaware of how to use your hands and mouth effectively, please refer to my sensualist article. Ladies, give him a study guide after his lesson. Then, put him to the test. Most couples ignore or simply forget how to achieve the simplistic art of intimacy. Kissing is extremely important, but lips are not necessarily the only place to reserve a passionate kiss. This will be difficult to understand, but just ignore the sex for now. Imagine a cock block, or a chastity belt, preventing you from achieving sexual gratification. Find some other way around that to have fun.

Anatomy Class – 

English: A man handcuffed to a bed and blindfolded

Good morning, class!  First, I recommend an entire week of engaging in a hands-on anatomy class with your lover. Your first homework assignment will be due by the end of the week. No, seriously, learn more about your partner through a visual stimulation of who you are and what you have to offer. By the end of the week, you are able to identify (1) their erogenous zones,  (2) body language, and (3) an emotional and physical connection with the one you love. Sex is not just sex because there is an emotional and physical understanding that we rarely acknowledge. If you are willing to make love, you are willing to make some adjustments to how you approach your partner in bed.

Lab Instructions –

Use only your hands and your mouth in all the lab exercises you do in your intimate anatomy class. The only penetration allowed is using teeth, generally around the neck area. First, focus from the forehead down to the waistline. You are not ready for the next chapter (yet)! Do not exceed beyond their waistline. Confidence in trying something new is important, especially when it is simply showing off your passionate side for your partner. I have provided a list to entice your passionate side. If you follow the instructions carefully, you will be able to move on to the next level of intimate gratification. Please follow the following lab report template below to make sure that you are doing an outstanding job with your seductive experimental approach.

Lab Report – 

Statement of the Problem

How does my lover react to physical intimacy without sexual penetration? Are there any clear observations of arousal or discomfort in the attempts of seduction and sensual foreplay? My lover is willing to experience something new with me to entice their passionate side to release the buildup of sexual frustration and deprivation of sexual arousal.

Hypothesis 

If sensual kisses and massages from the forehead to the waistline entice my lover to bite their bottom lip, then sexual arousal will happen.

Materials

  • Hands
  • Mouth

Procedure

  1. Your lover can wear anything they want during this experiment. However, keep in mind that less is more. It is much easier to work around undergarments, instead of shirts and pants.
  2. Position your lover on the bed lying down on their back.
  3. Give one soft kiss upon your lover’s forehead with your eyes open. Mentally record facial expressions.
  4. Give one soft kiss upon one of your lover’s cheeks with your eyes open. Mentally record facial expressions.
  5. Give your lover slow, playful Eskimo kisses for at least 1 minute. Time is flexible. Stop when you are ready.
  6. Run your fingers through your lover’s hair while you teasingly brush your lips across theirs. Mentally record facial expressions and body language
  7. Transition further down to kiss their chin. Mentally record facial expressions.
  8. Continue caressing their hair. Close your eyes to signal a passionate embrace with your lips. No need to record anything.
  9. Transition further down to their neck. Give them a soft gentle blow on the side of their neck. Mentally record facial expressions and body language.
  10. Trace the side of their neck with the tip of your tongue. Do not use excessive amount of saliva. Keep it light and simple. Mentally record facial expressions and body language.
  11. I could write more steps, but I feel like you should take over. Be creative until you reach to the waistline… you got this. I believe in you.

Results

Well, what happened? Did you provide enough sensual kisses and massages from the forehead to the waistline? Did you entice your lover to bite their bottom lip? How many times? When did you notice them doing it? Where were you kissing and massaging for them to bite their bottom lip? Are you sure it was sexual arousal? Did they allow their hands to wander below the waistline? Did they encourage you to go further when you softly kissed across their waistline?

Conclusions

In conclusion, sensual kisses and massages from the forehead to the waistline will entice my lover to bite their bottom lip, and sexual arousal will happen. The tip of my tongue and my hands has successfully aroused my partner the most when I was caressing their breasts as their nipples erected inside my mouth. They bit their bottom lip the most when this happened. A possible error that may have hindered the overall performance while I was conducting this intimate experiment was when the phone rang. I may have to turn off the ringer next time we engage in a romantically sensual embrace.

Sensual Exploration

Congratulations! You successfully achieved your first lab report! Now, try these experiments:

  • The Impact of Different Juices on Sensational Kissing
  • The Impact of Whipped Cream on Sensual Foreplay 
  • The Impact of Showering in the Dark on Rekindling Romance

The main point to take from these experiments is to explore your partner with innermost passionate feelings. Use sensual food products, like fruit juice for kissing and whipped cream for foreplay. If you are willing to step outside the norm for more explorative opportunities, try ice cream or body paint. Just use your imagination and spice up your love life. As long as you are happy together and spending quality time together, endless possibilities of fun are open for inspirational consideration.

Sexual Surprise

Wow, talk about a heated discussion! Time to make love! Now, seduction is easy for any sensual intentions. The main problem is that seduction for sexual intentions can hinder any performance if there is no passion involved. Guys, she wants you to penetrate deep inside her just as much as you do. Never give her everything she wants right away! Never satisfy her completely until she begs for it. My seductive sexual strategies might leave her begging for more. She might even take control! Confidence is sexy, patience is running out, and dominance is ready to fight for sexual gratification. I encourage you all to try these sexual surprises.

Quading on Pink Terrain

Four wheeling, or commonly referred as quading, is extremely fun in open terrain. Try taking that same concept of digging into the dirt without a lot of penetration involved. Guys, when you quad on pink terrain, try to dig into her lips without penetrating deep inside. Use the head and the shaft as a shovel gliding against her wet pink lips. Experiment with this approach and see how long it takes for her to snap for more.

Shaft Spanking Paddle

BDSM is not for everyone, but spanking is always pleasurable when you do it right. Everyone’s level of tolerance for pain varies, but spanking your lover’s clit with your shaft is effective if you use the right amount of force and pace. Try doing it conservatively – before you penetrate inside and during your sexual exploration. Watch their body language and see if they enjoy a certain way of you doing it.

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Pigs in a Blanket

It is time to feed your lover’s intimate part of her body with the pigs in a blanket approach. Guys, after you make your lover extremely wet, spoon with them with something extra. Slowly glide your shaft inside and then leave it there. Give them passionate kisses while you caress their body. Just connect with your partner in an emotional and physical way. Guys, forget about thrusting for a bit. Ladies, tease him by flexing your muscles and constricting his shaft. See how long you can go without deeper penetration.

Free Samples 

Someone is hungry for more! Just imagine unwrapping a layered present in wrapping paper, plastic bags, and newspaper. You want more after the first attempt and you continue unwrapping until you reach the end. Guys, size does not matter with this at all. Never feel intimidated. Give her one inch at a time. Glide an inch inside, take it out. Glide two inches inside, take it out. Glide three inches inside, take it out. Try the shaft spanking paddle while you experiment with this.

Please Note:

I understand that all relationships are different, and I do not encourage something that makes you or your partner uncomfortable. If you have any suggestions or comments, please leave them below. If you have any success stories or failed attempts from physical intimacy, tell me all about them. Please understand that this article is to encourage quality time with your partner while understanding their sexuality through physical intimacy. I encourage you all to take what you already know about your partner and use that knowledge to your advantage. The more you know about them, the better it is for both of you to achieve sensual and sexual gratification.

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Making Love Outside the Norm; Achieving Seductive Originality

Relaxing on First Base; A Brief Survey on Kissing Preferences

French Kiss

Physical intimacy is a healthy way of expressing our passionate sides to complete strangers or lovers. I appreciate the successful turn out for volunteers on my last poll. I will be writing a Part III very soon to conclude my thoughts about the results. I am looking forward on writing more about physical intimacy with the results from this poll as well. Please provide as much information as possible, including two detailed responses for the two questions requiring more information to fill out. All participants are not subjected to answer all the optional questions, including name or website address. However, there is acknowledgement for all participants willing to submit their website address for their voluntary contribution. All participants are aware that their information is not used for anything else other than the next blog publication. My intentions for the next blog publication are kept secret until the official publication of the results. I want more than seven submissions this time! I will hold off on ending this poll shortly before Valentine’s Day. Please reblog this or share the link to your friends. That would be greatly appreciated!

Survey: 

Reference:

 Erogenous Zone? 

Total Submissions: 

 

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Note: I will be updating this section as soon as I receive the submissions.

Comments: 

3:04 PM EST 02/04/13:  Wow! Twenty-two (22)  submissions already? That is amazing! Thanks everyone!

TECHNICAL ISSUE:  

I have to label the questions as (1), (2), (3) because it only registered one “Would You Rather,” so expect a message from me shortly to verify your answers. Sorry for the inconvenience! If you did not provide your website, then please resubmit and mention that you resubmitted within the response. I was wondering why everyone was skipping the questions! It is now working.

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Relaxing on First Base; A Brief Survey on Kissing Preferences

Allons-y, mon chou!; Encouraging Terms of Endearment After Valentine’s Day

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Salut, ça va? J’ai beaucoup des mots doux d’amour aujourd’hui! Hey, how are you? I have a lot of sweet words of love today! In the last two months, I prepared everyone for the upcoming Valentine’s Day, or Singles Awareness Day (S.A.D.).  Are you excited? Whether you are trying to find love online or you have that prospective lover already engaging in no strings attached snuggling, you might have to encourage more to your man than just keeping up with his qualifications.

Guys, my blog suggests romantic tips that will ignite a house fire from candlelit seduction or the freshly sparked ideas that will leave your lover begging like a feline in heat. I am not advocating that you should follow everything just for one night, but balance everything out for post Valentine’s Day. Your beautiful lover deserves more than just a holiday obligation for public displays of affection.  Never save up all your paychecks just to take her out for one night out of the entire year! Seriously, time to wake up and smell the roses before you buy them. Guys, this blog post will help you rekindle your relationship butterflies. Just promise me one thing. You hereby agree to the terms and conditions of relationship success. These terms include, but are not limited to, effective communication with your partner.  I cannot emphasize enough on communication. If verbal communication curtails your fullest relationship potential, body language is also misunderstood as well. If you cannot understand your lover’s body, please refer to my sensualist perspective approach before moving forward this year. When you are ready to take the test, study the erotic study guide. Ven aquí, Pablo Piccasso! Her beautiful canvas is ready for inspiration! No, just kidding. First, let’s focus on communication before and after Valentine’s Day. Then, go ahead. 

Sweethearts Box
Sweethearts Box (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Not Desperate, Just Be Mine!

On Valentine’s Day, talk is extremely cheap, corny, and sometimes very sweet! However, be extra cautious to sink your taste buds into something your valentine has yet to say! A relationship, regardless of its status, requires communication. The lack of communication raises red flags before someone’s heart is severely wounded. If your man cannot express terms of endearment, maybe giving him a box of Sweethearts was the worst inspirational idea you ever had. Guys, these candies are not meant for pick-up lines for one-night stands. They should encourage you to think outside the box (pun intended)! 

Guys, if you need some help on explorative writing, please feel free to check out my page before you open up on sugar-coated terms of endearment. Make your lover a priority, not an option, especially once a year!

Be Original 

A woman craves originality over physical intimacy.  Physical intimacy is extremely exciting, especially with strangers, but there are some consequences with marriage. You will end up married for 50 years with someone you passionately love, but you might not function the way you do when you were in college. If you have originality before Alzheimer’s disease takes over, you can still play your Shakespearean role in her life without rekindling your intimate newlywed adventures. Romeo, Juliet wants the poison from thy lips! If you can still spit up a few honest romantic lines, there will be a much happier ending with your love story. If you can do that while you rev up your rusty sex life, you may just have another chance between the hips as well.

Poetically Captivating 

It is perfectly acceptable if you cannot write anything like Shakespeare. I am not asking you to become the next Robert Frost either. The road you should take (pun intended) is from your heart. Practice does make a lot of progress if you show your sensitive side and begin writing how you feel every day. If you can recall back from earlier in this post, I recommend clicking on the word, “qualifications,” to review the emotionally sensitive section of that post. It is perfectly acceptable if you are sensitive about the way she feels about you or how you feel about her. She wants a well-rounded man, and being sensitive does not make you weak. It is simply the reason why you are her man. Start another WordPress blog for poetry! I have one! If someone provides you with constructive criticism or encouraging words, take them to move forward. Everyone expresses their own feelings through writing, music, and art. If you like music, you enjoy reading words that touch your innermost feelings about everything around you.  Just try it. Deliver the autumn breeze softly across her neck, and the sensual touch of a passionate embrace from a summer ray upon her flesh. You’ll understand. Trust me.

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It’s Fragile! Must Be Italian!

A Christmas Story does not have a Valentine’s Day Story edition. So, please, never make it one! A personal recommendation for anyone trying to rekindle relationships is to learn multiple romance languages. Seriously, you will learn how to use patience and passion within everything you say. Go to the nearest book store, or Google foreign terms of endearment, or watch YouTube videos. Your possibilities are endless. There are no excuses to learn! Allons-y, mon chou! Guys, always remember to practice what you preach (pun intended)! Confidence sounds sexy! When you are confident in speaking another language, your lover will notice your determination. If you are successful, you may just have a romantic night outside of Paris! You might have a busy schedule, but learn how to organize time for a phrase a day while you do your daily routine. In the shower, start singing a phrase. It helps when the phrase is almost relevant to what you are doing. In Spanish, try saying, “Cuando yo tomo una ducha, yo pienso de mi corazon dulce.” It will eventually come to you. Trust me. You got this!

Pets Are Not Included 

You can have pet names without owning a pet! It is extremely healthy for couples to follow the pet naming trend for naming each other something cute for a change. No, I am terribly sorry, but “asshole” is not acceptable. However, there are plenty of pet names trending in different cultures for dating and relationships. Babe, what are your favorite pet names?

In the article, “Pet Names” Are Important for a Strong RelationshipJohn Tesh mentions how coded language can also help secure a healthier relationship. When your partner says, “Hey dear, I’m burning up inside,” never assume they want a fan! If they do, you might have to assume they want that autumn breeze I mentioned about earlier. Do you have a coded language or sugarcoated language with your partner to discuss things around your friends or family? Although I find this very effective, I barely find anyone else to join the fun. One last thought about pet names – try using their names as well! If their name is Laura, call her Alaurable! If her name is Kerry, grab a cup from your little Kerrig to start calling her Kerrbear.

Ladies, the next time your stud muffin wants to go back inside your oven, make him spill his heart out. Give him an incentive to make him crumb back for more!

Questions: 

  1. Do you have any plans lined up for Valentine’s Day? Are they better than last year?
  2. How do you spend a Valentine’s Day with (a) someone you love? (b) a crush? (c) family?
  3. Do you prefer unconditional love over materialistic love? Are you the type to pop the balloons, and embrace on the chocolate kisses? Was it embarrassing to carry around stuffed animals in school?
  4. Do you have a favorite pet name you love giving or receiving?
  5. Do your friends or family give you pet names?
  6. Did you know while I was writing this blog post, I just reached 9,000 hit views? That’s less than 3 months!
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Allons-y, mon chou!; Encouraging Terms of Endearment After Valentine’s Day

eWhoremany; Controversial Online Dating

Welcome! You’ve Got Love. 

While the any key is still unknown, finding love is simply a click away. Valentine’s Day is already a month around the corner, but who celebrates Singles Awareness Day (S.A.D) with their cat? I am not the Crazy Cat Lady, but I still do.

In 2013, you might eventually find someone to fulfill your New Year’s resolution of finding love, and you might satisfy your parents with hope that you will have someone by the age of 40. The rapid growth of match-making online initiated Cupid’s early retirement. Internet access is conveniently influencing the endless possibilities of finding Mr. Right, unless you are a shit magnet for attracting Mr. Wrong. Mr. Wrong might not even be Mr. Wrong! He might be trying his hardest for the Mr. Right nomination, but he ends up being another Mr. Wrong. This electronic interaction with strangers opens the doors for controversial debates. Are these men interested in serious relationships or do they want something else? Why would anyone use someone else’s picture to lure love and commitment? Are young women targeting vulnerable rich men for more than they bargained? Love does not cost a thing, but sex sells.

Stranger Request

When you receive a friend request notification, it does not necessarily mean you are already friends with them. People attract potential hookups through online communities or social networking websites by words, virtual actions, pictures, and games. How many people are legitimate and how many users hide behind fake accounts? Do you presume they are telling the truth?

On the right, you would assume that the guy with the overexposed light was Jake Timms from Indiana. If I talk to him, he might tell me his hometown. Well, that is precisely what, “Ask,” means. Although I would ask him more than just that question, his private profile denied my access. He can only accept friend requests if they confirm that they know his email address. A handsome young eighteen year old guy, playing hard to get, is checking out other guys’ profiles. Yeah, he came across mine and I have the privilege to see who might be checking out my profile daily. Do you think he might be interested in me? Well, shucks, that is very sweet. Honestly, I wish he lived closer! He seems to hold himself right looking like a lady-killer with those lips! Ouch! Seriously, Jake Timms might not even be Jake Timms. That guy in the photograph is commonly referred as, “Prinze Charming,” on WordPress. Yeah, that guy is me. That is my room, and I went to Amsterdam to buy that shirt. Sorry ladies, this guy is trying to compete with me. If you own an account on MyYearbook, or MeetMe, do not talk to a guy who uses this picture when his name is not Tony.

I contacted the MeetMe staff to take immediate action on this issue. They eventually responded back with some questions. They wanted me to prove that I am not someone else trying to take Jake Timms’ place or remove Jake Timms from existence. In the email, they responded with the following message:

“MeetMe Member Support replied:

Hello,
This is something that we can help with. To verify that the pictures are of you, we ask that you take a photograph of yourself today holding up a piece of paper that says:
“MeetMe – Today’s Date – my email is ________________”
Then, reply to this email with a copy of that photo attached so that we can verify that you are the account holder. We’ll then be able to close any profiles with your photos that do not have your email address.
The photo you send us to prove your identity will not be posted to the site, it will be deleted after your identity is confirmed.
MeetMe Member Support”

Well, that is reassuring. I replied back, “See picture enclosed with the same shirt in the same room.” Jake Timms has yet to surface on my recent viewer page again. I actually like Jake’s new face. It seems happier and less intimidating. Although Jake has two shades of grey, I wonder where the other 48 decided to go. If you or someone you know is in a similar dilemma, please contact every website that has proof that your identity being used. Although this is a serious matter, do I take this as a compliment? The guy knows I am marketable for romance. Could he fill my shoes if he tried? I doubt it.

13 Going on 18  (Just for Now!)

Are you just one of the targeted members of a specific categorized group? Questions arise every year, and parental controls are ineffectively working to curtail Internet access to young adolescent users. Is it really the parental controls? Could it possibly be the lack of any parental control?

If you are a parent, you might have Internet parental controls set for your children. You might have even considered the idealistic attempt to curtail their internet access by setting up timers. No, really, that motivated me to wake up earlier just to use the computer until the evening. If I had to download something, that was another issue, especially on dial-up.

If you were one of those teens, did you feel rushed every morning to surf the web before it was too late? Did you really leave the website after being confronted about your age? Did you enter a birthday year that guaranteed you were 18 years old? “Oh, I will use 1914! That was like uh, World War I?” Yeah, it helps when you are smart, or does it?

Success! A white lie gives the young viewer instant access to a page full of categories listed alphabetically order across the screen, from Amateur to Webcam. An erotic glow of explicit content flashes in front of the eyes of the next victimized child of the Internet, and nobody is there to block them. The ads on the side are enticing the young mind to wander off and click for, “Local Babes Ready for Fun.” What if an adolescent boy saw this website? Would he assume girls were this easy? What if an adolescent girl saw this website? Would she assume that this is the norm for young women to follow?

christina ricci marie claire uk magazine cover hot sexy photo shoot rare promo pan am bel ami 2012Young girls exploit themselves through instant messages, email, and cellphone texts. They crave attention in the wrong areas because society focuses on attraction and establishing relationships. Sex does sell. Magazine companies, especially Seventeen Magazine, lure young teen girls into this materialistic world.

If there is a really hot guy in your daughter’s class, and there is another girl trying to win him over, conflicting circumstances will occur. Let’s take a look at the really hot guy’s perspective. Most guys will know if they attract their peers or not, but most guys will not know how to handle this attraction. Some will take an advantage to rack up numbers in their phones. Instant bragging rights for them, and for ladies – you’re just being played. You are just a pawn for them to play their game. Is it Megan Monday? Tiffany Tuesday? Wait, Wednesday Wednesday! OK, maybe the Adam’s family wouldn’t approve of that one. Did you even notice that the woman on the side is Christina Ricci, the Wednesday of 2012, in the UK’s Marie Claire magazine earlier last year in March? Yeah, by the way, her birthday is February 12! That will be my third month blogiversary!  She’ll be turning 33! That is too weird! While I’m only 9 years apart, which is 3 x 3, I wouldn’t mind a date with her at all! Wednesday Wednesday it is!

40 Year Old Virgin

Nobody in the world wants the pressure of being a forty-year old virgin. Judd Apatow, director of the movie, “The 40 Year Old Virgin (2005),” conveys the message of how someone can live through a chaste lifestyle. Would you do it if you were given a second chance?

During my senior year at the University of Connecticut, I enrolled in a course called, “The Developing World,” which focused on precisely what the title entails. On December 10, 2011, I submitted nearly 4,000 words on a research paper called, “The Underlying Self Identity of Women in Tunisia; the Psychological Impact of Familial and Societal Pressures on Young Tunisian Women.” I concluded my paper of how familial and societal pressures change the lifestyles of young Tunisian women. Here is an excerpt of that conclusion:

The status of women lacks superior acknowledgement, but it has significantly rose higher up in Tunisia’s social hierarchy since the twentieth century. Tunisian women are becoming more aware of their own rights, sexuality, opportunities of higher education, and presumably achieving professional careers that men cannot compete against. Although the Code of Personal Status may grant women back their rights, Tunisian universities will still have women students to abide by the unconstitutional guidelines of the revised dress code.

In Tunisia, young women feel as if they are unattractive to have intimate relationships with men if they are left in society. Honestly, if a man doesn’t come up to you, he is doing you a favor. In addition, he is most likely intimidated by you. The following excerpt explains the societal and familial pressures:

The societal and familial pressures hinder young Tunisian women from adolescence to motherhood. Tunisian women construct their self-identity as an individual with significance within society, but the psychological factors which influence the way young women perceive themselves in Tunisia can leave women in distress. Young women will experience male peer pressure to engage in premarital sexual behavior, but they may also experience familial pressures to wed at an earlier age upon maturity. Moreover, motherhood will also have a societal pressure to face as women without children are frowned upon in society as lower class citizens of Tunisia. These mothers will direct their own daughters either away or into societal pressure by moderating their freedom to associate with their own peers.

The world revolves around the drive to find love and the strength to hold commitment. If a relationship lacks the stable architectural design, the couple will struggle to find their way through. We can all learn from our mistakes, but bad habits will encourage the victimized hopeless romantic to settle for less. The Internet is a portal for social acceptance and intimate fantasies. The envious Jake Timms could have been the catalyst for a future heartbreak of a young woman searching for Mr. Right. My identity was at risk for being subjected to false accusations and the girl’s hope for destiny blew into the wind of unrequited love.

Option Discussion Questions

  1. Have you ever met someone from the Internet? Was it a better experience than Dateline’s, “To Catch A Predator?”
  2. Do you have any idea why Jake Timms would choose me from many other guys online? Give me your thoughts about this in the comment section below.  
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Is It Really in Their Kiss?; The Art of Seductive Kissing

January is a very awkward month of resolutions, self-improvement, and rekindled interests to succeed. When next week approaches, January 14 will spark the countdown to a day when hopeless romantics celebrate Singles Awareness Day. Although Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching, the materialistic attitudes will immediately take over the unconditional motives for love. The act of kissing another person, regardless of their relationship status, conveys mixed emotions for a serious commitment.

Dusting Off Mr. Snuggles

Have you ever received love letters and teddy bears on Valentine’s Day? Are you just hoarding unrequited love from every Valentine’s Day since someone gave you something sentimental in kindergarten? Hallmark’s time to shine will also be yours as well! Whether you have already kissed someone you are passionately in love with in 2013 or you are still mustering enough hope that someone will come around the corner, this is an article that will help refine the meaning of a true love’s first kiss.

The Hollies and Cher have one important thing in common. The meaning behind a sensual kiss determines whether you are experiencing love’s presence or lust. In their two songs that are almost titled the same, “It’s In Her Kiss,” and “The Shoop Shoop Song (It’s In His Kiss),”  eyes of lust are very deceiving to someone vulnerable to easily misunderstand the persuasive body language. A man with charm in his face might be enticing a vulnerable woman to kiss him, but he might not have what it takes to passionately kiss her back. The “warm embrace” explained in the songs are precisely accurate because anyone can snuggle with the exchange of body heat.  Never let no strings attached snuggling fool you into something else!

Pucker Up, Boys

Kissing is one of the most effective approaches for romance and seduction. Everyone wants that physical intimacy with someone new, especially if the attraction was from love at first sight. The awkward suspense intensifies when your eyes exchange seductive smirks and the faces speak to each other by moving in closer. Are they ready for the passionate embrace? Kissing is extremely enjoyable, but it is also part of the list of things that have a process, place and time. It is also the destination after a flight through the clouds of interpersonal communication and disclosure. Never assume that someone will kiss you after an engaging conversation that leads to smiles and laughter. The ability to effectively communicate through non-verbal cues is important to understand. Therefore, it really is in their kiss.

Pucking Amazing! 

Congratulations! You finally found someone weeks before Valentine’s Day on the Internet. The luxurious Italian restaurant on Saturday is going viral on your Twitter. Your hashtag, #foreverfound, is picking up more followers. The pictures are still left inside your memory card, but they look amazing! The two love birds were singing majestically underneath the city lights with a moon lit sky. The lousy attempt at serenading you with a shower love song was cute enough for a smile. The date went smoothly without the unnecessary intoxication of Sex on the Beach. Although Halitosis delayed the kiss, the prolonged affection for each other was well worth the wait. Was it love at first website? The texts shortly after suggest the vacancy for improvement with your intimate intentions.

Mother Pucker!

Damn it! The urge for a passionate embrace failed miserably! Did you end up hugging after a romantic night out in the city? Wait, was the hug weak or not long enough? Oh, not another side hug! Seriously? Try harder next time! This is no time for regret, but plenty of time for self-improvement. Practice will enhance perfection, and the main goal is achieving a hug from behind. Let them know that they are safely secured between your arms. I would emphasize more on hugging before kissing, but hugging is easy. Everyone should have their own norm for hugging friends, family, or the prospective boyfriend or girlfriend. Kissing requires more attention. Although the first impression matters the most, an awkward hug is replaceable in seconds after the first attempt. If a first kiss fails, someone might not have the courage to fix the problem. The problem might only be the poor kissing habits, and the misunderstanding of using the wrong techniques for finding intimacy.

The Sherminator?

No, I’m the Escalator, baby.

A sophisticated Shakespearean kisser sent back through time to change the future for Juliet’s intoxicated lips.

If you have never seen the American Pie series, please watch them. First, before I begin the escalation, I must tell you that everything you are willing to do with a person has a process. Whether you are simply talking, walking, dancing, or snuggling, there is a process behind every interactive approach to building a healthy relationship with a prospective match. In the kissing department, there’s the E.S.C.A.L.A.T.O.R. approach. If you want to achieve something, you move up to the next level. If you want to return back to where you started, you can go back down.  I believe my approach can help every situation out with the right understanding. If you are writing a research paper, follow an escalator approach. Have you tried writing the middle of your paper before you complete the introduction? It is not easy, but it is possible. Although we cannot jump into the middle of an escalator, we are extremely flexible with sensual escalation.

The E.S.C.A.L.A.T.O.R. Approach 

Engage in eye contact.

Secure a simple kiss on their forehead.

Caress their hair while you stare into their eyes.

Allow your noses to playfully glide against each other.

Let’s focus on soft cheek and chin kisses.

Acquire confidence in teasingly brushing your lips across theirs.

Tame the prolonged desire of kissing with an Eskimo nose dance.

Offer the signal that you are willing to go further by biting your own bottom lip.

Release the escalation by closing your eyes and leaning closer.

Try It Before You Buy It

The concept of kissing is over rated. Time to go window shopping before you start checking out on something you might not actually enjoy. When you go shopping for clothes, you head over to the fitting rooms before you buy everything. The same concept applies with kissing. Why would you buy their lips before you try them on? My approach allows flexibility while testing out intimate personalities. How does someone respond to your sensual kisses? Guys, give your date something she never felt before. Keep your mind off the lips, especially below the hips! Your date wants to feel special by affection and selection. Silence is golden, especially when you do everything I mentioned without a word. Let the bodies communicate effectively and you will see immediate improvement if you do it right.

When you are already Eskimo kissing, or playfully gliding your noses together, you are so close yet so far away from their lips. When you move further down, teasingly brushing your lips across theirs, you are sending more than just the message, “Are you ready?” You are testing out the water before you dive in! You are also testing the pH level of your passion pool. Is it halitosis tonight? Maybe it was something she just ate? That is effective for planning ahead. If she has never experienced sensual kisses from a man, you might have her begging for more! Now, don’t take this the wrong way. I am only discussing the true love’s first kiss. Ladies, if you tease a man with my approach, please let me know how much he fights for your lips. Is there anyone interested in holding a contest? The longer you last without kissing, with the leverage of brushing your lips across theirs, wins.

Checkout and Flaunt It! 

Great! You finally released escalated passion from an intimate embrace! The two lips gliding against each other created something euphoric! Now, where is the true love’s first kiss? How does it start and how much focus falls upon the performance? Is it acceptable to go with the flow? No, not necessarily. If you are uncomfortable, you should step back. Guys, if she wanted a dog to kiss her, she would let her own family friend make the moves before you do. If you are giving her a tongue bath,  she will most likely blow the whistle for a lifeguard. I cannot emphasize enough on how awkward it is to drown while someone is trying to kiss you. Learn how to control your saliva. Ladies, this also goes out for you as well. Start off sweet with soft lips. You already brushed your lips across theirs, and you are already familiar with the texture of their lips. Start off with something light. Guys, listen carefully, caress their lips with yours while your hands wander off somewhere appropriate. Choose between running your fingers through their hair, on the side of their face, or down at their hips. Change it up every other minute and let them experience another alternative between those suggestions.

Pepé Le Puke

No way, José! Hold off on the French kissing for a while! Just enjoy your quality time together before something serious happens. It is not acceptable to find any leftovers from your date or from breakfast before you two saw each other. Stay out of their mouth for a while, and embrace upon something right in front of you. Class is not over yet, fish! Although your session might be romantically engaged, you will need to swim back up for fresh air. When you give yourself a break, just admire each other while your noses touch. This is not only adding kudos to your passionate side, but the emotional connection with someone amazing will gradually become stronger. Use this time to treat them as a person, not another number in your daily planner.

When you have that physical connection with someone, confirm your intentions with them. If you are not willing to commit soon, let them know. If there is interest in pursuing further, talk about it. Let them know that you enjoyed your time together. Communication is important in every status of a relationship, especially the one from within.

Just be yourself, express what you feel, and go with the flow if you two are completely comfortable with each other. If something does not work out effectively, talk about it. Never leave them hanging out to dry for several weeks after your date. That raises a red flag to stay away as far as possible.

Facing Beyond the Face

Do you think kissing leads to more intimacy and sexual attraction? How do you effectively kiss further away from their face? Guys, is there a technique used for kissing a woman’s neck, shoulders, back, nipples, stomach, around their belly button, hips, thighs, inner thighs, legs or softly upon their mons pubis? Ladies, how do you like your sensual kisses? Does the job position entail biting as well, especially for the neck? That may just be another future post! I hope you all enjoyed this article, please feel free to leave any questions or comments below! Start puckering, you hopeless puckers!

xoxoxo

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Is It Really in Their Kiss?; The Art of Seductive Kissing